169 episodes

You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.
Each week on How To!, Amanda Ripley (bestselling author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World) takes on listeners’ toughest problems and, with the help of experts, finds the answers to questions you’ve always wanted to ask, but couldn’t. Until now.

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You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.
Each week on How To!, Amanda Ripley (bestselling author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World) takes on listeners’ toughest problems and, with the help of experts, finds the answers to questions you’ve always wanted to ask, but couldn’t. Until now.

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    How To Be Yourself in an Interracial Relationship

    How To Be Yourself in an Interracial Relationship

    When Dana and Luke first started dating at the office they kept their relationship a secret. Most of their colleagues didn’t know they were a couple until they got engaged. They didn’t want any undue pressure or outside judgment. That’s because Dana is a proud Black, Ghanaian woman from central Florida and Luke is a white man from Kansas. Dana’s wondering how she can preserve her identity while they absorb each others’ family traditions. On this episode of How To!, guest host Hélène Biandudi Hofer brings on Karyn Langhorne Folan, author of Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out. All three discuss the struggles and joys in their respective interracial marriages. 
    If you want to learn more about Dana’s work, check out AfroLA. 
    If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Beat Your Hidden Biases.”
    Do you have a question without an answer? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.
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    • 37 min
    How To Pick a College (And Actually Afford It)

    How To Pick a College (And Actually Afford It)

    College application season is approaching fast—too fast—for 16-yr old Maya and her mother, Melissa. The problem? Maya has no idea where to go or what to study. It doesn’t help that there are thousands of schools to choose from, and little transparency about their true cost. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Ron Lieber, New York Times money columnist and author of The Price You Pay for College. He shows Maya how to narrow down the list of potential colleges by asking insightful questions of the schools and, ultimately, yourself. Then he talks to Melissa about how to pay for it without harming the rest of the family’s finances. 
    Ron’s questions for parents: 

    What do you remember your parent or parents saying to you the first time they talked about what college would cost and what, if anything, they would pay?

    Or if there was silence around the topic of paying for college, what did it speak?

    How much was your parent or your parents willing to pay for your education? How did you feel about that? 

    If your parents paid your way, is it possible that you should not feel obligated to do the same, given how much the world has changed?

    And if your parents paid nothing, have you asked yourself whether 15 years of extreme thrift starting now (or going deep into debt 15 years from now to pay for your child’s first-choice college) may not erase whatever pain lingers from that period long ago -- or may create new conflict with your spouse and kids?

    How much might you be willing to borrow -- or delay repayment of your own student loans?

    How long are you willing to delay retirement to meet this goal?


    If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Raise a Future College Athlete.” 
    Do you have a question without an answer? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.
    Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, and Kevin Bendis.  
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    • 38 min
    How To Make the Leap to Your Dream Job

    How To Make the Leap to Your Dream Job

    When Trish first started working in corporate recruiting, she had wonderful co-workers, a supportive manager, opportunities for growth—it was “bliss.” But the bliss evaporated in 2020 when she got laid off during the pandemic. She’s since found a different job in the same field, but also decided to try her hand at teaching pilates part-time. Now, after burning the candle at both ends, Trish is burned out and unsure of the best path forward. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Nathan and Susannah Furr, authors of The Upside of Uncertainty. They have some useful tools to help Trish—and all of us—find our footing in uncertain times. 
    If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Bounce Back From Burnout” and “How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job.”
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    • 39 min
    How To Have a Healthier News Diet

    How To Have a Healthier News Diet

    In the second of a two-part episode on reimagining the news we continue our conversation with Nicole Lewis, Senior Editor of Jurisprudence at Slate, and a longtime reporter on the criminal justice beat; and David Bornstein, co-founder/CEO of the Solutions Journalism Network, and former contributor to the New York Times’ Fixes column. The discussion picks up where we left off on how journalists can regain the trust of their audience, and how news consumers can find stories that inspire hope, agency and dignity — our democracy may depend on it.
    Resources: 
    https://trustingnews.org
    https://wearehearken.com
    https://results.org
    If you liked this episode, check out Part 1: “How To Unbreak the News”
    Do you have a burning question? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.
    Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, and Kevin Bendis.  
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    • 37 min
    How To Unbreak the News

    How To Unbreak the News

    About five or six years ago, host Amanda Ripley started noticing that her normal news diet left her feeling depleted and depressed. She tried mixing up her news habits, even avoiding it for awhile, but nothing helped. It felt like a shameful secret. Shouldn’t journalists love consuming the news? She began to wonder, is it me....or is it the news itself? On this episode of How To!, the first of two parts, we’ll hear from several of our listeners who feel the same way. We’ll also talk with Nicole Lewis, Senior Editor of Jurisprudence at Slate, and a longtime reporter on the criminal justice beat; and David Bornstein, co-founder/CEO of the Solutions Journalism Network, and former contributor to the New York Times’ Fixes column. Together they’ll discuss how the news became so broken, and how we can put it back together again. 
    Resources: 
    Solutions Story Tracker®
    Fear of Rampant Crime Is Derailing New York City’s Recovery by Fola Akinnibi and Raeedah Wahid
    I stopped reading the news. Is the problem me — or the product? by Amanda Ripley
    Do you have a burning question? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.
    Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, and Kevin Bendis.  
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    • 38 min
    How To Survive a Silent Retreat

    How To Survive a Silent Retreat

    When Clare decided on a resolution for the year, she was looking for a new challenge. Instead of running a marathon like her partner, Clare—who “talks for a living”—decided to go completely silent. She signed up for a silent retreat. But as it approached, she wondered how she could possibly go an entire week without speaking. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Daniel Thorson of the Monastic Academy in Vermont and host of the podcast, Emerge. Daniel has spent over a year of his life in silent meditation, including a 75 day silent retreat at the beginning of the pandemic. He says his first silent retreat was the worst experience of his life — just what Clare wanted to hear — but there’s a reason he kept going back.
    If you liked this episode, check out: How To Quiet the Chatter in Your Head and How To Sleep with Headspace’s Andy Puddicombe.  
    Do you have a burning question? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.
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    • 43 min

Customer Reviews

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1.8K Ratings

MetaCritic2025 ,

Hélène Biandudi Hofer star of show!

We absolutely loved the episode starring Hélène Biandudi Hofer. She’s like a breathe of fresh air. Very positive and intelligent. ❤️

LikeAGoodStory ,

Came Here for One Episode and Stayed for Hours

As I am a Girl Boner Radio listener (host August McLaughlin), I wanted to hear the interview with August and her co-author, Jamila Dawson regarding the recent book, With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationship. The episode on sexual consent with McLaughlin and Dawson was probably the best interview I have heard regarding the book, With Pleasure. I went on to listen to previous How To! episodes for the next four hours. I’m very selective with my podcast playlist, and this podcast is now among my regulars. Amanda Ripley can take the most tangled issue and separate the threads making for an informative yet entertaining episode every time. Hooray for How To!

August JoMc ,

Such a thoughtful, helpful show!

This podcast is so thoughtfully put together. I love the way they blend interviews with related research, all with practical tips in mind. Amanda is a fabulous host… I find her voice and kindness so encouraging.

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