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Join therapist and author, Dr. Alison Cook, as she guides you through some of your toughest challenges with wisdom, kindness, and grace. Together with friends and experts we'll unpack the best of psychology from a faith-based perspective. You’ll discover how to break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and discover what brings out the best of you.

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Join therapist and author, Dr. Alison Cook, as she guides you through some of your toughest challenges with wisdom, kindness, and grace. Together with friends and experts we'll unpack the best of psychology from a faith-based perspective. You’ll discover how to break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and discover what brings out the best of you.

    Episode 104: Overcoming the Fear of Vulnerability—Strategies to Stop Feeling Alone and Build Meaningful Connections

    Episode 104: Overcoming the Fear of Vulnerability—Strategies to Stop Feeling Alone and Build Meaningful Connections

    Have you ever felt isolated because you can't open up to others?
    Do you worry that showing vulnerability might lead to more hurt?
    You are in for such a special treat today. This is such an honest, incredibly real conversation about the risks of vulnerability, the hurts that come from letting others in AND the incredible opportunities for intimacy, connection, and healing when we do.
    My dear friends, Kathy Tuan-MacLean and Tara Edelschick, authors of the new Bible study experience, "Moms at the Well," surveyed over seven hundred moms and discovered most women struggle with worry, anger, comparison, escapism, a desire for control, and heartbreak. Yet most women feel alone in these struggles.
    If you've ever felt lonely or skeptical about finding community with other women, this episode is for you. Here's what we cover:
    * The dissonance we feel about vulnerability (2:21)
    * How 1 marriage crisis launched a 20 year small group (11:28)
    * 2 essential ingredients to safeguard trust (16:00)
    * How they dealt with gossip (21:50)
    * Strategies for dealing with hurt feelings, ruptures & repair (24:38)
    * One shocking result from their survey (34:43)
    * The strategy Alison used to find a friend when lonely (43:35)
    * The one thing that kills group trust (48:43)
    For 20% off + free shipping for Moms at the Well, use code IVPPOD20 here
    Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here
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    Related Episodes:
    Episode 103: Name, Frame, and Brave Gossip
    Episode 85: The Goal of a Healthy Family & 6 Roles We Take On In Dysfunction
    Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff
    Episode 65: Vulnerability, Parenting, and Letting Go of Control—Inside A Guy’s Perspective With Our Friends From Dadville
    Music by Andy Luiten
    Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
    While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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    • 59 min
    Episode 103: Name, Frame, and Brave Gossip

    Episode 103: Name, Frame, and Brave Gossip

    We don't want to gossip, but most of us do it. What if gossip actually plays a deeper role in our lives and relationships?
    So often in life we bump into "grey areas," areas that can stir up dissonance inside of us. We hold certain beliefs or values, yet we find ourselves acting in ways that are contrary to those values.
    In this series, we're exploring some of these areas that can bring up dissonance inside. Our focus today is gossip. I explore the problems with gossip, as well as some of the surprising research on how it can be constructive. By examining both the positive and negative aspects of gossip, you'll feel empowered to name, frame, and brave a healthier understanding of gossip in your life and relationships.

    Why gossip is a gray area (3:09)

    What the Bible says about gossip (6:42)

    What psychology research says about gossip (12:46)

    6 motivations behind gossip (13:43)

    Constructive vs. destructive forms of gossip (21:40)

    How to Name, Frame, and Brave gossip in your own life (29:17)


    Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.
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    Related Episodes:
    Episode 102: I Shouldn’t Feel Conflicted About God—How to Name, Frame, and Brave Complicated Emotions About Faith & God
    Episode 96: Signs of Emotional Immaturity & How to Bring Emotional Health Into Your Relationships
    Episode 89: When A Relationship Has to Change—How to Tolerate Discomfort, Face an Attachment Void, & Resource Yourself
    Music by Andy Luiten
    Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
    While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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    • 46 min
    Episode 102: I Shouldn’t Feel Conflicted About God—How to Name, Frame, and Brave Complicated Emotions About Faith & God

    Episode 102: I Shouldn’t Feel Conflicted About God—How to Name, Frame, and Brave Complicated Emotions About Faith & God

    Do you ever feel distant from God?
    Do you struggle with conflicting emotions or unanswered questions that make it hard to feel God's presence in your life?
    Today's episode brings the 🔥🔥🔥. I'm passionate about naming the false guilt and counterfeit messages that keep us from a vibrant relationship with God.
    So often we try to shove complicated feelings aside or manipulate ourselves into feeling what we think we “should” feel in our faith. It doesn't work. The good news is that as with any relationship, when you name and frame what you're feeling honestly, you invest in a deeper, more authentic relationship with God. Here’s what we cover…
    1. The problem with spiritual bypassing (7:36)
    2. 6 counterfeit messages we internalize about God (19:34)
    3. 5 framing questions to help you transform those messages (24:23)
    4. Specific examples of braving steps you can take in your spiritual life (26:51)
    5. My personal experience with spiritual dissonance (31:44)
    Today's episode is based on an excerpt from Chapter 11 of I Shouldn't Feel This Way, available everywhere books are sold.
    Find a list of resources from this episode here.
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    Bonus Episode: Aundi Kolber & Dr. Alison on Writing & Launching Books
    Music by Andy Luiten
    Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
    While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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    • 45 min
    Bonus Episode: Aundi Kolber & Dr. Alison on Writing & Launching Books

    Bonus Episode: Aundi Kolber & Dr. Alison on Writing & Launching Books

    Happy Book Launch day!
    Today I Shouldn't Feel This Way is out in the world AND it's the two-year anniversary of The Best of You Podcast . To celebrate, I asked my friend, fellow therapist, and author, Aundi Kolber, to join me for a special bonus episode!
    Join us as we share insights into why we started writing, what we keep private vs. what we share publicly, and how to navigate the publishing industry.
    Pick up your copy of I Shouldn't Feel This Way today!
    Get Aundi's Strong Like Water Guided Journey today!
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    • 47 min
    Episode 101: I Shouldn’t Feel Angry—Exploring the Violence that Shapes Our Family Stories & How to Heal with Lisa Jo Baker

    Episode 101: I Shouldn’t Feel Angry—Exploring the Violence that Shapes Our Family Stories & How to Heal with Lisa Jo Baker

    How do you navigate anger in your family?
    What do you do when a parent who was supposed to love you and keep you safe actually caused you harm?
    Families evoke such complicated emotions. You might feel angry and then guilty about that anger. You might feel a mixture of love and resentment. Today, we tackle family anger and generational trauma. My guest, Lisa-Jo Baker was a teenager when her mother died, leaving her alone with her father and his fierce temper. When she found herself exhibiting that same temper with her own son, she knew it was time to dig deeper.
    Her new memoir, It Wasn't Roaring, It Was Weeping, is a beautifully written, incredibly powerful story of the legacy of anger, violence, and generational trauma—and how one family healed. You do not want to miss this conversation.
    Here’s what we cover:
    1. When a parent is both hero & villain (9:13)
    2. The moment Lisa-Jo realized her father’s anger had become hers (15:43)
    3. How she began to investigate her past (19:05)
    4. A powerful metaphor for the scars of our families (31:31)
    5. The risk of discussing your pain with your parents (35:07)
    6. Self-righteous anger vs. wise anger (36:30)
    7. What Lisa-Jo confronted about racism as a South African and an American (39:14)
    8. Biblical wisdom for healing (51:41)
    Order It Wasn't Roaring It Was Weeping here
    Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.
    Thanks to our sponsors:

    Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

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    This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

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    Related Episodes:
    Episode 97: I Shouldn't Feel This Anxious—Insights on Trauma & Healing with Monique Koven
    Episode 98: I Shouldn’t Feel Alone in My Grief—Why Your Grief Matters & the #1 Most Important Support For Those Who Are Grieving
    Episode 99: I Shouldn’t Feel Like My Spirit is Broken—Exploring a Broken Spirit & the Dark Night of the Soul with Christopher Cook
    Episode 100: I Shouldn’t Feel Betrayed By Someone I Trust—How to Grieve, Breathe, & Receive in the Wake of Broken Trust with Steve Carter
    Music by Andy Luiten
    Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
    While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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    • 59 min
    Episode 100: I Shouldn’t Feel Betrayed By Someone I Trust—How to Grieve, Breathe, & Receive in the Wake of Broken Trust with Steve Carter

    Episode 100: I Shouldn’t Feel Betrayed By Someone I Trust—How to Grieve, Breathe, & Receive in the Wake of Broken Trust with Steve Carter

    Have you ever felt betrayed by someone you thought you could trust?
    It's a deeply painful experience that can leave you questioning not only the betrayer but also your own judgment. Trust, once broken, seems almost impossible to rebuild.
    My guest today, Steve Carter, experienced a series of profound betrayals at a pivotal moment in his life. In 2018, amidst misconduct allegations against Bill Hybels, founder of Willow Creek Community Church, Steve made the difficult decision to step down from his role as a newly minted lead pastor—a position he once considered his dream job. Shortly thereafter, he faced yet another personal betrayal by his own parents.
    Reeling from the loss of his job, his dream, and his trust in those closest to him, Steve entered a desert season guided by three words he sensed God gave to him: Grieve. Breathe. Receive. Steve's journey through loss is so powerful, so honest, and so deeply healing. Please do not miss this conversation!
    Here’s what we cover:

    2 essential ingredients for trust (12:40)

    Why grief is the antidote to cynicism (22:28)

    Confronting our attraction to patterns of narcissism (28:08)

    The anger high vs. the peace of forgiveness (36:25)

    How he hangs on to his love for the church (34:03)


    Purchase Grieve, Breathe, Receive by Steve Carter here.
    Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.
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    Related Episodes:
    Episode 97: I Shouldn't Feel This Anxious—Insights on Trauma & Healing with Monique Koven
    Episode 98: I Shouldn’t Feel Alone in My Grief—Why Your Grief Matters & the #1 Most Important Support For Those Who Are Grieving with J.S. Park
    Episode 99: I Shouldn’t Feel Like My Spirit is Broken—Exploring a Broken Spirit & the Dark Night of the Soul with Christopher Cook
    Music by Andy Luiten
    Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
    While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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    • 49 min

Customer Reviews

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586 Ratings

586 Ratings

opengtrlvr ,

Perfect balance of heart and science

I’m so grateful I found Dr Cooks work-she is the best of both worlds-I trust her and I don’t even know her. Morally authentic and kind with really strong clinical chops. Thank you Dr Alison for helping me to stay hopeful when I had almost given up.

Emily E. Bennett ,

Very helpful

Helpful mental advice from a Christian perspective. Loving, compassionate advice that is good for the soul!

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Awesome!

I love listening to Dr. Alison Cook, great insights that are helping me to find healing!

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