50 episodes

While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

Social Skills Coaching Patrick King

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 49 Ratings

While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

    Cold Reading: A Look Behind The Curtain

    Cold Reading: A Look Behind The Curtain

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    00:07:45 Technique One Shotgun Statements
    00:09:09 Technique Two Barnum Statements
    00:11:45 Technique Three ignoring the misses
    00:14:38 Technique Four passing off failures as successes
    00:17:11 Technique Five Keeping It Vague
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    • We can improve our information extraction skills by following some of the techniques used by fake psychics when they do “cold reading.”

    • General principles for cold reading include being subtle, open-ended, and allowing the other person to guide you—without them realizing that you are not doing anything magical but merely working with the information that they provide.

    • Shotgun statements are random statements made in order to see what response you get so you can follow it up on what sticks.

    • Barnum statements are those that are likely to be perceived as relevant to individuals, even though they apply to almost everyone. Barnum statements are broad guesses that look specific but actually have a high probability of being on the mark.

    • When using shotgun or Barnum statements, a cold reader can also ignore their misses and focus on their hits, concealing the fact that they are guessing.

    • Another way to mask misses is to pass them off as successes retroactively, or rework your claim to make it seem as though you were right all along.

    • Cold readers deliberately keep things vague to start with, and then fine tune their approach according to the feedback they receive. They begin with a non-committal, low-stakes guess and then, by degree, inch closer to the truth using their audience’s response or lack of it.

    • A key principle in cold reading is to pay attention to reactions of all kinds, including nonverbal ones.

    • Expert cold reading combines all of these techniques seamlessly and swiftly to give the impression that the “psychic” has plucked accurate information from the air, when in reality, it has been fed to him unwittingly by the audience all along!

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    • 35 min
    EQ Vs. IQ: Which Is More Important For Success?

    EQ Vs. IQ: Which Is More Important For Success?

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    00:02:56 According to Psychology Today, emotional intelligence (EI) is “the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions as well as the emotions of others."
    00:04:02 Cultivating Emotional Awareness
    00:08:01 Harnessing Those Pesky Emotions
    00:13:09 Emotional Management
    00:16:15 Validation As Connection
    00:17:47 What Validation ISN’T
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    • There is no communication without emotions. That means that conversational intelligence is emotional intelligence. EQ is a mix of three skills: awareness of emotions, harnessing emotions, and managing emotions.
    • If we are emotionally aware, we are able to identify what we are feeling in a conversation as well as observe and comprehend what another person is feeling—even if it’s wildly different from our own experience. We are also then in a position to harness those emotions and to proactively and consciously choose a response.
    • Slow down or pause, reflect what you’re being told, and see if you can put the newly identified and named emotion to good use.

    • Managing emotions means being conscious and deliberate: We can accept and acknowledge how we feel but still make conscious choices about our behavior according to our chosen goals.

    #CommunicationSkills #CultivatingEmotionalAwareness #DanielGoleman #EI #EQ #IQ #JohnDMayer #PeterSalovey #PsychologyToday #Validation #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #CommunicationSkillsTraining

    • 28 min
    How To Drop The People-Pleaser’s Worst Habit

    How To Drop The People-Pleaser’s Worst Habit

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    00:05:12 Tip 1: Just Keep Quiet Really.
    00:05:49 Tip 2: Show Your Compassion And Kindness ... Just In A Different Way
    00:07:00 Tip 3: Train A Different Automatic Response
    00:08:07 Tip 4: Change Apology Into Gratitude
    00:09:12 Tip 5: Speak Plainly
    00:10:45 Tip 6: Reframe Your Idea Of Politeness
    00:12:27 Tip 7: Imperfect Is Not Wrong
    00:13:34 Tip 8: Discern What Is In Your Zone Of Control
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    • People-pleasers often engage in self-sabotaging behavior: over-apologizing. This happens for many reasons, most commonly low self-esteem, the desire to please others, awkwardness and discomfort, conflict avoidance, anxiety, and perfectionism.

    • To overcome over-apologizing, try to practice simply staying silent or expressing concern and compassion in different ways. You could also train out the “sorry habit” by expressing what you really mean to express—for example, gratitude. Don’t apologize for being imperfect, and reframe your idea of politeness so that it includes plain, honest, clear speech, which is always more truthful and assertive. Finally, don’t apologize for things that are outside your control.

    #Apologizing #Politeness #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #StandUpForYourself #SetBoundaries #StopPleasingOthers

    • 19 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
49 Ratings

49 Ratings

everbestme ,

Great

Just came across this. It’s the only podcast i wanna listen to. Educative and realistic. Thank you

2kanker ,

Just wow

Unsuspectingly addictive & brilliant!

Queen of Charm ,

Basic info

Important topics, but nothing really new or insightful.

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