“Java with Juli” features fresh, relevant and gospel-centered conversations about our sexuality. Dr. Juli Slattery dives into the “taboo” questions you’re afraid to ask—or don’t know who to ask—about intimacy, marriage, singleness, sexual addiction, and more. Every episode is an invitation to a biblical look at the good, the hard, the healing, and the holy in God’s design for sexuality.
#454 (Bonus) Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think
If you’re a married person feeling like there’s a giant chasm between the level of sexual desire you and your spouse experience, this special re-air episode is for you.
Through over two years of research and work, Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma surveyed and documented numerous married couples, examining the way they connect around sexual intimacy in their marriage. They investigated trends, causality, and correlation all in a bid to help couples bridge the gaps they experience in their sexual intimacy, and their findings might just surprise you.
Guests: Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma
Book: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma
Website: Building Intimate Marriages
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#484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don't Enjoy Sex in Marriage
It’s week three of our 7-week series exploring different themes around God, sex and intimacy, and this week, it’s all about sex in Marriage. Every couple wants a healthy, satisfying sex life, but achieving one isn’t always straightforward.
What does it look like to build sexual intimacy when your spouse has a lower drive than you do? What is the most effective way for you to pursue your spouse? And is having sex with your spouse more frequently the answer to their porn addiction?
Juli is joined by J Parker and Bonny Burns, the hosts of the podcast “Sex Chat for Christian Wives”, as they provide biblical, practical insight on the challenges Christian wives face in the marital context.
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Guests: J. Parker and Bonny Burns
Podcast: Sex Chat for Christian Wives
Book: Unlock Your Orgasm by Bonny Logsdon Burns
Blog: Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy
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#388 (Bonus) Single & Sexually Whole
If God made you sexual and you’re single, what are you supposed to do with your sexual desires?
It’s true that the path to sexual integrity for the single believer has long been a rocky one. When a Christian man or woman experiences attraction and rising hormones, is he or she supposed to ignore or suppress their sexuality? Or is there more to being a sexual being than we’ve previously given thought to?
In this special edition bonus episode, Juli is joined by the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, and they discuss different types of sexuality, the priority people place on them, and what we’re supposed to do when we experience desire.
Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau
Book: Soul Virgins by Dr. Doug Rosenau
Blog: What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?
Blog: You Can Be Single & Sexual
#483 Why You Need a New Theology of Singleness, Even if You're Married
Join Juli and her guest Dr. Danielle Treweek as we kick off week two of our 7-week series exploring various themes around God, sex and intimacy. This week we look at singleness and ask the question: Have we as the Church misrepresented and misunderstood singleness? Dani is the author of “The Meaning of Singleness,” a book which seeks to help individuals and the Church recover a biblically accurate theology of singleness. Get ready for a conversation filled with grace, passion, and truth as Dani discusses some of what the Church has gotten wrong about the high calling of singleness.
Guest: Danielle Treweek, PhD
Dani’s Instagram: @danitreweek Dani’s Twitter: @danitreweek
Book: The Meaning of Singleness by Danielle Treweek
Website: Single Minded Ministry
Blog: What’s the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?
#211 (Bonus) Understanding Pornography Addiction
Have you ever given thought to what drives people towards pornography? While for many the initial introduction to porn is due to curiosity, it might surprise you to know that there are many different emotional and cognitive reasons people continue to turn to porn and struggle to break the addiction.
In this special edition bonus episode, revisit Juli and Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken Ministries as Jonathan shares some of his story, and what he believes to be some of the many reasons people keep returning to “lustland.”
Guest: Jonathan Daugherty
Be Broken Ministries on Instagram: @bebrokenministries
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Blog: Porn Affects You, Even If You Don’t Look At It
#482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here's Why You Can't Do It Alone
This is the first episode in a 7-part series on different themes around God, sex, and intimacy, and is focused on how we can find freedom from sexual sin. In this episode, Juli is joined by podcaster, author, and former pastor Nate Larkin, as he shares about his journey breaking free from an addiction to pornography that almost destroyed his marriage.
Website: Samson Society
Wbsite: The Sarah Society
Podcast: Pirate Monks Podcast
Java with Juli: #241 Women Struggle With Porn Too
Blog: What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks at Porn?
Q&A: Is there any hope for me in my struggle with porn?
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This is my education
I am thankful to have found this incredibly rich content on sexuality in a world that has gotten it all wrong. I am a mother, teacher, and coach and have watched the young women I’ve worked with and raised become confused by bad advice and ideology that leaves our creator God out of the picture. Thank you for these conversations that address tough questions and issues pointing to Jesus and biblical understanding of the beauty of sex and our sexuality. Your boldness and kindness has given me language and understanding to address these things in my life and work. You’ve given me courage to take on my own conversations with people I love, knowing I can listen better, provide more merciful guidance, and have the knowledge to back up what I’m thinking and saying. God bless you as you minister to the world about God’s design for sex and sexuality.
Life Changing Podcast!
Java with Juli is hands down my favorite podcast. It has completely revolutionized my view of God and sex. It has brought a healing in my life that I will be forever thankful for. Being able to tell Juli thank you in person is on my bucket list!
Truthful and compassionate
Like guest Julia Mitchell said, Juli and this podcast are truthful AND compassionate. That combination is so very difficult to find in people and content these days! Nearly impossible.
This podcast nurtures my heart, mind and soul as my faith is strengthened and encouraged. I am challenged in good ways and also learn practical ways to walk out discipleship.
Hearing the testimonies here reminds me that God is still at work, in mighty ways in the world around us.
Thank you Juli and AI team for making this podcast.
PS I was in Focus on the Family Institute in Spring 2008 and got to learn from Juli!