Sex Talks With Emma-Louise Boynton

Emma-Louise Boynton
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Sex Talks With Emma-Louise Boynton

Sex is about so much more than just fucking. It's about our relationship to ourselves and to our bodies. It’s about how we experience gender and the power dynamics that come with it. It’s about our capacity for vulnerability and how willing we are to let others in. Our relationship to sex tells us so much about who we are and how we show up in the world. So why don't we talk about it more openly? In this podcast, host and founder of Sex Talks, Emma-Louise Boynton, sits down with a new guest each week to do just that. Opening up discussion on typically taboo topics, Emma-Louise explores issues around sex and relationships, gender and the role technology is playing in changing the way we date, love and fuck. From writers, authors and therapists, to actors, musicians and founders, the podcast brings in voices from across the board to talk about sex. If you want to attend one of the monthly LIVE recordings of the Sex Talks podcast at The London Edition hotel, book your ticket(s) here.

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Why do (some) men hate women? With Laura Bates (Everyday Sexism Project) and Ben Hurst (Beyond Equality)

    *Trigger warning* we discuss issues around sexual violence, rape and assault in this episode, so please take care while listening. As always, I’ve put resources in the show notes for anyone who has been affected by the topics discussed.  In this live recording of the Sex Talks podcast I wanted to address a question that has been on my mind a lot of late: why do men hate women?  It is provocative, I know, and intentionally so. But amidst the seemingly relentless series of news stories about male violence, It is a question I just can’t shake from my head.  After all, this conversation takes place against a backdrop of ongoing, high profile sexual abuse and rape cases with the likes of Dominuqe Pelicot; Sean ‘Diddy’ Combs; the late Mohammed Al Fayed; and the former CEO of Abercrombie & Fitch Mike Jeffries, amongst some of the high profile names currently under investigation for allegedly committing the most unimaginable crimes.   What’s more, the scale of violence against women and girls is so high police chiefs have declared it a National Emergency here in the UK. So, the purpose of this discussion was thus to try and better understand what is going on, why and what needs to be done now to end this epidemic of violence. I was joined by the brilliant Laura Bates - activist, writer, speaker and journalist. She is also the founder of the Everyday Sexism Project, an ever-increasing collection of over 200,000 testimonies of gender inequality. Launched in 2012, the project raises awareness of sexism, provides a cathartic and empowering space for survivors’ stories to be heard and believed, and uses those stories to create real-world change in partnership with politicians, businesses and organisations from the United Nations to the Council of Europe.  She is currently writing her 11th book. I was also joined by Ben Hurst, Director of Facilitation at Beyond Equality, an organisation that is rethinking masculinity and engaging men and boys in the gender equality conversation. If you are affected by the issues discussed this please seek help via the below: Rape Crisis are open 24/7 for anyone who has experienced something sexual without their consent. Call free on 0808 500 2222 or visit their website here. Samaritans are open 24/7 for anyone who needs to talk. You can visit some Samaritans branches in person. Samaritans also have a Welsh Language Line on 0808 164 0123 (7pm–11pm every day). 116 123 (freephone) jo@samaritans.org Freepost SAMARITANS LETTERS samaritans.org

    1h 15m

  2. 31 OCT

    The art of Great Chat with Josh Smith, author, presenter and journalist

    On this week’s live recording of the podcast, Emma-Louise was joined by journalist, presenter, podcaster and author, Josh Smith to discuss his brand new book: Great Chat. The importance of communication is something we talk about ALL the time at Sex Talks, not least because - as we know - it's the key to great sex and deeper intimacy.  So when Josh published a book all about the art of great conversation we knew we had to sit down with him and extract all his tips and insights.  As a celebrity interviewer, Josh has talked with people of every background, mood and personality, (think Oprah, Victoria Beckham and Pamela Anderson) and they really open up to him. He's the master of creating a space that invites and nurtures vulnerability, which is critical to hosting a great interview but also cultivating a deep relationship with somebody. In this episode Josh shares everything he’s learned about Great Chat in his many years working as a journalist; his two cents on how to translate this to the context of dating; and the best piece of advice he's ever received (from none other than actress Hayley Atwell). We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did. You can buy Josh's book here and find out when the next live recording of the podcast is here.

    55 min

  3. 24 OCT

    Body image, sex and healing from an E.D. with Megan Jayne Crabbe

    On this week's episode of the podcast, Emma-Louise was joined by OG creator, author and body positivity advocate, Megan Jayne Crabbe. Together they discuss the impact of our restrictive body image ideals, growing up with an eating disorder, how body image issues affect our relationship to sex and pleasure, the power of the body positivity movement and what it means to finally come home to your body. As Megan said on the podcast: "You don't have to love your body. You don't have to think your body's wonderful. You don't even have to think, yeah, this is the body that I want. "But at the very least, our bodies deserve some kind of respect, because they are doing their best up against a culture that convinces us to hate them." For this episode of the pod we partnered up with the team at Fenwick, Kingston where we hosted the recording live from their gorgeous, and newly redesigned, lingerie and nightwear section. You can watching the recording on Youtube here. Trigger warning: this episode discusses eating disorders, anorexia and body image issues. Please take care when listening and if you've been affected by anything discussed you can seek help at Beat below. (Call) England 0808 801 0677 Email support for England: help@beateatingdisorders.org.uk You can purchase tickets to the next live event here. And subscribe to the Sex Talks Substack here.

    52 min

  4. 17 OCT

    How to rewire your brain in sex and dating with Nicole Vignola, neuroscientist and author of Rewire

    On this week’s episode of the podcast Emma-Louise is joined by Nicole Vignola - a neuroscientist and brain performance coach who specialises in making neuroscience tangible for the masses. She is also an author, having recently published her debut book, Rewire, designed to give you the mental toolkit you need to break negative cycles and achieve peak mental wellbeing. Nicole joined Emma-Louise on the podcast to talk all things sex, dating and relationships through the prism of brain science which really was as fascinating as it sounds.  From explaining why we go for the same people again and again even when we know they’re bad for us (it’s because of confirmation bias, says Nicole); to the power of the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves; to what exactly happens in the brain when we orgasm, this episode was rich in the sort of nerdy, neuroscientific insights we all need in our lives. We recorded this live at Soho House House. You can purchase tickets to the next live event here. And subscribe to the Sex Talks Substack here.

    53 min

  5. 10 OCT

    Witnessing the trial of Ghislane Maxwell with Lucia Osborne-Crowley, author of The Lasting Harm, spotlighting the survivors who brought her to justice

    On today’s episode Emma-Louise is joined by a truly incredible woman: Lucia Osborne Crowley.  She’s a Journalist, reporter and the author of three books including ‘The Lasting Harm: Witnessing the trial of Ghislane Maxwell’, which they discuss in length during this episode. It was one of the best books we read this year, FYI. Her prior two books, I Choose Elena (2019) and My Body Keeps Your Secrets (2021) both explored the myriad ways in which trauma affects the body. Prior to becoming a journalist, Lucia trained as a lawyer and worked as a paralegal before jumping over to the reporting side of things as a court reporter. She now balances her brilliant investigative work with a full time job at Law360, a US newswire covering courts and crime across the world. This was one of the most powerful, poignant and heart-wrenching interviews we’ve hosted at Sex Talks. Not least because of how personal Lucia’s reporting is to her own experience of sexual abuse. While Lucia and Emma-Louise delve deep into the Maxwell trial and what it took to cover such a monumental court case, it was Lucia’s very personal description of trauma, of the way it changes a survivor’s relationship to their body, to their sense of self, that proved the most important and affecting part of this conversation.  Someone commented at the end of the event: “the tension of overwhelming compassion and female rage bubbling in the air was palpable.” We think that's a perfect description of this event. Trigger warning: this episode contains mention of sexual abuse; eating disorders and trauma, so please take care when listening. If you’re affected by anything you hear in this episode please seek help via the below: Rape Crisis are open 24/7 for anyone who has experienced something sexual without their consent. Call free on 0808 500 2222 or visit their website here. Samaritans are open 24/7 for anyone who needs to talk. You can visit some Samaritans branches in person. Samaritans also have a Welsh Language Line on 0808 164 0123 (7pm–11pm every day). 116 123 (freephone) jo@samaritans.org Freepost SAMARITANS LETTERS samaritans.org

    1h 2m

  6. 5 SEPT

    Power, celebrity and the aftermath of abuse with Olivia Petter, journalist and author of Gold Rush

    In this episode, Emma-Louise sits down with journalist and author, Olivia Petter, to discuss Petter's debut book of fiction, Gold Rush.  The book covers so many vital and indeed urgent themes surrounding sexual abuse, trauma and the toxicity of celebrity culture, all of which they delve into during what is a totally fascinating interview.  “We give celebrities a power they don’t deserve," Petter writes, "a Power they haven’t earned. What happens when they exploit it?” You can purchase tickets to the next live event here. And subscribe to the Sex Talks Substack here. *Trigger warning: this episode discusses themes around sexual abuse and assault. Please see below for resources and where you can access support if you've been affected by anything discussed.* For more information about reporting and recovering from rape and sexual abuse, you can contact Rape Crisis on 0808 500 2222. If you have been sexually assaulted, you can find your nearest Sexual Assault Referral Centre here. You can also find support at your local GP, voluntary organisations such as Rape Crisis, Women's Aid, and Victim Support, and you can report it to the police (if you choose) here. If you are worried that you or someone you know is being groomed, you can access Victim Support’s Children and Young People Services. You can contact your nearest Victim Support office, call the 24/7 Supportline, contact them via live chat, or if you are 16 or older, you can create a My Support Space account.

    51 min

  7. 31 AUG

    Solo pod! How to re-wild your sexual landscape (and close the orgasm gap!) according to Emily Nagoski

    In the second solo Sex Talks pod Emma-Louise delves into the topic of last week's newsletter: new research on the orgasm gap, what it reveals about our broken sex culture, and, importantly, how we fix it. Touching on the work of sex educator and author, Emily Nagoski, Emma discusses how we can re-write our sexual script in order to foster a better, individual relationship to sex, and why this is so important in improving our overall sexual landscape. You can subscribe to the Sex Talks newsletter here and keep up-to-date on forthcoming events here.

    28 min

  8. 8 AUG

    Celibacy, boundaries, self-trust and... learning how to flirt with comedian and author Sofie Hagen

    Sofie Hagen is a multi award winning, queer, non-binary comedian, author and podcaster. Their debut book was called Happy Fat: Taking Up Space in a World That Wants to Shrink You and they have just published their second book ‘Will I Ever have Sex Again.’ In it, they examine our broader sexual landscape in an attempt to understand why they haven’t had sex in some 3000 days and counting. Sofie joins Emma to discuss everything they’ve learned from over nine years of (involuntary) celibacy, what it’s taught them about their own body, boundaries, and queerness, and why they’re not all that bothered if they go another nine-years without sex. Plus, find out what Sofie learned about 1800 other people’s sex lives, not to mention the lessons imparted by a renowned flirtologist.

    1h 13m
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Sex is about so much more than just fucking. It's about our relationship to ourselves and to our bodies. It’s about how we experience gender and the power dynamics that come with it. It’s about our capacity for vulnerability and how willing we are to let others in. Our relationship to sex tells us so much about who we are and how we show up in the world. So why don't we talk about it more openly? In this podcast, host and founder of Sex Talks, Emma-Louise Boynton, sits down with a new guest each week to do just that. Opening up discussion on typically taboo topics, Emma-Louise explores issues around sex and relationships, gender and the role technology is playing in changing the way we date, love and fuck. From writers, authors and therapists, to actors, musicians and founders, the podcast brings in voices from across the board to talk about sex. If you want to attend one of the monthly LIVE recordings of the Sex Talks podcast at The London Edition hotel, book your ticket(s) here.

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