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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

U Up‪?‬ U Up?

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 13.9K Ratings

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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    Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?

    Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?

    It’s the Worst Day of the Year, which happens to be the day Jared Freid was born! The episode starts with reflecting on Jordana’s unhinged rant that gave today its special name and how he feels entering his personal new year. Then, Emma Willmann, host of Ask Men Anything, returns and shares revelations she's gained as a lesbian questioning men on everything. Next, they hear from a listener in need of guidance on an internal debate. After having sex with the guy she’s been dating, he casually mentions being queer, and she wonders why he would not be direct about such a big part of his identity. Is it internalized homophobia making her question a non-issue, or was there a better way to go about this conversation? Jared, Jordana, and Emma debate all sides of a relatable issue in today's modern dating world.
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    • 1 hr 11 min
    Why Jared’s Apartment Is Holding Him Back

    Why Jared’s Apartment Is Holding Him Back

    Jordana (and the whole team) just surprised Jared to fulfill our 10K YouTube apartment tour promise, and there was no better way to wrap than to record a Benefits episode from his couch. Taking in everything Jordana had just seen, they tease the YouTube video to come and discuss the pros and cons about his current state of living. Jordana shares what she thinks is missing and why she wants more for Jared. Jorge and Candice chime in to close out the full U Up? family having a moment. Plus, Jared comes to terms with what his next steps should be as he prepares to move in the coming months.

    I Hate My BF’s Therapist

    I Hate My BF’s Therapist

    Still in awe of Tracy Chapman’s reemergence at the GRAMMYs, J&J’s pre-show talk spills into the start of this Sunday Special. Next, they jump into “Petty or Prudent?” about blocking your ex after a breakup text. Do you owe them a chance to respond, or nothing at all once a breakup is done? Then, a listener explains why her boyfriend seeking therapy is a growing problem for her and their relationship. What’s appropriate to share with your partner from sessions, and when is it OK to push back on what you’re being told? It’s his therapist she has an issue with, but J&J have a bone to pick with him too.
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    • 30 min
    V-Day, TikTok Backlash, And Where The Single Men Are

    V-Day, TikTok Backlash, And Where The Single Men Are

    Happy Valentine’s Day! Today’s episode has something for everyone – lovers, new listeners, singles, and anyone struggling in a situationship. J&J have a dating challenge to share, but first, Jared kicks off with a pep talk for anyone alone on Valentine’s Day. Then, Jordana speaks on TikTok coming for her over last week’s Pookie and Jett debate. Next, a listener is starting to get back into dating, but just isn’t feeling it. Does she just need more time to get the spark back, or is there a deeper issue at play? The Awkward Encounter is an all too common issue of being on a date that isn’t a date. The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about your SO misspelling your name and thinking your friend is hot, and pranking a SO.
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    • 1 hr 38 min
    Bland DMs: Why You Might Be The Problem

    Bland DMs: Why You Might Be The Problem

    As Valentine’s Day gets closer, we’re anticipating make-or-break reveals hitting a high, but there’s a silver lining: J&J explain why this V-Day is perfectly placed for single people in 2024. Next, they dive into “Icky or Picky?” about a lackluster conversation starter in the DMs. Then, the episode ends with an email about how to get a could-be relationship out of a weird place after the holidays. Communication isn’t what it was in December and our listener isn’t sure she can get them back on the right track without using “masculine energy,” but does that really matter? J&J read the texts she shared and weigh in on where to go from here.
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    • 44 min
    Get Pookie TikTok Away From Us

    Get Pookie TikTok Away From Us

    J&J are back in the studio and Jared is in a mood. He reads the DM that’s been stewing in his mind before they look into TikTok’s new favorite couple. Jordana unleashes her thoughts on Pookie and Jett Puckett, but Jared’s opinion changes mid-conversation. Then, the first email is spiraling over a guy she likes still being active on the apps. If they’ve had two good dates, then what the f*ck is he doing on Bumble? The Awkward Encounter comes with excuses, but J&J are not having it. Next, they read an “Are We Dating?” submission that meets the definition of complicated. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a family death, fitness accessories, and nicknames.
    Credit: TikTok @campbellhuntpuckett
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    • 1 hr 14 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
13.9K Ratings

13.9K Ratings

kinjals ,

I feel like they’re talking to me/about me

Jordana and Jared are the best duo and always pull me out of a funk. This podcast has been super insightful and entertaining.

marmarmar19997537 ,

For Jordana

Since I know you read all the reviews… Whenever I see an episode is going to be long (at least an hour or more)I am super pumped and can’t wait. One vote for super long episodes!

Mel_13 ,

show peaked 2019-2021

Unfortunately I agree with the reviewers who think the show has gone downhill and the guest interviews are terrible. The Jay S. episode was particularly useless.
The highlights are when Jared gives advice, e.g., the walking away from the poker table metaphor, but the show’s focus has moved so far from that in what seems to be an attempt to fix what wasn’t broken.
I especially appreciated when Jared defended the emailer who was 38 when the other host said she was too old for that, so clearly out of touch with the dating scene today, especially with divorced men 40+.
Lastly, the constant bringing the back office staff on to comment is annoying, especially when you can barely hear one of them.
Hopefully actual improvements are made to restore the quality of the earlier content.

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