Social Skills Coaching

Patrick King

While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now... Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships. He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

  1. 5d ago

    Why Your Questions Keep Conversations Shallow

    Tired of small talk? Want to move past surface-level chats and actually connect with people? Learn how to ask better questions that make people feel valued and eager to share. Patrick King shares specific techniques for deep conversations that work with anyone—the same approach talk show hosts use to keep audiences engaged. Master conversations by leading with genuine curiosity instead of scripts. Are you tired of small talk and want to move past it? Learn how to talk deeper by asking curiosity questions that shift conversations from surface-level chats to genuine connection. Patrick King shares specific techniques for moving beyond small talk and mastering the art of meaningful dialogue with anyone. You're in a conversation and realize you're not actually interested—you're just waiting for your turn to talk. Here's how to become genuinely interested in others instead. Learn the specific techniques that shift your mindset from performing engagement to actually wondering about people, from asking questions that matter to building meaningful conversations and real emotional connection. By the end, you'll know how to cultivate curiosity naturally and connect more deeply. ⏱ CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 2:14 Two Methodologies for Deeper Connections 3:22 Fun Memories and Shared Interests 5:42 Unexpected Common Ground Through Questions 7:24 Ideal World Fantasies vs Realistic Goals 9:37 Digging Deep with Yourself and Others 11:16 Handy Acronyms for Conversation Topics 12:29 Importance of Being Curious About the Other Person 15:16 Elevating Energy Levels Through Interest 18:41 Cultivating a Mindset of Wonderment 20:58 Finding Common Ground and Shared Values If you're looking to enhance your social confidence and connect with people on a deeper level, then stay tuned! Patrick King shares tips on how to become more curious and genuinely interested in others, which is key for meaningful conversations and emotional connections. With his insights, you'll learn to cultivate curiosity and adopt an engagement mindset that fosters wonder about people around you. Don't miss out!

    Why Your Questions Keep Conversations Shallow

  2. Jul 16

    Awkward Silences Aren't the Problem — Running Out of Things to Say Is

    You're mid-conversation and suddenly—silence. If social anxiety creeps in when talk stalls, conversation threading fixes that. This is the practical technique for asking connected questions that keep conversation flowing naturally, without forcing it. You'll learn how to listen actively, respond with genuine interest, and build emotional connection with anyone. By the end, you'll have the conversation skills to deepen rapport and never feel stuck again. ⏱ CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 2:15 Interrogation vs Asking Questions 5:43 Using Questions for Rapport Building 9:31 Self-Revelation in Conversations 13:13 Avoiding Inappropriate Topics 17:23 Maintaining Conversation Energy 21:04 Simple Communication Strategies 25:12 Enhancing Conversational Skills 28:52 Redirecting the Conversation 32:27 Personal History and Experience In this channel, Patrick King shares his expertise on social skills and communication, helping you master conversation starters, small talk, and even how to keep conversations flowing naturally with anyone. From building rapport through active listening and reflective listening to creating emotional connections and managing social anxiety, learn how to never run out of things to say and maintain that engaging conversation energy throughout your interactions. Join us as we dive into the psychology behind effective communication with insights from Patrick King Consulting and Russell Newton. Conversation Skills Training https://www.audible.com/pd/B0CQDGKQ8V/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-380016&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_380016_pd_us https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CNPHL9PC The Power of E.Q. https://www.audible.com/pd/B0C5RY88DL/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-353304&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_353304_pd_us https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C3CC2RM3

  3. Jul 1

    Follow-Up Questions That Make People Want to Keep Talking

    00:01:00 Chunking Up and Chunking Down 00:10:27 We’ve discussed a few methods 00:14:51 Let's summarize these with the primary takeaways from this episode. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DYKN5V6H Do you struggle to ask follow-up questions without making conversations awkward? Most people either ask surface-level questions or dig so deep they create tension. This video breaks down a simple conversation technique for asking better questions—one that lets you zoom in and out of topics naturally, understand what someone's really thinking, and keep momentum going instead of hitting dead air. Learn how to structure your questions using chunking so conversations feel like genuine exploration, not interrogation. Master the flow between light and deep questions to keep people engaged. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King In this episode, Patrick King dives into the art of asking better questions to enhance your conversations and deepen connections with others. From mastering the chunking technique for smoother conversation flow to learning how to craft follow-up questions that lead to meaningful exchanges, you'll pick up valuable skills for improving communication and understanding people on a deeper level.

    Follow-Up Questions That Make People Want to Keep Talking

  4. Jun 24

    Why Your Questions Are Making People Like You Less

    00:00:54 The Art of Asking the Right Questions 00:01:51 The Kipling Method 00:08:38 Assumptive Questions 00:12:29 Here are the main takeaways from today's episode. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DYKN5V6H Do you struggle to ask the right questions in conversations that lead to meaningful connection? Most people don't know how to ask better questions—they either interrogate or say nothing. Patrick King breaks down the 5W1H technique and the psychology of conversations to help you ask questions that actually get people to open up. Learn the social skills that work in any conversation, and build stronger connections by understanding what people really mean. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King Hey everyone! If you're looking to level up your social skills and communication abilities, make sure to check out Patrick King's insightful videos on how to ask better questions and engage in more meaningful conversations. Whether you’re using the 5W1H technique or diving into the psychology of conversations, Russell Newton joins Patrick to share powerful tips on conversation starters, asking the right questions, and mastering those all-important communication skills. Don't miss out!

    Why Your Questions Are Making People Like You Less

  5. Jun 15

    How To Spot A Fake Friend By Noticing The Baseline Shift

    Unlock the hidden code behind human behavior—before it costs you opportunities, relationships, and influence.Most people think they’re good at reading others. They’re not. They project, assume, and misinterpret—then wonder why conversations stall, deals fall apart, and signals get missed. Behavioral Tells cuts through the noise and shows you what people are actually communicating beneath the surface. From bestselling author Patrick King, this is your field guide to decoding people in real time—without guesswork, overthinking, or relying on clichés like “just trust your gut.” You’ll learn how perception quietly distorts everything you see—and how to fix it fast. How perceptual biases like the halo effect and projection silently sabotage your judgment The three perceptual positions that instantly sharpen your perspective in any interaction Why your expectations shape what you notice—and how to break that loop Practical ways to improve perceptual accuracy so you stop misreading people But reading people isn’t just about what you see. It’s about what you notice, how you interpret it, and how you respond in the moment. This book takes you deeper—into emotions, group dynamics, language patterns, and subtle behavioral signals most people completely miss. The ABC model for understanding why people behave the way they do Emotional granularity so you can distinguish nuance, not just “happy vs. angry” The SUE framework for asking questions that reveal truth without resistance How tone, word choice, and “meta-programs” expose hidden motivations Along the way, you’ll learn why body language alone can mislead you, how attention flows in groups, and what everyday behaviors—like walking style, clothing, and even food choices—quietly reveal. Bottom line: This is not theory. It’s a toolkit. Navigate conversations with precision Spot inconsistencies before they become problems Understand people faster than they understand themselves

    How To Spot A Fake Friend By Noticing The Baseline Shift

  6. Jun 11

    The Power of Gaze: Decoding Dominance and Flow in Group Dynamics

    00:00:27 Behavioral Tells is the new book from Patrick King. 00:01:23 Watch Where Attention Flows 00:03:03 The VDR is a way to visualize attention 00:09:32 Understanding “Group Flow” 00:18:32 Here are the takeaways from today's episode. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DYKN5V6H Unlock the hidden code behind human behavior—before it costs you opportunities, relationships, and influence.Most people think they’re good at reading others. They’re not. They project, assume, and misinterpret—then wonder why conversations stall, deals fall apart, and signals get missed. Behavioral Tells cuts through the noise and shows you what people are actually communicating beneath the surface. From bestselling author Patrick King, this is your field guide to decoding people in real time—without guesswork, overthinking, or relying on clichés like “just trust your gut.” You’ll learn how perception quietly distorts everything you see—and how to fix it fast. How perceptual biases like the halo effect and projection silently sabotage your judgment The three perceptual positions that instantly sharpen your perspective in any interaction Why your expectations shape what you notice—and how to break that loop Practical ways to improve perceptual accuracy so you stop misreading people But reading people isn’t just about what you see. It’s about what you notice, how you interpret it, and how you respond in the moment. This book takes you deeper—into emotions, group dynamics, language patterns, and subtle behavioral signals most people completely miss. The ABC model for understanding why people behave the way they do Emotional granularity so you can distinguish nuance, not just “happy vs. angry” The SUE framework for asking questions that reveal truth without resistance How tone, word choice, and “meta-programs” expose hidden motivations Along the way, you’ll learn why body language alone can mislead you, how attention flows in groups, and what everyday behaviors—like walking style, clothing, and even food choices—quietly reveal. Bottom line: This is not theory. It’s a toolkit. Navigate conversations with precision Spot inconsistencies before they become problems Understand people faster than they understand themselves

    The Power of Gaze: Decoding Dominance and Flow in Group Dynamics

  7. Jun 1

    Why You Can't Always Trust Facial Expressions

    00:01:04 Why You Can’t Always Trust Facial Expressions 00:07:25 Let's take a look at the main takeaways from today's episode. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DYKN5V6H Unlock the hidden code behind human behavior—before it costs you opportunities, relationships, and influence.Most people think they’re good at reading others. They’re not. They project, assume, and misinterpret—then wonder why conversations stall, deals fall apart, and signals get missed. Behavioral Tells cuts through the noise and shows you what people are actually communicating beneath the surface. From bestselling author Patrick King, this is your field guide to decoding people in real time—without guesswork, overthinking, or relying on clichés like “just trust your gut.” You’ll learn how perception quietly distorts everything you see—and how to fix it fast. How perceptual biases like the halo effect and projection silently sabotage your judgment The three perceptual positions that instantly sharpen your perspective in any interaction Why your expectations shape what you notice—and how to break that loop Practical ways to improve perceptual accuracy so you stop misreading people But reading people isn’t just about what you see. It’s about what you notice, how you interpret it, and how you respond in the moment. This book takes you deeper—into emotions, group dynamics, language patterns, and subtle behavioral signals most people completely miss. The ABC model for understanding why people behave the way they do Emotional granularity so you can distinguish nuance, not just “happy vs. angry” The SUE framework for asking questions that reveal truth without resistance How tone, word choice, and “meta-programs” expose hidden motivations Along the way, you’ll learn why body language alone can mislead you, how attention flows in groups, and what everyday behaviors—like walking style, clothing, and even food choices—quietly reveal. Bottom line: This is not theory. It’s a toolkit. Navigate conversations with precision Spot inconsistencies before they become problems Understand people faster than they understand themselves

    Why You Can't Always Trust Facial Expressions

  8. May 11

    Vulnerability's Timing: Share, Don't Spill

    Unlock the secret to becoming more likable by mastering vulnerability's timing in our latest episode! You'll learn how to share modest pieces of your truth that align perfectly with the conversation at hand, as backed by a 2015 study showing increased likability from well-timed self-disclosures. Discover when and how to pause after sharing to let your words sink in, fostering deeper connections without overwhelming others or losing authenticity. 00:01:02 Share, Don’t Spill 00:02:24 Tip 73: Share What’s Relevant 00:03:32 Tip 74: Stop Before You Explain The Science of Charisma: 174 Small Behavioral Tweaks For Charm, Likability, and Rapport (Backed By Research) (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 45) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GPKZFMGC 174 science-backed micro-behaviors to feel more confident, connect faster, and become effortlessly likable—without changing your personality. Forget vague advice like “be confident” or “just be yourself.” The Science of Charisma turns decades of psychological and behavioral research into practical, low-effort adjustments that quietly transform how people experience you. In The Science of Charisma, internationally bestselling author Patrick King distills research on attention, perception, warmth, and social dynamics into 174 small behavioral tweaks you can apply immediately. Learn how to avoid awkward moments, create natural rapport, and make conversations feel easy—without performing, oversharing, or trying to impress. This book reveals why charisma isn’t about talking more or standing out—it’s about timing, attention, and how you handle tiny moments most people overlook. Discover the subtle science behind likability and connection, including: Why the “spotlight effect” makes you feel more awkward than you actually are How shifting attention outward instantly reduces social anxiety The small conversational behaviors that build trust without effort Why correcting people damages rapport—even when you’re right How micro-pauses, tone, and pacing change how confident you appear Surprisingly small shifts → outsized social results: Show up imperfectly without losing credibility Keep conversations flowing without carrying them Repair social friction before it becomes awkward Give compliments that actually land Recover quickly from social missteps instead of overthinking If social confidence has ever felt mysterious or inconsistent, this book gives you the missing manual. Every tip is grounded in real research, and every tactic is practical enough to use in your very next interaction. Stop guessing what charisma is supposed to be—and start using the science of how connection actually works.

    Vulnerability's Timing: Share, Don't Spill
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While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now... Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships. He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

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  • Creator
    Patrick King
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    254
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Patrick King
  • Show Website
    Social Skills Coaching

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