Pure Victory Podcast Braden Hafner and Matt Cline

Welcome to episode #211! This week, Matt and Braden talk about changing our mindset to help find freedom from porn. 
Challenging lies we believe is uncomfortable. 
Often it’s the foundation we’ve built and we are standing on. We find comfort in it, even if it’s a shaky ground. We find that we would rather be on the shaky ground than on the firm foundation - where God is calling us to. We have to break the mindset of “I don’t think I’ll ever be free”. We tell ourselves that we can’t do something, even when we are already in the midst of doing it. But we need to tell ourselves we can, and allow our body to relax and let God pull you. 

We need to let the grace of God replace the vice in our life. 
1 Corinthians tells us that because of the grace of God, we have been enriched in every way. Within the context of our sexual sin, God’s grace can empower us and pull us and be the water we rest on. We need to pursue peace and be empowered by the grace of God instead of empowered by our own performance of how long we can be free from a behaviour. 

The difference is not the capability, it’s the mindset. 
When Matt succeeded on the wakeboard, it wasn’t because he had a miraculous skill set that appeared ten minutes after he had failed. When it comes to sexual sin, we all have the same capabilities to find freedom, because the ability is within the Holy Spirit. We need to make sure we have the right mindset. When we are focused on our stress and our anxiety, we are tense. When we are focused on the presence of God and the Holy Spirit, we find peace and freedom. 

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Resources
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
Book a FREE call (men)
Course for marriages
FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free

Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Welcome to episode #210! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the connection between financial things and sexual immorality. 
We are given the choice between life & death, between blessing and cursing. 
God implores us to choose life. There is no grey area. When we are not walking with God and walking in sin, there will be physical and spiritual ramifications. Choosing life and walking in the ways of the Lord brings blessings - both spiritual and physical. 

Take a look at the blessings and curses. 
If you take a look at the second order of consequences to having sexual sin in your life, it will help you realize where your heart is at so that you can be transparent. Our life has a lot of webs that are linked and we often don’t see how the choices in one area can impact another area. We tend to compartmentalize our life and miss those links. 

Transparency is the first step. 
We need to be transparent with God and others. If we feel we can’t pray, ask others to intercede for you. Be honest with God with where you’re at. Jean had to admit to God that he loved the sin but didn’t like the curses that came with it and had to ask for help to overcome and let go of it before he could work at getting free. That is when God showed up for him.

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Resourceshttps://www.jeanlouishardy.com/
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
Book a FREE call (men)
Course for marriages
FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free

Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Welcome to episode #209! This week, Matt and Braden talk about P. Diddy, Kanye and Bill Hybels and the things that they were a part of, the loss of some of their reputations and the lessons we can pick up from them. 
We need to be careful with how much faith we put into people. 
We don’t know what is happening behind closed doors for those who have a platform. Eventually things will come out and be exposed. Money and power won’t be able to hide secrets forever. We need to remember that we can see someone a certain way - often a mask or an image that is a created version of that person, so when details about their lives become exposed, it can be difficult to come to terms with. 

We need to look at Christ first.
We need to put our faith and hope in God. We can still look up to and learn from people but have to understand that men or women we follow are in fact human and will make mistakes. When people who we look up to fall, it’s important that we still look to Christ so we don’t lose our faith. We can take what’s good from these people, but we need to be careful when we lift people as heroes. When looking to find freedom and healing, the best place to go to is directly in God’s word. 

Following Jesus is an inside out life. 
It's living out of an inner working that is done in our heart. What’s revealed in a Christ follower is the fruit of what is happening in the heart. The worldly approach is outside in. We focus on the outside at the detriment to the inner life. If we live from the outside in, we can start to create a persona or something that isn’t true so that we appear a certain way to others. Decisions can become more sinful and the inside can begin to rot. We need to follow Jesus first and allow him to work from the inside out and not allow the world to rule from the outside in.
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Resources
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
Book a FREE call (men)
Course for marriages
FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free

Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Welcome to episode #208! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Sam Black about his book “Healing the church” and equipping church leaders on how to talk about sexual brokenness in the church.
Pornography is undermining every ministry in the church.
The average age for first exposure is 8-12 and so our children’s ministries are being impacted by pornography whether we recognize it or not. If we don’t equip parents, we are missing the opportunity to protect them and provide them ongoing guidance. Pornogrpahy impacts our teens and youth ministry and marriage and adult ministries. Two thirds of men and one third of women in the church say they have an ongoing struggle with pornography. There is a direct correlation between pornography use and prayer, scripture life, church attendance, feelings about being close to God and doubts about your faith. A university study showed that there is a direct link between how much porn someone used and whether they would serve in their church over the next 6 years. It is important that the church is the safe place for people to go with their addictions to find recovery. 

You don’t need a perfect plan - you need a first next step. 
This will allow people to create that first step in their own lives. Every step leads to another step. The book breaks down the steps into “easy steps” - something you don’t have to think much about; there are “small steps” - steps you can implement without a lot of effort; then “medium” and “large” steps to lead into full recovery. Taking it one step at a time makes it easier and less overwhelming to accomplish and walk into recovery. 

There are 3 common factors that ministry leaders miss for why people get stuck. 
1 - Early childhood exposure. It’s so impactful on their brain that even as an adult they can tell you a complete story of that first exposure, but nothing else about that day. 
2 - The ongoing use and repetition that burns neuro pathways in the brain to crave it more and more. 
3 - Some pain or trauma that happened at a young age can happen elsewhere. 

These three create pornography as an escape that has been done thousands of times. This is where a safe place and process comes in. The knowledge precedes understanding and understanding precedes change.
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ResourcesThe Healing Church - download the first chapter. 
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
Book a FREE call (men)
Course for marriages
FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free

Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certif

Welcome to episode #207! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Nadine Crain about purity culture, what it is, how to address it and how to discuss purity and sexuality with your kids and within the church.
What is “purity culture”?
Purity culture came about in the ‘90’s when the “true love waits” movement happened. It was created in response to raising statistics of teenage pregnancies. Sex education in schools was not what the churches were wanting, so they were pushing the “true love waits” teaching. It was reactionary, but was coming from a good place of wanting to lead youth to how they can follow God and not fall into sin. Unfortunately, it became very black and white - if you stay pure, you are blessed, and if not, your worth suffers. It’s so focused on behaviour and shame and not based on the grace of God. So while there are good attributes to the movement, it has left a lot of people who grew up with it full of shame when they "mess up" and even when they don't, they get to marriage with no concept of how to have a healthy sex life. 

We need to approach purity from a theological standpoint. 
Purity has been associated with sex and marriage rather than being in God’s presence. Purity is meant for us to be in God’s presence. Nothing that we do will undo what Jesus did to get us into God’s presence. Having this understanding takes a lot of pressure off of wondering if we can approach God after we’ve messed up. God cleanses us, not anything we do. When looking at purity culture as staying away from sex until marriage and never addressing it until you say ‘I do’ leaves us unequipped to deal with sex in marriage. 

It’s important to find the middle ground between “don’t have sex” and “do whatever you want”. 
That middle ground is found in the conversations. Parents, leaders and teachers need to be open to the curious questions that teens and young people will have and be a person that they are comfortable to approach. Gauge the appropriateness of the age but keep the conversation open so when they are at the age to start dating it's more than just the “one sex talk”. Parents and leaders’ job is to guide to help them make wise decisions and be informed and equipped to make the decisions. By building up the theological explanations in your kids, then they will have what they need. It will help them develop in their relationship with God and can help them on the right path or find it again if they veer off. 

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ResourcesAnatomy for Kids by Shelly Mettenwww.nadinecrain.com to connect with Nadine Crain 
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
Book a FREE call (men)
Course for marriages
FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free

Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can t

Welcome to episode #206! This week, Matt and Braden speak with Elizabeth Good - CEO and founder of Foundation United and author of “Speak the Unspeakable”.
Elizabeth grew up loving her family and church and those are a huge part of her purpose.  
The enemy attacked her family from a young age but the Lord has helped her not lose her fight for staying in her purpose and destiny. She faced death and abuse from a young age and the enemy tried to use people to make her hate the church/specific denominations. Shame kept her unreconciled for many decades. She would attend church and would look fine on the outside, but the pain and the shame of what happened to her had her looking for ways to numb it - ways like porn and drinking. 

Confession helps bring things to the light.
Elizabeth didn’t realize she was hiding and that she was not fully free. The deception from the enemy kept her thinking that because she was going to and was involved in church meant that  everything was okay. There were a lot of open doors and footholds that she was unaware of that the enemy was using to block her from receiving healing and reconciliation with God. James 5:16 says “confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed”. Once she confessed she needed to learn to walk out our healing. She now uses what she went through as a tool to help others find freedom and healing.

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ResourcesSpeak the Unspeakable by Elizabeth GoodThe Foundation United
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
Book a FREE call (men)
Course for marriages
FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free

Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.