“Just Relax” and Other Harmful Advice This is Infertility

Nothing makes you feel more deflated, angry, and misunderstood than when someone tells you to ‘just relax.’ This reaction can be expected in many situations, especially from someone who is struggling with building their family.  

In this episode, Bethany Johnson discusses her experience with infertility and how women have historically been blamed for "barrenness.” Over time, this blame has trickled down through generations, lingering in the language we use to discuss women’s health and consistently disregarding how male factor infertility contributes 30% to 40% of the time. Bethany and her colleague, Margaret Quinlan, took this historical context and applied it to the modern phrases and attitudes society has normalized surrounding a woman’s life. They co-authored the book, You're Doing it Wrong! Mothering, Media, and Medical Expertise, to educate others on the constant barraging of unsolicited advice the world seems to dump on motherhood constantly.  

As Dr. Georgia Witkin taught us last episode, there’s way more to infertility than stress management, exercise, and dieting. Motherhood isn't one size fits all either, so it’s important to advocate for yourself and continue on the path that works for you.  

Guest: Bethany Johnson, co-author of You're Doing it Wrong! Mothering, Media, and Medical Expertise 

Host: Dan Bulger 

Want to read Bethany’s book? Click here. 

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