17 episodes

Powerful strategies and effective skills to break free and move beyond narcissistic abuse. Hosted by Certified Life Strategist, Cognitive & Dialectical Behavior Coach, Best Selling Author, and Advocate for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse - Carmen Sakurai

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Choose You! Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse Carmen Sakurai, BS Psy, Cert. CBT Coach

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Powerful strategies and effective skills to break free and move beyond narcissistic abuse. Hosted by Certified Life Strategist, Cognitive & Dialectical Behavior Coach, Best Selling Author, and Advocate for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse - Carmen Sakurai

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    Choose You #17: Surviving Quarantine With a Narcissist

    Choose You #17: Surviving Quarantine With a Narcissist

    Download on iTunes or listen on Spotify

    We're Talking About:

    I’ll give you some coping strategies to help survive COVID 19 lock down while living with a narcissist or other toxic people

    Tools & Resources from This Episode:

    Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/

    No Contact guide https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/

    Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/

    Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/

    National Domestic Violence Hotline

    Website https://www.thehotline.org/help/

    Phone: 1-800-799-7233

    Chat: https://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/

    My Plan App: https://www.myplanapp.org/home

    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

    ☕ Dig This Episode?

    You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!

    Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹

    https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee

    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

    https://npd.carmensakurai.com/

    💌 Was this Show Helpful?

    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!

    Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 13 min
    Choose You #16: Surviving Self Isolation During COVID-19

    Choose You #16: Surviving Self Isolation During COVID-19

    Download on iTunes or listen on Spotify

    We're Talking About:

    Strategies to help survive the COVID 19 self isolation, while taking care of your mental and emotional health.

    Tools & Resources from This Episode:

    Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/

    No Contact guide: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/

    Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/

    Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/

    Text chat: carmensakurai.com/textcoach

    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

    ☕ Dig This Episode?

    You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!

    Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹

    https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee

    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

    https://npd.carmensakurai.com/

    💌 Was this Show Helpful?

    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!

    Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 11 min
    Choose You #15: Should I Feel Sorry for the Narcissist?

    Choose You #15: Should I Feel Sorry for the Narcissist?

    Download on iTunes or listen on Spotify

    We're Talking About:

    I'm frequently asked by survivors if instead of going no contact, they should try and understand the hows and whys the narcissist in their life became that way... and if they should stick around to give the narcissist the love, compassion, and patience they seem to lack in their lives.

    Tools & Resources from This Episode:

    Private Facebook Group and/or Weekly Zoom Meeting Interest Survey - Cast your vote! (https://carmensakurai.com/cy-survey)

    Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List (https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup)

    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

    ☕ Dig This Episode?

    You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!

    Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹

    https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee

    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

    https://npd.carmensakurai.com/

    💌 Was this Show Helpful?

    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!

    Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 4 min
    Choose You #14: Victim Blaming, Re-Traumatization, and 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs

    Choose You #14: Victim Blaming, Re-Traumatization, and 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs

    Download on iTunes or listen on Spotify

    We're Talking About:

    I will be addressing some important issues regarding victim shaming and victim blaming, and how those who are not familiar with NPD abuse inadvertently re-traumatize survivors.

    4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs

    And more…

    Tools & Resources from This Episode:

    Private Facebook Group and/or Weekly Zoom Meeting Interest Survey - Cast your vote! (https://carmensakurai.com/cy-survey)

    Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List (https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup)

    Permission To Thrive (My blog on Psych Central): https://blogs.psychcentral.com/permission-to-thrive/

    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

    ☕ Dig This Episode?

    You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!

    Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹

    https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee

    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

    https://npd.carmensakurai.com/

    💌 Was this Show Helpful?

    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!

    Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 35 sec
    Choose You #11: The Narcissistic Mother

    Choose You #11: The Narcissistic Mother

    Download on iTunes or listen on Spotify

    We're Talking About:

    I'll be going into depth about the narcissistic mother - the scariest and most harmful of all personalities.

    A mother's role in shaping us as individuals and how we fit into the world.

    9 ways narcissistic mothers abuse their children - with explanations and stories from survivors.

    NOTE: The assistance of a professional and knowledgeable therapist, counselor, or coach to help you effectively progress through your healing and recovery... especially if you are working through childhood trauma, is strongly advised.

    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

    ☕ Dig This Episode?

    You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!

    Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹

    https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee

    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

    https://npd.carmensakurai.com/

    💌 Was this Show Helpful?

    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!

    Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 39 min
    Choose You #13: Symptoms of NPD Abuse and Common Characteristics of Abuse Victims

    Choose You #13: Symptoms of NPD Abuse and Common Characteristics of Abuse Victims

    Download on iTunes or listen on Spotify

    We're Talking About:

    Quick review of what Cognitive Dissonance is

    8 of the most common damages caused by narcissists

    12 common characteristics of NPD abuse victims

    ... and more

    Tools & Resources from This Episode:

    Grab Your Worksheet

    THIS WORKSHEET INCLUDES…

    Damages Caused by Narcissists

    Common Characteristics of Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

    A Printout to Remind You that YOU are the Source of Your Love, Strength, and Identity… not the narc.

    Carmen’s 20-Month Long Distance Relationship with a Narcissist

    If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

    ☕ Dig This Episode?

    You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!

    Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹

    https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee

    📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

    Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

    https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

    📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

    After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

    https://npd.carmensakurai.com/

    💌 Was this Show Helpful?

    Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

    Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!

    Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    • 10 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
58 Ratings

58 Ratings

Elle Em Esse ,

Thank you so much!

This podcast has changed my life. Thank you so much!! I listened to every episode 2-3x. I listened to the whole pod in one night the first time. Awesome stuff. Helped me tremendously. Thanks again!!!!

refocus today! ,

GOOD ADVICE!

If you have a narc ANYWHERE in you life, listen ASAP to every single one of these segments.

meatballs78 ,

The BEST

This podcast did more for me than a thousand conversations with friends and therapists. Thank you!

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