290 episodes

Are you ready to Talk To Me?

Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where we talk to people about how they are really doing on Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly known as Love & Relationships).

Whether having a conversation with a caller from our hotline, or an on-air counseling session with a notable pastor or leader — each of these episodes is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word. Each episode is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together.

None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone!

So if you're ready... Let's talk...

Learn more at TrueLoveDates.com/TalkToMe

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.8 • 702 Ratings

Are you ready to Talk To Me?

Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where we talk to people about how they are really doing on Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly known as Love & Relationships).

Whether having a conversation with a caller from our hotline, or an on-air counseling session with a notable pastor or leader — each of these episodes is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word. Each episode is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together.

None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone!

So if you're ready... Let's talk...

Learn more at TrueLoveDates.com/TalkToMe

    Why Do Some Traumas Take Longer To Heal Than Others?

    Why Do Some Traumas Take Longer To Heal Than Others?

    Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Alexis. Her question is, “why do some traumas take longer to heal than others?”
    Whether you are a trauma survivor, a mental health professional, or someone who is interested in learning more about this important topic, this podcast is for you!
    Are you ready to talk to me?

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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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    • 27 min
    Am I Healed Enough To Date?

    Am I Healed Enough To Date?

    Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?”
    After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he’s wondering how to know when he has healed…
    And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce?
    I answer him by explaining that it’s a complicated question, because everyone’s situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed.
    What’s that one thing you ask? That’s why you’ve got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me!

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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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    • 32 min
    I’m An Emotional Over-Reactor

    I’m An Emotional Over-Reactor

    Today I talk to Ann from Maryland, who struggles with emotionally overreacting.




    Due to some prior hurts and past relationships, she finds herself triggered by situations that probably have more to do with her past than they do with her present. She’s having a hard time not overreacting in situations of conflict, and wants to figure out why as well as how to react and respond appropriately.




    She is afraid to push people away due to her emotional reactions, and she called into the hotline to get some help!




    I help her navigate some of these triggers, and learn to react in emotionally healthy ways instead… It’s a really insightful conversation! If you’ve ever felt triggered in conflict, you need to listen to this episode!












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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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    • 30 min
    How to Have Emotional Safety in Marriage

    How to Have Emotional Safety in Marriage

    Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce… wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that.




    We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn’t something that you necessarily “find” as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help him get to the root of some of his emotional needs, and why it took him so long to identify those needs.




    We chat about our own role in cultivating emotional safety, and what that looks like in a practical way in our relationships.




    If you want to create an emotionally healthy relationship, this episode will encourage you!




    Tune in to this powerful conversation!












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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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    • 29 min
    Anxiety in Dating

    Anxiety in Dating

    Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating!




    She’s having a hard time figuring out if the fears she’s having are legitimate or not!




    Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn’t the right fit or do I have anxiety because I’m just scared?




    And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, recognizing false alarms, important mindset shifts, and dealing with underlying anxiety in dating!




    Tune in to this powerful conversation today!












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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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    • 27 min
    Am I Over My Divorce?

    Am I Over My Divorce?

    Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he’s actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He’s battling feelings of regret from the decisions he’s made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward.




    In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart…including his personal sexual struggles— and then I give him steps that he can begin to take to move forward into healing.




    Tune in to this powerful conversation today!












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    Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 








    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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    • 34 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
702 Ratings

702 Ratings

HosmerScooter ,

Best podcast!

I love listening to Debra Fileta. I first heard her on Focus on the Family. I read both of her books and now listen to her podcast. I also let others know so they can enjoy it as well. She has such a gift of getting to the real issues and helping people recognize it for themselves. And putting a Christian perspective on everything makes it that much better!

Brookeeeee44 ,

BEST podcast ever!

I found this podcast after reading Debra’s book “Reset.” Since then, I’ve done a deep dive to heal emotionally, and spiritually. I love listening to her podcast because it feels like a counseling session every time. Debra’s wisdom is unmatched and she has helped me more than I can express!! Thank you so much for this podcast! 🤍🤍🤍

L. Glick ,

Great content!

This podcast has helped me understand myself, my relationships and given me steps to make improvements in my life.

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