The Loving Truth

Sharon Pope
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As a Relationship Expert & Certified Master Life Coach, Sharon Pope has helped thousands of women gain the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their struggling marriages or move forward without regret. On The Loving Truth Podcast, she shares advice on how to navigate deep marriage hardships, challenging common beliefs about what love and relationships “should be” and providing realistic steps towards peace and happiness. If you can’t decide whether to stay or go in your marriage… you’re facing infidelity… you’re terrified of hurting your kids… you can’t bring yourself to leave your marriage, even though you want to… or you’re wondering whether it’s possible to respark the desire between you… tune in to the weekly episodes.

  1. Episode 195: Stay or Leave? The 2 Hidden Capacities That Make or Break Your Relationship

    4D AGO

    Episode 195: Stay or Leave? The 2 Hidden Capacities That Make or Break Your Relationship

    Are you doing all the right things in your relationship — but still nothing changes? In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we explore two often-overlooked forces that determine whether a relationship grows or quietly falls apart: endurance and self-honesty. Building on the foundational idea that strong relationships require emotional, relational, and growth capacity, we dive deeper into what sustains change over time.  Because having the right tools alone isn’t enough. What matters is your ability to stay in the work long enough for those tools to create real transformation. We unpack endurance capacity as the emotional stamina required to sit in discomfort, engage in hard conversations, and resist the urge to give up when progress feels slow. Many couples don’t fail because they lack love or skill. They fail because they expect change to happen too quickly and abandon the process prematurely. From there, we examine the deeper, more personal layer: self-honesty capacity. This is the ability to see yourself, your partner, and your relationship clearly, without distortion, blame, or avoidance. Without self-honesty, growth is nearly impossible. With it, everything changes. Key Takeaways: Why most couples give up too soon (and how to stop) What endurance really looks like in everyday relationship moments The hidden ways we avoid the truth and how it impacts our relationship How self-honesty creates clarity, growth, and emotional maturity The full “Marriage Capacity Framework” and how to apply it to your relationship If you’ve ever wondered whether to stay or go, this episode will help you see your relationship with greater clarity and intention.

    24 min
  2. Why Love Isn’t Enough — 3 Capacities That Make or Break a Relationship

    MAR 29

    Why Love Isn’t Enough — 3 Capacities That Make or Break a Relationship

    Most couples blame relationship struggles on communication issues. But what if that’s not the real problem? In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we’re unpacking a powerful (and often overlooked) truth: It’s not just about how you communicate. It’s about your capacity to stay open, connected, and willing to grow. Because here’s the reality: You can love someone deeply, and still feel disconnected, unheard, and stuck in the same patterns. Not because the love isn’t there. But because one (or both) of you may be hitting the limits of your capacity. We’ll break down the first three pillars of what I call the Marriage Capacity Framework:  ✔ Emotional Capacity: Staying open when things get difficult ✔ Relational Capacity: Expressing love in ways your partner can receive ✔ Growth Capacity: The willingness to evolve over time If you’ve ever wondered: “Why do we keep having the same disagreements?…this episode will give you a completely new lens and a starting point for real change. Listen to the full episode and ask yourself: “Which capacity might be limiting my relationship right now?” [00:00:18] — Why Sharon is changing her approach [00:02:00] — Introducing the Marriage Capacity Framework [00:06:00] — The 3 types of capacity every marriage needs [00:07:10] — Capacity #1: Emotional Capacity [00:13:29] — Sharon's personal story: high emotional capacity in action [00:18:00] — Capacity #2: Relational Capacity [00:20:13] — The slow drift: how couples stop meeting each other's needs [00:26:00] — Capacity #3: Growth Capacity [00:32:14] — Why capacity is the real reason marriages struggle

    34 min
  3. Two Daily Habits That Strengthen Your Marriage

    MAR 23

    Two Daily Habits That Strengthen Your Marriage

    When your relationship feels hard, staying grounded matters more than ever. We’re not entitled to a good relationship. If it’s good, it’s because we created it. In this episode, I share two simple habits that change how you show up. First: protect the first hour of your day. Start with yourself, not your phone, email, or the news. Build calm reserves through something that grounds you, like meditation, prayer, journaling, gratitude, breath work, and moving your body. Second: end your day on purpose with a wind down routine so you sleep better and stop running on fumes. When these routines become non negotiable, you build self respect and show up more intentionally in your marriage, even during the hard moments. Navigating menopause and midlife changes and your marriage feels more tense, distant, or disconnected? Start the Menopause mini course (https://sharonpope.com/menopause). In just a few sessions, you’ll get clear, practical tools to feel more grounded, communicate with more ease, and create more connection at home while you move through these changes in your body.

    15 min
  4. The Single Biggest Killer of Marriages

    MAR 16

    The Single Biggest Killer of Marriages

    Wonder what really destroys marriages? It isn’t an affair or money… it’s disconnection.  It builds slowly through a million little hurts, like laying bricks until there’s a wall we can’t see over.  When things are good, you notice the rumble strip and course-correct with time together, honest talk, and touch.  If you missed the rumble strip and you’re in the ditch, expect it to take patience and more than one date night.  Don’t throw the problem at your partner; say what you want instead of what’s missing.  “I miss us. I want to feel closer to you. Can we make time in the next couple weeks?”  This episode shows you how to reconnect with vulnerability and accountability, one small step at a time. Feeling deeply disconnected in your marriage and wondering whether it can be rebuilt or if it’s time to move on? Explore The Decision (https://clarityformymarriage.com/). Inside this membership, you’ll get the tools, guidance, and support to understand what’s really happening in your relationship so you can make the choice that feels right for you — and move forward with clarity, confidence, and peace.

    10 min
  5. When Work Stress Hurts Your Marriage

    MAR 9

    When Work Stress Hurts Your Marriage

    Stress doesn’t stay at work. It follows you home and seeps into your marriage. In this episode, I share a real example of a couple whose stressful roles were quietly creating impatience and distance between them. We explore a powerful exercise: identify the three things you truly need to feel fulfilled — no more than three — and protect what makes you come alive. When you recognize that you’re making a choice to stay in a stressful role, you move from resentment to empowered action. Sometimes you can’t change the circumstance, but you can change how you think about it and how you show up. And when you do, your life, and your relationship,begins to feel different. Thinking about ending your marriage and want to do it in a way that feels clear, calm, and intentional? Enroll in Divorce Differently (https://sharonpope.com/divorce). Inside this mini course, I’ll walk you step-by-step through how to move through separation with love and grace so you can protect your peace, your integrity, and the people you care about most.

    15 min
  6. Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

    MAR 3

    Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

    "Our triggers are our responsibility." Sharon Pope In this episode, I talk about that feeling of taking two steps forward and one step back in your relationship.  I explain why triggers are personal, often rooted in childhood, and why we have to own them. We can't control everyone around us, but we can change the meaning we give to their behavior.  Real listening and presence are rare right now. We can all build that muscle.  Healing happens when what used to trigger you no longer does, not when someone finally obeys.  Progress isn’t linear; this is life school, so be gentle with yourself and use setbacks as information.  When you heal a trigger, you don’t just step forward; you take a quantum leap. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session (https://clarityformymarriage.com) with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

    24 min
  7. Why We Wait for the Crisis

    FEB 24

    Why We Wait for the Crisis

    Change is something we all resist. It's uncomfortable, unknown, and goes against our basic human nature. In this episode, I explore why we tend to wait until our relationships are in total crisis before we’re willing to do the hard work of being vulnerable.  Drawing on back-of-the-mind wisdom from Esther Perel, I explain why we have less incentive to change when things are good, but far less creativity to change when things are bad. This "aspirin vs. vitamin" approach to marriage keeps us reactive instead of proactive. To truly shift your relationship, you have to start with yourself and find a reason big enough to get you off the couch. It’s about being intentional with connection and choosing to be loving rather than just waiting to feel loved. As I often say, "If you want something different, you have to do something different." Feeling overwhelmed by menopause, and noticing it’s affecting your marriage too? If you’re serious about feeling steadier in your body and more connected in your relationship, take the next step with my Menopause Mini Course. It’s short, practical, and designed to help you move out of overwhelm and into clarity. Start today at sharonpope.com/menopause (https://sharonpope.com/menopause).

    15 min
  8. The Two Relationship Tools You Need

    FEB 10

    The Two Relationship Tools You Need

    I’m sharing the two best, and least used, relationship tools I know. We didn’t get a class on this, so most of us are winging it. And no, I’m not teaching voodoo Jedi mind tricks to change your partner. This is about making it easier to be in relationship with you. The first tool is validating your partner’s experience, even when it’s different from yours. That builds trust and safety. Validation is not agreement. It’s simply, “I can see how you’d see it that way.” The second tool is taking 100% accountability for your thoughts, feelings, and actions. That’s where your power lives. As I say in the episode, “I almost got a tattoo that said, ‘It’s all me.’” Use these two tools and you’ll feel the shift, starting with you.

    14 min
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As a Relationship Expert & Certified Master Life Coach, Sharon Pope has helped thousands of women gain the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their struggling marriages or move forward without regret. On The Loving Truth Podcast, she shares advice on how to navigate deep marriage hardships, challenging common beliefs about what love and relationships “should be” and providing realistic steps towards peace and happiness. If you can’t decide whether to stay or go in your marriage… you’re facing infidelity… you’re terrified of hurting your kids… you can’t bring yourself to leave your marriage, even though you want to… or you’re wondering whether it’s possible to respark the desire between you… tune in to the weekly episodes.

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  • Creator
    Sharon Pope
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    201
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2025 The Loving Truth
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