Even Me Dr. Cherlisa Jackson

This episode is for you if you have scars or wounds from childhood that have been hard to release and impact things or people in your daily routine. This episode is also for you if you feel people owe you obedience in romantic relationships, and not getting your way results in emotional tantrums. Are you doing a good job protecting your inner child, letting them know you are a safe space to process and heal? Are you a good example to lead yourself through unexplored healing or compartmentalized hurt? Have you confronted the emotional injuries caused by those you trusted and used that pain to help re-parent you where needed? Let's address these questions together!

Did you know that accountability and responsibility are not the same? One is a personal response to what happens, and the other is about task orientation. Because they are different, yet both equivalent to progress, avoiding or lacking either can cause devastating outcomes and create burnout. This episode is for you if it has been tough getting motivated or maintaining discipline, especially if you misunderstand (or are unsure about) your role in life or why you stack your to-do list. This episode is also for you if you are trying to unlearn how to minimize feeling insulted or offended by constructive criticism or when perfectionism is not achieved.

Receiving what we give is not the goal. This goal is positioning ourselves with people and things that can return what we provide equivalently. Every interaction has an opportunity to have your cup filled. Filling a void that is triggered by unmet needs and trauma is not the same as filling your cup. If you have started tolerating not having that cup filled, this episode is for you! If you continue to engage in romantic relationships, sexual activity, gender norms, parenting, and communication without receiving your efforts returned or even acknowledged, this episode is also for you!

Do you feel safe in emotional connections? Have you been stuck at an age when you experienced the trauma of separation or abandonment? Are you codependent on familiarity? How do you prevent regret from turning into resentment without grieving what you cannot control? This episode is for you if you have ever identified with being codependent or have a loved one who you feel might struggle with codependent behaviors. This episode is also for you if your hyper-independence is a trauma response to people-pleasing.

This episode is for you if you are an overthinker. This episode is also for you if you allow scenarios outside of your control to live rent-free in your mind. The minute that wounds are identified, we have a responsibility to cleanse them and understand how to grieve without consistently compartmentalizing the hurt. If you are often trying to "pray it away" or hoping that time itself will help you forget about a wound that feels uncomfortable to address, this episode found you for a reason.

Have you ever understood love bombing to be a form of anxiety? We most commonly understand this definition in conversations about narcissistic behaviors, yet the more we learn about our own relationship expectations, upbringing, and inability to be emotionally available, we may start to learn that the capacity to love bomb others is within us all. We often miss that grand gestures within days of meeting or a constant need to be in contact are both common gateways to love bombing. This episode is for you if you become anxious at the thought of being selected by others or to receive external validation to feel valued and secure. This episode is also for you if you frequently speed through the "getting to know you" space at the beginning or throughout connecting as a testament to not wasting your time.