Social Skills Coaching Patrick King

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00:00:35 The Friendship Formula is a simple framework for building and maintaining strong friendships.
00:07:04 The Friendship Formula
00:09:13 Dr. Jack Schaefer, former FBI agent and author of The Like Switch, has a theory that might have the answer.
00:19:04 How to Use Schaefer's formula to Your Benefit
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• Dr. Jack Schafer’s “friendship formula” is as follows: Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity. Friendship will develop according to the sum of all these four elements. That means that one element can be relatively weak if another compensates by being extra strong.

• Building friendships is about fostering increasing closeness—i.e., proximity. Greater frequency also means a stronger chance of friendship developing. The more frequently you engage with someone, the more they feel like part of your world. Friendship takes time to build, so greater duration of time spent together means greater chance of friendship. Finally, it matters how well you’re able to satisfy another person’s needs during any social interaction. The more you can, the better the chance of striking up a friendship.

• When making friends, deliberately find ways to increase proximity and the duration, frequency, and intensity of your interactions with people, in that order. Go slow!

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00:02:24 Similarly, so called Barnum statements, named after famed showman and Hoaxbuster P t.
00:05:56 Avoid Emotional Disconnectors and Word Trash
00:13:47 Elizabeth Stoke is a professor of social interaction at Lowborough University
00:16:13 Researchers at Amsterdam's Vu University
00:16:24 Lead researcher Camille Buickenboom
00:18:41 Jacob Hirsch and Jordan Peterson from the University of Toronto
00:19:12 Social psychologist James W. Pennebaker and his colleagues
00:29:14 Summary
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• Use the principles of cold reading to create quick rapport and “read” nonverbal expressions to gain insight into their personalities. Observe, redirect their attention, collaborate with them, and gather information during back-and-forth conversation. Pay close attention to the details and make constantly updated predictions, maintaining warmth while you redirect from incorrect guesses.

• Finally, avoid emotional disconnect caused by “trash words” such as “just,” “honestly,” “amazing,” “slay it,” or “should.”

• Listen to how somebody speaks and uses language to gain insight into their mental models of the world. Notice the focus of their speech, their pronoun use, their positioning of subject and object, and how they explain neutral events. Always be curious about what this expression tells you about the person’s perspective, beliefs, worldview, and focus.

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00:03:51 Get Comfortable with Pausing
00:09:20 The Dangers of “Hedging Language”
00:14:35 Upspeak and the Mystery of Tone
00:19:37 The Five Types of Communication Tone
00:20:55 Type 1: Informative
00:21:20 Type 2: Humorous
00:21:40 Type 3: Respectful
00:22:08 Type 4: Formal
00:22:28 Type 5: Informal
00:31:36 Transitioning to a New Point
00:32:34 Providing More Details on One Point
00:33:17 Linking Similar Points Together


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