65 episodes

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life and marriage.

Revealing covert abusive communication that takes away your power. Learn to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse before you are dragged in to their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Download the guide at loveandabuse.com.

Love and Abuse Paul Colaianni

    • Mental Health
    • 4.8 • 347 Ratings

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life and marriage.

Revealing covert abusive communication that takes away your power. Learn to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse before you are dragged in to their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Download the guide at loveandabuse.com.

    If you've tried everything to stop the hurtful behavior, what's next?

    If you've tried everything to stop the hurtful behavior, what's next?

    You've tried talking with them, expressing your hurt or unhappiness, but they still don't seem to want to change their behavior.

    If you've done what you can, what is the next step? Emotionally abusive behavior is not something you should live with, but many do. It might be time to consider all your options.

    • 51 min
    Sometimes things need to be perfectly lined up to make the big decisions about the relationship

    Sometimes things need to be perfectly lined up to make the big decisions about the relationship

    There's a point of either intoleration or breakdown that you sometimes have to reach in order to finally make a decision that you need to make about a toxic relationship. When that moment comes, it can be scary. There can be a lot on the line. In this episode, I talk about what needs to happen in order for you to be in the right state of mind to make the big, scary decisions you might need to make for yourself.

    • 51 min
    Understanding the addict in the manipulative relationship

    Understanding the addict in the manipulative relationship

    Dealing with a manipulative relationship is bad enough, but what happens when the person doing the bad behavior is also dealing with addiction? Is addiction the reason for the emotionally abusive behavior?

    Learn to understand your role in an addict's life. Some don't do bad behavior when they're not doing their addiction. Some do. What you learn to accept is what makes the difference between feeling okay with an addict, feeling trapped with one, or realizing you have no choice but to leave.

    • 34 min
    Should you try harder to please the emotionally abusive person?

    Should you try harder to please the emotionally abusive person?

    One of the constants I've seen over and over again in emotionally abusive relationships is when the victim tries harder to please an unpleasable person. No matter what they do or how hard they try, the hurtful and unkind person will remind them in many ways that it's still not enough.

    For more episodes visit loveandabuse.com

    • 26 min
    How the emotional abuser takes your empowerment tools away from you

    How the emotional abuser takes your empowerment tools away from you

    What is one of the most effective forms of emotional abuse? When the abusive person takes everything that empowers you away from you. All your tools and resources become their tools to use you and hurt you. When that happens, you feel like there's nothing left for you to do.

    This is an important episode. I hope you get a chance to tune in. For more episodes, visit https://loveandabuse.com

    • 16 min
    Glossing over the first detail in an argument will make it fall apart fast

    Glossing over the first detail in an argument will make it fall apart fast

    The first important point in a growing argument might be the most important one. If it gets glossed over, the person trying to express what they're experiencing might feel invalidated. From that moment on, the point is lost and the conversation can spiral into anger & upset with no closure in sight.

    If that's happening to you, this episode may help you stop the glossing over so that you don't get left behind in what could turn into a productive conversation.

    • 47 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
347 Ratings

347 Ratings

Gr8full1! ,

Amazingly Helpful

This podcast contains life-saving information. So good!

Ebone99 ,

So grateful!

Thank you for just being so real and upfront with your topics. I found you when I was getting high and I related to every word you said, well spoken and I will listen on. Thank you.

Kate Laine ,

Compassionate Support and Guidance

I discovered this podcast when I was trying to separate from my ex-husband last year. There were so many times I just wanted to listen to these episodes over and over because I felt like Paul was speaking directly to me about warning signs, triggers, manipulation, gaslighting, narcissistic behaviors, and other experiences of being in an emotionally abusive relationship. So much of this was difficult for me to see until it was explained so thoroughly. Such an interesting perspective that he comes at this from the point of view of the former abuser, so there is also a lot of insight there. Paul, thanks for your humility and bringing this healing to so many of us. I can tell you that your podcast gave me great strength to finally leave my marriage last year, and though it has been tough, and I feel still in recovery, I am so happy to feel free and myself again. If you are interested I also have my own podcast called Restorya about rewriting our own stories, working through trauma and transformational healing. Thanks again! Kate

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