222 episodes

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Were You Raised By Wolves‪?‬ Were You Raised By Wolves

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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    Licking Yogurt Lids, Calling Stores for Help, Running Out of Dining Chairs, and More

    Licking Yogurt Lids, Calling Stores for Help, Running Out of Dining Chairs, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about licking yogurt lids in public, calling stores for help, running out of dining chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    Is it ever appropriate to lick a yogurt lid?

    Was it rude to call a store from inside the store to ask for assistance?

    Do some people not understand that working from home is actually working?

    Was it rude to decline to attend my friend's flower making class?

    Etiquette Crime Report: Not enough chairs to invite husband to dinner party


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    Farrow & Ball Paint

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    • 31 min
    Sending Holiday Cards, Finding Bear Sculls, Dropping Umbrellas, and More

    Sending Holiday Cards, Finding Bear Sculls, Dropping Umbrellas, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sending holiday cards, finding bear skulls, dropping umbrellas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Iced Tea


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Holiday Cards


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle being seated in a restaurant next to diners having an unpleasant conversation? Etiquette Crime Report: Finding a bear skull


    VENT OR REPENT: Dropping umbrellas, Throwing up your hands


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for walking me to my car, A nice email


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Unicef holiday cards

    EtiquetteCrime.com


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    • 50 min
    Holding Subway Doors, Sending Preprinted Cards, Using Recycled Vases, and More

    Holding Subway Doors, Sending Preprinted Cards, Using Recycled Vases, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about holding open subway doors, sending preprinted thank you cards, bringing your own vases to flower shops, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    What is the etiquette for holding open subway doors?

    Is it tacky to give a thank you card that has "Thank You" preprinted on it?

    Can a couple just decide to not send thank you notes after their wedding shower?

    Is it OK to bring your own vase to a flower shop?

    Bonkers: Tickling toes at an airport


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    "What Is Glitter?" - Caity Weaver, New York Times

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    Episode 205
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    • 27 min
    HOLIDAY BREAK: Obeying Little Signs, Coordinating Pot Lucks, Buying Concert Tickets, and More

    HOLIDAY BREAK: Obeying Little Signs, Coordinating Pot Lucks, Buying Concert Tickets, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle obeying little signs, coordinating pot luck dinners, buying concert tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: The origins of "Etiquette"


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Hosting Thanksgiving dinner


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I tell someone their new boyfriend reminds me of Christian Bale in "American Psycho"? If you're bringing dessert to a pot luck, are you also responsible for bringing the dessert plates? Do I need to give up my better concert tickets in order for my daughter to be able to sit with a friend?


    VENT OR REPENT: Bad customer service, Ordering sandwiches


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice neighbors, A nice review


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Cindy Post Senning's story about Louis XIV

    Business card scene from "American Pyscho"

    The Wiggles

    Mummenchanz


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    CREDITS
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    TRANSCRIPT
    Episode 112
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    • 46 min
    Eating Raw Oysters, Behaving at Concerts, Tipping With Lottery Tickets, and More

    Eating Raw Oysters, Behaving at Concerts, Tipping With Lottery Tickets, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating raw oysters, behaving at concerts, tipping with lottery tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Raw oysters


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Concerts


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave winning lottery tickets in addition to a tip at a restaurant? Etiquette Crime Report: Are you pregnant?


    VENT OR REPENT: Finding seats at a concert, Filming while running


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for being a listener, Thanks for the NLAD wishes


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Oyster fork inside spoon

    Maura Graber's Etiquipedia

    Ariana Grande starts song again because fan wasn't ready to record

    "Pure Imagination" from "Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory"

    EtiquetteCrime.com


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    CREDITS
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    Episode 204
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    • 50 min
    Requiring Marriage Certificates, Reimbursing Acquaintances, Taking New York Taxis, and More

    Requiring Marriage Certificates, Reimbursing Acquaintances, Taking New York Taxis, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about requiring marriage certificates, reimbursing acquaintances, taking taxis in New York, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    What should I say to my friend who doesn't think a partner of seven years warrants a wedding invitation?

    What is the proper etiquette for repaying an acquaintance who picked something up for you?

    How can I keep my cool in the face of tourists rudely asking for directions all day long?

    What are the rules for taking a taxi in New York City like a local?

    Bonkers: Rudeness at the gym


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Qi Gong on Wikipedia

    Labyrinth (1986): "You Have No Power Over Me" scene


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    Episode 203
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    • 31 min

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