35 episodes

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

Pillow Talks Vanessa & Xander Marin

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 601 Ratings

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

    I Want You To Want Me

    I Want You To Want Me

    We all want to feel desired, but so often in relationships we get into a place where it feels like one partner wants the other more. The high-desire partner may be withholding affection for fear of rejection, and the lower-desire partner may even be tempted to start giving your partner half-hearted sex or intimacy in an attempt to appease them.

    In this week's podcast episode, we show you how to unravel these painful dynamics.

    Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode34

    • 57 min
    The Episode We Almost Didn’t Release

    The Episode We Almost Didn’t Release

    Full transparency: we didn’t know if we were going to release this episode. We’re talking about everything from how we processed the chaos that is the holidays to whether we upheld our “Holiday Classic” sex pact.

    • 52 min
    5 Ways To Make 2022 Your Most Intimate AND Nasty Year Ever

    5 Ways To Make 2022 Your Most Intimate AND Nasty Year Ever

    This episode is all about making 2022 the best year of your relationship yet! Get our five favorite sustainable and actionable tips for making your relationship a priority next year.

    Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode32

    • 43 min
    Should We Open Our Relationship?

    Should We Open Our Relationship?

    Have you ever thought about opening up your relationship? Some see it as a necessity to fully express their sexuality while others think it might be the perfect salve for a hurting relationship. One thing’s for sure, open relationships are subject to a lot of misconceptions. Tune in to find out what open relationships are all about, and find out if WE are taking the steps toward this relationship structure.

    Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode31

    • 47 min
    Sex With Other People...Around

    Sex With Other People...Around

    Having sex when there are guests around (or when you are a guest in someone's home) can be a major source of anxiety — but sometimes you just HAVE to do it! Today, we're going to walk you through how to respectfully, discreetly get down wherever you're spending the holidays.

    Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode30

    • 46 min
    Anxious? Avoidant? What Your Attachment Style Says About You (And Your Relationship)

    Anxious? Avoidant? What Your Attachment Style Says About You (And Your Relationship)

    Attachment Style Theory looks at the ways we respond to other people based on the way we responded to our earliest relationships: our relationships with our parents. In this episode we're talking about what each style means for the people who have it, plus how the styles relate to each other.

    Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode29

    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
601 Ratings

601 Ratings

71lovebug ,

Sweet and Sexy

Listening to Vanessa and Xander talk is like sipping on sweet and spicy Mexican hot cocoa while reading your favorite sexy novel, with little intentional educational tidbits thrown in. V & X are easy on the ears, make me laugh, and can even make me question and reflect on everything (in all the right ways). They are one of the very best ways to actually enjoy doing your weekly chores. I love the easy going nature in which V & X story tell, give practical tips, and provide listeners valuable relationship advice. Overall, Pillow Talks is an easy and pleasurable weekly pod. Thanks for all you do, you two! 💗

jnbk1616 ,

We look forward to your episodes every week!

My husband and I pick a podcast episode to listen to together and discuss each week. Since discovering you two a few months ago, it has been one of your podcasts. We love how relatable and real you are and how practical your conversations and suggestions are. We love listening and having discussions about the topics you cover! Thank you ♥️

MathTeacher91 ,

No Shame in My Game

Since finding Vanessa + Xander’s podcasts, they have helped me have work on the shame aspect that conversations around sex can evoke. Their episode “I want you to want me” really helped me understand that my desire to have sex is more about an emotional connection than a physical one. They made me feel at ease about my own worries being the female in a heterosexual relationship with a higher sex drive. I cannot recommend their podcast enough!

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