Through the Looking Glass Lavanya Uthaman

Are you someone who constantly needs reassurance in a relationship? Do you have a fear of abandonment? Do you think you can only count on yourself? – You may have an insecure attachment!


This week on Through the Looking Glass, Lavanya delves into attachment styles. With social media overload about anxious and avoidant attachment styles, it's hard to what information is accurate. If you are serious about your dating goals, understanding attachment theory is critical. Lavanya personally experienced anxious attachment, so she is invested in sharing tips to move towards a secure attachment.


This episode focuses on understanding signs of anxious attachment and how to heal your wound. Lavanya summarizes what is attachment theory and how it is developed in early childhood. You will get scenarios to identify signs of anxious attachment with 10 explicit signs to look out for. The remainder of the episode focuses on 5 step guide to healing anxious attachment.


Thank you for joining me on this journey to heal anxious attachment. I hope you found these tips helpful. Feel free to share your experiences or suggestions.


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Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:24 Understanding Attachment theory
05:47 Recognizing Anxious Attachment (10 signs)
08:47 Step 1 – Inner work
10:56 Step 2 – Identifying Triggers
12:30 Step 3- Avoid Overreacting
14:19 Step 4- Give and Take Space
16:05 Step 5 – Setting Boundaries
17:35 Bonus tip and summary

Are you going through an identity crisis? Maybe you are one of the graduates this May, and you are struggling with identity change as a student, or you moved cities or pivoted careers.


This week on Through the Looking Glass Podcast, Lavanya talks about going through identity shifts. This episode is particularly relevant for graduates tackling life-altering transitions.


Lavanya shares insights on recognizing signs of identity crisis and offers actionable tips for coping with uncertainty and embracing change. She has a 4-step guide to navigate this confusing time period. Whether you're graduating, changing careers, or embarking on a new chapter, this podcast offers practical advice to help you find your footing.


Get to know me better on Instagram: ⁠Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile⁠

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast


Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:00 What is Identity change?
02:55 7 Signs of Identity Crisis
03:44 Identity Change as new Graduates
05:50 Tip 1: Acknowledge and accept your feelings
07:38 Tip 2: Understand negative emotions
09:38 Tip 3: Redefine core beliefs and values
10:45 Tip 4: Goal Setting
11:49 Summary

Have you ever found yourself in the midst of a heated argument? Whether it's with your significant other, family, or colleagues, communication breakdowns can be daunting. In this episode of Through the Looking Glass Podcast, host Lavanya introduces “DEAR MAN”, a Dialectical Behavior Therapy technique.

Lavanya dives into the seven-step process of DEAR MAN. It teaches a strategy for effective communication structured to guide individuals towards constructive dialogue and conflict resolution.

Lavanya illustrates DEAR MAN in two scenarios, involving romantic relationships and family dynamics. Listeners can gain insight into how to implement this technique in real-life situations. Learn how to set boundaries in any relationship and navigate conflict with confidence and compassion.

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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
00:58 What is DEAR MAN?
04:15 Example 1 in Romantic Relationship
06:12 Example 2 with Family
07:51 Summary

Are you trying to climb the corporate ladder? This week’s episode on Through the Looking Glass, Lavanya shares her top 10 tips for climbing the ladder and becoming a corporate BADDIE and BOSS. Drawing from her professional experiences, Lavanya breaks down strategies for success in the workplace.

Lavanya guides you through each step, offering practical advice and personal anecdotes to empowers listeners to upgrade their career. From cultivating a strong presence and dressing for success to maintaining discipline and overcommunicating!

Whether you're navigating your first job or aiming for a promotion, this episode is packed with pointers to help you thrive in your tech job.

Tune in, take notes, and start your journey to becoming a corporate BADDIE today!

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Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:12 1. Strong Presence
01:12 2. Dress for Success
03:53 3. Organized/Schedule/Discipline
05:56 4. Overcommunicate!
08:27 5. Keep Records!
10:09 6. Team Culture/Be a Team-Player
12:07 7. Network
14:12 8. Pivot/Grow
15:34 9. Boundaries!
19:10 10. Conflict Resolution
20:36 Summary

Do you have a toxic family member? This week’s episode on Through the Looking Glass, Lavanya delves into setting healthy boundaries and dealing with toxic behavior among brown family members.

Lavanya describes recognizing and addressing unhealthy dynamics within familial relationships to improve your emotional and physical well-being. Generational trauma often perpetuates patterns of behavior such as people-pleasing, lack of boundaries, anxiety, burnout, and toxic relationships. These behaviors, while normalized within brown communities, can hinder personal growth and fulfillment. From assuming adult responsibilities from a young age to being labeled as the black sheep or rule-breaker, many of us have experienced the detrimental effects of toxic family dynamics.

To navigate these challenges, Lavanya outlines four essential steps. Tune into this week’s podcast with a growth mindset to learn how to implement these tools and strategies. The episode wraps up with discussing how to build habits to shift your mindset to set healthy boundaries.

Take the first step towards reclaiming your power and begin your journey towards healthier relationships and personal fulfillment.

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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:06 Recognizing generation trauma
04:05 Step 1: Conflict Resolution
08:05 Step 2: Dissociation
11:05 Step 3: Emotional Detachment
13:07 Step 4: Financial Independence
15:22 Building Habits for Emotional Regulation
16:54 Summary

Have you ever considered moving to a new country? This week’s episode on "Through the Looking Glass," Lavanya goes down memory lane about Marcos’ journey spanning continents. Marcos Salido, originally from Spain, moved to America at the age of 16, to immerse himself in new cultures! He shares his experiences navigating through the educational systems of both Spain and the US, from Anchorage, Alaska, to Southern California! Marcos recounts the challenges and triumphs of finding his place in a foreign land.

Their conversation delves into the intricacies of cultural adaptation, the pursuit of education abroad, and the evolving definition of home. Marcos reflects on the support of his family, the warmth of his communities, and the opportunities that led him to pursue an MBA. They discuss our career aspirations, and the diverse paths MBA experience opens.

They explore the intersections of identity, ambition, and anxiety. Their dialogue offers a poignant reflection on the effect of anxiety and the fear of unknowns as a 20 something year old. Both stress the importance of living in the moment, cherishing friendships across borders, and navigating the transition into adulthood.

Tune in for a cozy chat this week! From reminiscing about childhood best friends to pondering the excitement of impending graduations, this podcast episode offers a heartfelt exploration of personal journeys.

Get to know me better on Instagram: ⁠Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile⁠

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast


Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

01:14 Study Abroad in High School

04:58 Education in Spain vs. USA

06:48 Finding community as a Foreigner

09:28 Lifestyle & Career in Spain vs. USA

13:38 Career growth & MBA

17:00 Dealing with Anxiety as an Over-achiever

22:02 Growing Friendships over time

25:14 Childhood Friends

26:28 Relationship with Siblings

28:44 Next chapter & Advice