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Join us today as we sit down with Darlene Lancer, walking through the concepts of her significant work Codependency For Dummies. Drawing lines between past and present, Darlene uncovers how childhood behaviors can seep into adult life and generate feelings of shame and codependency. As the discussion deepens, she identifies harmful coping mechanisms we unknowingly incorporate in our relationships.
Delving into 'The Tyranny of The Shoulds', Darlene examines what it means to disconnect from your true self, focusing on external validations. And if you ever wondered what happens once a narcissist feels secure, then this video is for you! Walk through the challenging path of recovering from codependency and get a new perspective on loneliness with Darlene. Find out where you can connect with her in her last words in the video.



*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*

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Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil

Connect with this week's guest | Darlene Lancer
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/darlenelancerlmft/
Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/codependencyrecovery/
Website → https://whatiscodependency.com/



↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓
00:13 Meet Darlene Lancer
01:03 Codependency For Dummies
04:11 Where Does Shame & Codependency Begin?
10:10 The Transference of Childhood Behaviors to Adult Life
12:43 Coping To Survive
13:53 Discovering Potentially Bad Coping Mechanisms Within New Relationships
15:53 The Tyranny of The Shoulds
17:04 When You're Disconnected From Your True Self, You Are Going To Look Outside Yourself
19:22 It Starts Out With Both Wanting To Be Loved By Each Other
20:58 Once A Narcissist Feels Secure
23:21 Recovering From Codependency
28:11 Darlene, You're Lonely, And That's Ok.
31:03 Final Thoughts & Where You Can Find Darlene





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Join us as we meet Sarah Barr, a dedicated mental health professional hailing from Ireland. In this episode, we dive into her journey in breaking stigmas associated with mental health in Ireland. Learn how the choice of viewing our thoughts is ours alone. Delve deeper as Sarah talks about our inherent negative bias and ways to challenge it, especially in relationships. We are talking about positive coping skills and how to flip the script in survival mode. Don't miss it. Listen now.



*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*

→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email dspotpodcast@gmail.com for more information!


↓ C O N N E C T ↓
Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil

Connect with this week's guest | Sarah Barr
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/newbeginnings_counselling/
Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/NewBeginningsCounsellingService
Website → https://newbeginningscounselling.net/



↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓
00:14 Meet Sarah Barr, She's From Ireland!
02:00 Becoming A Mental Health Professional in Ireland
04:57 Breaking New Ground & Stigmas in Ireland
06:11 I Am Not What Happened To Me
08:01 How We Choose To View Our Thoughts...Is Our Choice
12:40 Pre-Programmed To Have A Negative Thought
17:19 Challenging Your Negative Thoughts In Relationships
20:39 A Toolkit Full of Positive Coping Skills
22:24 A Little Tip that You Can Try Out Today
24:00 Survival Mode
24:40 What Sarah Barr Has Cooking




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Polyamory is still often misunderstood, so listen to Dr. Dana McNeil and Dr. Joli Hamilton as they discuss what it means and how to practice healthy boundaries in open relationships. Tune in now for some insightful tips!





*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*



→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email dspotpodcast@gmail.com for more information!





↓ C O N N E C T ↓

Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast

Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil



Connect with this week's guest | Dr. Joli Hamilton

LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/joli-hamilton-phd/

Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/drjoli_hamilton/

Website → https://www.jolihamilton.com/







↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓

00:29 What is Polyamory?

02:16 How Close is Too Close?

04:34 Turning Expectations Into Explicit Agreements

07:42 What Kind Of Relationship Are You Trying To Build?

10:57 Maybe It's Just Not The RIght Time.

18:04 Turning Jealousy Into Healthy Boundaries

26:42 The DIfference Between Boundaries, Rules & Agreements

35:08 Where To Find Joli







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Track: "anjoo", dubu

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Mindful thinking plays an important role in maintaining a peaceful mind, body, and soul. Listen to the discussion between Doctors Dana McNeil and Adole Muruako as they explain the importance of self-regulation skills, including how tapping into your body helps develop this skill set further and how reframing discomforts through mindful thoughts, individuals can overcome their fears of uncertainty with courage while relying on their innate wisdom to manage their emotions better.





*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*



→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email dspotpodcast@gmail.com for more information!





↓ C O N N E C T ↓

Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast

Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil



Connect with this week's guest | Adole Muruako, PhD, MEd, LPC, BC-TMH

LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/adolemuruako/

Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/mpoweredwellness/





↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓

00:19 Meet Adole Muruako PhD, MEd, LPC, BC-TMH

00:55 Tapping Into Your Body. What Is Self-Regulation?

03:11 Why Should I Be Mindful Of My Thoughts?

06:03 Reframing Discomfort

09:35 Tuning Into Your Body

11:27 What Are We Scared Of?

15:55 Letting Your Natural Wisdom Take Over

20:00 Practice Makes Perfect

22:31 The Inability Self-Regulate is Causing Fires In Relationships

26:18 How Do You Tell Someone You Think They Need To Work On Self-Regulation?

29:26 Tips, Tricks & Final Thoughts

31:07 Where to Find Adole





Track: "anjoo", dubu

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Join Dr. Dana McNeil and Danielle Nicole Preiser, founder of One Special World, as they share their insights on advocating for people with special needs. In this video, you'll learn about the challenges faced by parents of special needs children and the strain it puts on their relationships. They'll also discuss the importance of self-care while being a caretaker. Don't miss out on this informative and insightful conversation!





*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*



→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email dspotpodcast@gmail.com for more information!





↓ C O N N E C T ↓

Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast

Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil



Connect with this week's guest | Danielle Nicole Presier

Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/daniellenicolepreiser

Website → https://daniellenicolepreiser.cohere.live/about

One Special World → https://www.instagram.com/onespecialworld





↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓

00:48 Meet Danielle | Founder of One Special World

02:17 Strain, Stress & Challenges When You Have Children With Special Needs

05:34 Knowing From A Young Age I Was Going To Take Care Of My Brother

10:27 Using Acts of Kindness As A Coping Mechanism

15:06 Destigmatizing Special Needs

16:47 Pushing Away The Unknown Out Of Fear

19:47 How To Become A Better Advocate

22:50 Maintaining Self-Care While Being A Caregiver

29:28 You Can't Control The Haters

33:07 Learn More About Danielle & What She Does







↓ M U S I C ↓

Track: "anjoo", dubu

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Free Download/Stream: https://get.slip.stream/IC21YT

In this episode of The D Spot, we'll discuss how to reframe our state of mind to view things as happening for us rather than happening to us. We'll also explore the reasons why we expect our partners to be mind readers and offer tips for finding your worthiness. Additionally, we'll talk about emotional load, what it is, and how you can recognize your own red flags.





*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*



→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email dspotpodcast@gmail.com for more information!





↓ C O N N E C T ↓

Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast

Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil



Connect with this week's guest | Guest Name Here

LinkedIn → https://tinyurl.com/Nicole-Schiener

Instagram → https://instagram.com/peaceandpossibility?igshid=MTNiYzNiMzkwZA==

Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/peaceandpossiblity?mibextid=ZbWKwL

Gottman Author Page → https://www.gottman.com/author/nicole-schiener/

Website → https://peaceandpossibility.ca/





↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓

02:27 Flowing Into Possibilities

05:24 Reframing Your State of Mind to Happening For Us Versus Happening To Us

10:45 Why Do We Expect Our Partner's To Be Mind Readers?

14:10 Finding Your Worthiness

16:55 Emotional Load: What is it?

20:52 How Can I Recognize My Own Red Flag?

27:22 Embodied Anger

33:15 Final Thoughts







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Track: "anjoo", dubu

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