Cults and the Culting of America

Daniella Claire Mestyanek Young and Scot Loyd
Cults and the Culting of America

Daniella Mestyanek Young is a captivating figure in the study of cults and group psychology. Raised in the notorious Children of God cult, she escaped as a teenager and later joined the U.S. military, where she specialized in studying terrorists and other extreme groups as a military intelligence officer. Daniella holds a master's degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Harvard Extension School and is the author of "Uncultured," a critically acclaimed memoir. Today, she is a scholar of cults, extreme groups, and toxic leadership, leveraging her unique experiences to illuminate the dynamics of cults and the manipulative tactics of charismatic leaders. Together with fellow cult survivor Scot Loyd, Daniella delves into the intricacies of some of the world's most notorious cults and reveals how these same manipulative techniques are present in various aspects of our society.

  1. DEC 17

    Episode 21 | Spiritual Abuse and Single Family Cults

    In this episode, Dr. Jamie Marich discusses her experiences with spiritual abuse and the dynamics of cults, emphasizing the importance of understanding these issues in therapy. She shares her personal journey of growing up in a high-demand religious environment, the impact of family dynamics, and her path to recovery from addiction. The conversation highlights the significance of storytelling and community support in healing, as well as the role of writing as a therapeutic tool. Dr. Marich also addresses the challenges faced by individuals leaving cult-like environments and the need for mental health professionals to recognize and address spiritual abuse. Dr. Marich's Links:  Link to spiritual memoir writing course we discussed in the interview, Memoir Writing as Spiritual Practice starting January 14 bit.ly/3zbezeL   Link for purchase options on You Lied to Me About God: A Memoir https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/760810/you-lied-to-me-about-god-by-jamie-marich-phd/   Websites: www.jamiemarich.com www.redefinetherapy.com www.instituteforcreativemindfulness.com   Socials:  IG @drjamiem TT @traumatherapistrants Daniella's Links: You can read all about my story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/3V6GK6k / KnittingCultLady Instagram:  https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_  Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Scot's Links Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Takeaways Spiritual abuse is often overlooked in therapy. Cults use religion as a tool for control. Personal experiences can inform professional practice. Storytelling is a powerful healing tool. Community support is crucial for recovery. Addiction can stem from unprocessed trauma. High-demand religions can create toxic family dynamics. Writing can be a form of spiritual practice. Understanding cult dynamics helps in healing. There is a growing movement against high-demand religions. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Spiritual Insights 06:16 Understanding Cult Dynamics 12:30 The Impact of High-Control Groups 18:19 The Intersection of Religion and Mental Health 24:24 Finding Healing Through Connection 30:26 Concluding Thoughts on Healing and Growth 35:30 Navigating Academia and High Control Environments 44:35 Memoir as a Tool for Healing 53:06 Building Community and Resources for Healing Produced by Haley Phillips

    1h 1m
  2. DEC 10

    Episode 20 | Recovering from Purity Culture

    In this conversation, Maddie Jo Cowsert shares her journey from growing up in evangelical purity culture to navigating her identity and sexuality in New York City. She discusses the complexities of deconstruction, the impact of family support, and her reflections on wealth and the behavior of rich people. The dialogue highlights the shared experiences of those who have left high-control groups and the ongoing search for belonging and purpose. Daniella's Links: You can read all about my story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/3V6GK6k / KnittingCultLady Instagram:  https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_  Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Scot's Links Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Takeaways Purity culture instills a sense of identity centered around marriage. Moving to New York City can be a significant culture shock. Dating in a secular environment presents unique challenges for those raised in religious settings. Family support plays a crucial role in the deconstruction process. Wealth can create a disconnect in understanding real-life struggles. Rich people often face their own insecurities despite their wealth. Generosity among the wealthy can be genuine, but the system is flawed. The pressure to conform to societal expectations is pervasive in both religious and secular contexts. Deconstruction is often a slow and painful process of self-discovery. Finding a new identity after leaving a cult-like environment is a complex journey.  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture and Personal Background 03:29 The Spectrum of Religious Experiences 06:19 Cultural Shock: From Evangelicalism to New York City 09:12 Navigating Relationships and Sexuality 12:25 The Impact of New York's Dating Scene 15:21 Deconstructing Faith and Identity 18:30 The Role of Money and Prosperity in Religion 21:22 Social Dynamics and Group Behavior in Cults 24:22 The Internal Conflict of Leaving a Cult 27:14 The Journey of Rebuilding Identity 30:30 Conclusion: Humor and Healing in Deconstruction 31:07 Navigating Early Relationships and Cultural Expectations 32:49 The Impact of Purity Culture on Sexual Experiences 36:04 The Insidious Nature of Cultural Norms 37:28 Parallels in Trauma and Healing 39:34 Family Dynamics and Support in Deconstruction 42:23 Grieving the Loss of a Conditional Relationship with God 46:13 The Role of Education and Critical Thinking in Parenting 48:52 The Importance of Unconditional Love in Cult Recovery 51:35 Reevaluating Definitions of Love and Acceptance 53:32 Insights from Working with the Wealthy 59:27 The Cult of Capitalism and Its Implications

    1h 5m
  3. DEC 3

    Episode 19 | Hasidic Judaism

    In this episode of Cults and the Culting of America, Beatrice Weber shares her profound journey growing up in the Hasidic community, detailing the strict beliefs and practices that shaped her life. She discusses the impact of historical trauma on her community, the role of women, and her experiences with arranged marriage. Beatrice reflects on her decision to leave the community after years of confusion and struggle, and she now focuses on education reform for Jewish children. Her story is one of resilience, courage, and the ongoing quest for personal freedom and identity. Daniella's Links: You can read all about my story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/3V6GK6k / KnittingCultLady Instagram:  https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_  Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Scot's Links Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Takeaways Beatrice grew up in a high control group within the Hasidic community. Understanding cult dynamics helped Beatrice process her experiences. The Hasidic community has strict rules around gender roles and education. Historical trauma from the Holocaust influences the community's isolationist mindset. Women in the Hasidic community often feel like property in arranged marriages. Beatrice's marriage was abusive, leading her to seek therapy and support. Leaving the community was a complex decision, influenced by her children's well-being. Beatrice is now involved in education reform for Hasidic children. She emphasizes the importance of choice and individuality in her new life. Beatrice maintains a connection to her cultural roots while rejecting fundamentalism. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest 06:19 Understanding High Control Groups 15:59 Education and Control in the Hasidic Community 25:06 The First Night and Wedding Rituals 31:09 The Impact of Ceremonial Control 36:26 Navigating Marriage and Sexuality in Isolation 41:55 The Journey to Leaving an Abusive Marriage 47:23 Life After Leaving: Finding Purpose and Healing 55:05 Reconnecting with Faith and Spirituality Produced by Haley Phillips

    1 hr
  4. NOV 26

    Episode 18 | 1 to 1 cults (Narcassistic Abuse)

    In this conversation, Dr. Kerry McAvoy discusses her experiences with narcissistic abuse, the psychological implications of narcissism, and the societal impact of charismatic leaders. The discussion delves into the dynamics of cult-like behavior in politics, the challenges of cognitive dissonance, and the importance of personal identity and healing from toxic relationships. Dr. McAvoy shares insights on the spectrum of narcissism, the significance of vulnerability, and offers resources for those seeking to recover from abusive situations. Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Takeaways Narcissism can manifest in various forms, including in political leadership. Cognitive dissonance plays a significant role in justifying unhealthy relationships. Healing from toxic relationships requires self-discovery and understanding personal identity. Vulnerability is essential for authentic connections and relationships. Cults often exploit human desires for belonging and acceptance. The importance of setting boundaries in relationships cannot be overstated. Self-reflection is crucial in recognizing narcissistic traits within oneself. Healing is a process that involves learning to express emotions and needs. Understanding the dynamics of narcissism can help in recognizing abusive patterns. Resources such as podcasts and workbooks can aid in recovery from narcissistic abuse. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Context of the Conversation 06:13 Personal Experiences with Narcissism 17:00 Cognitive Dissonance and Justification 23:06 Narcissism as a Spectrum 29:14 Transactional Relationships and Echoism 36:49 The Illusion of Uniqueness in Cults 45:31 Overcoming Emotional Numbness and Building Boundaries 51:16 Learning to Coexist: Embracing Differences 56:16 Resources for Healing and Recovery Produced by: Haley Phillips

    1 hr
  5. NOV 19

    Episode 17: Is Alcoholics Anonymous Culty?!?!

    Summary In this conversation, the hosts and guest explore the dynamics of cults, particularly focusing on Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and its 12-step program. They discuss the coercive nature of these programs, the sacred status of AA, and the psychological impacts on individuals involved. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing the tactics used by cults, the role of shame and judgment, and the need for personal responsibility and accountability. The emotional toll of leaving such programs and the significance of language in shaping identity and recovery are also examined. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of recovery from addiction, discussing the various systems in place, including Alcoholics Anonymous and Christian recovery houses. They explore the intentions behind these systems, the potential for abuse, and the importance of understanding one's options. The discussion emphasizes the need for empowerment and autonomy in recovery, highlighting alternative methods and the significance of informed choices. Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women McCauley Sexton is a consultant and creator of proprietary alternative recovery programs and manualized content for institutions and non profits, with over a decade of lived experience. As the co-host of the recovery reform podcast with Dr.Nichols he addresses the stigma and indoctrination within the recovery community and our culture as a whole.    Website www.sextonspace.com    Social media @sextonspace    Email McCauley@sextonspace.com

    1h 12m
  6. NOV 12

    Episode 16: Voices Unbound--Cults, White Supremacy, and the Silencing of Women

    Summary In this episode, Scot Loyd, Daniella Mestyneck Young, and Ali Henney discuss the intersections of cult dynamics, white supremacy, and the silencing of women, particularly black women. They explore personal experiences within cults, the impact of group behavior, and the role of narcissism in community spaces. The conversation also delves into the concept of misogynoir and the unique challenges faced by black women in various contexts. The importance of using one's voice to advocate for justice and the complexities of identity and intersectionality are emphasized throughout the discussion. Takeaways Ali's book 'I Won't Shut Up' explores personal experiences and broader themes of racism. Cults often silence women and weaponize secrecy. White supremacy operates similarly to cult dynamics. Group behavior can be amplified in cult settings. Narcissists often infiltrate communities seeking vulnerable individuals. Religious groups can be breeding grounds for manipulative behavior. Misogynoir uniquely affects black women in various spaces. The 'skinny white woman' trope serves as a gatekeeper in many contexts. Understanding intersectionality is crucial for advocacy. Using one's voice is essential in combating injustice.   Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women

    1h 2m
5
out of 5
30 Ratings

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Daniella Mestyanek Young is a captivating figure in the study of cults and group psychology. Raised in the notorious Children of God cult, she escaped as a teenager and later joined the U.S. military, where she specialized in studying terrorists and other extreme groups as a military intelligence officer. Daniella holds a master's degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Harvard Extension School and is the author of "Uncultured," a critically acclaimed memoir. Today, she is a scholar of cults, extreme groups, and toxic leadership, leveraging her unique experiences to illuminate the dynamics of cults and the manipulative tactics of charismatic leaders. Together with fellow cult survivor Scot Loyd, Daniella delves into the intricacies of some of the world's most notorious cults and reveals how these same manipulative techniques are present in various aspects of our society.

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