Inner Source - Healing from Toxic Abuse

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Inner Source - Healing from Toxic Abuse

Join Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, in 'Healing From Toxic Abuse' as we unravel trauma, recovery, and resilience. Some abuse is hidden and undetected. Many people find themselves struggling with symptoms such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, confusion, and apathy, to name a few. So many times these symptoms can be traced back to toxic abuse. No matter where it comes from, when boundaries are systematically violated in any way, the result almost always includes these symptoms. My goal is to shed light on the erosive behaviors and help you heal. www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    76. Breaking the Generational Curse

    Curse or Schema? Either way, in this episode I’m talking about overcoming inherited traumas. What is a generational curse? And are you plagued with it? We look closley at the negative behavior patterns passed down through families. These patterns, often referred to as 'isms' such as alcoholism, gambling, abuse, and mental illness, can have severe impacts on various life aspects including health, relationships, and finances. Let’s look at generational curses through the lens of modern psychology. Are what we refer to as ‘curses’ really DNA-encoded or learned behavior patterns known as schemas?  This episode highlights the difficulties and immense effort required to break these curses or cycles, particularly for those in toxic environments. We look at the role that self-awareness plays in emotional resilience, and setting boundaries. The discussion also covers the specific schemas developed by family members of narcissists and also those of narcissists themselves. Ways of overcoming these deeply ingrained patterns are explored in our efforts to break the ‘generaltional curse’. 00:00 Introduction to Generational Curses 00:24 Understanding Isms and Their Impact 01:22 Modern Psychology's Take on Generational Curses 01:53 The Role of DNA and Learned Experiences 02:35 Schemas: The Building Blocks of Behavior 06:08 Breaking Free from Generational Curses 06:35 Narcissism and Its Schemas 09:33 The Black Sheep's Role in Breaking Curses 14:00 Subjugation Schema in Narcissistic Families 23:33 Emotional Inhibition Schema 28:21 Steps to Break the Cycle 35:14 Challenges in Breaking the Curse 37:46 Embracing Self-Compassion and Self-Care 40:05 Understanding Narcissistic Dynamics 42:14 The Role of the Black Sheep 44:02 Schemas and Their Impact 47:08 Subjugation Schema Explained 51:40 Mistrust Schema and Its Effects 57:37 Emotional Inhibition Schema 01:02:35 Breaking the Cycle of Generational Curses 35:14 Challenges and Resistance

    42 min

  2. 6 DAYS AGO

    75. Interview with Cindie Henrie, MFT, BCETS, Talking Trauma

    Talking Trauma with Cindy Henry, LMFT, BCETS: Exploring Therapeutic Approaches In this episode, Cindy Henry, founder of the Los Angeles Therapy Network, joins the discussion on her extensive experience and multifaceted approaches to PTSD treatment. Cindy talks about various therapeutic methods such as EMDR, ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, and senso motor therapy that she uses in her practice. The conversation touches on the challenges faced in high-profile cases, the importance of cultural competency in trauma treatment, and broader societal impacts. Cindy also shares insights on navigating toxic relationships, the impacts of political climates on marginalized communities, and the potential benefits and risks associated with innovative treatments like ketamine therapy. This comprehensive conversation provides valuable tools, strategies, and support for healing and resilience in the face of trauma. 00:00 Introduction to Cindy Henry and Her Expertise 00:54 Discussing the Impact of Recent Events on Mental Health 02:03 Exploring Trauma Responses and Marginalized Communities 04:17 Cindy's Journey into Trauma Treatment 05:57 Insights into Hollywood's Dark Side 12:00 Understanding Toxic Relationships and Attachment 20:29 Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy and Other Treatments 28:07 Integrating Mind, Body, and Soul 28:28 Ketamine Therapy: A Faster Path to Healing 29:48 The Importance of Reinforcement and Introspection 31:11 Avoiding Toxic Influences During Reprogramming 31:38 Personal Experiences and the Power of Ketamine 35:28 Navigating Trauma from Powerful Predators 42:05 The Impact of Political and Social Issues on Mental Health 44:17 The Role of Community and Connection 51:22 The Wisdom of the Body in Healing 53:40 Final Thoughts and Contact Information To Reach Cindie Henrie, MFT, BCETS: www.latherapnetwork.com info@latmgroup.com 323-829-3548

    57 min

  3. NOV 7

    74. Stop Letting Guilt Run You

    Are you burdened with guilt? This episode is about overcoming guilt and shame.  We address the common feelings of guilt and shame that survivors may carry and offer insights on how to work through and release these emotions. Listen in and explore with me the complex emotion of guilt and its impact on our lives. Highlighting how manipulators use guilt as a control mechanism, we explore why and how people get programmed with guilt, the resulting behavior patterns, and their correlation with toxic relationships. The discussion also covers the definitions of guilt and shame, the psychological ramifications, and how cognitive dissonance plays a role. Learn strategies for breaking free from these manipulative cycles, building self-awareness, and fostering healthier emotional responses and boundaries. 00:00 Introduction to Guilt and Manipulation 02:13 Understanding Guilt: Definition and Origins 03:04 The Role of Toxic People in Guilt Programming 03:58 The Pain of Shame and Its Protective Role 05:28 How Guilt and Shame Develop in Childhood 10:08 Weaponizing Guilt and Shame: Manipulative Tactics 12:44 Effects of Guilt and Shame on Victims 17:08 Healing from Guilt and Shame 21:50 Coping Strategies and Techniques 25:00 The Interconnection Between Guilt and Anger 26:49 Conclusion: Taking Control of Guilt

    29 min

  4. OCT 1

    73. The Link Between Parentified Daughters and Toxic Relationships

    This episode sheds light onto the hidden connections between parentified daughters and their vulnerability to toxic relationships. Uncover the patterns, experiences, and emotional wounds that can contribute to these relationship dynamics and learn how to break the cycle for a healthier, happier future. This episode talks about the concept of the parentified daughter, a term describing girls who are forced into parental roles due to dysfunctional family dynamics. The host covers how these daughters often end up in toxic relationships due to early programming that prioritizes others' needs over their own. We examine the hidden emotional abuse involved, unmet basic needs, and the development of harmful belief systems. The episode explores the unique challenges faced by parentified daughters, discussing topics such as blurred boundaries, role reversal, and the lasting impact on self-esteem, relationships, and mental health. This episode also brings to light the impacts that parentified daughters have understanding one's own emotions and needs. We offer strategies for healing, including self-reflection, boundary setting, and therapeutic support. 00:00 Introduction to Parentified Daughters 00:51 Defining the Parentified Daughter 01:40 Causes of Parentification 02:45 Consequences of Being a Parentified Daughter 05:27 Emotional Abuse and Long-Term Effects 07:46 Unmet Needs and Emotional Impact 16:56 Healing and Reprogramming 20:17 Seeking Support and Moving Forward

    24 min

  5. SEP 24

    72. Calling Out A Narcissist: Is it worth it?

    Is it worth calling out a Narcissist? This episode looks at the pros and cons of calling out a narcissist.  We explore how it impacts both the victim and the abuser. This covers strategies like gray rocking and other possible approaches that you can use to help secure your emotional wellbeing. You will be guided on how to set boundaries and break the cycle of abuse, while being aware of the potential risks of retaliation and emotional toll. Alternatives to direct confrontation and the necessity of professional support are also discussed, ensuring a holistic approach to dealing with toxic relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Narcissism 00:40 Understanding Narcissistic Behavior 04:40 The Power of Indifference 05:56 Benefits of Confronting a Narcissist 08:22 Downsides of Confronting a Narcissist 14:07 Alternatives to Confrontation 16:35 Gray Rock Method 20:13 Seeking Support and Professional Guidance 23:59 Recap and Final Thoughts

    27 min

  6. SEP 16

    71. Why Narcissists Are The Hardest People To Leave

    In this episode, we explore why it's so challenging to leave narcissists and people along the dark triad. We explore the typical life cycle of toxic relationships, starting from the initial intense attraction to the subtle manipulations that make breaking free so difficult. This episode also covers various manipulative tactics used by narcissists, the emotional toll they take on their victims, and practical steps for regaining a sense of self and making the decision to leave. This is for anyone looking to understand, why it’s so difficult to leave a toxic relationship.   00:00 Introduction: Why Narcissists Are Hard to Leave 00:29 The Life Cycle of a Toxic Relationship 00:54 Early Signs and Emotional Manipulation 03:05 The Cracks Begin to Show 03:39 Denial and Self-Blame 05:39 Forms of Abuse and Manipulation 07:57 Realizing the Extent of the Damage 09:16 The Difficulty of Breaking Free 10:40 Responses to Confrontation 11:50 The Cycle of False Promises 16:05 Denial and Gaslighting 21:01 The Emotional Toll and Self-Doubt 24:44 The Decision to Leave 29:57 Rebuilding and Seeking Support 33:20 Conclusion: Finding Your True Self

    37 min

  7. AUG 20

    70. Overcoming People Pleasing: A Conversation with Life Coach Michelle Gauthier

    In this episode, we sit down with life coach Michelle Gauthier, who specializes in helping overwhelmed women find peace and purpose. Michelle shares her inspiring journey from a 20-year corporate career to becoming a life coach and highlights the challenges and rewards of making such a life-altering decision. We discuss the impact of people pleasing on personal and professional life, look into Michelle's own experiences and insights, and provide valuable advice on how to break free from the cycle of people pleasing to live a more authentic and fulfilling life.  Additionally, Michelle offers practical tips such as the Love and Fit method and the importance of self-awareness and mindfulness in overcoming people-pleasing tendencies. This episode is an eye-opener for anyone struggling with putting others before themselves and looking to reclaim their own happiness. 00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement 01:00 Michelle's Journey: From Corporate to Life Coach 04:33 Challenges and Major Life Changes 07:00 Helping Clients Overcome Overwhelm 08:24 Understanding and Addressing People Pleasing 16:48 Impact of People Pleasing on Relationships 21:38 Recognizing People Pleasing in the Workplace 22:46 The Impact of People Pleasing on Personal Life 26:42 Self-Awareness and Mindfulness in Overcoming People Pleasing 28:59 Distinguishing Between Authenticity and People Pleasing 31:11 Long-Term Effects of People Pleasing on Identity 35:19 Transitioning from Corporate Career to Coaching 37:37 Advice for Overcoming People Pleasing Tendencies 40:38 Conclusion and Resources Michelle's Podcast: Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast  MIchelle's Website: www.michellegauthier.com  Michelle's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michellegauthiercoaching/ Deborah's Website: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

    44 min

  8. AUG 8

    69. The Transformative Power of Conflict Revolution - Barbara With

    In this episode, Deborah welcomes Barbara With, an internationally renowned peace activist, award-winning author, and psychic channel to the brilliant mind of Albert Einstein. Barbara shares insights into her transformative work, particularly the Conflict Revolution process, which integrates intellect, intuition, and emotion. Drawing from her own experiences of personal trauma and healing, Barbara details how aligning these human dimensions can lead to profound personal and societal change. The conversation delves into her connection with Einstein, the scientific underpinnings of her methods, and the broader implications for global peace. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Mix-Up 00:41 Introducing Barbara Wythe 01:54 Barbara's Journey and Conflict Revolution 06:07 The Three Human Dimensions 08:41 Applying Conflict Revolution 16:30 Personal Trauma and Healing 31:52 Channeling Albert Einstein 34:59 Global Impact and Final Thoughts To learn more about Barbara With and find her books: www.synergyalliance.llc

    42 min
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Join Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, in 'Healing From Toxic Abuse' as we unravel trauma, recovery, and resilience. Some abuse is hidden and undetected. Many people find themselves struggling with symptoms such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, confusion, and apathy, to name a few. So many times these symptoms can be traced back to toxic abuse. No matter where it comes from, when boundaries are systematically violated in any way, the result almost always includes these symptoms. My goal is to shed light on the erosive behaviors and help you heal. www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

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