Finding Noble

Finding Noble
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Finding Noble

Join Carly Red, your host, and her co-host, the brilliant, gentle therapist, Dr. Kevin Skinner-- as together we all work to strengthen mental health-- through human connection-- in today’s growing youth. https://findingnoble.com/

  1. Understanding and Treating Real OCD with Berkeley Runia Paulsen (Part 2)

    APR 7

    Understanding and Treating Real OCD with Berkeley Runia Paulsen (Part 2)

    Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy. We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support. Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes. There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD. You and Us, We got this. Carly Red and Dr. Skinner Treatment Center Referenced: https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/ Book Referenced: https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2 Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast 01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD 03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers 08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions 13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life 25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope 27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy 27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities 28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained 30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD 32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy 33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD 36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies 39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help 50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD 55:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast⁠⁠ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

    29 min
  2. Understanding and Treating Real OCD with Berkeley Runia Paulsen (Part 1)

    APR 7

    Understanding and Treating Real OCD with Berkeley Runia Paulsen (Part 1)

    Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy. We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support. Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes. There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD. You and Us, We got this. Carly Red and Dr. Skinner Treatment Center Referenced: https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/ Book Referenced: https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2 Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast 01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD 03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers 08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions 13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life 25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope 27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy 27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities 28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained 30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD 32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy 33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD 36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies 39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help 50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD 55:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast⁠ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

    30 min
  3. "Ask a Therapist": How Do I Know if my Own Child is at Risk of Suicide? And is Prevention Possible?

    MAR 24

    "Ask a Therapist": How Do I Know if my Own Child is at Risk of Suicide? And is Prevention Possible?

    What are the 3 factors highly increasing your teen's risk of suicide? Is my child at risk? Do I really know my child? Do I know how my child sees themselves? Does my child really feel seen and like they belong here? In this episode, Dr. Skinner shares how suicidal thoughts are actually much more common than we might believe, noting that most people have momentarily entertained the thought. However, those at risk are typically individuals who align with these 3 factors: 1. I'm impulsive, 2. I feel I am in a crisis, 3. I have access. Hence, the unusually high risk of teen suicide. Studies show access to a gun or a form of poisoning likely through medical pills or substances, HIGHLY increases chances of a teen attempting suicide. Also, most teens attempt suicide under an hour of deciding. Our discussion also highlights the role we have as parents of creating and sustaining a warm home environment, drawing on the Grant Study to show how loving, deeply communicative relationships in childhood lead to longterm resilience, safety and belonging. The concept of "accompaniment" is introduced, illustrating how attuned parenting help children feel known and safe along their years of tender growth. Our conversation concludes with the importance of community support, kindness, education...... and these resources below. Support and Resources Mentioned in this Episode: My Life Is Worth Living Series: ⁠https://mylifeisworthliving.org/⁠ Parent Guidance Courses On Suicide: ⁠https://parentguidance.org/all-courses/ "How to Know a Person" by David Brooks: https://a.co/d/45LYFUD Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble 00:28 Special Edition: Suicide Awareness 02:36 Understanding Who is at Risk of Suicide  05:40 Warning Signs and Prevention 08:31 The Necessity for Vulnerable Dialogue 13:32 The Story Formation of Identity 17:43 Numbing Out of our Feelings 23:27 Loneliness, Trust, and Safety in our Closest Relationships 24:13 Understanding the Art of Connection 24:27 The Core Need to Be Seen 25:28 Reframing to See Oneself as Part of Whole– Belonging to the World 27:49 The Impact of Childhood Relationships– Grant Study 28:41 Warm Homes vs. Cold Homes 31:41 Eliminating Barriers and Realigning our Time with our Values 37:45 Generational Trauma and Cellular Memories 42:25 The Power of Accompaniment 47:54 Support for Families Facing Suicide Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

    50 min
  4. The Silent Killer of Your Teen’s Mental Health: Lack of Sleep. Why Sweet Dreams Make Happy Kids & Teens with Sleep Expert Dr. Jessica Meers

    MAR 10

    The Silent Killer of Your Teen’s Mental Health: Lack of Sleep. Why Sweet Dreams Make Happy Kids & Teens with Sleep Expert Dr. Jessica Meers

    Welcome to the sleep revolution. More than ever experts know how SLEEP defines the health of cognitive function, emotional regulation, social interaction... for everyone... but most especially teenagers! Sleep-deprived teens often struggle with moodiness, risky behaviors, relational skills and even academics due to being forced to operate on insufficient sleep.  The cascade of poor sleep can result in what Dr. Skinner refers to as "ego depletion," leaving teens incapable of functioning at their best, or even just adequately.  Are our teenagers being rebellious or lazy, or is there more to the story? Dr. Meers enlightens us on the biological changes that occur during adolescence, which can account for those infamous late nights and groggy mornings. Maybe their disengagement isn’t just teenage defiance— maybe our kids are exhausted! In this fascinating episode, renowned clinical psychologist and certified sleep medicine specialist, Dr. Jessica Meers, uncovers the hidden intricacies of sleep, focusing on the enigmatic and often elusive sleep patterns of teenagers—a topic more vital to their well-being than we might think. Join us to find out how better sleep for our kids and teens is possible, today on Finding Noble.  You and us, We got this. Carly Red & Dr. Skinner ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement 00:45 Dr. Jessica Meers' Background and Expertise 01:26 The Importance of Sleep for Mental Health 02:00 Challenges of Adolescent Sleep 03:18 Biological Changes in Teen Sleep Patterns 07:47 Impact of Sleep Deprivation on Teens 11:11 Solutions for Better Sleep 12:00 The Role of Consistency in Sleep 14:12 Advocating for Later School Start Times 15:40 Real-Life Examples of Sleep Deprivation 20:20 The Perfect Storm of Sleep Risks for Teens 23:15 The Connection Between Sleep and Health 24:53 Modeling Good Sleep Habits for Teens 26:04 Parenting Challenges: Screen Time Before Bed 26:41 The Science Behind Device Usage and Sleep 27:37 Balancing Screen Time and Sleep Quality 28:30 The Role of Anxiety in Sleep Patterns 31:23 The Benefits and Drawbacks of Napping 36:08 Caffeine vs. Napping: What's Better? 37:44 Understanding Individual Sleep Needs 41:54 The Importance of Early Sleep 43:46 When to Seek Professional Help for Sleep Issues 47:57 Final Thoughts and Resources for Better Sleep Link to freebie: Teen Sleep Survival Guide To find out more about Dr. Jessica Meers: -          Visit her website: rhythm-well.com -          Follow her on Instagram: shetalkssleep To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com Find expert-led parenting courses on: https://parentguidance.org/

    51 min
  5. “Ask a Therapist”: How to get your teen to talk, How to navigate a parent's addiction, & When parents can't quit battling with each other.

    FEB 24

    “Ask a Therapist”: How to get your teen to talk, How to navigate a parent's addiction, & When parents can't quit battling with each other.

    Today we are revisiting our fan favorite 'Ask a Therapist' format, where we tackle the most asked questions sent in from YOU parents. Join our real expert Q&A with Dr. Skinner-- over the primary dilemmas you too are likely facing right now as a parent. David Brooks once admitted, “I don’t really know of many happy marriages. I know a lot of marriages where parents love their kids.”    Dr. Skinner similarly acknowledges it’s hard to keep the garden of marriage nurtured.  It doesn’t water itself even if, or especially if,  you both are involved with your busy family life.  Furthermore, conflict in parenting styles can also lead to further detachment from your partner. However, vocalizing a focused and united purpose in your desire for your kids happiness and growth, can unite you as a couple and bring you closer despite occupying different approaches.  Dr. Skinner tackles how to get teens to open up! He says, “There are types of things and conversations that are not easy for us to have as parents and it's not easy for our children to have with us.  So sometimes that's an earned conversation.   It takes time to develop that kind of nurturing, that kind of interaction where again, the concept of all human connection is safety.   I have to feel safe enough in your presence that you're not going to X, Y, Z, that you're going to hear me, that you're going to listen, that you still care, that you're still going to love me. I  think we often hold back because we're afraid of being judged.   We're afraid that our parents are going to judge us. They need to know that we are with them and we want to help them. We care." The last question is a tough one– addressing family secrets, specifically hidden parental porn use. However, Dr. Skinner gives us a beautiful and hopeful response on how to address some of the weightier issues within our family relationships.  Stay tuned for the whole episode– It’s worth it!.  You and us-- We got this, Carly Red & Dr. Skinner 00:00 Introduction and Session Overview 01:05 Everyday Parenting Battles 05:44 Unified purpose in Parenting 14:14 Put Down Your Parenting Weapons then Talk 19:24 Nurturing a Marriage within Parenting 23:23 Nurturing Relationships: Beyond Autopilot 23:48 Breaking Down Teen Communication Barriers 25:48 Encouraging Open Dialogue with Teens 30:48 Balancing Control and Independence in Parenting 34:16 Addressing Sensitive Issues: A Child's Perspective 39:29 Handling Family Secrets with Compassion 44:03 Concluding Thoughts and Resources Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

    46 min
  6. “It’s really hard to parent when you're beating the crap out of yourself ” -- How to Model Healthy Self Talk AND how your inner voice & dialogue are impacting everything -- With Andrea Rowley

    FEB 10

    “It’s really hard to parent when you're beating the crap out of yourself ” -- How to Model Healthy Self Talk AND how your inner voice & dialogue are impacting everything -- With Andrea Rowley

    Do you ever wonder how that inner voice of yours is shaping your world and impacting your mental health, your body, your reality and especially your relationships?   Andrea Rowley (an expert in cognitive behavioral coaching and Chief Clinical Coach Officer at Noble Health) joins us this week to share how, "Our language is defining what we believe about ourselves." Andrea suggests considering questions like, "What am I missing?"  “Maybe there is more to this inner narrative outside of me, that I am not seeing?”  This shift away from yourself-centric mid brain, not only fosters a healthier self-relationship, but also activates the brain'sproblem-solving prefrontal cortex.  Dr. Skinner adds, "Curiosity is a huge factor here," encouraging listeners to replace our self-condemnation with curiosity and challenging our ingrained negative beliefs.  Asking ourselves and our children frequently: “How is your relationship with yourself?  How are you speaking to yourself?  How are you treating yourself?”  ….These questions can reframe our miscalculated and misguided ideas about our worth and especially recenter our own children’s sense of worth.  Small simple shifts to more positive and compassionate inner language can move mental mountains! We hope you will join us this week on Finding Noble! You and us-- We got this, Carly Red & Dr. Skinner Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Bio 02:02 The Power of Communication 04:36 Understanding Self Talk 06:10 Origins of Negative Self Talk 10:55 Transforming Negative Self Talk 17:32 Developing Self Compassion 23:49 Setting Boundaries and Self-Compassion 24:39 Creating New Neural Pathways 25:29 Parenting Without Self-Judgment 26:50 Handling Public Parenting Challenges 28:24 Visualizing Positive Self-Talk 29:14 Mindfulness and Self-Dialogue 29:37 Encouraging Positive Self-Talk in Children 30:36 Practical Tips for Positive Self-Talk 32:42 Challenging Negative Core Beliefs 35:37 Self-Compassion and Compassion for Others 39:50 Attuning to Children's Emotions 44:20 Reflective Listening with Children 46:27 Final Thoughts on Self-Talk and Mental Health Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast ⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast

    48 min
  7. From Fixed to Flexible: How a Growth Mindset Will Make All the Difference in Your Parenting and Your Family's View of Success

    JAN 28

    From Fixed to Flexible: How a Growth Mindset Will Make All the Difference in Your Parenting and Your Family's View of Success

    " It's easy for us to think, Oh man, why can't I do this? Am I not smart enough? Am I not intelligent enough? What's wrong with me? And because we are in a society where it's fast paced and it's quick, I mean, really, if you want information, you go, you get on the chat whatever and it's right there. You get it. The problem with that is most of the things that we experience in life require work, persistence, and effort." -Dr. Skinner In this episode, we discuss how cultural and societal factors so often condition a fixed mindset over a growth mindset. We talk about the liberating language of growth and the transformation from celebrating inherent traits or outcomes to celebrating effort--- And how that may just get us further than we even thought possible. We also emphasize how curiosity and asking questions.. basically being willing to look dumb...will actually pave and create the path we are hoping to find ourselves on. And perhaps most importantly, Dr. Skinner helps us understand how growth mindsets in relation to relationships can become a game changer. This one is a goodie. Hope you will join us this week! You and us, We got this. Carly Red & Dr. Skinner Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Growth Mindset 00:37 Understanding Fixed vs. Growth Mindset 02:24 Cultural Influences on Mindset 03:44 Personal Experiences with Growth Mindset 06:46 The Power of Effort and Persistence 08:47 Language and Mindset 11:15 Encouraging Growth Mindset in Children 17:58 Overcoming Challenges, Gain Confidence & Resilience 20:20 The Importance of Enjoying the Learning Process 22:10 Parental Influence and Mentorship 23:04 Overcoming Adversity and Developing a Growth Mindset 25:57 The Value of Effort and Purpose 27:35 Learning from Failure and Embracing Curiosity 34:37 Building Healthy Relationships with a Growth Mindset 39:16 Encouraging Growth in Ourselves and Others 40:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement ⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast

    42 min
  8. "Ask A Therapist": Screen Time, Lies, and Motivation. Expert Q&A with Dr. Skinner

    JAN 13

    "Ask A Therapist": Screen Time, Lies, and Motivation. Expert Q&A with Dr. Skinner

    Today we are using an 'Ask a Therapist' format, where we tackle the most asked questions sent in from YOU parents. Join our real Q& A-- over the primary dilemmas you too are likely facing right now as a parent. Today we respond on handling dishonesty, managing screen time, repairing strained parent-child relationships, fostering motivation in children, and more. " We want to have this conversation, 'I would rather you have a hard conversation with me than lie to me any day. And if you say, mom or dad, I don't agree, then let's talk about this. Let's do it together--' Because the outcome is so much better because they are a part of it rather than just being obedient.'" -Dr. Skinner We hope you find relief, hope, validation and some of the answers you are seeking. You and us, We got this. Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠ https://youtu.be/tfjU75zv8wo?feature=shared Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble 00:25 Ask a Therapist: Tackling Parent Questions 01:00 Screen Time Struggles: Real-Life Scenarios 01:59 Understanding the Impact of Screen Time 03:39 Effective Communication Strategies with Teens 04:38 Role-Playing Scenarios for Better Parenting 06:15 Balancing Work and Parenting 09:47 Repairing Parent-Teen Relationships 15:06 Navigating Teen Depression and Screen Time 19:50 Understanding Screen Time and Depression 20:56 Creating Alternative Experiences 21:58 Addressing Lying in Teenagers 22:59 Exploring Reasons Behind Lying 26:20 Teaching Integrity and Trust 29:08 Adjusting Parenting Approaches 34:18 Motivating Children Effectively 38:03 Concluding Thoughts and Resources ⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast

    39 min
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Join Carly Red, your host, and her co-host, the brilliant, gentle therapist, Dr. Kevin Skinner-- as together we all work to strengthen mental health-- through human connection-- in today’s growing youth. https://findingnoble.com/

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    2024 - 2025
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