The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast with Susan Guthrie, Esq‪.‬ Susan Guthrie

In this special "From the Archive" episode, Susan Guthrie, top family law attorney and mediator, sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, the Founder of the PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) Institute, to discuss the trauma caused by betrayal and the path to healing and a better future. Dr. Debi shares her expertise on moving beyond betrayal, the five stages of healing, and offers invaluable tips to start your healing journey.
Highlights from the Episode:
What is betrayal and why is it so devastating?
Why does Dr. Debi say that "even though it happened to you, it's not about you?"
The five stages of betrayal and healing: Where are you?
Three reasons people don't heal from betrayal
How failure to heal can be like an addiction
Top tips to start the healing process
About Our Guest:
About Our Guest:
Dr. Debi Silber, Ph.D. is the founder of The PBT® (Post-Betrayal Transformation®) Institute, National Forgiveness Day, and runs a WBENC-Certified WBE company. A holistic psychologist and personal development expert, she authored Trust Again and The Rebuild Roadmap, and hosts the globally ranked podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough. Her Ph.D. study on betrayal has made groundbreaking discoveries, and she’s dedicated to helping people overcome betrayal and other blocks to achieve health, happiness, and success.
Important Links and Resources:
Dr. Debi Silber's TEDx Talk: Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome?
Take the "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz": PBT Institute Quiz - Discover if you have PBS, what stage you are in, and receive tips for healing by email.
The PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) Institute: PBTInstitute.com
Please Note:
This is an archive episode, so some of the links and offers mentioned in the episode may no longer be valid. For the most up-to-date information and resources, please refer to the links provided above in these show notes.
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MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:
SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, has been nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country for more than 30 years.  Susan is the Chair-Elect of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here: https://susaneguthrie.com
Divorce & Beyond is a Top 1% Overall and Top 100 Self-Help podcast designed to help you with all you need to know to navigate your divorce journey and most importantly, to thrive in your beautiful beyond!
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Susan Guthrie welcomes leading matrimonial attorney Susan Myres to the show, where she shares the potential pitfalls and legal issues you may face when cohabiting before or instead of getting married.Together they explore the legal challenges couples face when living together, including property rights, financial agreements, and child custody issues. You’ll hear why education, planning, and potential cohabitation agreements are important and can mitigate the 'perils of playing house.' 
Featured topics and Golden Nuggets:
The legal implications of “playing house”
Financial and property considerations:  “When romance is involved, we forget to take care of business.”
Without divorce proceedings, you don’t have immediate rights to child support (you will have to go to court) and if you are a father, you may have a harder time fighting for parental access rights
“You can fix most of these perils if you plan ahead.”
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About this week's special guests: Susan Myres
Susan Myres is a distinguished family law attorney with over 30 years of experience in the field. She has made significant contributions to the legal community, notably serving as a past president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML). Susan is currently practicing law in Houston, Texas, where she continues to provide expert legal services and guidance.
Website: https://www.thehoustondivorcefirm.com/Susan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-myres/
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: 
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MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:
SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and award-winning host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is the Chair-Elect of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. 
Susan works with a select clientele of legal and dispute resolution professionals to support them in establishing and growing a successful practice and regularly speaks and t

Diving back into the archive for a replay of Part Two of our special two-part episode with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert in Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) that delves into some of the most insidious forms of abuse: coercive control and post-separation abuse.
In part two of this special two-part episode on Domestic Abuse, we delve deeper into a form of intimate partner violence (IPV) that's gaining attention in the media through high-profile cases like those of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, and Johnny Depp and Amber Heard: Post-Separation Abuse. Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a survivor and advocate, returns to further our understanding of this often covert and insidious form of abuse. While physical abuse is more overt and recognizable, Post-Separation Abuse encompasses tactics of coercive control and emotional manipulation that can continue to affect victims long after a relationship has ended. In part one, Dr. Cocchiola explored coercive control extensively. Now, she educates us on the varied manifestations of Post-Separation Abuse and highlights its dangers, emphasizing the need for awareness and support for those trapped in this destructive cycle.
*** One note, as this is an archive episode, some of the links in the episode may have changed or no longer be in use.  For more information on Dr. Christine, visit her website at https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ ***
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About this week's special guest:
Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, & Survivor has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since her late teens, beginning her career at a local umbrella agency where she continues to volunteer. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work field for over 20 years. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence including child abuse and trauma, developing and presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. She is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and on the Board of the National Coalition Against Domestic.  Dr. Cocchiola has a small private practice serving individuals and families.
Additional Resources from Dr. Christine Cocchiola:
Ms. Magazine quoted: https://msmagazine.com/2021/10/29/maid-netflix-review-emotional-abuse-coercive-control-domestic-violence/
Co-authored an article on Psychology Today:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains/202201/its-post-separation-legal-abuse-not-high-conflict-divorce 
Co-authored an article on Domestic Shelters.org:https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/post-separation-abuse-harms-children
Find our more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola at https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR:

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For more information and a special trial, visit: https://www.dtour.life/mostenguthrie
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MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:
SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, has been nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country for more than 30 years.  Susan is the Chair-Elect of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her servic

Diving back into the archive for a replay of our special two-part episode with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert in Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) that delves into some of the most insidious forms of abuse: coercive control and post-separation abuse.
Abuse between intimate partners comes in many forms.  All are destructive, but some are so insidious and pervasive that they are incredibly common, yet vastly unknown by the public and often, in fact, by the victims themselves.  With physical violence and abuse, it is very easy to identify that behavior is abusive, but when it comes to coercive control and emotional abuse, it is much harder to identify.  Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a survivor herself, is dedicated to educating, supporting and advocating for others suffering in this horrible cycle of abuse.  In this episode, you will learn the signs to look for when coercive control is an issue, strategies to extricate yourself and what we as a society need to do to protect victims and stop abusers.
Return on Thursday for Part Two where Dr. Cocchiola discusses the increasing awareness of another form of IPV, Post-Separation Abuse, which is increasingly in the headlines with the ongoing high profile cases of Kim Kardashion and Kanye West and the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial.
*** One note, as this is an archive episode, some of the links in the episode may have changed or no longer be in use.  For more information on Dr. Christine, visit her website at https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ ***
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About this week's special guest:
Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher, & Survivor has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since her late teens, beginning her career at a local umbrella agency where she continues to volunteer. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work field for over 20 years. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence including child abuse and trauma, developing and presenting workshops on these topics, both nationally and internationally. She is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and on the Board of the National Coalition Against Domestic.  Dr. Cocchiola has a small private practice serving individuals and families.
Additional Resources from Dr. Christine Cocchiola:
Ms. Magazine quoted: https://msmagazine.com/2021/10/29/maid-netflix-review-emotional-abuse-coercive-control-domestic-violence/
Co-authored an article on Psychology Today:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains/202201/its-post-separation-legal-abuse-not-high-conflict-divorce 
Co-authored an article on Domestic Shelters.org:https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/post-separation-abuse-harms-children
Find our more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola at https://coercivecontrolconsulting.com
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR:

dtour.life is an easy to navigate system that finally brings much needed technology to an inefficient system. Spouses and family law professionals can now collect the endless data, manage the piles of documents, explore various settlements, detail budgets and most importantly, collaborate with the entire team with a single click. And we built this from the ground up with industry best practices and the most advanced security and encryption technology available.
For more information and a special trial, visit: https://www.dtour.life/mostenguthrie
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MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:
SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, has been nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country for more than 30 years.  Susan is the Chair-Elect of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a so

Susan Guthrie welcomes Jan and Jillian Yuhas, identical twins, relationship and conflict resolution consultants and co-authors of the book 'Boundary Badass.' Jan and Jillian have a knack for explaining the value of becoming a boundary badass and how to do that in a format we can all process.
In this episode, they discuss their book, methods for setting effective boundaries in various relationships, and delve into how these strategies can specifically help those going through divorce or difficult co-parenting situations. 
The episode also explores the importance of collaborative boundary-setting, dealing with high-conflict individuals, and the emotional regulation needed to set and maintain boundaries.
Listen so you too can unlock the power of clear boundaries and learn practical steps to become a boundary badass in an easy-to-understand way.
Featured topics and Golden Nuggets:
Why you need to be a boundary badass and unlock the power of personal limits
When boundaries erode and why setting them is a critical skill
Boundaries vs. ultimatums and understanding the key differences
Recognizing the right time to set boundaries
Navigating divorce and the essential boundaries you need
Collaborative boundary-setting and how to make it work with Jan and Jillian’s acronym: ASAP
Dealing with boundary breakers and what to do when agreements aren’t honored
The fluid nature of boundaries and embracing continuous adaptation
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About this week's special guests: Jan and Jillian Yuhas
Jan Yuhas, M.A., MFT and Jillian Yuhas, M.A., MFT are Relationship, Boundary and Conflict Resolution Consultants, and international best-selling authors of Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method For Elevating Your Value and Relationships. Jan and Jillian have coached highly ambitious executives, companies, and families for more than a decade on building stronger relationships, developing leadership growth, and mastering the art of setting boundaries both personally and professionally. Packed with practical advice and techniques, individuals can navigate challenging conversations with ease and cultivate relationship alignment – with family, romantic partners, colleagues, friends, and more. Their collective wisdom and Boundary Badass Method will create a path toward unlocking success in personal and professional
relationships.
Jan and Jillian’s websites:JanandJillian.comDivorceFamilyMediations.com
Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method for Elevating Your Value and RelationshipsJan and Jillian on Instagram:@divorcefamilymediation@janandjillian
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: 
SOBERLINK
Summer’s in full swing, bringing vacations, family gatherings, and lots of time with the kids to the forefront. But if you’re worried about your co-parent’s alcohol use, this season can be stressful. That’s where Soberlink comes in.
Imagine your kids are off on a beach trip with your co-parent. With Soberlink, you'll receive instant proof of your ex’s sobriety via text or email. Soberlink is more than just a breathalyzer and is second to none when it comes to rebuilding trust and improving accountability. I’ve seen it work for others, and I know it can work for you. 
Let Soberlink handle the monitoring so you can focus on yourself, whether that’s recharging by the pool, enjoying your vacation, or simply taking a moment for yourself without constant worry.
Safeguard your summer with Soberlink. Visit www.soberlink.com/susan to learn more and get $50 off your device.
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HELLO DIVORCE
Hey listeners! Are you navigating the tough waters of divorce and feeling overwhelmed by the process? Let me introduce you to Hello Divorce, your ultimate ally in making this journey smoother and less stressful.
Hello Divorce offers a modern, affordable approach to divorce, combining expert legal advice with easy-to-use online tools. Whether you need help with paperwork, mediation, or guidance,

This week we dive back into one of our most informative discussions from the archives. Join Susan and leading family law attorney Eric Broder as they explore the essentials of child support. Whether you are just beginning your divorce journey or are revisiting child support arrangements, this episode provides crucial insights and advice.
Episode Highlights:
Understanding Child Support: Eric clarifies common misconceptions about what child support actually covers.
Calculating Child Support: Discover how child support is determined based on income rather than cost of living.
Modifiability of Child Support: Learn why and how child support agreements should be adaptable to changes in circumstances.
The Role of Co-Parenting: Eric discusses the benefits of cooperative co-parenting in managing child support and additional expenses like extracurricular activities and educational costs.
Legal Expertise: Gain insights from Eric Broder, a highly respected family law attorney with a track record of providing accessible and effective legal guidance.
Special Guest: Eric J. Broder, Co-Founding Member and Partner at Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC, renowned for his expertise in family law and his dedication to client advocacy.
Resources Mentioned:
Book a Business Strategy Session with Susan Guthrie 
The Nightmare of Shared Expenses for Co-Parents
Visit Eric Broder's Firm: https://ctfamilylaw.com
Note to Listeners: Since this is a replay of an archive episode, some links may be outdated. For current resources and support, please visit our website at divorceandbeyondpod.com or contact us at divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com.
Watch the Video Version: Check out the video format of our episodes on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel. Don’t forget to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE to stay updated!
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MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:
SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is the Vice Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here:  https://neon.page/susanguthrie
Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 25,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold-standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their careers.  
Follow Susan Guthrie and THE DIVORCE AND BEYOND PODCAST on social media for updates and inside tips and information:
Susan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susaneguthrie/
Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq
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