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It can be really hard to fix a marriage when you feel broken inside. It can be a challenge to try to meet your spouse's needs when your own are not being met or even fully understood. If you grew up religious or with high moral standards, this can add even more stress to the equation. This is a podcast that talks about the many challenges in marriage, and yes, even intimacy, and how they are effecting you on a personal level. Each week we take a deep dive into what is keeping your foot on the brakes when it comes to your arousal levels and what drives you to step on the accelerator. As your certified Life Coach, we will explore many fascinating topics, such as the different styles of arousal, the many types of intimacy, how blame effects our mood, the reasons we engage in these recreational shenanigans in the first place, and how life coaching skills get us through it all.

Restore Yourself. Restore Your Marriage‪.‬ Shellie Anderson

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.9 • 18 Ratings

It can be really hard to fix a marriage when you feel broken inside. It can be a challenge to try to meet your spouse's needs when your own are not being met or even fully understood. If you grew up religious or with high moral standards, this can add even more stress to the equation. This is a podcast that talks about the many challenges in marriage, and yes, even intimacy, and how they are effecting you on a personal level. Each week we take a deep dive into what is keeping your foot on the brakes when it comes to your arousal levels and what drives you to step on the accelerator. As your certified Life Coach, we will explore many fascinating topics, such as the different styles of arousal, the many types of intimacy, how blame effects our mood, the reasons we engage in these recreational shenanigans in the first place, and how life coaching skills get us through it all.

    Mandatory Pleasure For Men

    Mandatory Pleasure For Men

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    Have you ever wondered why men seem to enjoy and want sex so much more than their wife?  While many might assume that its simply because their testosterone levels are higher, it's not the only reason.

    The arousing shenanigans of procreation actually requires the man to have "pleasure in the process" in order for it to be successful; it's mandatory.  But this is not the same for women. The sweet spot of their most pleasurable nerve endings doesn't automatically line up the same way, and is located in a totally separate place. 

    So, on the one hand, its completely possible that women are having ZERO pleasure during sex while still successful with the reproductive process.  They consistently experience "success without pleasure." But on the other hand, its completely impossible for men to be successful without pleasure!   For them, sex requires pleasure, consistently.   

    So, what do we do about this?  Listen in on today's episode as we dive into some insightful definitions that shed a little light on what has been missing, then make a decision to start using The Intimacy Trek, and sign up for a FREE Discovery Session with Shellie 

    • 30 min
    Less Rhetoric, More Sex

    Less Rhetoric, More Sex

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    Have you ever wondered what approach a husband takes when he is feeling in the mood for sex?  Often, there is no strategic approach at all.  And even more often, the approaches they do try often fall short.

    Listen in on today's episode where we look closer at a not-so-obvious trap about rhetoric that seems to be at the root of the many faulty approaches and quick fix attempts.  Discover 3 tips for having a better discussion about sex that benefits BOTH the husband and the wife.  

    • 1 hr 2 min
    Total Eclipse of the Intimate Heart

    Total Eclipse of the Intimate Heart

    Have you ever considered that there could be some awesome intimacy insights that could be gained during this unique time of the solar eclipse?  If you haven't, maybe this could be your invitation to do just that.

    Listen in as we discuss some of the obvious occurrences that happen in nature during an eclipse and how it can relate to intimacy.  During this time of transformation, when the sun is obscured by the moon, can act as a signal for our own internal transformation... as we allow the superficial ways of approaching intimacy to gain the corona (higher way of thinking) approach, with 5 eclipsing ideas.  

    • 29 min
    Intimacy's Exciting Easter egg hunt

    Intimacy's Exciting Easter egg hunt

    Do you want to try something fun with intimacy this week?  Then this is the episode for you.  And while many women end up on the short end of the stick when it comes to how much pleasure they are experiencing with intimacy, there is so much potential that has yet to be discovered.

    Listen in on today's episode where we explore the ratio of potential pleasure that is possible for couples and how to advocate for it.  With the fun and adventure of searching for Easter eggs as a guide, you can create your own sexy hunt with a brand new challenge hidden inside the eggs.  Spring into this fun and easy activity to improve intimacy this week.

    • 24 min
    When Sex and Fun are NOT in the Same Sentence

    When Sex and Fun are NOT in the Same Sentence

    Did you know that there are a lot of married women who don't put the words sex and fun in the same sentence?  If you are a married woman reading this, it might seem like common knowledge.  But a married man reading this might be feeling like a freight train just hit him.  He may even wonder, how can sex NOT be fun?

    In today's episode, we take a closer look at this concept and the meta-message that takes root when a spouse thinks that sex is not fun.   While it may seem like an impossible task to overcome, when one spouse thinks sex is fun and the other doesn't, there is a beautiful opportunity hidden within this opposition.

    Listen in as we challenge this opposition and use it as an invitation, inviting newness and creativity to the table as well as a movement closer to one another instead of further apart.  Sentences are seeds for our intimate experience... so let's plant some fun sexy seeds!   

    • 25 min
    The Fastest Formula to Female Arousal

    The Fastest Formula to Female Arousal

    Have you ever felt like, just when things were going well and headed towards a romantic night of intimacy, things got sabotaged?  I'm guessing it's happened to most of us, even if we didn't mean for it to happen... and the sexiness gets derailed.

    And sometimes, we can even get off track for days, or even weeks, at a time when this takes place.  But what would happen if the next time, we were able to get back on track much faster?  That would be amazing.
     
    Listen in on today's episode where we discuss a faster system to ignite female arousal, the way that advocating and activating it makes a difference, and how knowing this system is valuable for BOTH husband and wife.  Bring it on, and let's get turned on, faster.

    • 20 min

Customer Reviews

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18 Ratings

18 Ratings

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I love listening to your wise teachings, but when I act on these messages, I am alive and I give my spouse a different person to respond to. Wow. Not always easy to do but choosing to act on these lessons is pure magic.

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