Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently Lesa Koski

A New Journey: From Doing Divorce Different to Saddle Up Live
Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator and host of Doing Divorce Different, shares news of ending the podcast to embark on a new project, 'Saddle Up Live,' influenced by her recent breast cancer diagnosis with a 98% positive outcome. She expresses gratitude for early detection, discusses the impact of the diagnosis on her life, including the emotional journey. Lesa reflects on the support from her faith, the learning experience from hosting her podcast, and her excitement for the new direction with Saddle Up Live. She mentions her desire to continue helping people, especially women, through their challenges and encourages listeners to embrace every moment with strength and resilience. The announcement includes details about her divorce mediation resources still being available and ends with an expression of gratitude for her listeners and the encouragement to stay positive and tuned in for her next venture.

00:00 Welcome and a Big Announcement
01:01 Sharing Personal News: A Journey of Health and Faith
03:52 Introducing Saddle Up Live: A New Beginning
05:56 Reflections on Doing Divorce Different and Future Plans
12:07 Empowerment Through Divorce and Beyond
14:02 Gratitude and Looking Forward

Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. 
In this episode:
[3:58] What is one of the top stories that Lesa’s clients face?[7:28] Lesa discusses working through parenting concerns.[9:44] Lesa shares about emotional impact and how it can impact your divorce journey.[12:09] How can people handle the social stigma or the judgment around divorce?[14:10] Lesa talks about how she will give legal information in the upcoming workshop. [15:08] A huge dilemma that comes up is loneliness in divorce, how do you manage it? [18:52] Tracy describes her program, Self Made U.
Key Takeaways: 
[10:18] When you leave your feelings in the dark, you can’t heal. Acknowledging those feelings and bringing them to the light is the first step to being able to heal and find clarity and opportunities for what you are experiencing.[11:00] When you are operating from your prodigy brain, you are more likely to be able to look through the lens or find the perspective around gifts and opportunities. [17:00] Join Lesa and Tracy’s master class on April 25th from 9am-1pm in Minnesota to learn how to navigate the 7 most common dilemmas that Lesa has seen while being a divorce mediator. Learn strategies from both Lesa’s experience and Tracy’s coaching so you can better navigate the circumstances you are going through. 
Quotes: 
[10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can’t heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don’t have them or ignore them, they’re in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that’s the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski
[12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt
[15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it’s just something that you’re starting to recognize, but you’re still able to get through your day, you’re still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt 
Guest Bio: 
Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes.
Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching.
Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a

This episode of 'Doing Divorce Different' features a continuation of a discussion with coach Tracy about the transformative power of a specific planner available on Amazon. The conversation delves into the planner's structure, emphasizing the 'S E L F' acronym to guide daily introspection and intention-setting. Highlighting the necessity of confronting self-saboteur behaviors and leveraging personal strengths, this segment also introduces a free saboteur assessment available at selfmadeu.com. Beyond personal organization, the planner serves as a tool for self-discovery and empowerment, proving beneficial in various life scenarios including personal growth, business, and navigating divorce. The episode concludes with invitations to explore further resources for divorce support and personal empowerment.
00:00 Introduction to the Show
00:21 The Saddle Up Segment with Coach Tracy
00:30 The Power of a Planner
01:20 Understanding the SELF Method
02:13 Exploring the 'E' in SELF
03:14 Identifying Saboteur Narratives
14:49 Leveraging Your Strengths
19:17 Finishing with a Decision
21:22 Closing Remarks and Resources
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Hacking Happiness through Divorce with Penny Lacaso
In this episode of we welcome Penny Lacaso from Melbourne, Australia, to discuss how individuals facing or going through divorce can find happiness and empowerment. Penny, a happiness hacker and author of 'Hacking Happiness,' shares her personal journey, including her childhood experience with her parents' divorce and her own divorce after a long-term marriage. She emphasizes the significance of defining happiness on one's own terms and provides techniques for cultivating joy and self-compassion during challenging times like divorce. The conversation covers the importance of allowing oneself to feel a range of emotions, the power of small acts of kindness, and practical exercises to foster happiness, including the 'Three Good Things' practice recommended by positive psychology. Penny and Lesa also discuss the value of self-compassion and using challenging life events as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.
00:00 Introduction to the Show and Guest
01:45 Getting to Know Penny Lacaso
03:29 Penny's Personal Journey and the Concept of Happiness
06:55 Understanding Self and Discovering Personal Happiness
08:51 The Power of Self-Compassion and Overcoming Judgement
11:49 The Role of Choice in Happiness and Dealing with Negative Emotions
15:51 Practical Tips for Finding Joy and Happiness
31:14 Final Thoughts and Contact Information
32:18 Show Closing
Bio: Penny Lacaso is the first hapiness hacker on a quest to teach 10 million humans by 2025, how to flourish in life!
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In this episode of Doing Divorce Different Lesa Koski invites her favorite coach, Tracy, to talk about self-empowerment and self-coaching. They discuss the benefits of asking yourself the right questions for personal growth, tools for assessing individual feelings, and learning how to show up in situations. Their focus lies in maximizing life and recognizing the value in every experience. Tracy's book is highlighted, a day planner offering tools and daily self-coaching questions for self-improvement. Their conversation also dives deep into the importance of creating self-reliance, self-confidence, and self-trust, all through the way of practicing self-coaching daily.
00:01 Introduction and Welcome
00:25 Reintroducing the Favorite Coach
00:36 The Impact of Tracy's Tips
01:04 Introduction to the Self-Made Day Planner
01:30 How to Purchase and Use the Planner
01:52 Tracy's Input on the Planner
02:33 The Planner as a Self-Coaching Tool
05:21 The Importance of Self-Reflection
05:46 The Impact of the Planner on Daily Life
06:14 The Science of Learning and Self-Reflection
08:15 The Planner as a Tool for Self-Awareness
08:45 The Planner's Structure and Methodology
09:20 The Planner's Impact on Positive Thinking
11:49 The Planner's Role in Eliminating Self-Sabotage
17:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Doing Divorce Different: A Candid Conversation with Laila Aitken
In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator, engages in a conversational interview with guest Laila Aitken Ali, a divorce coach and founder of Split FYI. They discuss overcoming the fear and emotional challenges of divorce, the importance of self-empowerment and self-care, and ways to effectively compartmentalize problems during difficult times. Laila shares her personal journey of divorce and how it led her to mentor and help others going through similar experiences. She emphasizes on viewing divorce as a journey of self-discovery and clarity, and offers advice on maintaining a positive mindset and seeking support through community-based resources like Split FYI.
00:01 Introduction and Welcome
00:25 Meet the Guest: Laila Aitken Ali
01:57 The Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach
02:46 The Impact of Divorce on Self-Trust
03:46 The Role of a Divorce Coach
04:20 The Importance of Self-Care During Divorce
05:40 The Power of Mindset in Navigating Divorce
06:12 Steps to Alleviate Overwhelm During Divorce
07:17 The Power of Compartmentalizing During Divorce
09:51 The Importance of Self-Talk and Embracing Feelings
12:09 The Power of Positive Mindset and Self-Acknowledgement
22:04 The Role of a Love Book in Nurturing Self-Love
26:40 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Bio. Struck by her own 10-year-long experience with divorce, Laila was exhausted and thrown by the complexities and lack of consolidated information to help her close that chapter. She longed for a safe place to access emotional and organizational help, with professionals, resources, tools, and a warm community of those who already understand the situation. Over time, this sparked Laila to create Split.fyi to propel more people in her situation forward. Laila focuses on being a positive thinking partner to help educate and support others to create their own personal roadmap, navigate the tides, and reclaim their confidence and inner balance.
Laila is a mom, accredited mediator, certified CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and in the Better Apart Method, a global citizen, and hopes to inspire everyone to take agency over their lives by educating and supporting as many people as she can to rest, reclaim and rebirth before, during and after divorce, breakup or a major transition in their life.
For Divorce Support go to Lesakoski.com
Find Laila: https://splitfyi.com/about-us/
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