18 episodes

Support, validation, facts, and effective skills to break free and move beyond narcissistic abuse. Hosted by Certified Trauma-Informed Master CBT/DBT Life Coach, Best Selling Author, and Advocate for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse - Carmen Sakurai

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Choose YOU! Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse Carmen Sakurai, BS Psy, Cert. CBT Coach

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Support, validation, facts, and effective skills to break free and move beyond narcissistic abuse. Hosted by Certified Trauma-Informed Master CBT/DBT Life Coach, Best Selling Author, and Advocate for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse - Carmen Sakurai

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    Choose You #17: Surviving Quarantine With a Narcissist

    Choose You #17: Surviving Quarantine With a Narcissist

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    We're Talking About:
    I’ll give you some coping strategies to help survive COVID 19 lock down while living with a narcissist or other toxic people
    Tools & Resources from This Episode:
    * Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/
    * No Contact guide https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/
    * Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/
    * Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/
    National Domestic Violence Hotline
    * Website https://www.thehotline.org/help/
    * Phone: 1-800-799-7233
    * Chat: https://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/
    * My Plan App: https://www.myplanapp.org/home
    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
    📺 NEW! Video Response Mini-Coaching
    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!
    https://carmensakurai.com/video-coach
    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources
    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.
    https://carmensakurai.com
    💌 Was this Show Helpful?
    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!
    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!
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    • 13 min
    Choose You #16: Surviving Self Isolation During COVID-19

    Choose You #16: Surviving Self Isolation During COVID-19

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    We're Talking About:
    * Strategies to help survive the COVID 19 self isolation, while taking care of your mental and emotional health.
    Tools & Resources from This Episode:
    * Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/
    * No Contact guide: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/
    * Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/
    * Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/
    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching
    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!
    https://carmensakurai.com/video-coach
    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources
    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.
    https://carmensakurai.com/
    💌 Was this Show Helpful?
    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!
    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!
    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe


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    • 11 min
    Choose You #15: Should I Feel Sorry for the Narcissist?

    Choose You #15: Should I Feel Sorry for the Narcissist?

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    We're Talking About:
    * I'm frequently asked by survivors if instead of going no contact, they should try and understand the hows and whys the narcissist in their life became that way... and if they should stick around to give the narcissist the love, compassion, and patience they seem to lack in their lives.
    Tools & Resources from This Episode:
    * Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List
    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching
    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!
    https://carmensakurai.com/video-coach
    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources
    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.
    https://carmensakurai.com
    💌 Was this Show Helpful?
    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!
    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!
    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe


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    • 4 min
    Choose You #14: Victim Blaming, Re-Traumatization, and 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs

    Choose You #14: Victim Blaming, Re-Traumatization, and 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs

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    We're Talking About:
    * I will be addressing some important issues regarding victim shaming and victim blaming, and how those who are not familiar with NPD abuse inadvertently re-traumatize survivors.
    * 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs
    * And more…
    Tools & Resources from This Episode:
    * Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List
    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching
    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!
    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice
    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources
    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.
    https://carmensakurai.com
    💌 Was this Show Helpful?
    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!
    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe


    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 9 min
    Choose You #13: Symptoms of NPD Abuse and Common Characteristics of Abuse Victims

    Choose You #13: Symptoms of NPD Abuse and Common Characteristics of Abuse Victims

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    We're Talking About:
    * Quick review of what Cognitive Dissonance is
    * 8 of the most common damages caused by narcissists
    * 12 common characteristics of NPD abuse victims
    * ... and more
    Tools & Resources from This Episode:
    * Grab Your Worksheet
    THIS WORKSHEET INCLUDES…
    * Damages Caused by Narcissists
    * Common Characteristics of Victims of Narcissistic Abuse
    * A Printout to Remind You that YOU are the Source of Your Love, Strength, and Identity… not the narc.
    * Carmen’s 20-Month Long Distance Relationship with a Narcissist
    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching
    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!
    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice
    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources
    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.
    https://carmensakurai.com
    💌 Was this Show Helpful?
    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!
    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!
    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe


    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 10 min
    Choose You #12: Tips for Dealing with Narcissists in the Workplace

    Choose You #12: Tips for Dealing with Narcissists in the Workplace

    Download on iTunes
    We're Talking About:
    * I'll be covering some strategies to help working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable
    * What a narcissistic boss or coworker looks like
    * 10 tips to help make working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable
    * When you should call it "quits"
    * ... and more
    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching
    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!
    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice
    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources
    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.
    https://carmensakurai.com
    💌 Was this Show Helpful?
    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!
    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!
    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe


    Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 11 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
62 Ratings

62 Ratings

Elle Em Esse ,

Thank you so much!

This podcast has changed my life. Thank you so much!! I listened to every episode 2-3x. I listened to the whole pod in one night the first time. Awesome stuff. Helped me tremendously. Thanks again!!!!

refocus today! ,

GOOD ADVICE!

If you have a narc ANYWHERE in you life, listen ASAP to every single one of these segments.

meatballs78 ,

The BEST

This podcast did more for me than a thousand conversations with friends and therapists. Thank you!

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