9 episodes

This weekly show pairs two mismatched women discussing relationship and sex topics we all typically whisper about. Laugh-out-loud funny, irreverent, British, international sex expert and author of 17 books Tracey Cox answers questions from the "audience" posed by the squeamish, mom of four, award-winning literary podcaster Zibby Owens, who blushes often.

Tracey answers three questions each episode like:
How much should I really share with my girlfriends?
What do I do about my husband's work wife?
How often should we really be getting it on?!

Have your own questions?! Enter them anonymously at www.zibbyowens.com/sex.

SexTok with Zibby and Tracey Zibby Owens and Tracey Cox

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 13 Ratings

This weekly show pairs two mismatched women discussing relationship and sex topics we all typically whisper about. Laugh-out-loud funny, irreverent, British, international sex expert and author of 17 books Tracey Cox answers questions from the "audience" posed by the squeamish, mom of four, award-winning literary podcaster Zibby Owens, who blushes often.

Tracey answers three questions each episode like:
How much should I really share with my girlfriends?
What do I do about my husband's work wife?
How often should we really be getting it on?!

Have your own questions?! Enter them anonymously at www.zibbyowens.com/sex.

    Ep. 9: Sex at the Start, a Friend’s Husband, and Fantasies

    Ep. 9: Sex at the Start, a Friend’s Husband, and Fantasies

    In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:


    1. I have met a new man and really like him but the sex is OK at best. Is this a bad sign? Doesn’t everyone have great sex at the start? Should you leave if the sex is no good?
    2. The husband of a close friend of mine keeps coming onto me. It’s making things very awkward. I am a close friend of both of them and currently single. I’ve been spending a lot of time with them and he’s always saying how he can’t understand why no one is snapping me up, men should be beating the door down, etc. About a month ago, he made it clear that he’s very attracted to me and would love to take it further. What should I do? Do I tell my friend?
    3. I have lots of fantasies and am wondering if I should share them with my partner. Our sex life is fine but it could do with a bit of livening up. What’s your take on telling your partner your fantasies?


    And offers her sex tip of the week!


    To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.
    Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
     
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    • 19 min
    Ep. 8: Shortage of eligible men, polyamorous relationships, and location preference

    Ep. 8: Shortage of eligible men, polyamorous relationships, and location preference

    In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:
    1. I am 42, have been single for three years, and am starting to think I am never going to meet anyone. Even worse, I know so many other women in the same boat. Why are there so many attractive, accomplished, together single women and no men that fit that description? Where have all the good men gone?
    2. I am interested in being polyamorous and dating more than one person at once. When is the right time to tell a new partner that you are intending on having relationships with more than one person? I feel like it will put a lot of people off.
    3. My question is about locations. What if your partner wants to have sex in risky locations (the kids seeing, the dog in the room)? What if you want to have sex in erotic locations (beach, car, rooftop) and your partner doesn't?
    And offers her sex tip of the week!
    To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.
    Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
     
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    • 28 min
    Ep. 7: Sex personalities, Exes and Orgasm Face

    Ep. 7: Sex personalities, Exes and Orgasm Face

    In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:


    1. How can I get my partner to get more kinky? I've tried suggesting things, I've changed positions and he always reverts back to missionary style. I’d love to do it on the table, against the wall. Nothing works for him except in bed, the same way. This is boring! I even told him I have sex toys – he’s not even interested in that. I have a very old-fashioned guy.


    2. I can’t stop thinking about the sex my partner had with his ex. I met her recently and she was sexy, confident, and flirtatious. I’ve had a video of the two of them at it whirling around in my head ever since. I don’t want to talk to him about it unless he confirms my worst fears: that I’m not half as sexy/good in bed as she is.


    3. My previous boyfriend used to constantly make fun of the face I make when I orgasm. It’s made me really self-conscious and I’m now dreading having sex with any future boyfriends. How can I get past it?
    And offers her sex tip of the week!


    To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.
    Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
     
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    • 26 min
    Ep. 6: Affairs, Painful Sex, and Asexuality

    Ep. 6: Affairs, Painful Sex, and Asexuality

    In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:


    1. I’m married and having an affair with a man who is also married. I know it’s wrong but I’m addicted to the sex. Is it so wrong to continue? Who are we hurting if no one finds out?


    2. Ever since I had a baby, sex is painful for me. It’s making me dread sex. I don’t want to talk to my doctor because I’m too embarrassed.


    3. I think I’m asexual, and I don’t want to be. I wish that I wanted to have sex as much as my friends do. Am I really asexual or am I just afraid to be intimate? How do you tell the difference?


    And offers her sex tip of the week!


    To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.
    Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
     
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    • 26 min
    Ep. 5: Stretch Marks, Vibrators, and Porn

    Ep. 5: Stretch Marks, Vibrators, and Porn

    In this episode, Tracey answers these three questions and offers a signature sex tip:


    1. I used to love sex but I’m finding, as I’m getting older, that my confidence is falling. I haven’t felt sexy since I had children and put on weight. I’ve also got lots of stretch marks. My husband tells me I look great but I think he’s just saying that to be nice. What can I do to get my confidence back?
    2. I have most of my orgasms with my vibrator on my own. Sometimes I worry that this is ruining me for sex with my partner. Is it possible to get addicted to my vibrator? Is it bad for you to have most of your orgasms that way?
    3. My new partner wants me to watch porn with him. I’ve never done it before and worried I’m going to make a fool of myself. What do you do while you’re watching it? Do you watch it and then go off and have sex? Or do you do it while you’re watching?


    To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.
    Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
     
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    • 31 min
    Ep. 4: Pubic Hair Grooming, Frequency, and Drinking Before Sex

    Ep. 4: Pubic Hair Grooming, Frequency, and Drinking Before Sex

    In this episode, Tracey answers these three questions and offers a signature sex tip:


    1. I’ve just split from my partner and back out there dating again. (Just when I thought I’d never have to stare at a stranger’s ceiling again, here I am!) I’m up to speed on online dating but what’s the etiquette with pubic hair now? Do I have to take it all off? I’ve always found the completely hairless thing a bit creepy (not to mention hard to maintain).
    2. How often should I be having sex? Is once a week enough? Some of my friends say they’re having it three times a week. Are we being pathetic only doing it weekly?
    3. I never want sex unless I’ve had some wine. It relaxes me and gives me confidence. Is this wrong? My new partner gets annoyed with me but I find it difficult to get in the mood unless I’ve had a few.


    To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.


    Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
     
    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    • 23 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
13 Ratings

13 Ratings

ericjlholt ,

Not Just for Women!!!

As a married man and father of four, I find this to be informative and entertaining. I enjoy the innocent and curious questions as well as the vulnerability of Tracey in her answers!

sherri728 ,

Informative and funny!

This podcast is so great! Each episode I am laughing but also learning something. The back and forth between Zibby and Tracey is amazing. Love the format of the anonymous questions and the conversational approach to answering them.

maryswan_bell ,

Like a fun conversation with your girlfriends! If one of them was a sex therapist 😂

I listened to all the episodes yesterday and loved them! I love Tracey’s advice and no-nonsense approach to such sensitive topics. And I can’t help giggling at Zibby’s obvious and adorable embarrassment. So fun!

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