8 episodes

This Podcast is not about flash, pretending, or promises, just real, genuine, vulnerable, and honest talk. People around you will take your recovery personly; it's not about them. There are no quick fixes from trauma, abuse, addiction, PSTD, or recovery. Knowing what happened to you is only part of the process, we have to relive the feelings, emotions, and scenes we avoid. When we stop blaming, making excuses and take responsibility for our own emotions, that’s the start of moving from victim to surviving, from surviving to survivor and finally to thriving and teaching. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/joeryan/support

It's Not About You - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse & Recovery - Joe Ryan Joe Ryan

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This Podcast is not about flash, pretending, or promises, just real, genuine, vulnerable, and honest talk. People around you will take your recovery personly; it's not about them. There are no quick fixes from trauma, abuse, addiction, PSTD, or recovery. Knowing what happened to you is only part of the process, we have to relive the feelings, emotions, and scenes we avoid. When we stop blaming, making excuses and take responsibility for our own emotions, that’s the start of moving from victim to surviving, from surviving to survivor and finally to thriving and teaching. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/joeryan/support

    EP 0008 - Abandonment, Reflection and Self Mirroring

    EP 0008 - Abandonment, Reflection and Self Mirroring

    When we were abandoned as children, we learned that to matter to our source figures; we had to leave ourselves and become what they needed us to be.
    Abandonment will cause you not to have a sense of self. Your life becomes an endless quest to please the people around you to be accepted.
    We get stuck at a developmental stage of childhood. And we never really get past it unless we learn how to validate ourselves.
    Everything in this life is a mirror, a reflection. What are we reflecting on ourselves? Abandonment causes our mirror to be tainted with shame, self-hate, self-doubt, and self-humiliation. Our mirror became too painful to look at, and we end up putting too much energy into seeing our reflection from someone else’s mirror.
    The more you mirror your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions, the less the outside world matters. And the stronger you get within yourself.
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    • 12 min
    EP 0007 - Internal validation , Owning All Of You

    EP 0007 - Internal validation , Owning All Of You

    Drew from The Anxious Truth and I were sitting around testing out his new Podcast gear. In the testing, we got into a conversation about part of the recovery process. There were a few gems that came out in the discussion, so I decided to put it out as its own episode. We talk about when your Subconscious telling you that you're done mood-altering. When you no longer have the energy to cover up and hide. When you are sick and tired of wearing the mask of the false self to be accepted by yourself and others, it's time to do the work of uncovering, experiencing, facing, accepting and owing the part of you that have been cut off so that you no longer have to hide who you are, not fear your own feelings and to stop being a walking reaction to protect the parts of us we don't want to be seen.



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    • 46 min
    EP 0006 - Step Two, Exposure Time

    EP 0006 - Step Two, Exposure Time

    We are hiding the parts of us that we cut off, the pieces of us that were not acceptable as children. To protect these parts of ourselves, we create a false self. This false self was our protection, protection from our authentic self being seen by us, and by others so we could survive as a child. As adults, we no longer need this protection to survive. To tear down our false self, we have to become vulnerable, vulnerable within ourselves. We have to expose our true self, the part of us that's been hidden by the false self. We must reexperience the pain and discomfort that we felt being our authentic selves as children by way of exposure. The more we expose and experience the pain, the more we tame the emotions that we have feared. And the more we learn to love ourselves at the core, the need to wear the mask of the false self starts to diminish, and we grow closer to the authenticity within ourselves.



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    • 13 min
    EP 0005 - False Self, Shame and Separation

    EP 0005 - False Self, Shame and Separation

    The false self is created when we have to cut off emotions that were unacceptable to our source figures. When unacceptable feelings and emotions we expressed, we were shamed and emotionally abandoned. Before logical thought was available to us. We cut off these emotions and were denied our reality in order to survive as children. To take the place of these emotions, we created a false self to give our source figures what they needed for us to be loved and connected. Whenever we need to access the emotions we have cut off we feel shame. This leaves us stuck in a childhood developmental stage. We never separated from our source figures emotionally. To free from this stage and the shame, we carry we must give up our role and separate from our source figures. We must go into shame and feel what we could not when we were children.



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    • 12 min
    EP 0004 - Step One, Fed Up And Stripped Down

    EP 0004 - Step One, Fed Up And Stripped Down

    Nothing was working for me anymore. All that has brought me joy and happiness no longer did, and I had no idea why. Motivation and desire were absent from within me, and all I could do was sit in sadness. I had bottomed out, feeling that nothing outside of myself could satisfy me anymore. What I didn’t know then is that it was step one of my recovery process. I had slowly stripped away all the people, places, and things that once made me feel good. I stopped pretending I was okay and just started to be. I sat with the feelings I have always avoided and started to explore myself and the world alone. Instead of doing where I relied on others, I starting doing where I only relied on me. The new things I discovered slowly started to become a foundation of self-trust, competence, and the core of me.


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    • 16 min
    EP 0003 - Blocked On Instagram

    EP 0003 - Blocked On Instagram

    After recording an episode of The Anxious Truth Podcast we just kept talking. The discussion started with my account being blocked on Instagram, the reaction from friends and followers and how their response leads me to memories that had negative actions on my path up to this point. 

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    • 26 min

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