Sweet Talk for Parents of Kids with Type One Diabetes JoAnne Robb, T1D Mom and MFT

In today’s episode, I talk with Tiffany, a mother whose 9-year-old daughter was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes only a few months ago. Tiffany opened with her primary concern: the limitations her daughter might face in the future. Even though she couldn’t picture exactly what those limitations would be she fears diabetes will hold her daughter back. 
Tiffany’s worries are a mirror of what so many T1D parents feel—we worry about the hurdles our kids are going to face. It’s easy to get caught up in the “what ifs” and overlook the “right nows.” So I brought Tiffany into the present, looking at the ways her daughter might have felt limited since her diagnosis and how Tiffany can respond to that. 
Validation became the keyword of the discussion. I emphasized the importance of acknowledging the frustrations and limitations her daughter is currently facing — in the example Tiffany gave, it was about sitting out from PE, something we’re all familiar with.  I work through a powerful validation tool with Tiffany that she’ll be able to use again and again as she parents diabetes, one that will keep her closer to her daughter’s experience, with the hope that that will help her daughter make a smoother adjustment to a life with type 1. It’s not foolproof, but it’s a way for our kids to understand that we’re alongside them.  
Listen to hear more about:
The nitty gritty of how to construct a strong validation of our kid’s experienceThoughts on how to stay close to our kids as they grow their diabetes responsibilities so we’re attuned to what they actually can manage.A discussion on the thin line between fostering independence and the risk of “diabetes burnout.”How powerful it is for a parent to be together with their child on their diabetes journey
 Hope you enjoy!

In today’s latest episode, I answer a listener question that will resonate with most parents of T1D kids: the emotional and practical considerations of testing siblings for diabetes markers.
The decision to test siblings for diabetes markers is one that many families, including my own, approach with trepidation. The anxiety surrounding this decision is understandable. No parent wants to even begin to imagine another child facing the same challenges as their type 1. And so the question becomes: to test or not to test?  Do I want to know?  Should I want to know? Does knowing help? Or will I just feel more overwhelmed?
The discussion strikes a balance between the idea that knowing if a diagnosis is coming can be powerful — we can plan, and prepare, and possibly even help delay onset with new drugs like tZield. But we also need to be gentle with ourselves, choosing testing only when we feel ready to tolerate what the testing uncovers. I also tackle how we might have to protect our children from the enormity of that information, holding it lightly for their sakes, even as we prepare for the worst. 
Of course, this decision remains a deeply personal one for each family. In this episode, I provide information, empathy, and understanding to help parents make the best choice for their children and their family’s overall well-being. Hopefully, listening will offer some perspective that will help ease the your burden of deciding.

Today’s show touches on a topic that’s close to many of our hearts—preparing our little ones for big life transitions. But as you know, when you’re the parent of a kiddo with type 1 diabetes, those transitions take on a whole new layer of planning and care.
In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Rachel, a proactive mom who’s thinking months ahead about her son’s upcoming leap into kindergarten — and also about his horizon beyond. 

As we delve into our conversation, we talk about ways that  Rachel can best navigate the school system for her T1D son. I suggest she connect with other T1D families in her school so she can get a sense the inside scoop on how diabetes management works there. We talk about ways to partner with her son’s school care team to build a strong relationship with them (and I also give a nod to my upcoming workshop “Beyond the 504” where I teach about how to do just that). I also make suggestions of how she can bulletproof her son’s 504 plan, in order to maintain more parental decision-making authority.

Rachel is thinking even further ahead: She’s wondering about the challenge of transferring the responsibility of diabetes management to her child over the long run. It’s a dance between fostering independence and being there to catch them when they fall. And trust me, we all have stories about that part of the journey—like the one I share about my daughter’s path to managing her diabetes.

Here’s a sneak peek of other highlights from our conversation:

Why advocating for your child requires a balance of assertiveness and relationship-building.Cultural insights into how women are often taught to communicate, and the challenges we face around advocacy because of that.Personal anecdotes that highlight the emotional aspect of slowly passing the baton of diabetes care to our kids.The invaluable role of environments like diabetes camps in fostering self-care and independence.
I hope you join me for this powerful episode, where we celebrate the courage and dedication of parents like Rachel, who are laying the groundwork for their children to thrive in school and in life, despite the challenges of T1D.

Remember, sweet friends, our journey is sweeter when we walk it together. Keep talking, keep loving, and keep advocating for those sweet ones in our lives.

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Wanting to create the best relationship with your child’s school care team?  Register for Beyond the 504.  In this workshop, I’ll walk you through evidence-based tools to approach your child’s school so you can can have the tough conversations you need to have about diabetes management and keeping your child safe at school. Find out more at www.diabetessweettalk.com/workshop

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Sveltana, a mother who’s navigating the bumps of diabetes management with her 9-year-old snowboarder and athlete. While we do spend some time strategizing management and I talk to this mom about questions she could put to her endo, we’re actually having an important conversation about the values that she might be choosing to center in a life with diabetes.  
When we T1D parents talk about managing diabetes, it’s a delicate dance between maintaining tight control and giving our kids the freedom to just be kids. For Sveltana and her son, sports are a passion. But as she’s learned, sometimes that means the numbers can take a backseat.
What we recognize in this episode is that diabetes management is deeply personal. As Sveltana and I discussed, it’s really about values clarification. What do we want to center in a life with diabetes? For Sveltana, it’s her son’s happiness and normalcy, even if it sometimes means the numbers aren’t picture perfect.
I also talked with Sveltana the importance of giving herself some grace as she figures out how to manage sports and numbers together. Her family is relatively new to this journey, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to diabetes. Being out of range but allowing her son the space to play the sports he loves could be a win for them. And she might need to adjust some of her expectations as they continue to learn and grow in managing diabetes.  
Listen to hear more about 
Resources for personalized diabetes care, especially for those balancing sports and activity.Potentially important questions to ask the endo, like about mini gluc, ketone checking and additional basal profiles.  Thinking about getting more support — It’s vital to feel free to reach out for this, especially if you’re seeing patterns that you’re not sure how to manage, or that feel scary.Family Camp!  Still can’t say enough how valuable this can be to everyone in the household.  

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Need help getting your kid the right snacks?
That's why I've created the Sweet Talk Snack Course. It's a free mini-course to give you 6 snack sized lessons on making sure you're giving your kid the right foods to keep them nourished and their blood sugar in check. Get it at https://diabetessweettalk.com

I feel so lucky to have been part of the conversation that makes up this week’s episode.  My guest is Stacey Simms, herself a big name in the diabetes world, and the host of the Diabetes Connections podcast.  At one of her Mom’s Night Out events, she had told me that she had a question about her T1D son’s transition to college — and here she is to talk about it. 
Stacey starts by naming a few different areas where she’s struggling as her son transitions to college and she transitions to his independence.  The first is simply about him leaving and the ways that she worries about his diabetes management, especially since they had made an agreement that she would no longer be on Dexcom share once he left for college.  She also notices her reactions to his management style when he is back at home and wonders how the conversation about diabetes should look now that he’s a young adult.  And as the topper: This super experienced T1D mom questions whether she did a good enough job teaching her son about diabetes.  
This is a robust conversation about the ongoing challenges of parenting our T1D kids, even as they become young adults.
Listen to hear more about:
*The ways we sometimes compare our child’s diabetes “performance” to that of other kids
*The challenges we feel about our own adequacy when our kids aren’t doing as well at management
*The balance of our feelings of awe and respect for what our children carry and our critical feelings towards our kids for the things they forget or don’t get right with management.
*What it means to be “impressed” by what our kids are managing and how to communicate that authentically while still giving them space to fail with diabetes.
*How to talk to our young adult kids about their management
*Remembering that our kids might still need and want our help with diabetes — and how to ask them about that
*The ways that it feels like the worry about T1D never stops
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Need help getting your kid the right snacks?
That's why I've created the Sweet Talk Snack Course. It's a free mini-course to give you 6 snack sized lessons on making sure you're giving your kid the right foods to keep them nourished and their blood sugar in check. Get it at https://diabetessweettalk.com

On today’s show, I welcome back Kaylor Glassman, founder of Diabetes Support Partners, to talk through a question from a listener.
The question has to do with an 11 year old, who the parent feels isn’t being as responsible about diabetes management as mom thinks she should be.  Mom is concerned that this kiddo isn’t tracking the insulin in her pump, is allowing her pump to run out of charge, and is always surprised when the CGM expires. The parent is wondering how to get better cooperation from her child.
But Kaylor and I question whether this is the right approach and whether these are reasonable expectations for this child.  We look at how the anxiety of the parent could be pushing this kid to do more than, perhaps, she’s capable of.  And with that in mind, we look at how to foster a conversation with our children about what they think they are capable of, with the idea that we’re transferring diabetes responsibility step by step.
Listen to hear more about:
*The difference between whether a child can do a task and whether they are actually ready to do that task
*Ways to foster a positive connection around these tasks through conversation
*Thinking about developmental readiness in transferring T1D responsibilities
*Following the child who’s in front of us and allowing them to lead in terms of what management tasks they are ready for
*Keeping connected about diabetes, even in the teen years
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Need help getting your kid the right snacks?
That's why I've created the Sweet Talk Snack Course. It's a free mini-course to give you 6 snack sized lessons on making sure you're giving your kid the right foods to keep them nourished and their blood sugar in check. Get it at https://diabetessweettalk.com