Conversations from the Heart Yvette Erasmus

Having good boundaries is not the same as being violent, and enforcing rules is not coercion.In this week's episode, we unpack a professor's desire to limit coercion and violence in her classroom and her desire to create a tight container that supports and respects participant sharing.We consider:2:52 Can mandatory attendance be in line with nonviolence?10:52 How can I create a tight container nonviolently?11:46 Having good boundaries is not the same as being violent.— Thank...

It can be hard to enjoy work f you're in a power up/power down situation with a boss who consistently criticizes you.It is especially challenging if you don't trust the perspective that your supervisor has.In today's mini-episode, we discuss strategies for handling criticism at work in ways that build understanding and reduce tension. Although a clean and tidy resolution may not always be possible, it is an option to go to bat for yourself and your needs, while also actively listening t...

High self-esteem is important because it influences how individuals perceive themselves, interact with others, and navigate the world around them. By fostering healthy self-esteem, individuals can cultivate resilience, confidence, and well-being, laying the foundation for a fulfilling and satisfying life.When our self-esteem is lower than we'd like, there's one fool-proof way to bolster it: by resting in our own goodness. This week's podcast discusses some practical steps we c...

It can be really valuable to talk about the difference between anger and aggression.Although aggression can't exist outside of violence, anger can.This week's podcast discusses some of the wisdom that can present itself alongside anger, such as clarity surrounding needs, understanding regarding self-worth, insight around boundaries, and awareness concerning relational patterns.Interested in knowing more? We'll consider:1:30 Unpacking "I don't want to go to school today."8:30 Responding ...

These days, it can be so difficult to discuss politics and religion.Often, people tell me they just avoid those conversations. And honestly, I get it.However, if we're invested in co-creating a relationship with someone we care about, exploring places where we hold different opinions and beliefs can be exactly the place where we build intimacy.Looking for a roadmap on how to have conversations around different beliefs? Check this episode out!We'll discuss:1:17 I'm con...

This week's episode focuses on how to navigate complex family dynamics - especially when what has previously worked is no longer sustainable.A common theme on this week's podcast is the importance of checking for alignment. If we're aligned in our needs and our wishes, then designing strategies to meet our goals is easier.In question number one, a caller is rediscovering his sense of self and discovering the language needed in order to set new boundaries around old family dynamics. &nbs...