speed of grace Valerie Grace

Have you ever felt like you have fallen short of a certain 'ideal' you 'should' be?

And because of that, you find yourself struggling in your relationships not just with others, but also yourself. 

Today, be encouraged and inspired by my client, Xin Ying - a Singaporean living in Chicago. 

6 months ago, when Xin Ying applied to work with me in the Breakthrough Woman Program, she rated her happiness 6 out of 10. 

Today, A LOT has changed. 

Hear all about it in today's podcast! 

TIME STAMPS:

4:20 Passion for food, cooking

7:37 Tissues and an emotional Breakthrough Call experience

9:53 Living abroad: from 'reset' to feeling lost and seasonal depression

13:20 Realising she 'struggled with the same things' while being in a relationship

14:20 'I made the decision I don't want to live like that anymore'

16:29 'How I deal with emotions is by running away from them'

18:35 Finding freedom and going beyond being a 'personality type'

22:14 What really helped Xin Ying in the Breakthrough Woman Program

23:50 What were the first few relationships she had to find closure in?

24:20 Falling short of the 'ideal' of what a 'good person' is

27:07 Head Knowledge v.s. Heart Knowledge

27:48 Do these myths of 'breakthroughs' keep you stuck?

29:44 What does it mean to love yourself?

31:00 Everything stems from this ONE relationships

33:00 Self-Empathy: How comfortable are you sharing how you truly feel?

35:35 Feeling inadequate at work because of ________

37:05 Growing up with everything but......

39:45 The reality and value of 'breakthroughs'

42:54 Self-Patience and offering patience to others

42:11 Xin Ying's advice to you (please listen....it's TOO GOOD to miss!)

When you've done EVERYTHING,when you've achieved it all, and you're supposed to feel successful,

but deep down, you still feel something's missing, something's wrong....

how do you breakthrough?

What can you do when...you've done EVERYTHING you could and nothing changes?

Today, be encouraged by the breakthrough story of my dear friend from the city of angels, Los Angeles - JENA RODRIGUEZ.

/TIMESTAMPS/

0:00-5:49

Getting to know Jena

6:30

Hitting an emotional brick-wall

8:25

'I have to control EVERYTHING'

8:58

Recovering perfectionist and straight As

10:19

Domestic violent household, drugs, addiction

12:00

Jena's first step in emotional healing

14:00

The beauty of being open

16:20

Little girl attachment that held her back

19:15

Jena's time-travel healing experience

23:45

Result: breakthrough breeds breakthroughs!

24:35

'I tapped into something I had not seen before'

25:28

Saying what you want to say to Mom

27:23

When your dream is BIGGER than your limits

27:53

Giving yourself permission to be taken care of

28:13

Unsafe childhood: Growing up being your own 'protector'

31:00

When family & friends aren't comfortable with your breakthrough

32:25

Major dream come true!

36:46

Moving on another 'frequency'

39:09

How to listen & follow through what's  put in your heart

40:08

"When this happens...then...." = NOT trust

42:20

Don't wait. Take Inspired Action!

44:00

Expressing your true self and forgotten potential

46:22

Finding the 'colors' in you

46:38

Jena's loving advice to you

49:40 

How to breakthrough your personal limits

1:47 Who is Fann? 

4:00 Suffering inside-outThe result of shame, depression and hopelessness 

5:20 When you don't feel good, how could this affect your relationships? 

6:13 "I couldn't even care for my children." 

7:06 "When is this going to be over?" 

7:28 Losing interest in life 

9:04 Her doctor said, "I've exhausted all the medicine I could give you."

10:37 Breakthrough point: What happened at her very last doctor's visit 

12:40 Our 'Divine Connection' story 

17:39 Fann's first breakthroughs 

19:42 When you feel good on the inside....

20:30 Healing your inner child: An unforgettable Breakthrough Session 

22:58 Self-abuse, self-rejection and self-hatred 

23:30 Reconciling with herself (a tearful moment during the interview) 

25:17 Did you have to prove yourself? 

26:13 The story of dad and the report card 

27:50 A crushing business failure  

30:11 What's life like after a public failure? 

32:11 What were the relationships Fann had to heal and find closure in? 

34:03 Insecurity vs. Celebrating the successes of others 

35:53 Being present to enjoy with loved ones 

38:00 "I can value and affirm myself in every small step" 

39:55 Mastering an underrated life-skill 

42:48 Finding the courage to reconnect with God 

45:00 The myth of being worthy of God's love 

47:05 Fann's advice to you if you feel like you're losing yourself 

47:30 Is this the cry in your heart? 

2:08 Who is Meiyi?
3:08 What was life like before her breakthrough journey?
4:08 How do you know you have an unhealthy relationship with yourself?
6:50 'There must be something wrong with me' (blaming yourself for the breakup)
7:43 Googling solutions for hair loss and positive affirmations
9:20 What's the missing link?
10:03 Her turning point
13:44 'Don't be stupid'
16:10 How she overcame her fear of beginning her breakthrough journey
18:00 When your heart wants it but your mind stops you
20:00 Self-loathing to self-kindness
23:23 'I want to be beautiful inside-out'
24:38 From suppressed people-pleaser to liberated confidence
26:16 Boycotted at 9 years old
28:00 How did the school bullying trauma suppress her true self?
30:45 Resentment against parents
33:25 'I have no regrets' reconciliation before dad's passing
34:34 Why did Meiyi extend her Breakthrough Journey for another 12 months?
37:42 From 'girl' to woman
39:30 'I feel freer and freer'
43:00 Finding her confident self again
44:30 Meiyi's encouragement for you

SHOW NOTES + TIME STAMPS: 

3:15 Reversing hyperthyroidism naturally 

4:03 How she started her emotional and mental health breakthrough journey 

5:00 “I was truly not happy. I didn’t laugh for a long time.” 

6:20 Living in fear 

7:10 Obsessed about having control 

7:40 So stressed you don’t even know it? 

8:38 The need to be noticed & recognised 

11:38 Letting go of perceived sources of strength 

13:08 When self-help is helpful but not enough

16:38 How do you choose who to mentor or guide you in healing and breakthrough? 

20:48 The turning point to seek help 22:29 How do you overcome fear of change? 

24:36 “Enough is enough” 

15:38 When you are the toxic one 

26.48 First breakthrough: Healing of Gek Shan's self-image 

28:12 Do you use this coping mechanism to suppress the pain of not feeling good enough? 

29:30 Second breakthrough: Beyond singing about being a 'child of God' 

33:25 When you yearn for your loved one's affirmations 

35:08 A common trait of women who apply to work with me 

36:15 Breaking the Fear of Abundance! 

37:44 Do you subconsciously feel safe in your struggle? 

40:27 Loving yourself at a 'cellular level' 

42:45 How to practise Self Forgiveness as an imperfect person 

45:00 Gek Shan's encouragement for you 

46:50 How finding Clarity shows you your Purpose in life

LISTENER'S QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
Hi Val, How do we shake off negative self talk? Whenever I look myself at the mirror or think about myself, I can only see and think of my flaws and ugliness. I avoid going out because I feel so ashamed of myself however I do not want to continue living in hiding. I truly want to live my life and I want to feel beautiful and confident in my own skin.
Beauty: What Shapes Your Self-Image?
What are the sources of your negative self talk?
What shapes the definitions of your self-image?
How do we truly heal self-disgust and self-loathing?
Why positive affirmation doesn't work and what to do instead?
What if you feel like a fraud fooling ourselves you're 'beautiful'?
What if we feel really 'ugly'?
A deeper perspective.
What if selfies are not about vanity but something more?
Is Beauty a privilege?
Why do we crave for Beauty and how can we satisfy it?
TOPICS COVERED:
self-image
self-definition
negative self-talk
body dysmorphia
beauty
ugliness
vanity
sense of awe
lucky vs. unlucky
privilege
calling (it's not what you think)