Cults and the Culting of America

Daniella Claire Mestyanek Young and Scot Loyd
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Cults and the Culting of America

Daniella Mestyanek Young is a captivating figure in the study of cults and group psychology. Raised in the notorious Children of God cult, she escaped as a teenager and later joined the U.S. military, where she specialized in studying terrorists and other extreme groups as a military intelligence officer. Daniella holds a master's degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Harvard Extension School and is the author of "Uncultured," a critically acclaimed memoir. Today, she is a scholar of cults, extreme groups, and toxic leadership, leveraging her unique experiences to illuminate the dynamics of cults and the manipulative tactics of charismatic leaders. Together with fellow cult survivor Scot Loyd, Daniella delves into the intricacies of some of the world's most notorious cults and reveals how these same manipulative techniques are present in various aspects of our society.

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    Episode 16: Voices Unbound--Cults, White Supremacy, and the Silencing of Women

    Summary In this episode, Scot Loyd, Daniella Mestyneck Young, and Ali Henney discuss the intersections of cult dynamics, white supremacy, and the silencing of women, particularly black women. They explore personal experiences within cults, the impact of group behavior, and the role of narcissism in community spaces. The conversation also delves into the concept of misogynoir and the unique challenges faced by black women in various contexts. The importance of using one's voice to advocate for justice and the complexities of identity and intersectionality are emphasized throughout the discussion. Takeaways Ali's book 'I Won't Shut Up' explores personal experiences and broader themes of racism. Cults often silence women and weaponize secrecy. White supremacy operates similarly to cult dynamics. Group behavior can be amplified in cult settings. Narcissists often infiltrate communities seeking vulnerable individuals. Religious groups can be breeding grounds for manipulative behavior. Misogynoir uniquely affects black women in various spaces. The 'skinny white woman' trope serves as a gatekeeper in many contexts. Understanding intersectionality is crucial for advocacy. Using one's voice is essential in combating injustice.   Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women

    1h 2m

  2. OCT 29

    Episode 15: Leaving the Cult of MAGA

    Summary In this conversation, Scott Loyd and Daniella engage with Haley Griffith, who shares her transformative journey from supporting Donald Trump to embracing liberal values. The discussion delves into the psychological aspects of political allegiance, the complexities surrounding issues like abortion, and the dynamics of cult-like behavior in political movements. Haley reflects on her experiences, the influence of friendships, and the gradual realization of the need for nuanced perspectives in political discourse. In this conversation, the speakers discuss the complexities of voting, particularly in relation to marginalized communities and the binary nature of American politics. They explore the importance of humanizing those with differing political views, reflecting on events like January 6th and the need for compassion in political discourse. The discussion also touches on the potential for change in Texas and the cult-like dynamics of the two-party system, emphasizing the need for a pluralistic society that respects diverse beliefs. Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women

    1h 1m

  3. OCT 22

    Episode 14: Good Cult, Bad Cult

    Summary In this conversation, Scot Loyd and Daniella (KnittingCultLady) delve into the complexities of group dynamics, particularly focusing on the duality of groups as both beneficial and potentially harmful. They explore the societal fascination with cults, the nuances of labeling groups as 'good' or 'bad', and the inherent human need for belonging. Daniella shares insights from her experiences and research, emphasizing the importance of questioning group structures and the potential for exploitation within them. The discussion culminates in a list of ten commandments for creating healthy, functional groups that prioritize individual well-being over blind allegiance. From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women

    1h 3m

  4. OCT 15

    Episode 13: The Ends Justifies the Means

    Summary In this episode, Scott Loyd and Daniela Mestenec Young explore the complex dynamics of cult mentality, particularly focusing on the phrase 'the ends justify the means.' They discuss how this mentality manifests in various contexts, including military practices, religious cults, and societal norms. The conversation delves into the psychological manipulation involved in these systems, the dangers of binary thinking, and the importance of embracing uncertainty in life. Through personal anecdotes and broader cultural analysis, they highlight the need for critical thinking and the dangers of extremism.

    1h 5m

  5. OCT 1

    Episode 12: Breaking Free: The Emotional, Financial, and Psychological Costs of Leaving a Cult

    The conversation explores the concept of exit costs in cults, focusing on the United Pentecostal Church International and the Children of God. It discusses the high entrance costs, such as strict dress codes and behavioral expectations, and the financial costs of giving to the church. The conversation also delves into the psychological and emotional damage caused by cults, including the disengagement from skepticism and the fear of eternal damnation. The exit costs of leaving a cult are examined, including the loss of faith and the difficulty of rebuilding a new framework. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the lasting impacts of cults, such as social anxiety and the fear of judgment. In this conversation, Daniella and Scot discuss the mischaracterization of criticism and the all-or-nothing mentality within cults. They explore the concept of cognitive dissonance and how it plays into entrance and exit costs. They also examine the historical patterns of cults and the dangers of not deconstructing harmful ideologies. The conversation emphasizes the importance of deconstruction and the potential for finding joy and happiness on the other side.

    1h 1m

  6. SEP 24

    Episode 11: Free Will or Control? Film Director on Cults, 'Holy Water,' and the Battle for Authenticity

    Summary Lucas Moctezuma discusses his upcoming film 'Holy Water' which is inspired by cults and explores the concept of free will within a cult setting. The film is set in a jury room where the jury deliberates the guilt of a religious cult leader who incited a mass suicide. The jury debates whether the cult members had free will or if they were controlled and manipulated by the cult leader. The film also delves into the psychological perils faced by cult survivors and the concept of doctrine over person. Lucas shares that the film is influenced by his mother's experience in a religious community in the 1970s. The conversation explores the challenges of depicting cults in film and the balance between sensationalism and authenticity. They discuss the importance of finding a balance that resonates with both regular audiences and actual cult survivors. They also touch on the difficulty of helping someone leave a cult and the need for compassion and understanding. The conversation concludes with a discussion about the filmmaker's GoFundMe campaign to support the production of the movie.

    45 min

  7. SEP 17

    Episode 10: Nobody Wants to Work Hard Anymore (Exploitation of Labor)

    Summary The conversation explores the exploitation of labor in cults and its impact on individuals. It delves into the reasons why labor is at the center of cults, including the pursuit of power, financial gain, and the whitewashing of cult activities. The discussion also highlights the role of labor in high control religious groups and the manipulation of children to represent the group's ideals. The conversation expands to include the exploitation of labor in corporations and the systemic nature of labor exploitation in the United States. It concludes by examining the long-lasting effects of labor exploitation on individuals' mental and physical health. In this conversation, Daniella and Scot discuss the exploitation of labor and the pressure to constantly work. They explore how cults and other high-control groups use labor as a means of control and how this mindset is perpetuated in society. They also touch on the importance of self-care and the need to break free from the transactional nature of relationships. The conversation highlights the negative consequences of constant labor and the importance of setting healthy boundaries.   Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women   Takeaways Cults often exploit labor as a means of gaining power and financial resources. Children are particularly vulnerable to labor exploitation in cults and high control religious groups. Labor exploitation is not limited to religious organizations and can also occur in corporations. The systemic exploitation of labor has long-lasting effects on individuals' mental and physical health. Cults and high-control groups use labor as a means of control and exploitation. Society perpetuates the idea that constant work and productivity are necessary for success. Self-care and setting healthy boundaries are essential for mental and emotional well-being. The transactional nature of relationships can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction. The pressure to constantly work and achieve can result in burnout and negative health consequences.

    1h 2m

  8. SEP 10

    Episode 9: We Are the Best, Down with All the Rest (Us versus Them Mentality

    Summary In this conversation, Daniella and Scot discuss various topics including Daniella's recent trip to Portugal, the us versus them mentality, and the experience of visiting a nude beach. They explore the influence of group norms and how they shape our behavior and perceptions. They also touch on the binary thinking prevalent in American culture and the need for more nuance. The conversation highlights the importance of representation and diversity in leadership roles and challenges the traditional gender roles and expectations. The conversation explores the themes of us versus them mentality, appearance control, and the use of familial language in high control groups. It delves into the experiences of women in the military and the challenges they face in fitting in and being accepted. The conversation also touches on the topic of trans identity and the misconception that it is a cult. The importance of understanding and respecting individual identities and experiences is emphasized. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the dangers of us versus them mentality and the need for open-mindedness and acceptance. Daniella Mestyanek Young's book: ·       From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Connect with Scot Loyd's social media  (TikTok) Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women

    1h 9m
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Daniella Mestyanek Young is a captivating figure in the study of cults and group psychology. Raised in the notorious Children of God cult, she escaped as a teenager and later joined the U.S. military, where she specialized in studying terrorists and other extreme groups as a military intelligence officer. Daniella holds a master's degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Harvard Extension School and is the author of "Uncultured," a critically acclaimed memoir. Today, she is a scholar of cults, extreme groups, and toxic leadership, leveraging her unique experiences to illuminate the dynamics of cults and the manipulative tactics of charismatic leaders. Together with fellow cult survivor Scot Loyd, Daniella delves into the intricacies of some of the world's most notorious cults and reveals how these same manipulative techniques are present in various aspects of our society.

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