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Secure Dating Behavior Part 1 - Want Love Series - High Stakes Dating Want Love Series
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Secure Dating Behavior - Part 1 - High-Stakes Dating
Do you know what dating is?
For secure people it’s going out with someone to get to know them and have some fun. That’s it.
For needy people, they get all hyped up before the date and become unrealistic about the other person. They get ready to go all-in and commit to a long term relationship and have not even been on the date yet.
It’s high stakes. They put way too much value into it. They date a single person at a time and stay with them even if they’re not a good fit.
Ever had a friend that has been in love with 7 soul mates and it never works out? Maybe you have been that person.
People who are secure date several people, and even at the same time before committing. This allows them to choose a better match for a LTR.
They stay involved in other things and hobbies instead of wrapping themselves up in one person ALL THE TIME!
If you’re both needy, you may stay together for a long time...in misery.
If you want to long-term relationship success, you will have to make changes to who and how you date.
If you think you have a “Love” addiction...you are needy. It’s not a legitimate term in phsycology. It’s not a phsycological disorder.
Needy people cannot date people with flaws. They badger them about it even if it is there past. Needy people accept this behavior and continue to try and smooth it over.
Needy people sometimes date secure people...by playing like they are secure, however, unless the secure person is a player...there is usually not a second date.
You can date without making a commitment. If the other person demands a commitment and you are not ready to commit...find someone else to date.
Opportunities for Growth
Mocha & The Flame
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wantloveseries/message
Secure Dating Behavior - Part 1 - High-Stakes Dating
Do you know what dating is?
For secure people it’s going out with someone to get to know them and have some fun. That’s it.
For needy people, they get all hyped up before the date and become unrealistic about the other person. They get ready to go all-in and commit to a long term relationship and have not even been on the date yet.
It’s high stakes. They put way too much value into it. They date a single person at a time and stay with them even if they’re not a good fit.
Ever had a friend that has been in love with 7 soul mates and it never works out? Maybe you have been that person.
People who are secure date several people, and even at the same time before committing. This allows them to choose a better match for a LTR.
They stay involved in other things and hobbies instead of wrapping themselves up in one person ALL THE TIME!
If you’re both needy, you may stay together for a long time...in misery.
If you want to long-term relationship success, you will have to make changes to who and how you date.
If you think you have a “Love” addiction...you are needy. It’s not a legitimate term in phsycology. It’s not a phsycological disorder.
Needy people cannot date people with flaws. They badger them about it even if it is there past. Needy people accept this behavior and continue to try and smooth it over.
Needy people sometimes date secure people...by playing like they are secure, however, unless the secure person is a player...there is usually not a second date.
You can date without making a commitment. If the other person demands a commitment and you are not ready to commit...find someone else to date.
Opportunities for Growth
Mocha & The Flame
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wantloveseries/message
32 min