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Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

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    • 4.4 • 287 Ratings

Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

    57-Year-Old MILF Next Door Rae Richmond on Becoming a Mature OnlyFans Sensation & the Hometown Scandal That Ensued

    57-Year-Old MILF Next Door Rae Richmond on Becoming a Mature OnlyFans Sensation & the Hometown Scandal That Ensued

    For the 166th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes mature OnlyFans model Rae Richmond, aka “the MILF next door,” aka “the Midlife MILF.”
    In today’s episode, we discuss how Rae went from corporate life to becoming a self-made porn star, including her previous marriages, getting sober, and meeting a younger man who encouraged her to start an OnlyFans account at age 56. Like many sex workers and adult entertainers, this woman is the ultimate entrepreneur, and she even turned the strategies and systems she developed to consistently produce and promote content into an adult creator coaching business. Rae also shares her experience of being “outed” in her small hometown, the reactions from friends and family, and how she has navigated that. Additionally, Rae talks about the cosmetic procedures she has undergone, including a facelift and Brazilian butt lift, and her current quest to write a memoir about her life experiences.
    For more from today's guest, Rae Richmond:

    Follow Rae on Instagram @rae.richmond7777


    Check out Rae's new podcast, No Expiration Date



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
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    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
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    • 35 min
    From Religion & Repression to Kink & Witchcraft: Cameron Dezen Hammon on Her Post-Divorce Sexual Awakening

    From Religion & Repression to Kink & Witchcraft: Cameron Dezen Hammon on Her Post-Divorce Sexual Awakening

    For the 165th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cameron Dezen Hammon, author of This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession.
    In today’s episode, we discuss her personal journey of religion and repression, how frightening it was to have HPV pre-vaccine, her post-divorce sexual awakening (which included kink and non-monogamy), STI stigma, and motherhood.
    For more from today's guest, Cameron Dezen Hammon:

    Follow Cameron on Instagram @cameron_dezen_hammon


    Buy Cameron's book This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession


    Check out Cameron's website camerondezenhammon.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Love2Play is the biggest online gaming destination. Turn your downtime into fun time; click the link https://bit.ly/joinwithPRIVATE or visit love2play.com and use promo code PRIVATE to claim 50 Free spins with a $50 minimum deposit.

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

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    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
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    • 38 min
    Hannah Sward on Her Memoir "Strip": Uncovering Truths on Trauma, Sex Work & the Road to Sobriety

    Hannah Sward on Her Memoir "Strip": Uncovering Truths on Trauma, Sex Work & the Road to Sobriety

    For the 164th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Sward, author of Strip: A Memoir.
    Hannah opens up about her unconventional childhood, including being abandoned by her mother, living with her poet father, experiencing sexual abuse as a child, and (of course) a stint on a commune. She also shares her entry into sex work, first as a call girl and then as a stripper, working alongside her sister, why she started using crystal meth, and how she finally got sober after losing a decade to addiction. We discuss Hannah's current perspective on the changing cultural attitudes towards sex work, how her family reacted to the book’s contents, and how writing the memoir was healing in that it coincided with her recovery yet also came with the emotional challenges of revisiting past traumas.
    For more from today's guest, Hannah Sward:

    Follow Hannah on Instagram @hannahswardauthor


    Buy Hannah's book Strip: A Memoir


    Check out Hannah's website hannahsward.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Love2Play is the biggest online gaming destination. Turn your downtime into fun time; click the link https://bit.ly/joinwithPRIVATE or visit love2play.com and use promo code PRIVATE to claim 50 Free spins with a $50 minimum deposit.

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

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    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 35 min
    "Entwined," the Importance of Queer Narratives & Polyamory as a Life Ethos with Alex Alberto

    "Entwined," the Importance of Queer Narratives & Polyamory as a Life Ethos with Alex Alberto

    For the 163rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Alex Alberto, author of Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home.
    For the final installment of this year's Pride programming, this interview covers Alex's exploration of polyamory, how their identities as a genderqueer and pansexual person gave them a unique angle in writing about non-monogamy, the importance of queer narratives, the process of writing and publishing the book, their journey toward asexuality, and polyamory as a life philosophy. 
    For more from today's guest, Alex Alberto:

    Follow Alex on Instagram @thatalexalberto


    Buy Alex's book Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home


    Sign up for Alex's Substack, Entwined Mag https://entwinedmag.substack.com/welcome



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

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    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 29 min
    Love & Leather at the Eagle LA: Celebrating Pride & Silver Lake's LGBTQ History with Charlie Matula & Hunter Fox

    Love & Leather at the Eagle LA: Celebrating Pride & Silver Lake's LGBTQ History with Charlie Matula & Hunter Fox

    For the 162nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Eagle LA co-owner Charlie Matula and his husband, Hunter Fox.
    Courtney interviewed Charlie and Hunter for a KCRW radio story entitled "Happily leather after at The Eagle in Silver Lake", which originally aired in June 2019 for Pride.
    The Eagle LA is a leather/Levi's bar in the Silver Lake neighborhood of Los Angeles, California. In this interview, we delve into the rich history of this beloved establishment and its importance to the gay community (and neighborhood at large), how Charlie and Hunter met and fell in love, Silver Lake's pivotal role in LGBT history, and the evolving landscape of gay acceptance across the United States throughout their lifetimes.
    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

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    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
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    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 46 min
    Queer, Kinky & Consensually Non-Monogamous: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey’s Life & Work

    Queer, Kinky & Consensually Non-Monogamous: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey’s Life & Work

    For the 161st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey for the second episode in our special month of Pride programming.
    Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is a clinical psychologist, sex/intimacy coach, author, speaker, and podcast host based in London. With more than 30 years of helping people create and sustain meaningful and exciting relationships, Dr. Bisbey specializes in GSRD (gender, sexuality, relationship diversity), is consensual non-monogamy and kink/BDSM knowledgable and helps traumatized people to move from victim to survivor and back into life.
    In today’s episode, we discuss Dr. Bisbey’s long career as a clinical psychologist for people living alternative lives, the common issues she sees in her practice, her unique identity and relationship status as a queer, consensually non-monogamous leather woman in a full-time authority transfer-based relationship with her husband, and some practical advice for anyone interested in exploring their fantasies or trying non-monogamy.
    For more from today's guest, Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey:

    Follow Dr. Bisbey on Instagram @drbisbey


    Follow Dr. Bisbey on Twitter/X @drbisbey


    Check out Dr. Bisbey's Linktree linktr.ee/drbisbey



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

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    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

4.4 out of 5
287 Ratings

287 Ratings

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Loving your podcast

I was expecting more about sex lol, which is what pulled me in. But I’m so glad to be here for all the many “parts” of life and relationships that you are highlighting. Keep it up! You’re doing a great job! Sincerely, The bored but so busy housekeeper !!

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Thought provoking coverage of taboo topics!

This podcast gets me thinking. She covers topics that aren’t mainstream, but in a sensitive, comprehensive and balanced way. It’s definitely the podcast that gets me and keeps me thinking, and I love discussing it with my partner!

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Fun, informative, interesting even if you’re more vanilla

This is honestly interesting and insightful. I enjoy hearing about other people’s experiences and getting a fresh perspective. While some things are definitely not my bag, I appreciate understanding how other people experience relationships

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