Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur

Dr. Amen Kaur
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Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur The podcast for high-achieving women who have lost themselves inside the life they built. You have achieved things most people only dream of. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started. Maybe it was a layoff. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore. Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books, and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one. The one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you. The specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are. Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here? This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming herself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a return to the self who was there before she learned to perform. If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing, this show was made for you. Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her. New episodes every Wednesday. Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur: PhD, former Partner at a FTSE 250 company in business growth, and founder of the Human Intelligence Framework. She works with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework. A walkthrough of the framework so you can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually yours. Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass BEYOND is the 16-week programme Dr. Amen Kaur runs for women who want to do this work with her directly. Follow Dr. Amen Kaur: Instagram @dramenkaur · YouTube @dramenkaur · TikTok @dramenkaur Topics covered: I've lost myself, who am I now, lost my identity, feeling lost in midlife, starting over after 40, high-achieving women, career transition, high functioning burnout, identity after job loss, capable but stuck, return not reinvention, coming home to yourself, Human Intelligence Framework, Dr. Amen Kaur. Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional therapeutic, medical, or financial advice.

  1. 4D AGO

    I've Lost Myself. So Who Is in Charge Now?

    Send us Fan Mail "I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in the supermarket, the car park, or your own kitchen. This episode is the question nobody has asked you. "I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in your own kitchen at 9.47 on a Wednesday morning, holding a cup of tea you don't remember making. You walk upstairs to find something and forget what you came for. Something in you has been quietly slipping for a while. You're intelligent. You're capable. You've read the books. You've done the therapy. Maybe the coaching. Maybe the courses, the retreats, the breath work, the parts work. You know your patterns. And you still cannot make yourself move forward the way you used to. You're probably wondering what is wrong with you. But that's the wrong question. In this first episode of the show's new era, Dr. Amen Kaur introduces the question that actually matters. Not "what is wrong with me" but "who is in charge of my life right now?" Because the Self at the centre of your intelligence system has stepped back from the seat, and your thinking mind has stepped in to cover. It cannot. Not because you are not clever enough. Because thinking was never designed to run the whole system. Drawing on the work of Manos Tsakiris at Royal Holloway, Antonio Damasio's research on the Self as an integrator, Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley on interoception, Eckhart Tolle, and Bessel van der Kolk's neuroimaging findings on trauma and the brain, this episode names what has been happening under the surface and offers one small practice you can carry for the week. THIS EPISODE COVERS: Why the woman you used to be feels out of reach, and what is actually happening underneathThe Self as an integrator, not a place in the brain (Tsakiris, Damasio)The sun and the rays: a new way to understand your intelligence systemThe Einstein principle applied to your overthinkingThe part of you currently in charge is not your enemy. It is scared.One question to carry with you every day for the next seven days This is the first episode of the show's new era. If you have been listening for a while, welcome back. If you are new, welcome. What we do here is return, not reinvention. The full Human Intelligence Framework lives inside the free masterclass at amenkaur.com/masterclass. It is where starting over actually starts Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    21 min

  2. APR 9

    You Don't Have A Confidence Problem. You Have A Belonging Problem.

    Send us Fan Mail Something in you keeps saying no. And you don't know why. This episode names it. Eight to ten weeks after a loss,  a redundancy, job loss, relationship, or life shift of any kind, something changes. Moving forward isn't working, even when you're doing everything right. You might have offers. You can't say yes. Something deeper is asking to be heard. This episode is for high-achieving professional women who can't move forward,  whether it was a redundancy, career transition, being pushed out of a role, or a shift that happened years before and still hasn't shifted inside. In this episode Dr Amen Kaur covers: Why losing your job feels like losing yourself The science of identity and belonging The neuroscience of belonging: why the nervous system treats job loss as physical threat Baumeister and Leary's landmark research on belonging as a fundamental human need Why women in senior leadership experience greater loneliness and why that matters here The freeze response (Polyvagal Theory, Stephen Porges), what it is and why you're stuck in it Why borrowed belonging always has a ceiling and what that means for high achievers The difference between fitting in and belonging and why you've been doing the first Where the belonging you've been searching for actually lives Why nothing you've tried - therapy, coaching, mindset work, has been able to reach thisKeywords: redundancy recovery, job loss identity, women career transition, nervous system regulation, belonging and identity, loss of self after redundancy, high achieving women burnout, freeze response career, polyvagal theory women, identity collapse redundancy, female leadership loneliness, career identity crisis, nervous system and belonging, human intelligence framework, BEYOND podcast Ready to go deeper: amenkaur.com/masterclass Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    19 min

  3. MAR 31

    Why You Know So Much Yet Can't Move Forward

    Send us Fan Mail You have done the coaching, the therapy. Read the books. Done the mindset work. You know your patterns better than anyone. And you are still stuck. This is the episode that explains why. And it is not what you think. In this episode Dr. Amen Kaur, Human Intelligence Architect and founder of BEYOND - breaks down the real reason so many driven, self-aware women cannot move forward no matter what they try. Drawing on the research of Dr Bessel van der Kolk, Dr Joe Dispenza, Professor Stephen Porges and Dr Peter Levine, she explains why the answer is not in your mindset, not in your strategy, and not in anything your thinking mind can reach. You will discover: Why Dr Bessel van der Kolk's research shows your patterns are stored in your body, not your mindWhy Dr Joe Dispenza says 95% of who you are by 35 is unconscious programming your thinking mind cannot overrideWhy nervous system regulation - the work of Professor Stephen Porges,  is the missing piece every coach and therapist has skippedThe one shift that changes everything  and what you can do todayThis episode is for you if you have ever thought - I know exactly what I need to do. I just cannot make myself do it. You are not the problem. And this episode will show you why. Subscribe to the show, Because You've Outgrown Who You Were - with Dr. Amen Kaur. Topics: nervous system regulation, behaviour change, self sabotage, stuck patterns, identity transformation, women leadership, human intelligence, body stores trauma, why therapy isn't enough, mindset not enough, Dr Bessel van der Kolk, Dr Joe Dispenza, Stephen Porges, Peter Levine, somatic healing, success ceiling, women success Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    23 min

  4. MAR 10

    AI Is Advancing Fast. Are World Leaders Humane Enough to Guide It?

    Send us Fan Mail Artificial intelligence is advancing faster than most people ever expected. But the real question may not be whether machines become smarter. The real question is this: Are humans and especially our world leaders - humane enough to guide the intelligence we are creating? In this episode, we explore the deeper issue behind many of the challenges facing the world today. As AI accelerates and global systems shift, the real challenge may not be technology itself - but the level of human intelligence guiding it. Many people today feel overwhelmed by uncertainty, complexity, and constant change. We are more informed than ever before, yet many of us feel increasingly disconnected, reactive, and trapped in overthinking. Why? Because for generations we have been trained to rely primarily on cognitive intelligence - the ability to analyse, process information, and think logically. But in a world where AI can process information faster than any human ever could, cognition alone is no longer enough. This episode introduces the idea of Human Intelligence - a holistic form of intelligence that integrates: • Nervous system intelligence • Emotional intelligence • Intuitive intelligence • Cognitive intelligence When these forms of intelligence work together, we are able to move beyond survival-based thinking and begin making decisions that create long-term value, wiser leadership, and more humane systems. We also explore a deeper personal insight: that much of what we chase in life - success, recognition, achievement - may actually be a search for something far more fundamental. The desire to exist, to matter, and to experience being truly alive. In a world shaped by artificial intelligence, the future may not belong to those who simply think faster - but to those who develop the deeper intelligence required to guide humanity forward. In this episode you’ll learn: Why cognitive intelligence alone is no longer enough in the age of AIHow nervous system regulation affects decision-making and leadershipWhy many intelligent people feel overwhelmed or stuck todayThe four forms of intelligence that create Human IntelligenceHow developing human intelligence can help you navigate uncertainty and make wiser long-term decisionsFree Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    21 min

  5. FEB 24

    Self-Sabotage Isn’t What You Think: Why You Feel Stuck When You’re Ready for More

    Send us Fan Mail Why do you feel stuck right when you’re ready for more? Self-sabotage isn’t what you think. If you keep holding yourself back at the edge of growth, expansion, visibility, or success, it’s not laziness, lack of confidence, or lack of discipline. It’s your nervous system responding to uncertainty. In this episode with Dr Amen Kaur we break down the neuroscience and psychology of self-sabotage, fear of success, and subconscious blocks. You’ll learn why growth triggers internal resistance, how uncertainty activates protective patterns in the brain, and why feeling stuck is often a sign you’re about to expand. We explore: The neuroscience behind self-sabotage and self-doubtWhy high-achieving women hit identity ceilingsHow uncertainty creates subconscious resistanceThe link between emotional regulation and successWhy discipline alone won’t break growth blocksHow to rewire your nervous system for expansionIf you’re navigating an identity shift, craving more visibility, wealth, leadership, or impact - but keep feeling stuck - this episode will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface. You don’t need more willpower.  You need nervous system safety. If this resonates, download the free masterclass below. And if it aligns, book a 1:1 discovery call to explore the 16-week private immersion for high-achieving women ready to expand their capacity for success, wealth, visibility, and self-led leadership - without burnout. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    20 min

  6. FEB 17

    Why One Visible Mistake Feels Like a Threat to Competent High Performers

    Send us Fan Mail Why do high-performers spiral after one visible mistake? If you’re competent, capable, and usually the one others rely on… a single mistake can feel disproportionate. Not because you’re fragile - but because your nervous system interprets social evaluation as threat. In this episode, with Dr Amen Kaur we unpack: Why one public mistake can trigger shame, overthinking, and loss of confidenceThe neuroscience of social-evaluative threat (prefrontal cortex, amygdala, and status perception)Why high-achievers are more vulnerable to spiraling after mistakesThe hidden link between competence, identity, and fear of judgmentWhy trying to “think your way out” often makes it worseHow regulation - not self-criticism - restores clarity and decisive actionYou’ll learn why your brain reacts so strongly to perceived status loss, why reassurance rarely fixes it, and how internal regulation is the foundation for confident leadership. This episode is for high-performers, founders, leaders, and capable women who are tired of losing momentum after one mistake and are ready to move forward without outsourcing their confidence. If this resonates, and you’re looking for a space to stabilise this process long-term, there are deeper ways to work together. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    18 min

  7. FEB 12

    The #1 Reason You Can’t Move Forward And How to Break Through

    Send us Fan Mail Why do you feel stuck, even when you’re trying everything to move forward? If you’re overwhelmed, burned out, stuck in indecision, or questioning your next step in life or leadership, the problem may not be discipline or motivation. The #1 reason you can’t move forward is nervous system dysregulation. In this episode, with Dr Amen Kaur we explore how chronic stress, unresolved trauma, and emotional dysregulation impact clarity, confidence, and decision-making,  especially for high achievers and leaders who are used to pushing through. You’ll learn: Why it often gets worse when you finally leave a toxic or stressful environmentHow constant self-improvement and productivity culture can mask nervous system dysregulationThe connection between emotional intelligence and effective leadershipWhat modern research says about emotional regulation and performanceWhy burnout recovery requires regulation before strategyHow The Regulation Bridge™ helps you regulate, take action, and build sustainable personal growthEmotional intelligence isn’t just empathy - it’s nervous system stability under pressure. And without regulation, you can’t access clarity, creativity, or confident decision-making. If you’re ready to stop surviving and start moving forward in your life, career, or leadership - download the free masterclass and learn how to regulate your nervous system so you can rise.  Click here  This isn’t about healing forever. It’s about regulation that leads to growth. Let’s take that first step forward. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

    17 min

  8. FEB 5

    Why Moving Forward Feels So Hard - Even When You’re Ready

    Send us Fan Mail Free Gift : Click here for masterclass Why does moving forward feel so hard - even when you know you’re ready? You’re capable. You’ve proven yourself before. You have ideas, plans, and ambition. And yet, when it’s time to move, something inside you slows down. This episode with Dr Amen Kaur explores why that hesitation isn’t a mindset issue or lack of discipline - and why progress can start to feel risky even after past success. We unpack how the nervous system learns from experience, not intention. When growth has historically been followed by cost - increased demand, loss of safety, burnout, judgment, or control,  the body begins to associate success with threat. That conditioning doesn’t show up as fear of failure.  It shows up as hesitation before action. This conversation explains: Why willpower often backfires when the body expects lossHow anxiety and avoidance can be protective, not resistantWhy success isn’t neutral to the nervous systemAnd how safety, not pressure, is what allows movement to returnIf you’ve ever felt capable but stalled… ready but tense… motivated yet unable to move cleanly,  this episode will help you understand what your system is responding to, and why. No fixing. No forcing. Just clarity about what’s actually happening beneath the surface. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits. Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass About Dr Amen Kaur Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat. Learn more at amenkaur.com/about Stay Close Instagram: @dramenkaur TikTok: @dramenkaur YouTube: @dramenkaur Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

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Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur The podcast for high-achieving women who have lost themselves inside the life they built. You have achieved things most people only dream of. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started. Maybe it was a layoff. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore. Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books, and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one. The one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you. The specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are. Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here? This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming herself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a return to the self who was there before she learned to perform. If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing, this show was made for you. Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her. New episodes every Wednesday. Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur: PhD, former Partner at a FTSE 250 company in business growth, and founder of the Human Intelligence Framework. She works with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework. A walkthrough of the framework so you can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually yours. Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass BEYOND is the 16-week programme Dr. Amen Kaur runs for women who want to do this work with her directly. Follow Dr. Amen Kaur: Instagram @dramenkaur · YouTube @dramenkaur · TikTok @dramenkaur Topics covered: I've lost myself, who am I now, lost my identity, feeling lost in midlife, starting over after 40, high-achieving women, career transition, high functioning burnout, identity after job loss, capable but stuck, return not reinvention, coming home to yourself, Human Intelligence Framework, Dr. Amen Kaur. Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional therapeutic, medical, or financial advice.

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