9 episodes

Welcome to Still Not Asking For It. A Podcast brought to you by Hope Harbor, a sexual trauma recovery center in south central Kentucky hosted by Alayna Milby and produced by Melissa Gerard. Still Not Asking For It will have regularly released episodes where Hope Harbor staff, volunteers, and community partners will discuss significant issues survivors of sexual assault face and the complexities of rape culture through an intersectional lens.

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Welcome to Still Not Asking For It. A Podcast brought to you by Hope Harbor, a sexual trauma recovery center in south central Kentucky hosted by Alayna Milby and produced by Melissa Gerard. Still Not Asking For It will have regularly released episodes where Hope Harbor staff, volunteers, and community partners will discuss significant issues survivors of sexual assault face and the complexities of rape culture through an intersectional lens.

    Pt. 1 How Will We Heal Ourselves? With Dr. Cre Dye

    Pt. 1 How Will We Heal Ourselves? With Dr. Cre Dye

    In this episode, Dr. Cre Dye joins Alayna and Mel to discuss how we can heal our communities and effectively heal ourselves. A bunch of us at Hope Harbor are big fans of Cre's yoga, holistic approach to counseling, and her involvement in the community. We couldn't fit all of her accomplishments and involvements in this bio. We highly recommend finding her on Facebook at Cre Dye Yoga & Healing and Instagram at @credyeyoga This episode is part one of two. Marked "explicit" for a couple curse words. 



    This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we provide free, confidential services to anyone impacted by sexual violence in south central Kentucky. For more information on services and ways to get involved, check out our website hopeharbor.net where you can also find our blog, Thanks for Asking.

    Our theme is Girl Tones' Can't Pause. Girl Tones is a 2-piece punk rock band based out of Western Kentucky. Check out their website girltones.com 

    For questions or topic suggestions, you can email us at crisisintervention@hopeharbor.net

    You can call us 24/7 at 270.846.1100 for questions, resources, or someone to talk to.

    Thank you for hanging out with us!


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    • 48 min
    Polyamory and Sexual Empowerment

    Polyamory and Sexual Empowerment

    Content warning: sexual assault, childhood sexual assault, abuse

    In this episode, Alayna and Mel talk with friend and Hope Harbor volunteer advocate about her healing journey after abuse, bisexuality, and poly relationships. We discuss the privilege of sex positivity and how identifying as a survivor has helped others. We also discussed how "sexual subcultures" can be empowering and are rooted in (like BDSM) consent and communication. 

    This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we provide free, confidential services to anyone impacted by sexual violence in south central Kentucky. For more information on services and ways to get involved, check out our website hopeharbor.net where you can also find our blog, Thanks for Asking.

    Our theme is Girl Tones' Can't Pause. Girl Tones is a 2-piece punk rock band based out of Western Kentucky. Check out their website girltones.com 

    For questions or topic suggestions, you can email us at crisisintervention@hopeharbor.net

    You can call us 24/7 at 270.846.1100 for questions, resources, or someone to talk to.

    Thank you for hanging out with us!


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    • 1 hr 4 min
    Pt. 2 What You Don't Know About BDSM: Consent, Trust, and Healing

    Pt. 2 What You Don't Know About BDSM: Consent, Trust, and Healing

    Content Warning: Discussion of trauma, child abuse, BDSM and kink culture, pornography, and domestic violence

    Part 2 of a two part episode. We noticed the sound quality of this episode isn't our best, so this is the disclaimer! 

    In this episode, Alayna and Mel are joined by a friend of the podcast who is an active member of the BDSM lifestyle. She discusses her personal journey learning and joining the BDSM community as a survivor of trauma. The discussion covers why/how BDSM can be heeling, why communication and consent is important, and how pop culture's portrayal is not an accurate depiction.

    This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we provide free, confidential services to anyone impacted by sexual violence in south central Kentucky. For more information on services and ways to get involved, check out our website hopeharbor.net where you can also find our blog, Thanks for Asking.

    Our theme is Girl Tones' Can't Pause. Girl Tones is a 2-piece punk rock band based out of Western Kentucky. Check out their website girltones.com 

    For questions or topic suggestions, you can email us at crisisintervention@hopeharbor.net

    You can call us 24/7 at 270.846.1100 for questions, resources, or someone to talk to.

    In September 2020 we commemorated Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary. We are unable to have the fundraising events we hoped for due to COVID19 and instead we are hosting an online fundraiser. You can find more information about Coral & Jade: Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary and how to donate by clicking the link.

    Thank you for hanging out with us!


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    • 42 min
    Pt. 1 What You Don't Know About BDSM: Consent, Trust, and Healing

    Pt. 1 What You Don't Know About BDSM: Consent, Trust, and Healing

    Content Warning: Discussion of trauma, child abuse, BDSM and kink culture, pornography, and domestic violence

    In this episode, Alayna and Mel are joined by a friend of the podcast who is an active member of the BDSM lifestyle. She discusses her personal journey learning and joining the BDSM community as a survivor of trauma. The discussion covers why BDSM can be healthy, why communication and consent is important, and how pop culture's portrayal is not an accurate depiction. 

    This episode is Part One of a two part discussion with our special guest. So please join us for our next episode where we finish this conversation. 

    This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we provide free, confidential services to anyone impacted by sexual violence in south central Kentucky. For more information on services and ways to get involved, check out our website hopeharbor.net where you can also find our blog, Thanks for Asking.

    Our theme is Girl Tones' Can't Pause. Girl Tones is a 2-piece punk rock band based out of Western Kentucky. Check out their website girltones.com 

    For questions or topic suggestions, you can email us at crisisintervention@hopeharbor.net

    You can call us 24/7 at 270.846.1100 for questions, resources, or someone to talk to.

    In September 2020 we commemorated Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary. We are unable to have the fundraising events we hoped for due to COVID19 and instead we are hosting an online fundraiser. You can find more information about Coral & Jade: Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary and how to donate by clicking the link.

    Thank you for hanging out with us!


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    • 52 min
    Mental Health & Holistic Healing

    Mental Health & Holistic Healing

    Content Warning: Discussion of trauma, eating disorders, and substance use

    In this episode, Alayna and Mel are joined by coworker and Hope Harbor counselor Megan Kyle, LPCA. Megan shares her journey into becoming a counselor and her interest in holistic healing options for survivors of trauma. We discuss Equine Assisted Counseling/Therapy, sound baths using singing bowls, trauma informed yoga, and meditation. Our goal for this episode was to encourage our listeners to normalize mental health support and expand knowledge on alternative healing opportunities. 



    Still Not Asking For It is produced by Mel Gerard and hosted by Alayna Milby

    This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we provide free, confidential services to anyone impacted by sexual violence in south central Kentucky. For more information on services and ways to get involved, check out our website hopeharbor.net where you can also find our blog, Thanks for Asking. Megan Kyle's blog post about sound therapy can be found here. 

    Our theme is Girl Tones' Can't Pause. Girl Tones is a 2-piece punk rock band based out of Western Kentucky. Check out their website girltones.com 

    For questions or topic suggestions, you can email us at crisisintervention@hopeharbor.net

    You can call us 24/7 at 270.846.1100 for questions, resources, or someone to talk to.

    In September 2020 we commemorated Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary. We are unable to have the fundraising events we hoped for due to COVID19 and instead we are hosting an online fundraiser. You can find more information about Coral & Jade: Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary and how to donate by clicking the link.

    Thank you for hanging out with us!


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    • 1 hr 11 min
    She Who Shall Not Be Named

    She Who Shall Not Be Named

    Content Warning: violence against trans and gender diverse community, sexual assault

    We recognize the immense responsibility our agency and those who provide support to survivors of sexual assault and work to prevent sexual violence from occurring have in being inclusive to trans and gender diverse folks as well as standing up for this community’s fair and equitable treatment. The harmful attitudes, treatment, and policies made against the trans and gender diverse community is nothing new and while we have worked to improve services and outreach to this community, the comments made by a famous author has compelled us to dedicate this episode to discuss the issues and opportunities surrounding support for this community. You may notice Alayna and Mel struggle at parts during this discussion. As both of us are cisgender women, we know this discussion doesn't come from a place of experience. We kept the awkward struggles to acknowledge we are not experts and your education doesn't end here. 

    The Facebook group Alayna references is sounds like you need to be educated on transgender individuals but okay

    Here are some trans/queer/gender diverse podcasts we suggest which are lead by trans/gender diverse folx:


    NB, My Non-Binary Life. Produced by BBC, Join Caitlin Benedict (non-binary journalist) andAmrou Al-Kadhi (drag performer and filmmaker) as they ask the big questions about gender & identity.

    Queersplaining. A LGBTQ/Social Justice focused podcast hosted by Callie Wright sharing true stories of the lives of queer and trans folx.

    One From the Vaults a trans history podcast by Morgan M. Page. Bringing all the dirt, gossip, and glamour from trans history!


    Fantasy series with Trans on Non Binary Characters


    The Mirror Empire by Kameron Hurley

    Shades of Magic trilogy by V.E. Schwab

    The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula K. Le Guin


    Fantasy series with Queer characters


    Girls of Paper and Fire by Natasha Ngan

    Six of Crows by Leigh Bardugo

    The Witches Don’t Burn by Isabel Sterling

    We Set the Dark on Fire by Tehlor Kay Mejia


    Still Not Asking For It is produced by Mel Gerard and hosted by Alayna Milby

    This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we provide free, confidential services to anyone impacted by sexual violence in south central Kentucky. For more information on services and ways to get involved, check out our website hopeharbor.net where you can also find our blog, Thanks for Asking.

    Our theme is Girl Tones' Can't Pause. Girl Tones is a 2-piece punk rock band based out of Western Kentucky. Check out their website girltones.com 

    For questions or topic suggestions, you can email us at crisisintervention@hopeharbor.net

    You can call us 24/7 at 270.846.1100 for questions, resources, or someone to talk to.

    In September 2020 we commemorated Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary. We are unable to have the fundraising events we hoped for due to COVID19 and instead we are hosting an online fundraiser. You can find more information about Coral & Jade: Hope Harbor's 35th Anniversary and how to donate by clicking the link.

    Thank you for hanging out with us!


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    • 48 min

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