It's about you.
We often want to believe that any dissatisfaction in our life or marriage is caused by our spouse or others. It can feel easier to blame then own. But once you’ve experienced the power and ability you have to positively affect your marriage and life - THIS changes everything for you.
There is one person we have control over in a relationship, ourselves. How we are choosing to show up in our marriage or other relationships solely depends on us. This podcast is for women and men who desire to learn skills and tools that will positively affect their life and relationships
46: Do You Struggle to Get Your Needs Met? | 5 Steps to Help You Honor Your Needs
Do you ever struggle to get your needs met? Maybe you wonder what your needs even are? Guess what you are normal - you are a woman! We are natural givers and adapters. We will instinctively take care of others first before we take care of ourselves. We struggle to ask for help because we feel we have discovered the most efficient way to accomplish all that needs to be done. And then we wonder why the heck we are so exhausted.
You are human which means you have needs. Today I share with you 5 steps to help you get your needs met. This will increase your ability to be the incredible giver and adapter you are! This will help you to give from a full well instead of being sucked dry. Releasing being in control of everything is so FREEING!
Life is meant to be enjoyed not just survived. You are an incredible woman who has so much to offer the world. Take a moment today to learn how you can increase your happiness in your life by honoring your needs.
45: Geoff Stuerer, LMFT | What is a Secure Attachment?
Did you know that "all the research agrees that a stable, loving relationship is the absolute cornerstone of human happiness and general well-being"? Dr. Sue Johnson (Love Sense) And did you know YOU ARE NORMAL if this doesn't naturally happen in your marriage?
None of us were taught all we need to know to create a secure attachment with our spouse. Do you even know what that means? For over 20 years I had no idea! I am SO GRATEFUL for the learning journey I have been on! It has changed my marriage! And what I have learned is it is a work in progress for us all! This is GOOD NEWS!
Today I share an interview with Geoff Steurer LMFT. He is trained and certified in Dr. Sue Johnson's couples therapy; Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Do yourself a favor, and listen to this interview! It is AMAZING! Most of us weren't given the tools to maneuver through this messy thing call marriage. But we can choose to LEARN tools!
That is how we will work on creating a secure bond with the person we have chosen to spend our life with! (I believe eternity) It is SO WORTH IT!
44: Why Do Marriages Fall Apart? | We Have 3 Options When We Hit a Crossroad in Our Marriage
This journey called marriage is far from a one-direction highway. You have two imperfect people coming together trying to maneuver through this messy thing called marriage.
At times it is fun and so rewarding, other times it's hard, and many times it feels relentless. The choice we make at the crossroads will make all the difference in our happiness and our marriage.
Today I talk about crossroads and the 3 options we have when we hit a crossroad in our marriage. I discuss why people fall out of love. Why marriages end. And how most affairs happen.
I also share how we can avoid those things by choosing to turn right! I invite you to join me in turning right! Listen to this podcast and set yourself up for success!
43: Does Your Man Know How to Win Your Heart? | Tips to Set Him and YOU Up For Success!
Valentines Day is coming up! And did you know that Valentines is the most unliked holiday by husbands? There are often expectations they struggle to meet. Which leaves you disappointed and him asking, "why did I even try?"
Birthday's, Anniversary's, and Holiday's can often bring on those unmet expectations!
Today I want to set you up for success by setting your man up for success! I share what you can do to ensure you and your man have a successful celebration.
Have you ever considered letting your man know what you would like on on these special days? Unfortunately ladies, we often fall to the thinking that if he really knows me and loves me he will know what I like. This is incorrect thinking. He can NOT read your mind. He works differently than you do.
You sharing with him what makes you feel loved and adored on these special days sets him up to win, which means you win too!
42: Todd Olson LCSW | Loving Others Through Loss and Trials
"Some things in life can't be fixed. They can only be carried." Megan Divine
Some people say that life won't give you more than you can handle. I actually don't believe that fully. There have been lots of times that I've had things I couldn't handle on my own, and it took another to help me.
Have you ever struggled to know what to say or do for someone who is experiencing an incredible amount of suffering? Have you ever struggled to find the right words, or know how you can help?
Today I interview Todd Olson, an LCSW who shares with us the heart-wrenching experience individuals have when they lose a child. He shares with us what we can do to comfort and love those who live this nightmare. He also shares with us what doesn't help. What not to say.
I felt what he shared is applicable to many situations that we might find ourselves in while trying to support others. He also validates what you are feeling if it's you experiencing the trauma.
I want to thank Todd for sharing with us his own personal experience of losing his son, and what he has learned. I hope this interview will help us all to know how we can better support and love those who are suffering from a loss or an intense trial.
To contact Todd Olson: https://www.lifestartherapy.com/
41: Navigating Marriage With Children | Keeping a Marriage Strong While Raising a Family.
Marriage is different once you have kids, would you agree? Raising a family requires a lot of sacrifice from both husband and wife. But do we need to sacrifice our marriage relationship also? I don't believe we do.
It will be different than before children, but it can also be even better.
Our children will bring us our greatest joy and greatest challenges and frustrations. All the more reason to put your marriage at the top of your priorities so together you can enjoy the happy - joyful moments and hold each other up during the challenges times.
Today I share ideas on how you can nurture your marriage while raising your family. It is so important to remember that the two of you came first. Life and the kids will scream louder and demand more of your attention, but you can still give quality attention to your marriage.
As you keep nurturing this life long union (I believe eternity) you are giving your kids the greatest gift you will EVER give them - parents that love each other.
Helping Me Understand Myself, My Marriage, & My Husband
Trina resinates so much with how I've felt in my married life. Once the glamorous newlywed life wore off and I realized how different we both were, how much work I felt like I was always doing, and feeling unappreciated. Trina has helped me understand my feelings, understand how my husband thinks, and realize he wasn't thinking or feeling how I thought he was. I am truly working on myself and in turn working on my marriage. I hope to one day be able to afford her Taming Jane course, but until then her podcast is helping me every day to improve!
Weekly reminder of importance
I loved Trina’s course that I took and I am so excited that now I will have a weekly episode that I can listen to that will remind me of all the important things that I’ve learned from her and keep learning.
Love this topic! Trina is such a great advocate for both women and men. I love that she never puts one down to try to make the other more superior. We are just different and compliment each other is what she teaches here! I’m so happy her information is now in podcast form.