On the sofa with TV therapist Sally Baker Therapist Sally Baker

Shopping addiction is no joke. The secret purchases aren't just financially ruinous. The behaviour required to keep this secret destroys relationships. There is life after debt, and however deep in the hole you are, you can recover and build your life. It takes the first courageous step to ask for help.

Here are some help contacts:

United Kingdom

StepChange Debt Charity Services: Provides free debt advice and debt management plans.Contact: Call 0800 138 1111 or visit their website to chat online.

United States

National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) Services: Offers credit counselling and debt relief services.Contact: Call 800-388-2227 to speak to a certified credit counsellor or use their online locator to find a counsellor near you.

The Love Island producers are always trying to mix it up and make each season fresh but the public choosing who couples up with whom has repercussions on how the boys and girls feel about each other plus controversy is never far away in Love Island. Find out more about the psychology behind the 'feels' and the vibe of the first week of Series 8.

Two episodes into the new series and the initially lukewarm couples are getting to know each other. In true Love Island tradition disruption arrives this time in the shape of twins Eve and Jess who can cherry-pick any boy they like much to the frustration and annoyance of their new girlfriends. 

Just hours away from the first winter series of Love Island Sally Baker senior therapist and expert in human behaviour explores how the contestants will be trying to make the public fall in love with them even if their fellow contestants don't.  

People let their guard down at different rates. There isn't a right or a wrong time scale to fall for someone. 

Ideally the speed of falling for a new person happens at the right pace for you. 

And if you do let yourself be more vulnerable there's nothing as painful as feeling betrayed by someone else's actions.

You can make this into a painful drama for yourself or an opportunity to se the real them. Hear my reply here. 

(This podcast is a fictional interaction and does not presume a professional relationship with any real person).

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In my mail bag today I look at a letter from a girl who is feeling confused and sad about her boyfriend's possessive behaviour towards her. He's made her doubt herself and it's not the first time she's been left feeling stressed out and crying. 

Find out what I suggest she does to time out for herself and to see if he really is her soul mate.

 ( This is a fictionalised letter and does not imply direct contact between myself and anyone on Love Island. Not affiliated with Love Island or ITV2)