Pillow Talks

My wife and I had been experiencing a lack of intimacy in our relationship that had made us both unhappy and frustrated. Discovering your book, “Sex Talks” and now listening to your Pillowtalks podcast has provided new insights into our relationship and how daily stresses, sex types, and poor initiation approaches were part of the problem that we didn’t see. I want my wife to experience sexual gratification like I do and your podcast has also helped us open up about her experiences of discomfort and lack of pleasure during penetrative sex. With your suggestions we’re having the conversations we need to and are beginning to experiment with non-penetrative sex with renewed priority that my wife’s experience matches my own. The renewed connection and genuinely trying to please my wife, as well as discovering a sense of excitement and pleasure from new sexual activities, has been incredibly rewarding for me. Thank you. I highly recommend your podcast to all couples.

My partner and I have been married for 11 years. We have a strong relationship and a fun, passionate, satisfying sex life. So far I have listened to only 3 of your episodes and your foreplay guide. The content has sparked deep, meaningful conversations, elevated our fun between the sheets, and inspired greater connection between us. I am leaving this review to say thank you, and in case others out there skim over your podcast thinking they already have a great relationship and great sex. Even if that’s true, Vanessa and Xander have so much to offer you!

One of the most important aspects of this podcast is the modeling that they do of a healthy partnership. They both bring strengths to the relationship and they show in the podcast how they celebrate and appreciate those strengths in each other.

I am a mental health therapist and I listen to these episodes on my drives home from work as a decompression time. It’s helpful for me as a clinician when facing certain topics with clients and it is helpful for me in my own relationship with my husband. We are parents to four young kids and are starting to reconnect again now that we are out of the baby phase. Your content has been so helpful for that! Lots of conversations have been started from these episodes and I look forward to listening each week! Thank you.