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Are you looking for resources to better understand yourself and grow spiritually? You've come to the right place. Join licensed therapist Carley Marcouillier each week as she tackles a common question related to therapy, mental health, and faith.

Therapy + Theology with Carley Marcouillier LifeAudio

    • Religion & Spirituality
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Are you looking for resources to better understand yourself and grow spiritually? You've come to the right place. Join licensed therapist Carley Marcouillier each week as she tackles a common question related to therapy, mental health, and faith.

    4 Ways to Develop Distress Tolerance Skills (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 6)

    4 Ways to Develop Distress Tolerance Skills (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 6)

    We have covered so much these last 5 weeks, and today as we conclude this series, I wanted to take a moment to sit with what we have discovered and practice a few techniques that pair beautifully with common spiritual disciplines to assist in continuing to understand and make time to reflect and process our emotional distress.

    You see, what I am learning in the presence of distress and as I sit with my clients day after day, is that our distress points us to our desires and design.

    Ronald Rolheiser suggests in his writings that all human souls experience this internal tension by way- of longing, loneliness, desire, restlessness, or other felt emotions.

    Yet, there is something we learn in facing our longings and naming the ways we are left wanting… As we chase after things, feelings, experiences, and people, we come to find that these things cannot quench the insatiable soul.

    Despite my desire to alleviate my distress or hope it will never return, the question I have been coming to ask instead is this…

    How is my soul being shaped by longing?

    So, here are a few ways we can practice being shaped by longings.

    In the therapy space, we call these distress tolerance skills, and in the church, you may know them as spiritual disciplines. I encourage you to take time to pause & practice these skills and add them to your daily rhythms.

    Observation = silence & contemplation

    Mindfulness = solitude & practicing God’s presence

    Self-Validation = prayer & scripture

    Support = Community & Care

    RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE -

    The Fire Within - Ronald Rolheiser: https://www.amazon.com/Fire-Within-Desire-Sexuality-Longing/dp/1640606661

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    • 20 min
    Learning How to Grieve Well (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 5)

    Learning How to Grieve Well (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 5)

    What I’ve come to learn through loss is that it shapes us and renames us. “We must grieve to the level we loved” says Andrew Bauman. Unfortunately, our grief is often suppressed or displaced through other emotions. But what if we gave ourselves permission to name our losses? What if this is the path to healing?

    In this episode, Carley walks us through –
    1. The grief process
    2. The signals of grief
    3. Why we resist grief
    4. What we learn about grief from Jesus
    5. What does it look like to lament and engage with our grief

    RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE -

    Andrew Bauman's 'Stumbling Toward Wholeness' - https://amzn.to/3DojrwF
    Interview

    Mayo Clinic on Grief - https://mayocl.in/3LkqY1B

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    • 20 min
    A Better Way to View Our Anger & Resentment (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 4)

    A Better Way to View Our Anger & Resentment (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 4)

    We all get angry, although maybe some of us do not recognize it or feel the need to deny it. The feelings associated with anger are a part of the human experience. In the therapy space, I often see how anger causes a significant level of distress. If not acknowledged carefully and resolved it will grow into resentment which holds our hearts in captivity, impacting our relationships with God and others.

    Anger is like armor, it is powerful and assertive, and vital to protecting our sense of self. In therapy, it is often said that anger is a secondary emotion because it often acts in response to deeper displaced emotions such as fear, anxiety, guilt, and shame.

    Questions We Will Consider in this Episode:

    1. How do we become a people shaped by righteous anger that reflects God’s character?
    2. Cause - What or who is trigger my anger?
    3. Quality - What is our focus change or revenge?
    4. Expression - What do you choose to do with it?

    Other Episodes in Decoding Our Distress Series –

    1. Why Do I Feel This Way? (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 1) – https://bit.ly/3AW6J5x
    2. Exploring Our Doubts and Fears (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 2) - https://bit.ly/3x5lG42
    3. The Important Difference between Guilt & Shame (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 3) - https://bit.ly/3qiN9vt

    Sources:
    Beyond Identity by Dick Keyes: https://amzn.to/3TKwIpn
    Liturgy - Every Moment Holy: https://www.everymomentholy.com/

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    • 21 min
    The Important Difference between Guilt & Shame (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 3)

    The Important Difference between Guilt & Shame (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 3)

    We are continuing our series on decoding our distress by asking the question: Why do I feel this way?

    Last week, we began with feelings within the spectrum of fear and doubt. Today, I want to explore the feelings of shame & guilt and how we can respond to them through the lens of the gospel.

    What is important to note here is the distinction between these two emotions. From a basic definition: guilt addresses one’s behavior whereas shame addresses one’s self-concept.
    Brené Brown researcher on shame and best-selling author defines these two experiences by saying:

    "Guilt says, “I did something bad, while shame says, “I am bad.”"

    So, the first step to understanding standing these distressing emotional states is by recognizing them as signals of significance - They tell us something about what we have done or not done and what we think of ourselves in relation to our experiences.

    What are they telling us? And what is it important? That’s what we’ll unpack today.

    RESOURCES:

    Daring Greatly by Brene Brown: https://amzn.to/3edm1ek

    Beyond Identity by Dick Keyes: https://amzn.to/3Kx6TF1

    Psychology, Theology, and Spiritually in Christian Counseling by Mark McMinn: https://amzn.to/3Trwh2W

    What Is the Difference Between Guilt and Shame? by Psychology Today: https://bit.ly/3Kyi682

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    • 17 min
    Exploring Our Doubts and Fears (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 2)

    Exploring Our Doubts and Fears (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 2)

    Today, we are going to explore emotions that fall within the category of doubt & fear: worry, anxiety, concern, nervousness, terror, and the list goes on. How we distinguish these words is by their intensity.

    REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
    The next time you feel doubt or fear, consider:

    1. What is this feeling of doubt or fear trying to tell me?
    2. What am I believing that is contributing to this feeling?
    3. What value is my fear or doubt pointing to?
    4. In what ways can our fear and doubt speak to our needs both spiritually and socially?

    NEXT STEPS:

    Make a list of your fears, name your doubts, and bring them to God’s Word. If there is one thing I have learned through this process personally, it is that God is not afraid of our questions, his love is not weakened by our whys, and His word will challenge and change us as we seek to find comfort and courage in his sovereignty and strength.

    VERSES TO COMFORT YOU:
    Isaiah 43:1-4
    John 16:33

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    • 15 min
    Why Do I Feel This Way? (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 1)

    Why Do I Feel This Way? (Decoding Our Distress, Pt 1)

    Whether you are feeler by nature or not, we all have emotions and have been created with the capacity to feel. We all have different experiences when it comes to emotions. How we were raised, and what has been modeled have a large impact on our current relationship with emotions. Although there are a select few emotions that are easy to acknowledge - emotional distress, which is often uncomfortable, is harder to identify, withstand, manage, and understand.

    Over the next few weeks, we are going to walk through a mini-series on emotional distress. There is a need for healthy formation in this area of our lives and I believe the bible provides guidance and grace for us to develop the awareness and practices for acknowledging and understanding our emotions- as given by God, to draw us closer to him and others.

    What I often see within both therapy and in Christian circles is that many tend to dismiss or even deny the presence or intensity of their emotional experiences. We make excuses for our actions and seek to distract or distance ourselves from whatever distresses us. In addition to this denial, we can assume that such feelings are unholy or display a lack of spiritual maturity.

    Our bodies and minds often pay the toll for our attempts to distract ourselves from our emotional distress or the feelings we most often want to deny. We self-medicate and load up our schedules and social calendars to distract ourselves from the reality that something is not right. The consequence of these methods of coping is damaging to both our bodies and our souls.

    One of the largest contributors to our emotional crisis currently, is that we have not learned to validate our feelings. This is a systemic issue, passed down through our family culture; we each learn how to deal with or not deal with emotions.

    Yet, within the family of God, we are brought into a new perspective when it comes to understanding our emotions and the experiences we face within our broken world.

    The purpose of our emotions:

    1. Signals of significance
    2. Soul aspect of our divine nature
    3. Support social and spiritual connection

    *Disclaimer* I am excited to walk through this series together and I want to be sure to acknowledge that this educational discussion is not a substitute for therapy. I encourage you to find a counselor and spiritual mentor to walk with you in examining and exploring emotions of distress in addition to supportive resources.

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    • 11 min

Customer Reviews

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14 Ratings

EmilyFromNJ125 ,

I adore this show ♥️

Listening to Carley is always the best part of my week. She’s so insightful and reassuring. After each episode, I walk away feeling inspired and loved.

KSmithFoundHere ,

Inspirational & Healing

Carley brings a beautiful message with thoughtful and challenging words and ideas. I’ve just consumed my first episode and cannot wait to hear the rest. She has a gift and is bringing an important message of healing to the Christian community.

Ericthenew ,

Unconditional Surrender

Thank you Sister for helping me unlock my perspective, and locking it in on the surrender and trust of God. Cognitive distortions are exactly what was holding me back from experiencing all of God’s love. This message was used by the Holy Spirit to correctly convict my faith!

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