ResistingBeta: The Men's Health Podcast Andrew Bontz

In this episode of Resisting Beta, host Andrew Bontz interviews Chase Chewning, a soldier turned health coach turned podcast host. Chase shares his unique perspective on purpose, endurance through adversity, and the evolution of identity. 
He opens up about the physical and mental trauma he endured in the military, and how he continually pushed forward in spite of major setbacks. 
Chase also discusses the importance of focusing on your core passions, not mimicking others, and surrounding yourself with a community of accountability. Tune in to hear Chase's inspiring story of resilience and deep insights into what it means to be a man.
 
Key Topics Covered:
Chase's purpose - to endure and be an example for others of overcoming adversity. He feels called to carry burdens and show others that more is possible through hardship.
The power of choice - we always have a choice in how we respond to circumstances. Choosing to move forward vs. settle.
The power of community - having at least one other person to hold you accountable and overlap goals with is crucial.
Shifting identity - letting go of labels and evolving as your purpose changes. Not settling into one static identity.
Having the courage to focus on what lights you up - Chase left his coaching business to focus solely on podcasting.
Taking tactical pauses - as men, we often react, but pausing to respond appropriately is key.
Don't mimic others' lives - do what works for YOU and your purpose. Test and stop mimicking.
 
Action Steps:
Test and stop mimicking others. Don't just replicate what other men are doing and expect the same results.
Keep mimicking behaviors/habits this week, but understand why you are doing them. Re-evaluate if they serve you.
Come back to your baseline. Take time to listen to your body and see what feels right for you.
See what works for you and what doesn't. Don't expect the same results as others.
Find the tactics that fit you best by testing different ones. Don't blindly copy someone else's approach.
Quotes:
"What got me here won't keep me here."
"Just because I have a system for this process...does not mean that it has served that system of process a year ago, five years ago."
"Take the next seven days, take whatever thing you want to take...and understand why you're doing it."
"I would even say that you didn't fail. You maybe failed in accomplishing his goal, the goal of this other person's program. But what you did do is you realize what matters to you."
 
Follow:
www.chasechewning.com
@chase_chewning
 

In this captivating episode, we delve into the world of men's sexual health with our special guest, Jackson Hightower. An acclaimed biohacker and expert in the realm of male sexuality, Jackson strives to challenge traditional conceptions of masculinity. He passionately promotes a more holistic understanding of male sexuality, rooted in both physical vitality and refined intimacy skills. Let's unpack his journey, insights, and key ideas from our enlightening conversation.
Episode Highlights:
Jackson's Background and Motivation:
A commitment to offering alternate perspectives on male sexuality distinct from mainstream media.
A life steeped in sports: from becoming Massachusetts' youngest black belt at seven to playing college soccer and baseball.
His realization in his younger years of lacking intimate skills, leading to a pivotal breakup.
The transformative influence of "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida and subsequent self-learning odyssey.
Teachings of David Deida:
The essence of selective learning: absorbing what's relevant while discarding the rest.
A lively debate on the idea of intercourse without ejaculation.
The Power of Sexual Energy:
How elite athletes, like Tom Brady, might harness sexual energy during seasons.
Viewing sexual energy as a potentially finite resource with significant impact on motivation, drive, and creation.
The intertwining of sexual energy and one's zest for life.
Mastery over ejaculation: the profound transformation it can bring.
Counteracting the pitfalls of seeking happiness externally and understanding the interconnectedness with one's sexual habits.
Deeper Dive into Masculinity:
Marketing's skewed messages to men, often bypassing introspective topics on masculinity.
The shallow lure of the pick-up artist world versus the quest for genuine fulfillment.
Jackson's definition of the "High-Value Man" - emphasizing self-respect, gratitude, and self-awareness.
The phases Jackson uses to guide men towards fulfilling self-growth.
Holistic Approaches to Men's Sexual Health:
Evaluating an individual's present state before diving into transformation.
The influences of societal norms, pornography, and changing cultural dynamics on sexual health.
Strategies like nofap, semen retention, and edging to foster a healthier relationship with one's sexual energy.
The importance of practices such as physical exercises, nutrition, and breathing routines.
Recognizing sexual experiences as an art, necessitating mutual respect and understanding.
Discussion with Andrew Bontz:
Masculinity's multi-faceted nature: the distinction between being biologically male and truly embodying manhood.
The pivotal roles men play as Earth's protectors and foundation creators.
The beautiful dance between masculine and feminine energies.
Actionable advice for listeners:
Cutting down porn consumption.
Embracing Kegel exercises.
Regularly initiating conversations with strangers.
An insight into Jackson's supplement business, emphasizing natural remedies rooted in traditional Chinese medicine.
Andrew's personal post-divorce journey and the indispensable role of holistic wellness.
Dive in as we uncover the layers of men's sexual health, redefine masculinity, and champion a more comprehensive and compassionate understanding of male sexuality.
 
Quotes:
"A high-value man is someone who respects and appreciates the world around them. You have respect and gratitude and appreciation for this experience and what we're doing"
"The ability to resist impulse and shift that energy towards something more productive and focused is what defines the average to the great man."
"You always have to start with yourself. Before you can have a positive experience with a partner...how do you fill up your cup.”
7 Day Action Steps:
Reduce your adult content consumption by 25-30%
Learn how to do a kegel so you

Introduction: 
In today's episode, we welcome Steven Abbey, the brilliant mind behind SOS Nutrients. A beacon of knowledge and experience in the realm of nutrition, Steven's journey from personal health struggles to the creation of a transformative health product is both enlightening and motivating. As the founder of SOS Nutrients, Steven is set to debunk myths and shed light on the mysteries of nutrition, wellness, and the journey to optimal health.
Episode Highlights:
Background of Steven Abbey:
Founder and creative genius behind SOS Nutrients.
Embarked on a transformative health journey, battling ailments like psoriasis, reactive hypoglycemia, and fatigue.
Recognized a gap between scientific knowledge and public understanding in the nutrition sector.
Skepticism & Enthusiasm:
Andrew's apprehension about the various nutritional claims in the market.
Steven's eagerness to share knowledge is due to his personal connection with male health challenges.
Supplements & Natural Nutrients:
The debate: synthetic supplements vs. natural ones.
The unique importance of vitamin C sourced from natural ingredients.
The role of essential co-factors and bioflavonoids in supplements.
The link between zinc and testosterone levels.
Modern Food and Its Drawbacks:
The belief in the nutritional deficiency of contemporary food.
Insights from a 1936 Senate hearing on historical soil depletion.
The negative impact of modern agricultural practices and food additives on nutrition.
Sexual Health as a Barometer for Overall Health:
Sexual health's intricate nature encompasses aspects like desire and functionality.
The vital role of cardiovascular health and nitric oxide in sexual wellness.
Potential natural remedies for improved sexual function, like arginine and pycnogenol.
Journey to Optimal Health:
Steps towards transitioning from poor to optimal health.
A critique of the modern medical approach, using Viagra as an example.
The underrated importance of social connections for health.
Embracing a layered approach to health improvement with a focus on nutrition, antioxidants, and a supportive system.
Inspiring Transformations:
Client success stories and the journey of public figure Forrest Galante.
The significance of health indicators like CRP and A1C, and their link to inflammation and blood sugar respectively.
Steven's Personal Health Insights:
Steven's ability to maintain health amidst back injuries.
Ingredients beneficial for inflammation reduction, include bing cherries and turmeric.
Steven's evolving perception of masculinity, emphasizes integrity and communication.
A Closer Look at SOS Nutrients:
Steven introduces his product, SOS, highlighting its comprehensive natural ingredients.
Emphasis on unique features and the commitment to premium quality despite higher costs.
Steven's Vision & Andrew's Appreciation:
Despite industry challenges, Steven remains driven by passion.
Andrew commends Steven for his hard work, dedication, and vision.
Steven’s Quotable Moments:
"If you're missing one thing like you have everything else, but you're missing, let's say zinc, like what we were talking about earlier, your testosterone level is going to drop through the floor."
"Inflammation is directly connected to almost every disease, whether you're talking about cardiovascular disease, whether you're talking about cancer, whether you're talking about autoimmune conditions."
Conclusion: Andrew wraps up the enlightening conversation, urging listeners to explore Steven's groundbreaking product, SOS, and emphasizes the importance of proactive steps towards better health.
 
 
7 Day Action Steps:
Eliminate self-isolation - Connect with someone who has your back
Introduce a healthy smoothie from Steven’s Website
Follow:
https://twitter.com/SOSNutrients 
https://www.facebook.com/SOSNutrients
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Welcome to another enlightening episode of our podcast where we dive deep into topics of personal growth, mental health, and transformation. Our guest for today is the exceptional Ian Inguanez, a behavior change specialist and hypnotherapist. Ian is on a mission to guide busy men and working professionals in rewriting their narratives post-40, aiding them in a transformative journey of self-realization and introspection. Inspired by his own life experiences, including a mid-life crisis and divorce, Ian's insightful approach centers on the power of the subconscious, mental health awareness, and the profound potential of behavior change.
Key points of the episode:
Ian stresses the importance of addressing mental health among men, a conversation he deems essential yet often overlooked.
Self-realization and introspection, he argues, are key elements in post-divorce recovery and personal growth.
Ian's own transformative journey began with a disenchantment with traditional counseling, leading him to hypnotherapy, a method he found deeply impactful.
Emphasizing meditation as a life-altering tool, Ian promotes its regular practice for a healthier mindset.
Behavior change, Ian believes, is challenging due to men's unawareness of their choices and the subconscious habits driving their actions.
He encourages men to challenge their self-perceptions and investigate who they truly wish to become.
Ian underlines the need to understand and revisit childhood experiences, as they shape our self-image and beliefs significantly.Ian and Andrew share personal traumatic experiences, and discuss the subconscious role in automatic reactions.
They touch upon societal messages instructing men to suppress their emotions, and their detrimental long-term impacts.
Ian stresses the necessity of self-discovery, understanding why we think and behave the way we do, and the importance of forgiveness.
The episode ends with a discussion on the role of self-love, self-compassion, society, and authority figures in personal growth.
They discuss the connection between physical symptoms and trapped emotions, and the power of therapy and coaching.
Ian promotes the belief that change does not have to be hard but requires consistency and discipline, and highlights the impact of instant gratification culture on our ability to be patient.
Ian speaks about journaling and self-reflection as vital tools for self-improvement.
Quotes from the episode:
"To be a man is, for me, being, let's say, obsessed with self-growth. Being the best version you can for yourself, because when you're the best version for yourself, you're the best version for everyone, whether that's your wife, your kids, your friends, colleagues."
 
"Who am I? Who do I want to be? We need to find that gap."

"It's really when you can get good at knowing who you are right now and then creating a new version of who you want to be and being really good with that person, I promise you right now, you are going to be good with everyone else."
 
Resources:
Ianinguanez.com
 
Action Steps:
Write down a list of the emotions you don’t like about yourself (timid, angry, passive, etc)
Write down a list of the positive opposite emotion for each one you listed
Track how often you get stuck in the negative emotions and write out the situation.
 
Follow Ian:
https://www.instagram.com/ianinguanez/
FB = Ian Inguanez Hypnotherapy
 

In this episode, our guest Ben Smith, a fitness and nutrition coach, army veteran, and mental health advocate, joins us to discuss his transition from the army to coaching celebrities, his philosophy on mental and physical health, and his unique approach to wellness within the music industry. The conversation spans personal experiences, professional transitions, the importance of community support, and practical tools for personal growth.
Key Points:
Personal Insights & Community Support: Ben emphasizes that personal struggles aren't unique and highlights the importance of community and avoiding suffering alone. Physical fitness acts as a gateway to mental and emotional well-being.
Professional Transitions & Music Industry Focus: Ben shares his journey from a high-performing athlete to an army officer, followed by a struggle with identity that led him to coach celebrities. His current work with music groups emphasizes a healthier and sustainable way to tour.
Themes & Focus of Discussion: Andrew and Ben explore connections between physical fitness and overall well-being, the shift in music touring culture, and personal evolution. They reflect on communication, curiosity, and understanding identity as crucial to personal development.
Ben's Personal Journey & Philosophy: Ben shares his story of overcoming a dark period, including a suicide attempt, with therapy and support. He introduces philosophies like treating life as "free chicken" and practices such as breath work and gratitude journaling.
Challenges, Anxiety & High Performers: They discuss facing fears, managing anxiety, depression, and applying these insights to anyone, regardless of status. Ben highlights commitment and self-confidence in high performers.
Tools for Growth & Safe Spaces: The conversation explores therapeutic tools like ice baths, the importance of creating safe spaces, and the role of shared experiences in overcoming fear.
Goals, Achievements & Communication: Ben emphasizes the importance of clarity in goals, shared experiences, and flipping fear into excitement. They discuss creating a space for expression, understanding needs, and balancing professional life.
Healthier Relationships & Overcoming Struggles: Both speakers reflect on the importance of identifying individual needs, managing ruts in thinking, and Andrew's mantra to turn worry into productive work.
Quotes from the Episode  
"The greatest gift you could give yourself is the permission to just ask for help. And if it's not you or the listener, specifically the permission to anyone in your life who might be struggling, like ask for help, there's no nobility in doing it alone, going alone, there's no pride."
"Everything you want is on the other side of fear. If you can just flip the fear into excitement, then like, how much better would your life be?"
Action Steps over the next 7 days:
Take 5 minutes and sit with your breath.  Take a deep breath and hold at the top.  Then release and hold at the bottom.  Repeat!
Turn your shower to cold for the last 60 seconds of your shower.
Follow Ben:
Train with Ben Fitness App: https://playbookapp.io/creators/ben-smith
https://www.instagram.com/benveesmith/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjsmith317/
 

In this episode, our guest Juliette Karaman, a certified mind and body coach specializing in healing, trauma, and navigating body shame, joins us to discuss the decline of intimacy in long-term relationships and strategies to reignite passion and connection. The conversation revolves around the five ways to pleasure, similar to love languages: energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter, each representing a unique pleasure archetype.
Key Points:
The decline of intimacy in long-term relationships often results from a lack of communication, vulnerability, and prioritizing everyday tasks over quality time together. Taking sex off the table and focusing on emotional connection can help revive intimacy in relationships. There are five different erotic blueprints: energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter, each with its own characteristics, desires, and shadow sides. Men may struggle with finding a balance between leading and surrendering in the bedroom. Communication, feedback, and exploration are crucial for a fulfilling sexual experience. Shifting the focus from orgasm to exploring and experiencing pleasure in the body can enhance intimacy. External factors such as stress, hormones, medications, and environmental influences can impact intimacy and sexuality. Creating a safe space for partners to express desires, boundaries, and preferences is essential. Addressing past traumas and their impact on sexual experiences can contribute to healing and growth. Curiosity, self-awareness, and self-reflection play a significant role in deepening intimacy. Love languages and erotic blueprints help us understand and meet each other's needs. Letting go of resentment and consciously working on creating a fulfilling sexual relationship is crucial. Scheduling time together and setting boundaries when needed are important aspects of maintaining a healthy relationship. Seeking support and guidance can help navigate relationship challenges and facilitate personal growth. Quotes from the Episode:
"It's important to explore and communicate with your partner to understand their preferences and desires." "Shift the focus from orgasm to exploring and experiencing pleasure in the body." "We often don't receive in the same way that we give... For a woman, it's difficult to receive, for men, it's difficult to receive."  
7-Day Homework:
Set a timer for 5 minutes and write down everything that annoys you in your relationship Make a list of 10 things you love or loved about your partner Schedule a date morning when you don't have phones or kids.  Ask the question, "Tell me what you love about me?  Tell me what you desire out of our relationship?"    
Resources:
https://www.feelfullyyou.com 
httpd://www.instagram.com/juliettekaraman
https://www.facebook.com/juliette.karamanvanschaardenburg
Note: The episode covers sensitive topics related to sex and sensuality. Listener discretion is advised.