Parenting Impossible – The Special Needs Survival Podcast

Annette Hines
Parenting Impossible – The Special Needs Survival Podcast

Welcome to Parenting Impossible, the podcast dedicated to empowering and supporting the disability community. Hosted by Annette Hines, this podcast was born out of a mission to combat the scattered and sometimes inaccurate information that parents and caregivers of disabled adult children often face.In each episode, we delve into the pressing questions and concerns that weigh on the minds of the entire special needs community including those with autism, intellectual disabilities, physical disabilities, mental health issues and more. From navigating the complexities of special needs trusts and planning for the future to addressing the fundamental question of "How will my child be okay when I cannot do this anymore?"—we leave no stone unturned.Attorney Annette Hines is a special needs mom, author of the best-selling book Butterflies and Second Chances, national expert speaker, writer and contributor to publications, and founder of the Special Needs Law Group based In Massachusetts. She shares personal insights and her guests (parents, siblings, and experts and sometimes parents who are experts!) discuss many issues facing the special needs community including raising children with different abilities, transitioning into adulthood, sibling challenges and how to effectively navigate the complex systems in our world. We're not just here to talk; we're here to make a difference.In a society where the disabled and their caregivers are often devalued, Parenting Impossible stands as a beacon of advocacy and support dedicated to giving compassionate advice for all stages of life. Join us as we tackle the challenges, break down barriers, and strive to create a more informed and compassionate world for the disability community. Because when it comes to parenting in the face of impossibility, you're not alone—we're here with you.

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    262: Patient vs. Profit: The Shooting That Exposed a Broken Healthcare System

    The healthcare system is a battleground where profits often triumph over patient needs. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, I take a closer look at our profit-driven healthcare system after the assassination of UnitedHealthcare CEO Brian Thompson. Financial goals often outweigh patient care, with rising denials for essential treatments and CEO compensation tied to profits—creating a troubling conflict of interest. As a mom who fought tirelessly for my daughter’s Medicaid support, I know firsthand how broken this system is for families just trying to get the care they need. It shouldn’t be this hard. We can learn from healthcare models in countries like Canada and England, where patients—not profits—come first. It’s time for change.   In this episode, you will hear: Some challenges individuals face in navigating complex health insurance policies. How profit-driven healthcare models can impact patient care. Why advocacy is important in ensuring adequate patient care within the healthcare system. Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    17 min
  2. DEC 12

    261: Ending the Year Strong: Securing a Well-Managed Financial Future

    As the calendar year draws to a close, end-of-year planning becomes essential for individuals seeking to secure their personal and financial futures. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, I dive into the importance of taking control of your finances with a proactive mindset. Instead of getting stuck on setbacks, I encourage you to focus on celebrating your wins and using them as a foundation to move forward. I share practical tips on keeping your asset lists and important documents, like letters of intent, up to date—not just to avoid legal issues but to simplify life for you and your loved ones. We’ll also explore how timely retirement and tax planning can set you up for success in the new year, especially in light of the updates from the Secure Act. Let’s make this the year you take charge with confidence!  In this episode, you will hear: Why it is important to update documents like letters of intent. What to focus on celebrating at the end of the year. How reviewing retirement assets and estate planning documents benefits you. Why it is crucial to align beneficiary designations with estate planning goals   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    17 min
  3. 260: The Impact of Authentic Representation of Disabilities in Hollywood | Jay Silverman, Filmmaker, Director, & Producer

    DEC 5

    260: The Impact of Authentic Representation of Disabilities in Hollywood | Jay Silverman, Filmmaker, Director, & Producer

    Filmmaking celebrates human connection and inclusiveness, with on-set moments of support and camaraderie often shining through on screen. Hollywood’s push to include actors with disabilities is opening doors to fresh stories and perspectives, making the industry more inclusive and inspiring. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines speaks with filmmaker Jay Silverman about his latest film, Camera. Inspired by his journey as a parent to a child with disabilities, the poignant story follows a young mute child in a fishing village. Through its use of the camera as a metaphor for perception and reality, the film explores themes of identity, memory, and perspective, offering a deeply moving and thought-provoking narrative. Silverman discusses the importance of pushing for authentic representation, including casting actors with disabilities. Authentic storytelling can foster connection, understanding, and inclusivity in the world of film and beyond.   In this episode, you will hear: Why authentic storytelling is important in movies like 'Camera’. Why it is important to integrate casts with people with disabilities in Hollywood. How film can play a crucial role in helping people feel understood. Ways to include authentic character representation to resonate with audiences. Resources from this Episode: Website: https://www.jaysilvermanproductions.com/ Watch: CAMERA  The film is available for free on Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B0CZX7L6TM/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r  LinkedIn: @jay-silverman Facebook: @jay-silverman-productions   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    47 min
  4. NOV 28

    259: Healing After Heartbreak: A Guide to Coping with Grief During the Holidays

    Grief is an unpredictable force that reshapes life, much like crashing waves.  In this episode of Parenting Impossible, I open up about my journey through grief and coping with the profound loss of my daughter, Elizabeth. There is no "right" way to grieve—it’s a deeply personal journey, and being gentle with yourself is important as you work through the pain. During the holidays, grief can feel especially heavy. Finding ways to incorporate your loved one’s presence into your celebrations can bring a sense of connection and help you find moments of joy and peace amidst the sorrow. By sharing our stories and supporting one another, we can find comfort and healing in our shared experiences of loss. There are communities and resources ready to support you, especially during the challenging moments of the holiday season. Reach out to me or comment with your favorite resources. Remember, you are not alone in your grief.    In this episode, you will hear: What impact grief has on memory and emotional well-being. How joining a grief group can help in the healing process. The therapeutic power of storytelling and preserving memories in coping with grief. Advice on setting boundaries and self-care during the holiday season. Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    30 min
  5. NOV 21

    258: A Guide to Trustee Selection & Protectors

    Special needs trusts are an essential tool for families who want to ensure the long-term financial security of their loved ones with disabilities. However, I know firsthand how overwhelming and confusing navigating the world of trusts can be. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, I break down the essentials of special needs trusts in an accessible way. I share practical tips for choosing the right trustee and explain their responsibilities. Trustee’s are important—not just in managing the trust, but in making sure the beneficiary continues to receive the care and services they need. My goal is to simplify what often feels like a daunting process, stressing that choosing the right trustee, maintaining open communication, and making informed decisions are key to supporting the well-being and future of those we love. In this episode, you will hear: An overview of the responsibilities of a trustee. How special needs trustees differ from regular trustees. What factors should be considered when selecting a trustee. How trust distributions affect public benefits eligibility.   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    26 min
  6. NOV 14

    257: Why Caregiving Moms Deserve Community & Care ​​| Jessica Patay, Author, Founder, & Executive Director at We Are Brave Together

    Being a caregiver can be tough and sometimes lonely. For caregiving moms, having a sense of community and connection is essential. Whether it's sharing tips on managing hectic schedules or simply lending an empathetic ear, having a supportive network of fellow moms can make all the difference in navigating the challenges of motherhood. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines sits down with Jessica Patay, founder of We Are Brave Together. Inspired by her journey as a special needs mom, Jessica established the nonprofit in 2017 to create a safe, judgment-free space where caregiving moms can connect and support one another, addressing the exhaustion and isolation they often face. In this conversation, Jessica discusses the power of building supportive communities for those navigating the unique challenges of raising children with special needs, as explored in her anthology, Becoming Brave Together. Jessica reminds us that no mother should face their caregiving journey alone. In this episode, you will hear: How caregivers can prioritize their mental health effectively. Why community is essential for supporting caregiving moms. What makes building connections so vital in the world of caregiving. How advocacy for caregivers and raising awareness about their struggles help combat stigma. Resources from this Episode: Website: https://www.wearebravetogether.org/ Listen to the Brave Together Parenting Podcast Read Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories from Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight LinkedIn: @jessica-patay Instagram, Facebook, & YouTube: @wearebravetogether Twitter/X: @wearebravemoms Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    38 min
  7. 256: How to Support Children in Times of Crisis | Celia Landman, Author, Nonviolent Communication Trainer, Mindfulness Educator & Counselor

    NOV 7

    256: How to Support Children in Times of Crisis | Celia Landman, Author, Nonviolent Communication Trainer, Mindfulness Educator & Counselor

    Parents often carry a heavy weight of shame and self-blame when their children face tough times. It's natural for them to feel responsible, but it's important to remember that not everything is within a parent’s control. By staying present and connecting with themselves, parents can let go of the burden of shame and find a more positive, hopeful way forward. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines sits down with Celia Landman, a mindfulness educator and author of When the Whole World Tips: Parenting through Crisis with Mindfulness and Balance. They share an honest and heartfelt conversation about the real struggles of parenting during a crisis and how mindfulness and meditation can truly make a difference. Celia opens up about how parents can reconnect with their true selves and face difficult times without carrying the extra weight of blame or shame. By recognizing societal pressures, allowing themselves to feel a range of emotions, and offering compassionate support to one another, parents can find the grace and resilience they need to keep moving forward. This episode is a reminder that even in the toughest moments, there is hope and community. Parenting through a crisis is never easy, but it’s a journey no one has to take alone.    In this episode, you will hear: Explore the key differences between mindfulness and meditation. How mindfulness and meditation can benefit healing and self-awareness. How societal pressures fuel feelings of shame and blame. Why being present in someone’s pain is powerful. Resources from this Episode: Website: https://celialandman.com/ LinkedIn: @celia-landman-232185149 Instagram: @celiasacct Facebook: @celia.landman Read: When the Whole World Tips: Parenting through Crisis with Mindfulness and Balance   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    36 min
  8. OCT 31

    255: All About Trustees: Navigating the Ins & Outs of Special Needs Trust Administration

    Understanding the administration of special needs trusts can make a world of difference for people with disabilities, providing them with financial stability and peace of mind. These trusts—like third-party and first-party trusts—come with specific rules that trustees must follow to ensure the beneficiary can keep accessing essential public benefits. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, I talk about the importance of building a solid relationship between trustees and beneficiaries. Understanding the basics of trust administration is valuable for everyone—not just those currently acting as trustees. I also stress how crucial it is to use clear, precise language and to accurately identify beneficiaries in trust documents. These details are essential to ensuring that beneficiaries keep access to the public resources they rely on. If you’re ready to take control of your trust administration knowledge and make a lasting impact, register for my Special Needs Advocacy and Planning Masterclass. This provides the tools and guidance you need to create a comprehensive life plan with confidence. In this episode, you will hear: Learn the difference between third-party and first-party special needs trusts. What factors trustees should consider when making distribution decisions within special needs trusts. What responsibilities trustees have when managing special needs trusts. How trustees can protect the beneficiary's public benefits within special needs trusts. Why it is essential for trustees to consult with professionals and understand tax implications. Resources from this Episode: Register for the Special Needs Advocacy and Planning Masterclass   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    59 min
4.8
out of 5
46 Ratings

About

Welcome to Parenting Impossible, the podcast dedicated to empowering and supporting the disability community. Hosted by Annette Hines, this podcast was born out of a mission to combat the scattered and sometimes inaccurate information that parents and caregivers of disabled adult children often face.In each episode, we delve into the pressing questions and concerns that weigh on the minds of the entire special needs community including those with autism, intellectual disabilities, physical disabilities, mental health issues and more. From navigating the complexities of special needs trusts and planning for the future to addressing the fundamental question of "How will my child be okay when I cannot do this anymore?"—we leave no stone unturned.Attorney Annette Hines is a special needs mom, author of the best-selling book Butterflies and Second Chances, national expert speaker, writer and contributor to publications, and founder of the Special Needs Law Group based In Massachusetts. She shares personal insights and her guests (parents, siblings, and experts and sometimes parents who are experts!) discuss many issues facing the special needs community including raising children with different abilities, transitioning into adulthood, sibling challenges and how to effectively navigate the complex systems in our world. We're not just here to talk; we're here to make a difference.In a society where the disabled and their caregivers are often devalued, Parenting Impossible stands as a beacon of advocacy and support dedicated to giving compassionate advice for all stages of life. Join us as we tackle the challenges, break down barriers, and strive to create a more informed and compassionate world for the disability community. Because when it comes to parenting in the face of impossibility, you're not alone—we're here with you.

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