Getting Past Survivor - Helen Brenner Helen Brenner
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Hi, I’m Helen Brenner, a certified NLP in Hypnosis Trauma Healing & Success Coach and a former Mental Health Counselor and founder of Getting Past Survivor where I’m a voice for the voiceless, standing with and for others who have experienced childhood sexual abuse.
Let's talk about the inner peace we feel when we've healed.
Let's also get geeky about the brain and the fascinating unconscious mind and how we find our healing there.
Join me to hear survivor stories, stories of healing and being healed, and learn about your brain from a new perspective!
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Listen to CSA Survivors
In this episode, I shine a spotlight on a critical message:
The significance of listening to survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
Join me as I emphasize the importance of providing survivors with a safe space to share their stories. By lending an empathetic ear and validating their experiences, we can help survivors heal and contribute to a more compassionate
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What Propels You?
This episode explores two mindsets: "go-getter" (enthusiastic and goal-oriented - moving towards) and "avoider" (cautious and problem-focused - moving away from). Let’s talk about the importance of language patterns in shaping our reality and encourage a balanced communication style that considers both pursuing goals and addressing challenges.
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Finding the Hidden Behind the Obvious
Over the last few years I had resolved so many things but didn't recognize that there was a part of me that was still needing to be addressed, cleared, resolved, loved, and that was my 7-8 year old who had to leave Belgium, had to leave the life where she finally had her first friends, first real relationships.
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Hope
What does hope mean to you? How does it show up in your life, in your healing journey? Do you have hope for yourself? I didn’t for a long time, even though I was determined to find it.
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Woobies
The Power of the Woobie
We don’t really know the power of stuffed animals and blankets and pacifiers when we first give them to our babies, but as babies are developing they are developing attachment to the objects around them and these woobies become much more than objects to babies. They’re comfort within that last a lifetime.
As we grow and age, those infant and toddler woobies change with us and all too often they turn into comfort that is more damaging than comforting. Especially when a person has been affected by trauma. What woobies are in your life?
Recognizing what these woobies are doing for you is key to understanding what you need in your healing life. -
Getting Past Survivor Actually Is The Destination
If you want to be different, you want your past to not affect you anymore. You want to be on the other side of Survivor. But the journey to get there can be overwhelming and scary and daunting.
People say it's not the destination, it's the journey. But when it comes to Getting Past Survivor, it truly is the destination.
My journey of Getting Past Survivor is where I had to go through the realizations, the things that I didn't want to really relive: pain, regrets. And while the destination was forefront of my mind, I want to reframe this to say that the journey of my healing taught me so much about who I am as a person and who I want to be on the other side of Survivor.
Now that I have healed from a significant amount of my past, I'm grateful for that journey. But I'm more grateful for the destination.
While the phrase, “It's not the destination, it’s the journey” is really good, just know that the journey doesn't have to feel great when the destination is amazing.
I encourage you to focus on the destination of healed that’s on the other side of survivor, while still finding joy in what the journey to get there will be doing for you along the way.
Because, for survivors of childhood sexual abuse and other childhood traumas, Getting Past Survivor actually is the destination.