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While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

Social Skills Coaching Patrick King

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    • 4.7 • 49 Ratings

While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

    EQ Vs. IQ: Which Is More Important For Success?

    EQ Vs. IQ: Which Is More Important For Success?

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    00:02:56 According to Psychology Today, emotional intelligence (EI) is “the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions as well as the emotions of others."
    00:04:02 Cultivating Emotional Awareness
    00:08:01 Harnessing Those Pesky Emotions
    00:13:09 Emotional Management
    00:16:15 Validation As Connection
    00:17:47 What Validation ISN’T
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    • There is no communication without emotions. That means that conversational intelligence is emotional intelligence. EQ is a mix of three skills: awareness of emotions, harnessing emotions, and managing emotions.
    • If we are emotionally aware, we are able to identify what we are feeling in a conversation as well as observe and comprehend what another person is feeling—even if it’s wildly different from our own experience. We are also then in a position to harness those emotions and to proactively and consciously choose a response.
    • Slow down or pause, reflect what you’re being told, and see if you can put the newly identified and named emotion to good use.

    • Managing emotions means being conscious and deliberate: We can accept and acknowledge how we feel but still make conscious choices about our behavior according to our chosen goals.

    #CommunicationSkills #CultivatingEmotionalAwareness #DanielGoleman #EI #EQ #IQ #JohnDMayer #PeterSalovey #PsychologyToday #Validation #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #CommunicationSkillsTraining

    • 28 min
    How To Drop The People-Pleaser’s Worst Habit

    How To Drop The People-Pleaser’s Worst Habit

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    00:05:12 Tip 1: Just Keep Quiet Really.
    00:05:49 Tip 2: Show Your Compassion And Kindness ... Just In A Different Way
    00:07:00 Tip 3: Train A Different Automatic Response
    00:08:07 Tip 4: Change Apology Into Gratitude
    00:09:12 Tip 5: Speak Plainly
    00:10:45 Tip 6: Reframe Your Idea Of Politeness
    00:12:27 Tip 7: Imperfect Is Not Wrong
    00:13:34 Tip 8: Discern What Is In Your Zone Of Control
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    • People-pleasers often engage in self-sabotaging behavior: over-apologizing. This happens for many reasons, most commonly low self-esteem, the desire to please others, awkwardness and discomfort, conflict avoidance, anxiety, and perfectionism.

    • To overcome over-apologizing, try to practice simply staying silent or expressing concern and compassion in different ways. You could also train out the “sorry habit” by expressing what you really mean to express—for example, gratitude. Don’t apologize for being imperfect, and reframe your idea of politeness so that it includes plain, honest, clear speech, which is always more truthful and assertive. Finally, don’t apologize for things that are outside your control.

    #Apologizing #Politeness #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #StandUpForYourself #SetBoundaries #StopPleasingOthers

    • 19 min
    Interrogation (Sort Of)

    Interrogation (Sort Of)

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    00:02:55 Technique 1: Playing It Cool
    00:07:02 Technique 2: Pulling A Columbo
    00:07:29 The technique is pretty straightforward:
    1. Get People Talking Freely And Carelessly
    2. Slip In A Question When Their Guard Is Down
    3. Show No Indication Of What’s Happened
    00:11:20 •Avoid Confrontation
    00:11:36 •Don’t Make A Big Show Of Listening.
    00:11:53 •Play Dumb.
    00:12:14 •If In Doubt, Ask People To Repeat Themselves.
    00:12:53 Technique 3: False Replay
    00:17:00 Technique 4: Leading Questions
    00:24:19 Technique 5: Be Provocative
    00:29:18 Technique 6: Gauge Response, Not Answers

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    • To take our information extraction to the next level, we can use lighter, more relaxed versions of the interrogation techniques practiced by law enforcement.

    • One key approach is to lower the person’s defenses by not appearing to them as a threat. This can be done by being casual and informal, or even prying when official interrogations are over. The trick is to behave as though you’re not especially invested in their answer.

    • The Columbo technique relies on this impression of casualness so that a question can be sneakily slipped in and answered while the person’s guard is down. Play dumb, ask people to repeat themselves, and maintain a degree of plausible deniability. Hide questions in comments or statements that the other person can’t help but respond to—and reveal themselves.

    • The false replay technique aims to confuse and disorient a liar and get them to slip up or confess. You repeat back their story but make a “mistake” with a crucial detail, and watch their reaction. A liar is most likely to ignore it, while a truth teller will correct you. Liars are also most likely to grow agitated, angry, or distracted with being asked to retell their story in different ways, or being asked about it repeatedly.

    • Leading questions are typically closed questions that guide a person’s response to where you suspect the truth lies. A question can be made with a built-in assumption, or you could lead a person with priming statements or question tags.

    • Being provocative is a great way to de-stabilize someone and observe their reaction—disproportionate anger, fear, or distraction indicate you’ve hit a nerve.

    • The golden rule is to gauge a person’s complete response to a question, and not just their verbal answer. Use questions to trigger an emotional reaction and analyze this in context.

    #BeProvocative #Columbo #FalseReplay #GaugeResponse #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #HowtoExtractInfo

    • 39 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
49 Ratings

49 Ratings

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Great

Just came across this. It’s the only podcast i wanna listen to. Educative and realistic. Thank you

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Just wow

Unsuspectingly addictive & brilliant!

Queen of Charm ,

Basic info

Important topics, but nothing really new or insightful.

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