Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh Family Solutions Media

Have you ever done something truly courageous? If so, what was it? What made it an act of courage for you? If you haven’t, then why not? What has held you back? Is it possible you were brave at times, yet your brain doesn’t conceptualize it as courage?

Courage is a complicated concept and phenomenon. Most human beings over the age of three have displayed acts of courage. So how come we often don’t feel that way? How come we can do something that is objectively brave, yet we don’t feel brave?

In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, host Joshua Nichols, and guest host, Rebel Buersmeyer, will walk us through the complexities of the phenomenon in effort to help us understand it better. You'll hear an amazing story of courage where Rebel was in the position where she was compelled to land a small plane on an unfamiliar landing strip. Rebel and Josh will also discuss the role shame plays, the role of fear, and the problem they have with the concept of "cowardice."

Here are some great quotes from the episode:

"You only have to be brave five seconds at a time."

"The opposite of being courageous isn't cowardice, it's just being."

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The structure of this episode will be as follows:

00:00 - Hi, Rebel!

02:00 - Episode Format

05:55 - Rebel's Courage While Flying a Plane

17:10 - Defining Courage

23:10 - Paradoxical Courage

33:35 - The Problem of Cowardice

42:50 - The Power of Short-Lived Courage

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Therapy Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com

Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/

BOOK: Will by Will Smith - https://amzn.to/465ndrq

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

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Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms.

And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned.

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This bonus episode is technically the ending to Episode 28: On the Complex Role of Anger after Infidelity. This particular portion primarily focuses on the unfaithful partner's anger that often has been long suppressed. That, however, does not mean that it is always appropriate to express to the betrayed partner who is healing from the act(s) of infidelity, but it can no longer be repressed either. It's quite the conundrum. We hope you enjoy this episode, but you can watch the full episode, which is linked below.

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The Role of Anger After Infidelity (LIVE video broadcast) - https://www.youtube.com/live/SQqbm-Rrlto?si=RRaliEwLCXgdtYv4

The Role of Anger After Infidelity (YouTube Podcast) - https://youtu.be/nZ-ZEDgji00

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Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Most people can intellectually understand that anger is a reasonable emotional response for those who discover the infidelity of their partners. Anger makes sense, but is it helpful? Does it have a purpose or place in one’s recovery? The reality is that many of us have a complicated relationship with anger. Some are more comfortable with it than they should be and others may be so uncomfortable with it that they rarely express it; and then there is everything in between. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh will discuss the complexities of anger as well as how it can effectively be used to aid in the process of recovery. Here is the structure of the episode:

- The Purpose of Anger After Discovery

- Toxic Anger vs Healing Anger

- Anger and Accountability to Boundaries

- The Anger of the Unfaithful Partner

Please tune in for this LIVE broadcast.

#angermanagement #betrayaltraumarecovery #podcast

Therapy Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com
Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

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Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms.

And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned.

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You may have heard some version for the following phrase in reference to couple communication - “You have a perspective. Your partner has a perspective. Then, there is what really happened.” You also likely are familiar with the research on eye-witness testimony that speaks to just how wildly unreliable eye-witness testimony is in a court of law. So, if our memory is seemingly so unreliable, then what’s the point? What is the purpose of memory; and can it be used in a way to enhance couple communication as opposed to escalation disagreement and amplifying already heightened emotions?

In this episode of Therapists’ Take Podcast, Carrie and Josh are going to have a conversation about memory, its limitations, and how it can be most effectively utilized in couple communication. The structure of this episode will be as follows:

- How does memory serve us?

- Why does memory change?

- What are limitations to memory?

- How can memory be properly utilized in couple communication?

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Links:

Topic: Flashbulb Memory | Ep: Free Brian Williams | Revisionist History Podcast | Season 3 Episode 4 - https://youtu.be/Nn7RPk5e4uA?si=RI7b8u4YPO5P2DPN

How Reliable Is Eye-Witness Testimony? - https://www.science.org/content/article/how-reliable-eyewitness-testimony-scientists-weigh

Black Mirror clip - https://youtu.be/hv68PrVbW4k?si=dkcYqyatrm27fsMg

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Therapy Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com

Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

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Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms.

And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned.

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No one likes a bully! More often than not when you imagine “a bully” your mind gravitates to some kid from your childhood that pulled your hair, called you names, or even inflicted physical harm upon you. We just can’t wait to be grown so we don’t have to deal with that anymore, right? Wait! Do bullies exist in adulthood as well. The short answer is “yes,” but it often manifests differently.

In this episode of #TherapistsTakePodcast, Carrie and Josh are going to talk about adult bullies. Not only are they going to give their take on the nuances and subtleties of how adult bullies function as opposed to childhood bullies.

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00:00 - Hi, Carrie!

06:34 - Episode Structure

09:08 - Why Adult Bullying Is Difficult to Recognize

17:30 - The Tactical Nuances of the Adult Bully

29:30 - Effectively Responding to the Adult Bully

44:33 - The Logic Bully

49:28 - Assessing the Emotional Aftermath

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Referenced in the Episode:

Disordered Eating Episode w/ Rebel Buersmeyer - https://youtube.com/live/6l9T2_GVWlY?feature=share

The Michael Richards Clip (21:50) - https://youtu.be/mNSK5aLIt_M?si=9K3Uh6KgJkZ2xvd9

Adam Grant Podcast - https://adamgrant.net/podcasts/

The Fresh and Fit Clip (47:35) - https://youtu.be/_yPPqKb5WIo?si=BYyG9CWA04S2IfH4

Gaslighting Playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKQiGv_EQ7Rh-Jc_Asg4Rm5BC-m9v2e

Gaslighting Article - https://familysolutionsok.com/vulnerability-exploitation-twelve-typologies-of-gaslightingfound-in-committed-couple-relationships/

Logic Bully Article - https://nicholsworth.medium.com/life-is-short-dont-be-a-logic-bully-e78a71e5e39d

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Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com

Bullying Website - https://www.stopbullying.gov/

Article: Adult Bullying Is a Thing, Too - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-we-are/202102/adult-bullying-is-thing-too

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

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Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms.

And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned.

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#bullyingawareness #bullyprevention #mentalhealthpodcast

The decision to leave a marriage or a committed relationship is hardly ever an easy decision and it’s even harder to execute. As much as we applaud the courage it takes to leave when that time comes, it doesn’t change the reality that it is supposed to be hard. It shouldn’t be an easy decision; and it most definitely shouldn’t be a knee-jerk reaction.

In this episode of Therapists’ Take, podcast hosts and professional couples therapists, Josh and Carrie, are going to discuss a question that is often dreaded and sometimes painfully avoided - How do I know when it is time to leave my marriage (or committed relationship)? The format of this episode will go as follows:

- When does someone have the “right” to leave?

- What are the valid concerns or fears in staying or leaving?

- Valuing Togetherness Over Happiness Diminishes Accountability

- Josh’s Paradox: If you’re NOT willing to lose each other, you’re NOT ready to have each other.

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Books for Couples

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel - https://amzn.to/3RfFN9K

Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman - https://amzn.to/4aYuUjD

Why Him, Why Her? By Helen Fisher - https://amzn.to/4aSN4n7

The Anatomy of Love by Helen Fisher - https://amzn.to/3Vd4mFl

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson - https://amzn.to/4aUFrN5

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman - https://amzn.to/45f535Q

The Works of John Gottman - https://amzn.to/3KyRgxz

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Therapy Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com
Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

#mentalhealthpodcast #marriage #podcastshow