the virgin & the bees Zareena Evelina

What are some common dating dealbreakers? Signs of a toxic and/or abusive relationship? How do you know whether to commit to a relationship or let go of it?

These are some core questions this episode revolves around and my ~attempt~ to answer them with help from some of the sources listed below :)



**Domestic Violence Hotline/Resources: www.thehotline.org**

Dealbreakers research study:  ⁠https://phys.org/news/2022-03-partners-relationship-dealbreakers.html⁠

When Is It Time to Leave a Relationship? (blog post by a LCSW): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/staying-sane-inside-insanity/202205/when-is-it-time-leave-relationship

Toxic/Abusive Relationships

https://www.berkeleywellbeing.com/toxic-relationships.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/addiction-and-recovery/202103/what-is-toxic-relationship

https://www.healthline.com/health/toxic-relationship 

https://www.verywellmind.com/toxic-relationships-4174665 

https://au.reachout.com/articles/signs-of-an-abusive-relationship

It's a big question! To get started, I polled listeners via the pod's Instagram asking what they think is key to healthy relationships. I share their answers in this episode, as well as discuss a healthy relationship model from world-renowned psychologists and researchers, the Gottmans.



Check us out on IG :) @thevirginandthebeespodcast



RESOURCES:

The Gottman Institute & The Sound House Relationship Model: https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/

Sharing Fondness & Admiration: https://www.gottman.com/blog/share-fondness-and-admiration/ 

Turning Towards Bids: https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/

Managing Conflict: https://www.gottman.com/blog/managing-vs-resolving-conflict-relationships-blueprints-success/

Positive Perspective: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-sound-relationship-house-the-positive-perspective/ 

Shared Meaning: https://www.gottman.com/blog/shared-meaning-is-key-to-a-successful-relationship/

Hello lovely bees! This month's episode is about ~being perceived~ and how social media and the pandemic have impacted the way we view our bodies.

Thanks for tuning in and keep on buzzing!

 We're back with Part 2 of our revisit of (500) Days of Summer.

This time, guest Sophia and I discuss:


how (and even if) the characters grow throughout the film 
our thoughts on the film's take on love & rom-coms 
the manic pixie dream girl  
does Tom actually love Summer?
the villainization of people who want casual relationships 
the bench scene
the ending

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You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube.

Sophia's YouTube: youtu.be/Hk9l7ta2hgY

Sophia's plant IG & TikTok: @sophiasgreengarden

We're on the 'gram too! @thevirginandthebeespodcast.

Thanks for listening! Keep on buzzing 🐝

My childhood bestie Sophia and I revisit the thought-provoking movie (500) Days of Summer and discuss....   


the roadblocks in Summer & Tom's relationship
the problem with the "nice guy" trope & how toxic masculinity presents in Tom
situations in which we reminded ourselves of Tom
situations in which we felt like Summer
rejection (and some of our experiences with it, on both sides)
the best character of the whole film... Tom's little sister!

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You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube (channel name: Zareena Evelina).

Sophia's YouTube: youtu.be/Hk9l7ta2hgY

Sophia's plant IG & TikTok: @sophiasgreengarden

We're on the 'gram too! @thevirginandthebeespodcast.

Thanks for listening! Keep on buzzing 🐝

LINKS/RESOURCES

Letter to Congress template

More info on the effects of overturning Roe v Wade

Resources for those seeking abortion

Donation Funds & Action Item Resources

The Judiciary Act of 2021

More info on reasons for the impeachment of Clarence Thomas & more on the political history of Clarence and Ginni Thomas