Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert | Rom-Com Critic
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

NEW SERIES! Welcome to Rom-Com Vom: where in every episode we go under the covers with a beloved rom-com, strip away its hidden toxic messages, and rewrite the script on love + sex. ABOUT ROM-COM VOM: Did our favorite rom-coms we adored growing up totally warp our ideas about love, relationships, dating, and sex? Spoiler alert: they sure did, and we’re here to talk about it! Join DB (Sex Educator & Pleasure Expert) and her renowned guests like Franchesca Ramsey (Comedian), Logan Ury (Dating Coach), Justine Kay and Natasha Scott-Reichel (Hosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose), Reed Amber and Florence Bark (Hosts of Come Curious), and more as we dissect popular rom-coms like You’ve Got Mail, Never Been Kissed, 10 Things I Hate About You, Twilight, Hitch, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, and more. We’ll dive into the swoon-worthy moments and cringe-worthy toxic lessons, unpacking how these movies shaped (and messed up) our views on healthy relationships and what sex should be like. And don’t worry—we’re rewriting the script with ideas on how these films could’ve done better. This series is perfect for fans of sex-positive podcasts, film nostalgia, feminist cultural critiques, and anyone ready to challenge outdated love tropes. -- Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Take a second and think back to the sex education you had in school. Did it prepare you to have a healthy and happy relationship with sex and identity? If it was anything like DB’s, it was stigmatizing, judgmental, and totally unhelpful. But not to worry, the experts are here to offer the sex ed you wish you had. We cover an array of sex education topics like orgasms, abortion, pornography, fetishes and kinks, pleasure, consent and boundaries, healthy relationships, LGBTQIA+ mental health and sexual health, LGBTQIA+ relationships, coming out, sexual dysfunction and pain during sex, birth control, sex in the media, Queer stories, and so much more. We believe that everyone deserves comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-centered, feminist, medically-accurate sex education. On the show, DB and sexual health expert guests break down your most curious sex questions like “Am I pregnant?” or “How can I have a stronger orgasm?” or “How do I keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?” or “How often should I be having sex?” or “What are common sexual fetishes?” or “What are the benefits of masturbation?” Tune in for expert insights and candid conversations redefining sexual health and empowerment! -- ABOUT DB: Danielle Bezalel (she/her), aka DB, has a Master of Public Health from Columbia University with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health. DB is a leading voice in inclusive and medically accurate sex education. She tackles taboo topics with humor and expertise because no question is TMI when it comes to learning more about your body and pleasure. With 10 years of sex ed experience and features in Netflix, Mashable, Bustle, SELF, and more, DB empowers listeners to challenge taboos, rethink outdated narratives, and embrace sexual health and pleasure with confidence. Learn more at www.sexedwithdb.com and email DB at sexedwithdb@gmail.com.

  1. What should my vagina smell like?

    APR 18 · BONUS

    What should my vagina smell like?

    What should a vagina smell like? Hint: not a bouquet of roses. In this week’s bonus episode, DB tackles one of the most Googled (and least talked about) questions in sexual health. From the history of floral-scented shame to what’s actually normal down there, we break down myths, signs of infection, and why your vagina’s natural scent isn’t a problem to fix! Mentioned in this episode: The Wedding Singer with Hari Kondabolu: Rom-Com Vom CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, & Arya. Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com Subscribe to our newsletter for behind-the-scenes content and answers to your sexual health questions! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. SEASON 11 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Logo Design: Evie Plumb (@cliterallythebest)

    7 min
  2. The Wedding Singer with Hari Kondabolu: Rom-Com Vom

    APR 16

    The Wedding Singer with Hari Kondabolu: Rom-Com Vom

    This week on Rom Com Vom, comedian and cultural critic Hari Kondabolu joins us to dig into The Wedding Singer—one of DB's childhood favorites! We talk emotional manipulation, passive female leads, and why so many rom-coms treat marriage like a finish line. Julia deserves better! Plus, softboy meltdown karaoke, marriage as the ultimate female achievement, and The Not Like Other Girls Olympics. GUEST DETAILS Queens-raised Brooklyn-based comedian Hari Kondabolu has performed on Comedy Central, Conan, Jimmy Kimmel Live and The Late Show with David Letterman, and on stages around the world as a touring headliner. A public radio favorite, Hari is a regular panelist on NPR’s Wait! Wait! Don’t Tell Me and has been guest on Fresh Air, Morning Edition, Code Switch, and more. He’s released two chart-topping comedy albums, a Netflix comedy special, "Warn Your Relatives”, which made a number of Best Of lists and his newest special “Vacation Baby” is available on YouTube. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, & Arya. Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com Subscribe to our newsletter for behind-the-scenes content and answers to your sexual health questions! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. SEASON 11 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Logo Design: Evie Plumb (@cliterallythebest)

    42 min
  3. Should I have sex with my ex?

    APR 11 · BONUS

    Should I have sex with my ex?

    In It’s Complicated, Meryl Streep’s character finds herself tangled back up with her slimy ex—familiar, messy, but kind of irresistible. In this week’s bonus ep, DB dives into the real-life version of this quandary and answers a listener’s question about sleeping with their ex. Why are we drawn back to people we’ve already left? Can it ever actually work?  Mentioned in this episode: It’s Complicated with Nicoletta Heidegger, LMFT: Rom-Com Vom CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, & Arya. Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com Subscribe to our newsletter for behind-the-scenes content and answers to your sexual health questions! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. SEASON 11 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Logo Design: Evie Plumb (@cliterallythebest)

    9 min
  4. It’s Complicated with Nicoletta Heidegger, LMFT: Rom-Com Vom

    APR 9

    It’s Complicated with Nicoletta Heidegger, LMFT: Rom-Com Vom

    In It’s Complicated, Meryl Streep is a thriving divorcée caught between her sleazy ex-husband and a soft-spoken architect. What starts as a steamy rekindling quickly turns into a chaotic spiral of questionable decision making. This week, we're unpacking what It’s Complicated gets right about midlife sex, healing, and regret — and what it leaves out when it comes to agency and growth. Plus: how Nicoletta’s real-life work with couples and families adds context to the emotional wreckage onscreen. GUEST DETAILS Nicoletta Heidegger, MA., MEd, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Sexologist. She specializes in sex therapy as well as Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP). Nicoletta received her BA in Psychology from Stanford University, her MA in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and her Masters of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University. She also provides coaching, consulting, education, and retreats to folks around the world. When not seeing clients, Nicoletta creates content via her award nominated show Sluts and Scholars: a sex positive, shame-free, educational podcast for professionals who prioritize pleasure. NicolettavHeidegger.com Slutsandscholars.com insta @TherapywithNicoletta @Slutsandscholars CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, & Arya. Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com Subscribe to our newsletter for behind-the-scenes content and answers to your sexual health questions! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. SEASON 11 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Logo Design: Evie Plumb (@cliterallythebest)

    45 min
  5. Sweet Home Alabama with Becca Rea-Tucker: Rom-Com Vom

    APR 2

    Sweet Home Alabama with Becca Rea-Tucker: Rom-Com Vom

    This week, we’re joined by Becca Rea-Tucker—aka The Sweet Feminist—to break down Sweet Home Alabama, the rom-com that wants you to root for a gaslighting ex with a glassblowing hobby. DB and Becca dig into the movie’s deep-fried nostalgia, messy relationship dynamics, and the way rom-coms love to dress up coercion as fate. They unpack emotional manipulation in a southern accent, the myth of “the one,” and why Melanie’s real love story might’ve been with her friends—or *literally* anyone else! GUEST DETAILS Becca Rea-Tucker is a reproductive rights advocate, baker, and author whose work merges activism and dessert. She is the author of the cookbook Baking by Feel and the upcoming The Abortion Companion, a supportive guide for people who have abortions. Through her platform @TheSweetFeminist and Substack A Little Something Sweet, she shares affirmations, resources, and writing that challenges shame and anti-abortion misinformation. Her work explores stigma, self-compassion, and bodily autonomy. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, & Arya. Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com Subscribe to our newsletter for behind-the-scenes content and answers to your sexual health questions! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. SEASON 11 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Logo Design: Evie Plumb (@cliterallythebest)

    31 min

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4.7
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NEW SERIES! Welcome to Rom-Com Vom: where in every episode we go under the covers with a beloved rom-com, strip away its hidden toxic messages, and rewrite the script on love + sex. ABOUT ROM-COM VOM: Did our favorite rom-coms we adored growing up totally warp our ideas about love, relationships, dating, and sex? Spoiler alert: they sure did, and we’re here to talk about it! Join DB (Sex Educator & Pleasure Expert) and her renowned guests like Franchesca Ramsey (Comedian), Logan Ury (Dating Coach), Justine Kay and Natasha Scott-Reichel (Hosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose), Reed Amber and Florence Bark (Hosts of Come Curious), and more as we dissect popular rom-coms like You’ve Got Mail, Never Been Kissed, 10 Things I Hate About You, Twilight, Hitch, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, and more. We’ll dive into the swoon-worthy moments and cringe-worthy toxic lessons, unpacking how these movies shaped (and messed up) our views on healthy relationships and what sex should be like. And don’t worry—we’re rewriting the script with ideas on how these films could’ve done better. This series is perfect for fans of sex-positive podcasts, film nostalgia, feminist cultural critiques, and anyone ready to challenge outdated love tropes. -- Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Take a second and think back to the sex education you had in school. Did it prepare you to have a healthy and happy relationship with sex and identity? If it was anything like DB’s, it was stigmatizing, judgmental, and totally unhelpful. But not to worry, the experts are here to offer the sex ed you wish you had. We cover an array of sex education topics like orgasms, abortion, pornography, fetishes and kinks, pleasure, consent and boundaries, healthy relationships, LGBTQIA+ mental health and sexual health, LGBTQIA+ relationships, coming out, sexual dysfunction and pain during sex, birth control, sex in the media, Queer stories, and so much more. We believe that everyone deserves comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-centered, feminist, medically-accurate sex education. On the show, DB and sexual health expert guests break down your most curious sex questions like “Am I pregnant?” or “How can I have a stronger orgasm?” or “How do I keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?” or “How often should I be having sex?” or “What are common sexual fetishes?” or “What are the benefits of masturbation?” Tune in for expert insights and candid conversations redefining sexual health and empowerment! -- ABOUT DB: Danielle Bezalel (she/her), aka DB, has a Master of Public Health from Columbia University with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health. DB is a leading voice in inclusive and medically accurate sex education. She tackles taboo topics with humor and expertise because no question is TMI when it comes to learning more about your body and pleasure. With 10 years of sex ed experience and features in Netflix, Mashable, Bustle, SELF, and more, DB empowers listeners to challenge taboos, rethink outdated narratives, and embrace sexual health and pleasure with confidence. Learn more at www.sexedwithdb.com and email DB at sexedwithdb@gmail.com.

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