238 episodes
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} Robyn Gobbel
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- Kids & Family
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4.8 • 185 Ratings
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Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work. You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
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EP: 176 Feel Better, Even If Nothing Changes
Is it possible to feel better even if your child’s behavior doesn’t change?
Even if the stress doesn’t change?
Theoretically, yes.
Your chronic watchdog or possum state means you are in chronic protection mode. Is it possible to shift out of protection mode before the chaos in your life changes?
That’s exactly what we address in today’s episode!
In this episode, you’ll learn
The two different paths you can take to feel better (come out of protection mode) even if the chaos in your life never changesThe neuroscience behind how connection and co-regulation (for you!) becomes twice as important for your ability to stay more regulated even when things are really hardResources to help you feel better (shift out of protection) that you can do by yourself, as well as resources that are based in connection and co-regulationResources mentioned in this podcast:
Connection Or Protection {EP 7}When Your Nervous System Is Fried {EP 139}The Privilege Of Parenting With Safety {EP 169}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feelbetter
Follow Me On:
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3!The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us!
:::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources -
REPLAY: Stress Response System
This episode originally aired on September 20th, 2022
Another important piece of understanding what is underneath your child's big, baffling behaviors is the Stress Response System. Our Stress Response System plays a huge role in our children's behaviors and also how we perceive those behaviors.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What stress is and how to differentiate good stress from bad stressThe impact of trauma and toxic stress to the Stress Response SystemHow to build resilience in a sensitized Stress Response SystemA reframe to shift your own Stress Response System Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/
Check out my recent series on Building the Foundation of the Brain mentioned in this podcast HERE
Over on my website you can find:
Video series and ebook Trauma, Memory, and Behaviors (FREE)
What Behavior Really Is: Video Series & eBook (FREE)
Brilliance of Attachment: eBook (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3!The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us!
:::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources -
EP: 175 Secure Relating with Guests Sue and Ann from Therapist Uncensored
Settle in for a fun and inspiring chat with hosts from Therapist Uncensored and authors of the new release Secure Relating, Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley.
In this episode, you’ll learn
How responding to our children’s (and partner’s) needs in the present moment, instead of from a place of anxious or avoidant states, can improve our relationshipsAbout the intersection of attachment and trauma in our systems of care- like the child welfare and mental health systemsHow much hope there is when we shift to looking at attachment in the here and now instead of based on our historiesResources mentioned in this podcast:
Ann and Sue's Podcast! - therapistuncensored.comPre-order a copy of Secure Relating!Secure Relating Online Launch! - therapistuncensored.com/upcoming_events/Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/securerelating
Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3!The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us!
:::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources -
REPLAY: Enabling vs Low-Demand Parenting
This episode originally aired on August 1st, 2023
Parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded. But what if we told you that understanding the balance between enabling and co-regulation could be your guiding light? This week, we break down this crucial contrast, demystifying the term 'enabling', often misconstrued in the mental health field, and venture into the science behind lowering demands - a strategy that can bolster your child’s stress response system.
In this episode you'll learn:
The importance of being self-attuned to what's hard vs. too hardHow to determine between lowering demands for your own comfort and doing it because it is genuinely too arduous for your childThe difference between enabling/codependent behaviors and co-regulationResources mentioned in this podcast:
Connection or Protection??? {7}
What to do after We Mess up {80}
Stress Response System {94}
Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/Enabling
Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3!The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us!
:::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources -
Ep. 174: When it's Hard to Keep Offering Connection
I’m sure you’ve had moments (days, weeks, months) where it felt hard, maybe even impossible, to keep offering connection to your child.
It is hard to offer connection to someone who seems to constantly reject it!
If it feels hard to keep offering your child connection, I actually want you to shift your focus. Don’t prioritize offering connection to your child. Instead think about:
Who can offer YOU connection?How can you offer connection to yourself?Who could you offer connection to who is able to receive it, and offer connection back?You’ll also learn how glitter boots are related to giving and receiving connection!
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/offeringconnection
Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3!The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us!
:::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources -
REPLAY: Low Demand Parenting with Amanda Diekman
The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3!The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us!
:::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
Customer Reviews
Everything makes sense
Robyn does an amazing job of presenting information in digestible pieces. Many of her episodes have shifted how I view the world, but in a way that aligns with truth. Recognizing that ‘bad behavior’ is really a child expressing feeling unsafe is a Game Changer!! Her scaffolding recommendations are so helpful, ‘what does my child need for their success to be inevitable?’ Thank you Robyn!!
Awesome information
This is an invaluable resource for information. The opening song is really auditory hard though. Oouf.
So helpful!
Robyn’s voice is so needed in the process of understanding and loving all children, but especially those with big, baffling behaviors! Viewing behavior through the lens of the nervous system is changing our family for the better.
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