Social Skills Coaching

Patrick King

While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now... Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships. He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

  1. Why Your Questions Are Making People Like You Less

    5d ago

    Why Your Questions Are Making People Like You Less

    00:00:54 The Art of Asking the Right Questions 00:01:51 The Kipling Method 00:08:38 Assumptive Questions 00:12:29 Here are the main takeaways from today's episode. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DYKN5V6H Do you struggle to ask the right questions in conversations that lead to meaningful connection? Most people don't know how to ask better questions—they either interrogate or say nothing. Patrick King breaks down the 5W1H technique and the psychology of conversations to help you ask questions that actually get people to open up. Learn the social skills that work in any conversation, and build stronger connections by understanding what people really mean. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King Hey everyone! If you're looking to level up your social skills and communication abilities, make sure to check out Patrick King's insightful videos on how to ask better questions and engage in more meaningful conversations. Whether you’re using the 5W1H technique or diving into the psychology of conversations, Russell Newton joins Patrick to share powerful tips on conversation starters, asking the right questions, and mastering those all-important communication skills. Don't miss out!

    13 min
  2. How To Spot A Fake Friend By Noticing The Baseline Shift

    Jun 15

    How To Spot A Fake Friend By Noticing The Baseline Shift

    Unlock the hidden code behind human behavior—before it costs you opportunities, relationships, and influence.Most people think they’re good at reading others. They’re not. They project, assume, and misinterpret—then wonder why conversations stall, deals fall apart, and signals get missed. Behavioral Tells cuts through the noise and shows you what people are actually communicating beneath the surface. From bestselling author Patrick King, this is your field guide to decoding people in real time—without guesswork, overthinking, or relying on clichés like “just trust your gut.” You’ll learn how perception quietly distorts everything you see—and how to fix it fast. How perceptual biases like the halo effect and projection silently sabotage your judgment The three perceptual positions that instantly sharpen your perspective in any interaction Why your expectations shape what you notice—and how to break that loop Practical ways to improve perceptual accuracy so you stop misreading people But reading people isn’t just about what you see. It’s about what you notice, how you interpret it, and how you respond in the moment. This book takes you deeper—into emotions, group dynamics, language patterns, and subtle behavioral signals most people completely miss. The ABC model for understanding why people behave the way they do Emotional granularity so you can distinguish nuance, not just “happy vs. angry” The SUE framework for asking questions that reveal truth without resistance How tone, word choice, and “meta-programs” expose hidden motivations Along the way, you’ll learn why body language alone can mislead you, how attention flows in groups, and what everyday behaviors—like walking style, clothing, and even food choices—quietly reveal. Bottom line: This is not theory. It’s a toolkit. Navigate conversations with precision Spot inconsistencies before they become problems Understand people faster than they understand themselves

    25 min
  3. The Power of Gaze: Decoding Dominance and Flow in Group Dynamics

    Jun 11

    The Power of Gaze: Decoding Dominance and Flow in Group Dynamics

    00:00:27 Behavioral Tells is the new book from Patrick King. 00:01:23 Watch Where Attention Flows 00:03:03 The VDR is a way to visualize attention 00:09:32 Understanding “Group Flow” 00:18:32 Here are the takeaways from today's episode. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DYKN5V6H Unlock the hidden code behind human behavior—before it costs you opportunities, relationships, and influence.Most people think they’re good at reading others. They’re not. They project, assume, and misinterpret—then wonder why conversations stall, deals fall apart, and signals get missed. Behavioral Tells cuts through the noise and shows you what people are actually communicating beneath the surface. From bestselling author Patrick King, this is your field guide to decoding people in real time—without guesswork, overthinking, or relying on clichés like “just trust your gut.” You’ll learn how perception quietly distorts everything you see—and how to fix it fast. How perceptual biases like the halo effect and projection silently sabotage your judgment The three perceptual positions that instantly sharpen your perspective in any interaction Why your expectations shape what you notice—and how to break that loop Practical ways to improve perceptual accuracy so you stop misreading people But reading people isn’t just about what you see. It’s about what you notice, how you interpret it, and how you respond in the moment. This book takes you deeper—into emotions, group dynamics, language patterns, and subtle behavioral signals most people completely miss. The ABC model for understanding why people behave the way they do Emotional granularity so you can distinguish nuance, not just “happy vs. angry” The SUE framework for asking questions that reveal truth without resistance How tone, word choice, and “meta-programs” expose hidden motivations Along the way, you’ll learn why body language alone can mislead you, how attention flows in groups, and what everyday behaviors—like walking style, clothing, and even food choices—quietly reveal. Bottom line: This is not theory. It’s a toolkit. Navigate conversations with precision Spot inconsistencies before they become problems Understand people faster than they understand themselves

    19 min
  4. Why You Can't Always Trust Facial Expressions

    Jun 1

    Why You Can't Always Trust Facial Expressions

    00:01:04 Why You Can’t Always Trust Facial Expressions 00:07:25 Let's take a look at the main takeaways from today's episode. Behavioral Tells: Read the Hidden Signals Behind Every Action. What People Reveal Without Saying a Word. (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 46) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DYKN5V6H Unlock the hidden code behind human behavior—before it costs you opportunities, relationships, and influence.Most people think they’re good at reading others. They’re not. They project, assume, and misinterpret—then wonder why conversations stall, deals fall apart, and signals get missed. Behavioral Tells cuts through the noise and shows you what people are actually communicating beneath the surface. From bestselling author Patrick King, this is your field guide to decoding people in real time—without guesswork, overthinking, or relying on clichés like “just trust your gut.” You’ll learn how perception quietly distorts everything you see—and how to fix it fast. How perceptual biases like the halo effect and projection silently sabotage your judgment The three perceptual positions that instantly sharpen your perspective in any interaction Why your expectations shape what you notice—and how to break that loop Practical ways to improve perceptual accuracy so you stop misreading people But reading people isn’t just about what you see. It’s about what you notice, how you interpret it, and how you respond in the moment. This book takes you deeper—into emotions, group dynamics, language patterns, and subtle behavioral signals most people completely miss. The ABC model for understanding why people behave the way they do Emotional granularity so you can distinguish nuance, not just “happy vs. angry” The SUE framework for asking questions that reveal truth without resistance How tone, word choice, and “meta-programs” expose hidden motivations Along the way, you’ll learn why body language alone can mislead you, how attention flows in groups, and what everyday behaviors—like walking style, clothing, and even food choices—quietly reveal. Bottom line: This is not theory. It’s a toolkit. Navigate conversations with precision Spot inconsistencies before they become problems Understand people faster than they understand themselves

    8 min
  5. Vulnerability's Timing: Share, Don't Spill

    May 11

    Vulnerability's Timing: Share, Don't Spill

    Unlock the secret to becoming more likable by mastering vulnerability's timing in our latest episode! You'll learn how to share modest pieces of your truth that align perfectly with the conversation at hand, as backed by a 2015 study showing increased likability from well-timed self-disclosures. Discover when and how to pause after sharing to let your words sink in, fostering deeper connections without overwhelming others or losing authenticity. 00:01:02 Share, Don’t Spill 00:02:24 Tip 73: Share What’s Relevant 00:03:32 Tip 74: Stop Before You Explain The Science of Charisma: 174 Small Behavioral Tweaks For Charm, Likability, and Rapport (Backed By Research) (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 45) By Patrick King https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GPKZFMGC 174 science-backed micro-behaviors to feel more confident, connect faster, and become effortlessly likable—without changing your personality. Forget vague advice like “be confident” or “just be yourself.” The Science of Charisma turns decades of psychological and behavioral research into practical, low-effort adjustments that quietly transform how people experience you. In The Science of Charisma, internationally bestselling author Patrick King distills research on attention, perception, warmth, and social dynamics into 174 small behavioral tweaks you can apply immediately. Learn how to avoid awkward moments, create natural rapport, and make conversations feel easy—without performing, oversharing, or trying to impress. This book reveals why charisma isn’t about talking more or standing out—it’s about timing, attention, and how you handle tiny moments most people overlook. Discover the subtle science behind likability and connection, including: Why the “spotlight effect” makes you feel more awkward than you actually are How shifting attention outward instantly reduces social anxiety The small conversational behaviors that build trust without effort Why correcting people damages rapport—even when you’re right How micro-pauses, tone, and pacing change how confident you appear Surprisingly small shifts → outsized social results: Show up imperfectly without losing credibility Keep conversations flowing without carrying them Repair social friction before it becomes awkward Give compliments that actually land Recover quickly from social missteps instead of overthinking If social confidence has ever felt mysterious or inconsistent, this book gives you the missing manual. Every tip is grounded in real research, and every tactic is practical enough to use in your very next interaction. Stop guessing what charisma is supposed to be—and start using the science of how connection actually works.

    7 min
  6. Schrödinger's Cat: How Thought Experiments Challenge Your Beliefs

    Apr 22

    Schrödinger's Cat: How Thought Experiments Challenge Your Beliefs

    Patrick King explores how thought experiments, like Schrödinger's cat, challenge our beliefs and assumptions. Learn to question your own knowledge and open the door to new ideas and perspectives. Discover the power of systematic thinking in understanding complex issues. ⏱ CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 1:39 The Struggle for Knowledge 3:12 Thought Experiments Overview 5:49 Virtues and Drawbacks of Thought Experiments 7:22 Types of Thought Experiments 9:57 Philosophical Implications of Thought Experiments 12:04 Historical Examples of Thought Experiments 15:12 Schrödinger's Cat Explanation 18:21 Critical Thinking Through Thought Experiments 21:29 Newton's Cannon Example 23:33 Practical Applications and Benefits Learn To Think Using Thought Experiments: How to Expand Your Mental Horizons, Understand Metacognition, Improve Your Curiosity, and Think Like a Philosopher (Clear Thinking and Fast Action Book 5) By Patrick King Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ThoughtExpKing Use the mental tools that the world's greatest thinkers used to generate epiphanies, explore the world, and hone their reasoning. In traditional education, you're taught to recite and regurgitate. Going a step farther, you might learn some critical thinking skills. But what about applying them in the most audacious, fascinating, and inquisitive ways possible with thought experiments? Philosophical and exploratory thinking pushes your boundaries and opens new worlds. Learn to Think Using Thought Experiments is about how to analyze, perceive, and interact with information and situations - all in your mind and imagination. It poses a hypothetical and forces you to engage it and answer questions and reason through arguments you've never known. This book will confuse, frustrate, and ultimately improve your thinking prowess like nothing else, on account of being thrown into the mental deep end. Challenge yourself and you will grow. Improve critical thinking by applying it in innovative and novel ways. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Become more naturally curious, inquisitive, and Sherlock Holmes-like. - The curious case of two cats and what they teach us about uncertainty. - What choosing between 1 and 5 people says about you. - Why this entire world might just be a dream or simulation. - What a javelin has to do with infinite. - How Zeno's tortoise represents the point where reality and numbers diverge. - How Chinese logicians, beetles, fish, and monkeys demonstrate different angles of reality and perception. Learn to thrive in uncertain situations and contemplate more thoroughly and deeply. Thought experiments are a classic tool that everyone can use, and they enable us to explore more abstract situations and reason through them. Master thought experiments and you can master simply dealing with difficult, uncertain, impossible, or confusing questions and situations. Use the same models and tools that Einstein, Plato, Socrates, Galileo, and Lao-tzu used - and see your thinking prowess grow exponentially. This is the fifth book in the “Clear Thinking and Fast Action” series as listed below: 1. The Science of Getting Started: How to Beat Procrastination, Summon Productivity, and Stop Self-Sabotage 2. The Art of Clear Thinking: Mental Models for Better Reasoning, Judgment, Analysis, and Learning. Upgrade Your Intellectual Toolkit. 3. 10-Minute Philosophy: From Buddhism to Stoicism, Confucius and Aristotle - Bite-Sized Wisdom From Some of History’s Greatest Thinkers 4. Practical Intelligence: How to Think Critically, Deconstruct Situations, Analyze Deeply, and Never Be Fooled 5. Learn To Think Using Thought Experiments: How to Expand Your Mental Horizons, Understand Metacognition, Improve Your Curiosity, and Think Like a Philosopher 6. Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating 7. Relentless Focus: 27 Small Tweaks to Beat Procrastination, Skyrocket Productivity, Outsmart Distractions, & Do More in Less Time If you're looking to sharpen your social skills and communication abilities with a dose of philosophy and critical thinking, Patrick King's channel is the place to be! Dive into engaging thought experiments like Schrödinger's Cat and explore how they can enhance your self-improvement journey. Join us for insightful tips on conversation and communication that will take your social interactions to the next level.

    26 min
  7. Navigating the Trust Spectrum: From Dynamic Agents to Earned Faith in a Shifting Environment

    Apr 15

    Navigating the Trust Spectrum: From Dynamic Agents to Earned Faith in a Shifting Environment

    00:02:58 Stimulus Generalization as a Mechanism for Learning to Trust 00:03:26 Trust in Close Relationships 00:03:57 More Is Better 00:08:42 Attitudinal Effects of Mere Exposure How to Extract Info, Secrets, and Truth: Make People Reveal Their True Thoughts and Intentions Without Them Even Knowing It (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 12) By: Patrick King Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ExtractInfo https://www.amazon.com/dp/B093ZRPCDK Learn to quickly read people and draw conclusions from seemingly innocent and easy questions. Some people are forthcoming, and others are not so much. Either they are guarded, or they are deliberately hiding something. Well, whatever the case, this book is how you crack them and learn exactly what they aren’t saying. Tips from FBI interrogators, psychologists, and famous lawyers. How to Extract Info, Secrets, and Truth turns you into an expert reader of intentions, behavior, thoughts, and emotions. The tips in this book are used by professionals to extract valuable knowledge worth millions of dollars.You’ll read about body language, speed reading, thin slicing, and every other technique that has been scientifically proven. The goal of this book is to arm you with tools to uniquely understand and peel back the layers on people before they even know it. No one will be a puzzle to you anymore. How to subtly direct a conversation to exactly what you want. Exactly what to look and listen for. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Protect yourself from those trying to probe you. The value of knowing how to extract information is in understanding human nature. That is the true purpose of this book. Once you know how people think, and what patterns tend to form, you’ll be armed with a powerful tool for the rest of your life.

    10 min
  8. Ditching Small Talk: Finding Depth and Direction Through Engaging Conversation 🎧

    Apr 8

    Ditching Small Talk: Finding Depth and Direction Through Engaging Conversation 🎧

    00:00:44 Create Motion 00:05:48 Joseph Campbell 00:06:39 The Hero Cycle Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends By Patrick King Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/2Q5CWQM https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0871N22LF Networking events suck, but they can suck less. What to say and when to say to be likable, connect, and make a memorable impression. Actionable and applicable verbal maneuvers for just about every phase of conversation. From hello to goodbye, with strangers or old friends, you'll learn how to simply go deeper. . NO MORE: interview mode, awkward silence, or struggling to hold people’s attention. Better Small Talk is a unique read. Imagine the following situation: you've just put on your name tag, and you're approached by a stranger. What do you say? Nice weather today. No, we can do better than this. Learn better small talk to avoid awkwardness, put people at ease, and build real rapport. . Learn to open people up without them even realizing it. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you. . You'll learn exact dialogues, responses, phrases, and questions to use. •How to tell captivating stories and what to actually focus on. •Four ways to warm yourself up and prepare for even the most unpredictable conversations. •Instantly setting a tone of friendship and openness with strangers. •Common and subtle conversational habits you need to stop right now . Become someone who is magnetic and who can make new friends in any situation. Simple conversation is the gatekeeper to friendships, your dream career, romance, and overall happiness. The ability to connect with anyone is an underrated superpower. People will be more drawn to you without even knowing why, and never again people will people be bored talking to you. You’ll never run out of things to say when you master these conversation tactic.

    10 min
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While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now... Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships. He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

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  • Creator
    Patrick King
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    254
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Patrick King
  • Show Website
    Social Skills Coaching

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