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Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

Private Parts Unknown Courtney Kocak

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.4 • 287 Ratings

Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

    Love & Leather at the Eagle LA: Celebrating Pride & Silver Lake's LGBTQ History with Charlie Matula & Hunter Fox

    Love & Leather at the Eagle LA: Celebrating Pride & Silver Lake's LGBTQ History with Charlie Matula & Hunter Fox

    For the 162nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Eagle LA co-owner Charlie Matula and his husband, Hunter Fox.
    Courtney interviewed Charlie and Hunter for a KCRW radio story entitled "Happily leather after at The Eagle in Silver Lake", which originally aired in June 2019 for Pride.
    The Eagle LA is a leather/Levi's bar in the Silver Lake neighborhood of Los Angeles, California. In this interview, we delve into the rich history of this beloved establishment and its importance to the gay community (and neighborhood at large), how Charlie and Hunter met and fell in love, Silver Lake's pivotal role in LGBT history, and the evolving landscape of gay acceptance across the United States throughout their lifetimes.
    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

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    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
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    • 46 min
    Queer, Kinky & Consensually Non-Monogamous: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey’s Life & Work

    Queer, Kinky & Consensually Non-Monogamous: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey’s Life & Work

    For the 161st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey for the second episode in our special month of Pride programming.
    Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is a clinical psychologist, sex/intimacy coach, author, speaker, and podcast host based in London. With more than 30 years of helping people create and sustain meaningful and exciting relationships, Dr. Bisbey specializes in GSRD (gender, sexuality, relationship diversity), is consensual non-monogamy and kink/BDSM knowledgable and helps traumatized people to move from victim to survivor and back into life.
    In today’s episode, we discuss Dr. Bisbey’s long career as a clinical psychologist for people living alternative lives, the common issues she sees in her practice, her unique identity and relationship status as a queer, consensually non-monogamous leather woman in a full-time authority transfer-based relationship with her husband, and some practical advice for anyone interested in exploring their fantasies or trying non-monogamy.
    For more from today's guest, Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey:

    Follow Dr. Bisbey on Instagram @drbisbey


    Follow Dr. Bisbey on Twitter/X @drbisbey


    Check out Dr. Bisbey's Linktree linktr.ee/drbisbey



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

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    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 32 min
    The Most Forgotten Letter in LGBTQIA: Cody Daigle-Orians of Ace Dad Advice on the Underrepresentation of Asexuality

    The Most Forgotten Letter in LGBTQIA: Cody Daigle-Orians of Ace Dad Advice on the Underrepresentation of Asexuality

    For the 160th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cody Daigle-Orians, the influencer behind Ace Dad Advice and author of I Am Ace, to discuss the underrepresentation of asexuality in popular culture.
    It's Pride Month, and there's lots of rightful celebration for the LGBTIA community, but rarely mention of the acronym's A. In fact, asexuality is so underrepresented in culture that it can be hard to self-identify. Cody Daigle-Orians didn't realize they were asexual until age 42 after initially coming out as gay. It was reading about asexuality on Tumblr that led to their ah-ha moment. In this episode, Cody explains the nuances of asexuality and attraction, including the differences between sexual, romantic, and aesthetic attraction, as well as the glossary of related ace terms. Cody also debunks some common misconceptions, shares how their asexuality journey led them to rethink their gender identity, how polyamory fits into their equation, and provides tips for navigating mixed identity relationships. 
    For more from today's guest, Cody Daigle-Orians:

    Follow Cody on Instagram @acedadadvice


    Follow Cody on Twitter @acedadadvice


    Follow Cody on TikTok @acedadadvice


    Buy Cody's book I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life


    Check out Cody's website acedadadvice.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    If you're ready to take the next step in improving your intimate health, our sponsors at JELQ2GROW are offering Private Parts Unknown listeners an exclusive 20% off your order. Just use code PRIVATE at http://www.jelq2grow.com/


    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 34 min
    From Physical Therapist to Top MILF Porn Star: Cherie DeVille, aka "The Internet's Stepmom," Reflects on 13 Years in the Porn Industry

    From Physical Therapist to Top MILF Porn Star: Cherie DeVille, aka "The Internet's Stepmom," Reflects on 13 Years in the Porn Industry

    For the 159th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes top MILF porn star Cherie DeVille, aka "The Internet's Stepmom."
    In this interview, we talk about Cherie's journey from physical therapist to porn star, the unsexy realities of a porn set, how the industry and social stigma have changed over the 13 years since she first started in porn, why she doesn’t go to swingers' parties anymore, sex with "civilians," the Pornhub documentary she participated in, her thoughts on Pornhub in general, how work impacts her personal sex life, and more.
    For more from today's guest, Cherie DeVille:

    Follow Cherie on Instagram @cheriedevillexo


    Follow Cherie on Twitter @CherieDeVille


    Check out Cherie's website cheriedeville.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod

    If you're ready to take the next step in improving your intimate health, our sponsors at JELQ2GROW are offering Private Parts Unknown listeners an exclusive 20% off your order. Just use code PRIVATE at http://www.jelq2grow.com/


    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 40 min
    I Got Married in Las Vegas, the Wedding Capital of the World: How to Plan a “Magical,” Yet Affordable Destination Wedding

    I Got Married in Las Vegas, the Wedding Capital of the World: How to Plan a “Magical,” Yet Affordable Destination Wedding

    For the 158th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak invites listeners inside her Elvis-officiated wedding at The Little White Chapel and gives her guide to wedding planning in Las Vegas, the self-proclaimed wedding capital of the world.
    That’s right, I got married last month in Vegas! Now, I’m not the kind of girl who ever dreamed of her wedding day — I just wanted it to be fun and easy — but unexpectedly, it was one of the best days of my life. My husband even called it “magical.” In this episode, I reminisce with my husband a few days after the ceremony, you’re going to hear some audio from the wedding ceremony and reception speeches, and then I’m going to give you my wedding planning breakdown, which you are free to steal.
    Our photographer was Keith Kaplan; check out his website at keithkaplanphotographylasvegas.net. For a full list of wedding vendors, subscribe to privatepartsunknown.substack.com — I'll be sending that out in an upcoming issue.
    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod

    Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts.

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 57 min
    Brutally Honest About Being a Teen Dominatrix, Pregnancy After ED & More with “Brutalities” Author Margo Steines

    Brutally Honest About Being a Teen Dominatrix, Pregnancy After ED & More with “Brutalities” Author Margo Steines

    For the 157th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Margo Steines, author of Brutalities: A Love Story.
    In this interview, we discuss Margo's experience as a dominatrix, sex work then vs. now, the toxic societal pressures on women's bodies in the 90s and how that resulted in eating disorders for both of us, her stint as a high-rise welder, advice she would give her former self about an abusive relationship, what it was like to be pregnant during the pandemic, how she feels about motherhood, and more.
    Here's the description of Brutalities:
    Quarantined in a southwestern desert city in the midst of her high-risk pregnancy, Margo Steines felt her life narrow around her growing body, compelling her to reckon with the violence entangled in its history. She was a professional dominatrix in New York City, a homestead farmer in a brutal relationship, a welder on a high-rise building crew, and a mixed martial arts enthusiast; each of her many lives brought a new perspective on how power and masculinity coalesce―and how far she could push her body toward the brink. With unflinching candor, Steines searches for the roots of her erstwhile attraction to pain while charting the complicated triumph of gentleness and love.
    For more from today's guest, Margo Steines:

    Buy Margo's book Brutalities: A Love Story


    Follow Margo on Instagram @redstateblues


    Follow Margo on Twitter @margosteines


    Check out Margo's website margosteines.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod

    Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts.

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 35 min

Customer Reviews

4.4 out of 5
287 Ratings

287 Ratings

Fancy1974 ,

Loving your podcast

I was expecting more about sex lol, which is what pulled me in. But I’m so glad to be here for all the many “parts” of life and relationships that you are highlighting. Keep it up! You’re doing a great job! Sincerely, The bored but so busy housekeeper !!

Stasie Mc ,

Thought provoking coverage of taboo topics!

This podcast gets me thinking. She covers topics that aren’t mainstream, but in a sensitive, comprehensive and balanced way. It’s definitely the podcast that gets me and keeps me thinking, and I love discussing it with my partner!

Begrudgingly_Voracious_Lstnr ,

Fun, informative, interesting even if you’re more vanilla

This is honestly interesting and insightful. I enjoy hearing about other people’s experiences and getting a fresh perspective. While some things are definitely not my bag, I appreciate understanding how other people experience relationships

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