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Ask a Sex Therapist is for you if you are ready to spice up your sex life. You are ready to learn all the things you were never taught about sex, intimacy and great communication in the bedroom. You are excited to explore your own body and feel more connected to your partner. You want to feel body confident, allow yourself to experience greater sexual pleasure and feel accepted for your fantasies and desires. If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, get rid of the shame and stigma around sex and create happier, more fulfilling love life, this is the show for you.
Hosted by Heather Shannon, Certified Sex Therapist, you'll be taken on a journey to release your sexual inhibitions and embrace your authentic sexual identity. Because it's time for you to Ask a Sex Therapist. Find out more about Heather's work and ask her your (anonymous) sex questions at https://HeatherShannon.co.

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Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon Heather Shannon

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 153 Ratings

Ask a Sex Therapist is for you if you are ready to spice up your sex life. You are ready to learn all the things you were never taught about sex, intimacy and great communication in the bedroom. You are excited to explore your own body and feel more connected to your partner. You want to feel body confident, allow yourself to experience greater sexual pleasure and feel accepted for your fantasies and desires. If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, get rid of the shame and stigma around sex and create happier, more fulfilling love life, this is the show for you.
Hosted by Heather Shannon, Certified Sex Therapist, you'll be taken on a journey to release your sexual inhibitions and embrace your authentic sexual identity. Because it's time for you to Ask a Sex Therapist. Find out more about Heather's work and ask her your (anonymous) sex questions at https://HeatherShannon.co.

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    What It's Like Being in a Throuple with @TriadAndTrue

    What It's Like Being in a Throuple with @TriadAndTrue

    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist 
    *****
    Ever thought about being in a throuple? Regardless of whether it's for you, I bet you're curious about this unique relationship structure!
    Tune in with Heather's guests, Dr. Rachael Meir and her partners Aaron and Casey for a truly unique episode.
    Get answers to your questions like:
    Is sex always a threesome?What's the biggest perk of being in a 3-person relationship?How do they handle living in a world made for 2-person relationsihps?Is doing household chores really easier with 3 people?
    Plus, find out what monogamous people can learn from polyamorous relationships!
    *****
    WORK WITH HEATHER:
    Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s coaching services. 
    LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:
    Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 
    @AskASexTherapist Instagram
    Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  
    SIMILAR EPISODE
    Episode 13 - Is monogamy realistic? https://pod.fo/e/166e5e 
    CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS!
    @TriadAndTrue TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@triadandtrue?lang=en
    @TriadAndTrue IG - https://www.instagram.com/triadandtrue/?hl=en
    Dr. Rachael Meir Website - https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/




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    • 50 min
    Understanding Sex Addiction Vs. High Libido: Signs, Causes, and Solutions

    Understanding Sex Addiction Vs. High Libido: Signs, Causes, and Solutions

    🎧 Hey there, curious minds! Are you wondering if you're simply blessed with a high libido or if you have a sex or porn addiction? Or maybe you've been wondering if your partner's porn behavior is healthy. Today, I unpack the differences between having a healthy, high sex drive and what it looks like when things turn into a compulsion.
    I'll also sprinkle in some tips on how to balance that fiery drive without letting it take over your life. This is one episode will finally offer you clarity on what is problematic and what is simply hot and spicy. 🌶️
    Tune in to Discover:
    - The difference between a high libido and sex addiction
    - How to identify if sexual behaviors are interfering with your life
    - The role of shame and stigma in compulsive behaviors
    - The benefits of self-acceptance and open communication
    - Treatment options and resources for those who need it
    Time Stamps:
    00:00 Intro to podcast and today's topic
    04:40 Physical health and mental well-being affect sex drive.
    08:54 Understanding sexual needs, communication, and signs of addiction.
    11:43 Embracing mindfulness, and a healthy lifestyle.
    15:09 Moderate porn consumption can enhance sexuality.
    19:02 Using sex or masturbation as stress relief.
    20:40 Sex and love addicts Anonymous's dating rule.
    24:11 Rehab center options and resources for addiction.
    Episode Links:
    Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Book a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call, grab Heather's freebies, check out podcast transcripts and more!
    Podcast Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join the broadcast channel to vote on podcast topics!
    Leave a voicemail question for our next Listner Q & A episode or give podcast feedback for Heather - https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast
    Submit an anonymous sex question for our next Listener Q & A episode - https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/
    Themes and Keywords We Explore
    sex addiction, high sex drive, compulsive sexual behavior, sex therapy, porn addiction, certified sex therapist, AASECT, out of control sexual behavior, internal family systems, mindfulness, impulsivity, masturbation, sexual stigma, dopamine, risky behavior, emotional dysregulation, 12-step groups, SMART recovery, sex therapists, rehab centers, sexual validation.


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    • 25 min
    080: The Touch Revolution: Dr. Betty Martin Explores The Wheel of Consent Dynamics

    080: The Touch Revolution: Dr. Betty Martin Explores The Wheel of Consent Dynamics

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    Show Summary
    In this delightful episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," I interview the legendary Dr. Betty Martin about the magical realms of mindful touch and the captivating Wheel of Consent. And she makes me cry, LOL! 🥹
    🌟 Dr. Martin shares her experiences and teachings from decades of touching people. As we explore her book The Art of Receiving and Giving, let's explore a place where boundaries are respected, desires are honored, and pleasure is celebrated. 🌈
    Join us as we learn about the transformative power of intentional touch and the art of giving and receiving with openness and authenticity. Your sex life is about to get a major upgrade!🌺
    What You'll Learn:
    🛞 Discover the concept of "the Wheel of Consent" and its profound impact on understanding giving and receiving in physical touch.
    🤗Uncover the dynamics of touch within relationships through the lens of Dr. Betty Martin's insightful quadrants - serve, accept, take, and allow.
    🙏 Learn how past conditioning and experiences can hinder our ability to ask for what we want and embrace our desires with confidence.
    ⏳ Explore the transformative potential of the "Three Minute Game" in healing past wounds and building trust in setting boundaries and expressing needs.
    💡 Gain insights into the importance of non-sexual touch and affection in fostering intimacy and connection in relationships. 💫
    ✨ Press play for some essential knowledge when it comes to sensuality, sex and touch! 🎧💖
    Time Stamps
    00:00 Wheel of consent: A recurring, focused practice.
    04:02 Difficulty in receiving limits our ability to give.
    11:01 The wheel of consent: 2 questions, 3 minutes.
    17:49 Learning to notice and accept personal boundaries.
    26:54 Touch is a primary human need, not sex.
    30:20 Interpreting body language and its impact. Matrix design.
    33:18 Setting boundaries during physical intimacy conversation.
    37:06 Realizing my eroticism belongs to me.
    39:05 Chiropractic office transitioned to interactive sex coaching.
    43:39 Grateful for amazing work on the wheel.
    Heather's Links
    Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Book a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call, grab Heather's freebies, check out podcast transcripts and more!
    Podcast Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join the broadcast channel to vote on podcast topics!
    Leave a voicemail question for our next Listner Q & A episode or give podcast feedback for Heather - https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast
    Submit an anonymous sex question for our next Listener Q & A episode - https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/
    Dr Betty Martin's Links
    Dr Martin's Website - https://bettymartin.org/
    Wheel of Consent Book Website - https://wheelofconsentbook.com/ Grab a free chapter!
    Themes and Keywords
    Dr. Betty Martin, sacred intimate, surrogate partner, safety concerns, wheel of consent, workshops for sexuality professionals, boundaries, limits, physical intimacy, non-sexual touch, cuddling, making out, sexual acts, pleasure, intimacy, body positivity, somatic sex educator, communication, asking for what you want, past conditioning, verbalizing desires, challenges, transitions, eroticism, vulnerability, integrity.


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    • 48 min
    079: Listener Q & A: Husband's Porn Use, Gangbang Gone Wrong and Boyfriend's Weird Sex Behavior

    079: Listener Q & A: Husband's Porn Use, Gangbang Gone Wrong and Boyfriend's Weird Sex Behavior

    Enjoy this episode of wild audience questions (and I have more we didn't even get to!)
    A husband dealing with disability turns to porn and his wife wants to know how to handle it.A husband who isn't getting any at home tries to join a gangbang . . . but it doesn't go according to plan.She loves her boyfriend, but he's got some odd behavior when it comes to sex and she wants some help navigating his surprising behavior.
    Want to submit a question to be featured on our next Listener Q & A episode?
    Leave a voice message at https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast. You can even use a fake name!Write-in a totally anonymous message at https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/
    P.S. Sorry for the late release time of this episode--we had a problem with the editors and had to switch last minute! If you are an experienced audio/video editor and want to take over production of this show, email Heather at HeatherShannonLCPC@gmail.com ASAP!


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    • 23 min
    078: Exploring Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia De Vine

    078: Exploring Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia De Vine

    🔥 Ever wondered what’s behind your deepest sexual fantasies? This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, Artemisia De Vine joins Heather to chat about erotic fantasies. Artemisia, with her extensive background as a professional dominatrix and sex worker, helps us understand when it feels safe to explore fantasies by getting past our own internal protectors. It’s about finding that balance between the taboo and what feels acceptable to us. Tune in and learn how you can make your fantasies a reality!
    👂 What you'll learn:
    - The psychological underpinnings of common sexual fantasies
    - How exploring these desires can lead to profound states of consciousness
    - The importance of the ego and desire in shaping our erotic experiences
    - Strategies to embrace and integrate your fantasies for healthier intimacy
    - Artemisia's unique perspective on overcoming societal guilt and shame linked to sexual preferences
    Timestamps for some of the key moments in our conversation:
    01:45 - Artemisia Divine's unique introduction to the world of sexual fantasy08:34 - Overcoming societal and religious impact on sexuality15:22 - The vital role of presence and psychological understanding in sexual experiences23:50 - Decoding the complex symbolism of personal sexual fantasies29:18 - Combining fear and desire within fantasies to achieve balance37:55 - The transformative potential of sexual fantasies in relationships42:44 - The intricate workings of Artemisia's "Divinery Method"51:22 - Emotional aftershocks: Navigating arousal and shame58:17 - Dissecting cuckolding fantasies: Importance of the "antidote"67:00 - The connection between sexual fantasy and spiritual journey

    🎧 Don't miss this enlightening exploration into the complexity of human desire - press play now!.

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    https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 
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    • 49 min
    077: How to Orgasm More--or for the First Time!

    077: How to Orgasm More--or for the First Time!

    🎉 Learn about Expanded Orgasm with this free guide! 👉 Expand Her Orgasm Tonight (2.0)
    Ready to unlock the secrets to more and better orgasms? 🎉 This week on "Ask a Sex Therapist," we're tackling one of your favorite topics—orgasms! Whether you're chasing your very first climax or looking to make those peaks a more common part of your bedroom repertoire, this episode has something for you. Join Heather Shannon as she explores everything from breaking mental barriers to practical tips for heightened pleasure, all with her signature blend of humor and expertise. Don't miss out on these game-changing insights!
    What you’ll learn in this episode:
    - 🧠 The mental blocks that might be killing your vibe and how to overcome them.
    - ✨ How different sensations could dramatically change your sexual experiences.
    - 🔄 The importance of security and attachment in improving your orgasm frequency.
    - 🔍 Masturbation tips and why knowing your body is crucial.
    - 🚀 Techniques to boost orgasm probability if you already enjoy them but want more.

    Tap in to discover the secrets to a sensational sex life. Grab your headphones and listen today! 🎧👉

    GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!)
    https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit
    APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION COACHING PROGRAM 
    https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page 
    HEATHER’S WEBSITE
    https://HeatherShannon.co
    ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM 
    https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel to weigh in on future topics!)
    HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) 
    https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 
    YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 
    https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

    EPISODE LINKS
    Ep 5 The Clitoris - Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 005 The Clitoris on Apple PodcastsEp 22 The Orgasm Gap - ‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 022 The Orgasm Gap with Dr. Laurie Mintz on Apple PodcastsEp 48 The Magic of Masturbation - ‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 048: The Magic of Masturbation: More Presence, More Pleasure on Apple PodcastsEp 56 Female Arousal with Susan Bratton - Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 056: Female Arousal with Susan Bratton on Apple Podcasts


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    • 26 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
153 Ratings

153 Ratings

Symphonix ,

Great stuff!

Shannon shares about being vulnerable and it struck me how vulnerable she has had to be in order to create this podcast. It challenges me to put myself out there and risk.

linssul ,

Thoughtfully done for a sensitive subject!

As a new listener, I appreciate Heather’s candid approach to sharing her own story that’s informed with her work as a therapist. Listening to this show has made a delicate subject much more approachable!

RussReynolds ,

Very informative

I like how she gives examples from all perspectives of the interpersonal relationships

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