Pour it Out Podcast Sandra and Shandia

In this episode, Sandra and Shandia share contrasting views on the idea of Biblical boundaries and what those look like in the context of relationships. Here we explore what it means to acknowledge our human limitations as finite beings, how to apply the principle of counting others as more important than self (Philippians 1:2-3). We challenge people to veer away from a semi-narcissistic worldview about what is self-serving to consider love, wisdom, managing expectations, while acknowledging  human limitations when setting and maintaining a healthy framework in any relationship. 

“Sometimes, our best attempts at loving are met with habitual thoughtlessness, insatiable need, unkindness, anger, indifference, or a lack of mutuality. It’s in these relationships that boundaries begin to sound like a good idea. But God’s Word doesn’t move from the command to love to a psychological category like boundaries. Instead, it presses us to think about what it looks like to love a difficult person. Godly love confronts evil, perseveres, and forgives. It doesn’t interfere with God’s pattern of sowing and reaping. It is willing to risk the other person’s displeasure by forsaking, pleasing, placating, and pretending. It doesn’t do for others what they can do for themselves when it enables laziness, entitlement, and self-absorption. It rescues people from their foolishness, as Abigail’s gift to David rescued both him and Nabal” (Brenda Pauken, 2021). 

Biblical references: 

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 

Philippians 2:1-3 

1 Peter 3:9

1 Samuel: 25:3-35

Romans 12:1

1 John 3:16 

Matthew 16:24

Phillipians 2:6-8

Titus 2:12

2 Corinthians 6:14

James 4:4

Romans 6:23

Romans 12:21

Genesis 3:12-13

Romans 13:1-4

Proverbs 22:6

Ephesians 6:4

Colossians 3:21

Titus 2:4

Proverbs 19:18 

Proverbs 27:6

Galatians 5:13

James 1:5

Ephesians 4:15

Galatians 5:22-23 

Reflection/Journaling Questions 


In what situations are you most tempted to create boundaries?


What are your boundaries trying to protect?


How can limitations, love, managing expectations, and wisdom help you have God-honoring relationships?

In this episode, we discuss the power of prayer, our heart posture when approaching God. We’re digging deeper this time around, y’all. Get ready! 

Bible References: 

Exodus 32:1-4, 31-34

1 Kings 19:12

2 Chronicles 7:14

Psalms 34:20

Psalms 100:5

Psalms 147:5

Proverbs 2:6-12

Isaiah 45:2-8

Isaiah 55:8-9

Ezekiel 36:25-27

Lamentations 3:23

Matthew 4:7

Matthew 5:27-32

Matthew 6:9-13

Matthew 16:22-24

Matthew 19:26

Matthew 25:23

Luke 22:42

John 10:27-28

Romans 3:23

Romans 8:26

Ephesians 2:2

Ephesians 6:12-13

Philippians 2:12

Philippians 4:6-7

1 Thessalonians 4:7

James 5:16

Revelation 3:20

Music Recommendations: 

Cece Winans - Holy Forever

Erica Campbell: Feel Alright

Steve Valentine: Fall on Me

Erica Campbell: Luv God

J Moss: Brand New Day

J Moss: Jump Jump

Judahcamp: Dance

Transformation Worship: Eagle

KB and Lecrae: Church Clap

Bizzle: No hate

Lecrae and Mali Music: Tell the World

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2lVsvXuZft0OaFgcSk2d5v

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/749P7NtUNvR4fEATk5Xc5T

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/37i9dQZF1DX2LoKKKetKEw 

You have often heard us saying that “if you haven't accepted Jesus as your Lord and Saviour now is a good time,” but what does that mean?  In this episode we dig a little deeper into what salvation is, why we all need it, and what it means to be saved by grace through faith (Ephesians 2:8-9). You may love Jesus, but is He Lord of your life? 



Bible References

Genesis 3:1-6

Exodus 13:21-22

Deuteronomy 31:6

Psalms 19:14

Psalms 139:1-4

Proverbs 16:18

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8,11

Ecclesiastes 11:5

Jeremiah 1:5

Jeremiah 17:9

Daniel 3:16-28

Matthew 5:44-46

Matthew 7:15-20

Matthew 12:43-45

Matthew 16:24-26

Matthew 17:20

Matthew 22:36-40

Matthew 25:14–30

Mark 2:18-19

Mark 4:35-41

Mark 9:22-24

John 3:16

John 14:16

John 16:33

Acts 3:6-7

Acts 13:10

Romans 8:34

Romans 10:9-10

Romans 14:12

Galatians 6:7-9

Ephesians 2:8-9

Philippians 3:14

Philippians 4:6-8

2 Timothy 2:22

James 2:17-26

James 3:1

1 Peter 1:15-17

Revelation 4:10

Revelation 21:21-23



Other References

Upon Waking: Jackie Hill Perry https://amzn.to/3UdaGwc 

Bible Dictionary https://amzn.to/4aVhDJH 

https://www.blueletterbible.org/resources/lexical/index.cfm -free lexicon

https://www.persecution.com/ (Voice of the Martyrs)

https://overviewbible.com/how-did-the-apostles-die/ 

Septuigant (Original Greek OT Bible) in English https://www.biblestudytools.com/lxx/ 

Therapy without the creator, Jesus, may work for the short term but in tandem can bring great healing and full restoration in your life. We often hear the rhetoric that therapy is intended to treat psychosis, those with mental health diagnosis, and or addiction, and while therapy is certainly the course of treatment for all these things.  Therapy is also beneficial in self-discovery, healing from trauma, learning or unlearning healthy boundaries principles, developing or growing in intimacy with Christ, connecting with others, for couples to rediscover one another and rebuild intimacy, families to heal through a sickness, illness, loss, or even just to develop a closer bond with one another. Therapy is all encompassing and finding the right therapist/licenced counselor  is a decision to be made prayerfully. Whatever you’re hoping to improve in, there is a therapist for you. 



Bible References

Exodus 20:13

Numbers 28:3-8

2 Chronicles 7:14

Proverbs 4:7

Proverbs 11:14

Proverbs 13:11

Proverbs 18:21

Proverbs 3:5-7

Proverbs 15:22

Proverbs 13:22

Ecclesiastes 1:9

Ecclesiastes 4:12

Matthew 5:28, 44-46

Matthew 22:21

John 11

Romans 5:3-6

1 Corinthians 6:19

2 Corinthians 6:14

2 Corinthians 10:4-5

Hebrews 13:4

Galatians 6:2

Romans 15:14



Other References

Power of a Praying Wife  https://amzn.to/3y53cUE

www.betterhelp.com

https://www.christian-works.org/counseling-works/

https://openpathcollective.org/

https://reestablishingconnectionstherapy.ca/resources

A praying believer is a connected and powerful believer. Here we begin talking about the efficacy of prayer, we will eventually get into how, being connected to the source (God) and aligning ourselves with His desires. Stay locked in, we will likely be revisiting this topic



Biblical references:

1 Samuel 1

We celebrate on Good Friday because Christ's death was a sacrifice so that we could receive the gift of eternal life (John 3:16). The Bible tells us that Jesus bore our sins, shame, and burden on the cross. The results changed the course of humanity and what was meant for evil through a criminal's death, God meant for good (Bible Study Tools, 2024)

Genesis 1:1-31

Genesis 3:1-24

Numbers 28:4

1 King 11

Ezekiel 18:1-32

Matthew 5: 38-48

Matthew 26:35-56

Matthew 27:45-31

Mark 9:31

Mark 10:34

Luke 23 1:56

2 Corinthians 10:4-6

Proverbs 16:4

Proverbs 18:21

John 1:1-5

John 13:14

John 13:35

Ephesians 4:30-32

Hebrews 10: 1-39

Jude 1:23  

Revelation 1:20

Revelation 21:9



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