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Sexvangelicals is a podcast about the sex education the church didn't want you to have, hosted by Julia and Jeremiah, two licensed and certified sex therapists.

Sexvangelicals Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.3 • 23 Ratings

Sexvangelicals is a podcast about the sex education the church didn't want you to have, hosted by Julia and Jeremiah, two licensed and certified sex therapists.

    Episode #69: Coming Out in Evangelical Families, with Singer-Songwriter, Adaline, part 2 of 2

    Episode #69: Coming Out in Evangelical Families, with Singer-Songwriter, Adaline, part 2 of 2

    Pride month next month is going to be especially important. 
    Based on the threats from Project 2025 and the behavior of other religious nationalist groups, federal bills that prevent states from discriminating against queer folks are at risk. 
     
    Coming out, already a stress-inducing process, especially for folks in conservative areas, would have far greater anxiety connected with it under a second Trump administration.
     
    We invite singer-songwriter Adaline, founder of the nonprofit Bad Believer, to help explore the anxieties that come with coming out. Adaline talks with us about:
    Her new album, Hymnal No Hate Like Christian Love Erasing Love  Rebecca St. James & Waiting Not Being a Part of Your Own Story The Mythmaking of Purity Culture Autonomy and Choosing Yourself  Love Songs Radical Acceptance, Jesus, and Unconditional Love Hymnal was released March 22. Download it today!

     
    Also, check out this episode and all other episodes of Sexvangelicals on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
     
    Show notes and transcript are on the SV website.

    • 53 min
    Episode #68: Coming Out in Evangelical Families, with Singer-Songwriter, Adaline, part 1 of 2

    Episode #68: Coming Out in Evangelical Families, with Singer-Songwriter, Adaline, part 1 of 2

    One of the most common targets of Evangelical, Mormon, and Pentecostal (EMPish) communities in the 21st century are queer people. The moralizing of straight, married relationships places people who are attracted to folks of the same sex/gender and folks who are curious about sexual experiences with same sex/gendered people in terrible double binds.
     
    Folks can accept and practice sexuality in alignment with their sexual orientation in the face of name-calling, loss of relationships with family members, and threats of violence.
     
    Or they can squelch or hide their sexuality, or practice their sexuality in more secretive ways, which itself can have negative impacts.
     
    Coming out in EMPish communities carries a ton of undue emotional and relational pressure. 
     
    To help us navigate that, we've invited singer-songwriter and founder of non-profit Bad Believer (@badbelievercommunity), Adaline (@adalinemusic), to share how she navigated her own coming out process. We talk with Adaline about her first album, Hymnal, as well as:
    Body Talk and EMPish Communities Hierarchy in Sin  Binaries and Sexuality  Co-Opting Coming Out  Stories for Her Songs "Part of You" and "Waist Down" Building Personal Strength  Trusting Desires Family Systems: When Your Pastor is Also Your Father Embracing Your Body Sensuality and the Music Video  Coming Out and Guilt  Her Nonprofit, Bad Believer
    Check out Episode #68: Coming Out in Evangelical Families, with Singer-Songwriter, Adaline, part 1 of 2, on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
    Show notes and transcript are on the SV website

    • 1 hr
    Episode #67: Banned Books: Non-Toxic Masculinity, by Zach Wagner, part 2 of 2

    Episode #67: Banned Books: Non-Toxic Masculinity, by Zach Wagner, part 2 of 2

    What are the messages that we wish we learned about masculinity? What are messages that we'd like to teach younger generations about masculinity, and in conjunction, how we might do relationships more effectively, more collaboratively?
     
    We are thrilled to have Zach Wagner (@zacharycwagner), author of Non-Toxic Masculinity, on Sexvangelicals this week. Zach talks with us about:
    The Books of Deconstruction The Narrative of Sex and Conquest Broadening the Script Male Sexuality Injecting Shame  Shame & Desire EMPish Communities and Being “Counter-Cultural” Internalized Narratives  Desire  Starting Sex Ed Early Check out Episode #67: Banned Books: Non-Toxic Masculinity, by Zach Wagner, part 2 of 2 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 
     
    Show notes and transcript are on the SV website.

    • 50 min
    Episode #66: Banned Books: Non Toxic Masculinity, with Zach Wagner, part 1 of 2

    Episode #66: Banned Books: Non Toxic Masculinity, with Zach Wagner, part 1 of 2

    Healing from Purity Culture involves conversations of how Evangelical communities have created undue amounts of anxiety and pressure for men as well as women.
     
    We talk with Zachary Wagner (@zacharycwagner), author of the new book Non-Toxic Masculinity, about the importance of deconstructing simplistic, reductive practices of manhood and reimagining new ways that men can conceptualize themselves and create meaningful relationships.
     
    Zach talks with us about:
    Why Does the Book Matter Now: Generational Understandings of Masculinity The Power of the Purity Movement Purity Books  The Effects of Christian Literature Purity Culture and Sex  Violence as a Result of Purity Culture  Purity Camp  Reducing Each Other's Humanity  Healing  Check out Episode #66: Banned Books: Non Toxic Masculinity, with Zach Wagner, part 1 of 2 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
     
    Show notes and transcript are on the SV website: www.sexvangelicals.com

    • 50 min
    Episode #65: Banned Books: A Well Trained Wife, with Tia Levings, part 2 of 2

    Episode #65: Banned Books: A Well Trained Wife, with Tia Levings, part 2 of 2

    Are you interested in writing a memoir? Then this episode is especially for you!
     
    We're excited to have Tia Levings @tialevingsswriter, author of the upcoming book A Well Trained Wife, as our guest for Sexvangelicals this week.
     
    Tia talks with us about:
    Hero’s Journey Not Exploiting Your Own Story  Babies and Resilience The Nuance in Deconstruction  Finding Light in the Dark  Honoring Our Instincts  Slowing Down  Write the Book  The Books of Deconstruction  Check out Episode #65 Banned Books: A Well Trained Wife, with Tia Levings, part 2 of 2 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

     
    Show notes and transcript are on the SV website.

    • 40 min
    Episode #64: Banned Books: A Well Trained Wife, with Tia Levings, part 1 of 2

    Episode #64: Banned Books: A Well Trained Wife, with Tia Levings, part 1 of 2

    "While this story is my own memoir, the situations in this book are far from unique. With me stands a choir of invisible fundamentalist women, too silenced to tell their stories for themselves." 
     
    We're honored to have Tia Levings (@tialevingswriter), author of the upcoming book A Well Trained Wife, as our podcast guest this week. Tia shares her research, wisdom, and immense bravery with us; we focus our conversations around:
    How the Evangelical Church is a Microcosm of a Bigger System Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop: Perfectionism  Books that Encourage Evangelical Family Structures Tradwives Dating Under Purity Culture  Covenant Marriage  Cosigning Misery  The Wellness Industry and Christianity  Assigning Credit to Yourself Instead of God

    • 54 min

Customer Reviews

4.3 out of 5
23 Ratings

23 Ratings

nickipappas ,

valuable, informative, and healing

Julia and Jeremiah are having such valuable, informative, and healing conversations. I'm grateful for the gentleness with which they approach "the sex education the church didn't want you to have."

Sawa Jean ,

Disappointed

I discovered the podcast recently and largely appreciated the first couple episodes, but I was extremely disappointed to hear recent guest Zachary Wagner repeatedly refer to “the transgenderism question,” which neither of the hosts challenged or corrected.

“Transgenderism” is outdated, problematic language that stigmatizes the trans and gender nonconforming community. Framing acceptance of trans people as a “question” further enforces that we are somehow less than or other.

That is the language of purity culture in 2024. That is the conservative language of exclusion and othering and bigotry.

Yall, I FELT those words in my body. I FELT this podcast shift from safe to unsafe.

I’m giving you this feedback because I think you’re open minded enough to potentially learn from this. I hope you will and that others can benefit from that in the future, but this trans listener will be moving on.

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