T.A.P.T‪.‬ Sabeen, Frantzces, Tonika

We share some personal updates...and spoiler alert...there's gonna be another TAPT wedding woo hoo!!! In this episode, we share how we're each handling our many transitions and challenges amidst many life changes. We talk about being in gratitude while also allowing space for the grief of what's changed and been lost. We discuss the loss of identity that comes from transitioning from singlehood into relationship life and how that can impact our independence. Frantzces reminds us that relationships require intentional work all of the time.
We also discuss if integration is possible from your old single life into your new partnered life? Or if a new path needs to be trailblazed?
There's sadness around taking this break for each of us, but it's not necessarily a bad thing!
We hope to be able to come back stronger and more purposeful. We have agreed to touch base again in August to discuss the next steps for our dear TAPT podcast and community.
We will use this space for renewal for each of us this Spring and hope to report back to our listeners in the Fall. 
We're grateful to all of our listeners for giving us space to be this vulnerable. And for hanging with us these past 5 seasons.
We're proud of ourselves and each other for executing this idea and for our growing relationship with one another.
Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real.
-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)
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In this week's episode, we discuss finding a great therapist and firing a terrible therapist. Listen as we share some life updates and our experiences with searching for therapists and engaging in therapy. Dive in as we discuss our characteristics of a great therapists and concrete strategies to assess the quality of the therapeutic relationship.
And…did you all notice that happiness is the common theme in all of our lives? Tonika is no longer in the closet! Yaaasss!
Key takeaways from this episode:
1. Take advantage of the free consultation that most therapists offer. You can get a feel of their energy. You can also read online profiles and focus on bios that resonate with you.
2. Capture your reflections by journaling your experiences with therapists you've seen. This helps you to know what works for you and what does not work for you.
3. You are in a therapeutic relationship with your therapist that should be respectful. Is the therapist attentive? Do they focus on your needs? Do they show up to the session on time?
4. Gauge how the therapist sets up expectations during the intake process. Which questions do you ask? Which questions do they ask you? How real can they get with you, and are they afraid to have uncomfortable conversations?
5. So, how do you break up with a terrible therapist? It feels awkward and uncomfortable, but you need to move on if you are not happy. With that being said…you should follow the Golden Rule: treat others the way you want to be treated.
For questions and shareouts and further discussions, please contact us at therapistsarepeopletoo@gmail.com.
Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real.
-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)
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In this week's episode, we discuss how to move on from a breakup. Listen as we talk about tips and tricks to recognizing dysfunction, what lessons are learned after relationships come to an end, and identifying healthy characteristics of a healthy relationship. Dive in as we discuss the impact of self-worth and how your partner choices change when you start to love yourself.
Emotional intelligence is a game-changer.
Key takeaways from this episode:
1. You just block them. Do not engage in contact with the person once you have decided to move on.
2. The person does need love, but they don't need it from you. You are not responsible for someone else's happiness or healing journey. Let them go so that they can do the work and find themselves.
3. None of us are broken. We have not met our person yet. The right person will not make you feel broken and will not make you feel like you are the problem
4. Sometimes, your biology and mind have not moved on after a breakup, and sometimes you go through a withdrawal process. Don't get trapped in nostalgia.
For questions and shareouts and further discussion, please contact us at therapistsarepeopletoo@gmail.com.
Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real.
-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)
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This week's episode talks about perfection and shame with our special host Clinical Social Worker and Child Welfare Superhero Seth Riker.
Listen as we talk about how we have dealt with perfectionism, how it shows up in our lives, and how perfectionism impacts us positively and negatively. Dive in as discuss if perfectionism can lead to procrastination and the inability to move forward and let go.
How in the world does Seth continue to find the strength to keep going in this field?! By finding the small successes with clients and families. #assetandstrengthsbasedmindset
Key takeaways from this episode:
1. There is a spectrum of perfectionism that consists of insecurity, anxiety, and the perception of self-worth.
2. Check your ego at the door. Beware of making everything about you and avoid the messiah complex. You do not need control to fuel your inflated sense of self.
3. Don't give a shit about what other people think about you. Redefine what achievement and success look like for you. In other words: do you, boo.
4. Sometimes, things just don't matter, so learn to simply let something go.

For questions and shareouts and further discussion, please contact us at therapistsarepeopletoo@gmail.com.
Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real.
-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)
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In this week's episode, we discuss how we respond to other people’s mental health problems. Listen as we talk about how we navigate when people come to us to dump their mental health narratives into us, and our struggles with setting boundaries with others in the workplace and in social settings. Dive in as we process how people can misread and misuse our superpowers as therapists and healers.
Key takeaways from this episode:
1. Dumping your narrative onto others can possibly leave you feeling vulnerable and fragile.
2. Set the boundary that feels right for you. Once you set the healthy boundaries stick to those limits.
3. Time and place matter. Read the room. For example, if co-worker dumping is occurring in a work setting then clearly make sure where you stand in the most empathetic and caring way that you can to others.
4. Consider how you can set energetic boundaries and also recognize that it’s ok to advise others to go to therapy. I hear you and I also am guiding you to the more appropriate way of healing.
For questions and shareouts and further discussion, please contact us at therapistsarepeopletoo@gmail.com.
Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real.
-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)
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In this week's episode, we discuss the advice that we would give to our younger selves. Listen as we talk about young adulthood, attending college, experiencing the quarter-life crisis, and developing independence. Dive in as we discuss obtaining mentorship from outside of the home, and the realization that we needed to have patience and that things happen for us when we are ready.
The moral of the story: wake up and pay attention.
Key takeaways from this episode:
1. Stop people-pleasing and say exactly what you want and need.
2. Put yourself first in a way that doesn’t harm others.
3. Engage in perspective-taking and consider the context. Things that may have happened back then really do not matter as much as you think that they do.
4. Redefine your life for how it suits you. Make decisions that make sense to you.
5. Acknowledge risk aversion and practice risk-taking because that is a part of life.
For questions and shareouts and further discussion, please contact us at therapistsarepeopletoo@gmail.com.
Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real.
-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)
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