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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Were You Raised By Wolves‪?‬ Were You Raised By Wolves

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 1.6K Ratings

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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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    Stealing Parking Spaces, Closing Bathroom Doors, Arriving Late to Classes, and More

    Stealing Parking Spaces, Closing Bathroom Doors, Arriving Late to Classes, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle stealing parking spaces from coworkers, closing bathroom doors, arriving late to classes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin placement when setting the table


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Networking events


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a new colleague who has taken my parking space? Should bathroom doors be left open or closed?


    VENT OR REPENT: Showing up to fitness classes late, Hot glassware


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a cousin, Thanks to the NYC Trivia League


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Business card scene in "American Psycho"

    Previous episode discussing name tag placement


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    CREDITS
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    • 41 min
    Escaping Unwanted Potlucks, Avoiding Teenaged Guests, Opting Out of Thank You Notes, and More

    Escaping Unwanted Potlucks, Avoiding Teenaged Guests, Opting Out of Thank You Notes, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about escaping unwanted potlucks, avoiding teenaged guests, opting out of thank you notes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    Should a man wait for a woman to extend her hand first before offering a handshake?

    How do I get out of my boss' potluck lunches?

    What's a polite way to invite close friends, but not their teenager, to our home?

    Is it OK to want a thank you note for a baby shower gift?

    Bonkers: A dentist wants to know how a husband feels


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    Trader Joe's Butter Chicken with Basmati Rice

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    Episode 229
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    • 27 min
    Using Bouillon Cups, Surviving Book Clubs, Changing Plans on Guests, and More

    Using Bouillon Cups, Surviving Book Clubs, Changing Plans on Guests, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bouillon cups, surviving book clubs, changing plans on guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bouillon Cups


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Book Clubs


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to invite extra people to an outing without informing the original guests? Is it rude when a coworker doesn't acknowledge a WhatsApp message for several weeks?


    VENT OR REPENT: Tailgating through garage gates, Talking in elevators


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a seatmate, A nice email


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Image of a bouillon cup

    Trailer for "The One That Got Away" reality show


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    Episode 228
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    • 41 min
    Memorial Day Break: Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More

    Memorial Day Break: Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle sending wedding cards to exes, being polite to Siri and Alexa, asking people for favors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Riding in cars


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I send a card to my ex who is getting remarried? Should you say "please" and "thank you" to Alexa and Siri?


    VENT OR REPENT: Asking for favors, Texting before a party


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Canyon friends, A nice review


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa

    Yacht Rock


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    • 38 min
    Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More

    Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about faking wedding start times, asking for gifts back, clipping nails in church, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    Is it rude to put a fake start time on a wedding invitation?

    What's the polite way to tell someone "when" to stop pouring wine?

    How do I politely decline someone's offer to share a hotel room?

    Is it OK to ask for a gift back after someone dies?

    What do you do if you only remember a dog's name but not the owner's?

    Etiquette Crime Report: Clipping nails in church


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    A "Standard Pour" of wine

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    • 26 min
    Getting Things Monogrammed, Behaving at Brunch, Requesting Graduation Money, and More

    Getting Things Monogrammed, Behaving at Brunch, Requesting Graduation Money, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle getting things monogrammed, behaving at brunch, requesting graduation money, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Monograms


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Brunch


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When you have an extra ticket to a performance, is it rude to send a group text to see who calls dibs first? Is it OK to include a QR code or Venmo address on a graduation invitation?


    VENT OR REPENT: Commenting on hair, Joking at a VC party


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the song, A nice review


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    The Preppy Handbook

    Elizabeth Holmes documentary "The Dropout" trailer


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    Episode 226
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    • 41 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
1.6K Ratings

1.6K Ratings

Lizette Brilliante ,

Amazing! This is a must.

I can’t believe the number of people raised by wolves these days! All the episodes are great, funny, interesting, and informative! I listen to this whenever I can, and it really brightens my day. Thanks to Nick and Leah, I now know what to do in multiple awkward situations.

Stany2401k ,

No, I Was Not Raised By Wolves, But….

So many others apparently were! I look forward to listening to Nick and Leah reinforce my need for a well-mannered world each week. Thanks!!

Fluffster Normalpaws ,

Nail clipping

Re nail clipping in church- That poor man probably has early stage dementia or some other mental challenge. He’s clearly not in his right mind, for whatever reason. Let us please have mercy on some people who might be physically or mentally compromised in some way. As long as he’s not hurting or scaring anyone, let’s cover it with a mantle of charity. We might be in his predicament someday, and we might need a little tolerance and understanding. People like this actually help us, because they are an opportunity for us to be of service and learn compassion. Maybe this is God’s way of reaching out to this church, to alert them that this man needs assistance or friendship. Not everyone has loved ones to take care of them. God help him.

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