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With over 20 years in the BDSM community and the mental health field I have gained a unique understanding and respect for the alternative lifestyle.

As BDSM has become more mainstream it is important that people become informed and educated about truth of the BDSM community instead of letting inaccurate books and movies shape minds, opinions, and lifestyles in a way that is both incorrect and unhealthy. Myself and guests, from porn stars to pastors, will dive deep into all sides of the lifestyle to paint an accurate, informed, and unbiased picture of BDSM and the surprising truth behind the psychology of participants.

Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast Kuldrin Entertainment

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With over 20 years in the BDSM community and the mental health field I have gained a unique understanding and respect for the alternative lifestyle.

As BDSM has become more mainstream it is important that people become informed and educated about truth of the BDSM community instead of letting inaccurate books and movies shape minds, opinions, and lifestyles in a way that is both incorrect and unhealthy. Myself and guests, from porn stars to pastors, will dive deep into all sides of the lifestyle to paint an accurate, informed, and unbiased picture of BDSM and the surprising truth behind the psychology of participants.

    Third World View of BDSM-S03E05

    Third World View of BDSM-S03E05

    Recorded: 5/24/2020 / Published to podcast: 11/27/2020

    -Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. 

    -In this episode of The Krypt Myself, Mayfair and the chatroom are going to have a conversation on how BDSM is viewed in third world countries. 

    -Rules to Love by:
    1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
    2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
    3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

    -”Sex Talk: Is it domestic violence or BDSM?” by Carolyne Nakazibwe July 30, 2020.
    https://observer.ug/lifestyle/65897-sex-talk-is-it-domestic-violence-or-bdsm

    Someone asked me, does BDSM exist in Uganda? I honestly have no idea, but I bet many of the physically abusive people to their spouses are covertly into BDSM and are just not able to ‘diagnose’ themselves as such.

    In case you were wondering, BDSM are erotic practices (some will say perversions) that involve bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism, executed through role-playing.

    Forget the light-weight role-playing of one handcuffing their spouse to the bed during sex or dressing up as a cop, nurse, etc.

    This is some seriously dark stuff that involves treating one’s spouse like grime, whipping them until they bleed, tying them up with ropes, strangling them, etc. I remember when the Fifty Shades Of Grey trilogy was first released in 2011, many married women worldwide bored by the sex in their marriages got weird seeds planted in their minds.

    The books by E.L. James are possibly the boldest exploration of BDSM and even seek to glorify it in a way. The trilogy was such a hit that every romance novel-loving woman seemed to have a copy; televangelist and American mega church pastor Dr Creflo Dollar once hilariously spent time debunking the novel before giving one of his sermons, telling the ‘sisters’ to not ask their husbands to bring ropes into the bedroom, or whips to lash them during sex.

    That is BDSM. And the more I think about it, the more I am convinced that where it exists in Uganda, it comes in a sad GBV (gender based violence) package. There are many people who get off by inflicting pain on their spouses, but will not say outright that this is what pervasively turns them on.

    There are wives who argue that unless their husbands physically hurt them, they don’t love them, and even actively provoke their husbands until they receive the beating. Honey, you could be into BDSM; that is, you get sexually aroused from being beaten and treated like trash.

    I am tempted to ‘diagnose’ a couple in my neighborhood as BDSM enthusiasts because the surrounding community knows when they have sex. It always starts with a huge fight in the dead of night, which has the village dogs barking in agitation as they hurl bricks and garden tools at each other and run all over their compound screaming.

    Then all goes quiet and the next morning they walk around looking like the cats that ate the cream. The first time I heard them fight, I called 999 (they actually turned up – drunk, but coherent) only for the police to get to the home in question and nobody answered.

    Still trying to be the good citizen, the next time it happened I told a village council member to “be ready for a murder one of these days” if nothing was done. Eventually, I was told that was “their thing”. We have learned to sleep through their stampedes.

    Each to their own. I think sex is the weirdest thing our Lord created for us; there is no one formula to how different heads are wired when it comes to the kind of lovemaking couples indulge in.br...

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    BDSM Choking and Breathe Play-S03E04

    BDSM Choking and Breathe Play-S03E04

    Recorded: 7/26/2020 / Podcast Published: 11/26/2020

    - Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. On this episode of The Krypt we are going to talk about choking and breathe play.
    - Rules to Love by:
    1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
    2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
    3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

    - DISCLAIMER: This is extremely dangerous. We recommend you NOT do this. If you choose to participate in this type of play, you are taking responsibility for the consequences which could include serious injury and/or death. BDSM is NOT a valid defense for accidental death and if your partner dies you will go to prison for negligent homicide.

    - Why Some People Are Turned on by Choking During Sex—and How to Do It Safely, According to Experts (By Gigi Engle, July 21, 2020 https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a26471117/choking-during-sex/

    Have you been curious about choking during sex? Maybe you had a partner recently who, seemingly out of nowhere, asked you to choke them? Or perhaps you saw a porn scene recently where choking was the main attraction? What’s the deal? We have the goods.

    Before we get into the psychology of why people are into choking, it’s important to address that choking during sex is extremely dangerous and should be done with caution. There are many risks. Just because you saw choking in a porn scene or are interested in it, does not mean you should just run off and choke your partner. With so much hardcore porn out there showcasing choking as this “no big deal” kind of thing that apparently happens every time you sleep with someone (it doesn’t), we suddenly have novices out here thinking choking is a first date activity. This is all around a BAD idea.

    If you’re interested in choking during sex, you need to be so, so careful. This is not the same as spanking, light bondage, or other forms of kinky play. It is capital “D” Dangerous.
    You also need to get explicit verbal consent and negotiate how you’re going to choke your partner before you even think about putting your hands around your partner’s neck. In a recent 2019 study conducted by Debby Herbenick, a professor and sex researcher at the Indiana University School of Public Health, 23 of the 347 female respondents described feeling scared during sex because their partner had tried to choke them unexpectedly.
    So, why are people into choking during sex—and how can you do it safely, if you're one of them? We spoke to some experts to get the inside scoop.

    - What's the psychology behind the appeal of choking during sex?
    "For men, choking close to orgasm can have a euphoric effect on climax, but should always be done safely," says Lia Holmgren, intimacy and relationship coach, and the upcoming author of Play with Power. She adds, "Women can have more intense orgasms when coupled with breath play (choking).”

    But the appeal of choking may go beyond stronger orgasms. The turn-on has deep psychological implications, giving both partners an opportunity to explore different roles during sex.
    Choking highlights the giving and receiving of control. Giving someone permission to choke you—or visa versa—is allowing the two of you to take on dominant and submissive roles in bed. This is something many of us long for: A release from control, or the power to take it. For example, when you’re used to making decisions, perhaps the idea of letting someone else control you during sex can be a turn-on.

    “Choking is an act of surrender when we completely trust the other, dominant party, and let them take complete...

    • 59 min
    Improving Your BDSM Play with Safewords-S03E03

    Improving Your BDSM Play with Safewords-S03E03

    Recorded: 7/19/2020

    -Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com.

    -In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair and I are going to be joined by show Executive Producer JUnicornsAngel to have an in-depth conversation about safewords, using them to improve your scene quality, and the underutilized use of yellow.

    -Rules to Love By
    1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
    2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
    3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

    -Safewords: How to use them to improve your scene life.
    Safewords (what constitutes a good safe word)
    Nonverbal safe”words”: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
    JUni’s personal history with safewords
    Beginning – not knowing how to yellow, and not wanting to red.
    Learning to yellow but still not wanting to red.
    Being forced to red, good bad indifferent.
    Using red in exactly the right place, the world not ending.
    Kuldrin’s use of safewords?
    Mayfair’s use of safewords
    Emphasis on Yellow:
    Different meanings of yellow
    Extending scene & pleasure
    Safety
    Good measure of “testing” for both Top and Bottom?

    -Important Links:
    https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon 
    https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication 
    https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey 
    https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic 
    Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/303
     
    -Show Producers (updated 7/5/2020):
    -Benefactor ($2,000/month): 

    -Pro Producer ($100/month):
    Master Producer ($50/month): LilyChaos

    -Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Rei Webb, and Haru Webb

    -Sr. Producers ($10/month): Matt, xEmeraldxWolfx,JayKay, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, Roxiebear, babylove & Sir, SirMutualRespect, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, PurplePantera, SortOutTheKinks, Stella, CIVLdisobedience, Grog4life, Raefe, and Author Mistress Black Rose

    -Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, Alexandria, Trouble113, KJ, Duckie Monroe, Alicia Ray, Hadea, Sir&Kitten, Raven, and Raider69Time

    -Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, knot_the_daddy, and macNmiller
    -Become a show producer: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/Patreon

    -Vendors I know, like, trust, and use. (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.):
    http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
    http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
    http://www.torridtimber.com/ - Fine fetish furniture and accessories.
    https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - The finest nerdy insertable sex toys.
    https://fetlife.com/users/9885653 - Tinks-Toys on Fetlife

    -Contact info:
    Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.com
    Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
    Fb: Kuldrin Fire a...

    • 1 hr 2 min
    Play Party Post Covid-19 and the Mechanics of a BDSM Scene-S03E02

    Play Party Post Covid-19 and the Mechanics of a BDSM Scene-S03E02

    Recorded: 7/12/2020 / Published: 11/04/2020
    Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair joins us again for a conversation about last night’s play party, we will break down how to scene from start to finish, and then we will answer your questions, live.

    -Rules to love by.
    1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
    2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
    3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

    -Important Links
    https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
    https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
    https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey
    https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic
    Show notes can be found at https://kuldrinskrypt.com/245

    -Show Producers:
    Benefactor ($2,000/month):
    Pro Producer ($100/month): Lily Chaos
    Master Producer ($50/month):
    Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, Sweet Charlotte, and JunicornsAngel
    Sr. Producers ($10/month): Matt, xEmeraldxWolfx, Roxiebear, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, JayKay, SirMutualRespect, Master Gabriel, babylove & Sir, Sir Pent, PurplePantera, SortOutTheKinks, Daddy Steve, Stella, CIVLdisobedience, and Grog4life
    Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, Seine (Zine), Alexandria, Hayley, KJ, Duckie and Monroe.
    Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, BuffaloDom84, Morgana13, knot_the_daddy, Jeremiah, and macNmiller
    Become a show producer: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/Patreon

    -Vendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)
    http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
    http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
    http://www.torridtimber.com/ - Fine fetish furniture and accessories

    -Contact info:
    Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com
    Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
    Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fire
    Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrin
    Instagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/
    Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypt
    Paypal: MasterKuldrin http://paypal.me/masterkuldrin
    http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
    Limits and Interest Survey: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/survey

    • 1 hr 11 min
    Emotional Sadists, Masochists, and Terrorists-S03E01

    Emotional Sadists, Masochists, and Terrorists-S03E01

    Recorded: 7/5/2020 / Published: 10/23/2020
    Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt. I'm your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show I use my 25 years of BDSM experience and 20 years working in the psychology field to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. On this episode of The Krypt Mayfair85 is joining me to talk about emotional sadomasochism.

    -Rules to Love By:
    1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
    2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
    3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

    Some information is sourced from “15 Signs of Emotional Masochism” By Mike Bundrant https://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2015/03/signs-emotional-masochism/?fbclid=IwAR0po8lky89XvbEe35L9uUKF3Ui64DOvaMsVt0PU3rdnsbJ4YB-gSZ9eXSU

    -Emotional masochism
    Definition: The tendency to find blatant or subtle pleasure d/t familiarity, self-justification, and/or self-victimization.
    Chronic yet avoidable emotional pain d/t a psychological attachment or trauma.
    Finding subconscious pleasure in emotional negativity.

    - Emotional sadism
    Definition: The act of inflicting consensual or nonconsensual emotional pain on another person.

    -15 Signs of Emotional Masochism
    1: Start arguments for no apparent reason.
    2: Engorge ourselves with food until it hurts.
    3: Quit goals right when things start to go well.
    4: Run from happy relationships.
    5: Quit jobs that have potential.
    6: End friendships over trivial matters.
    7: Knowingly spend more money than we have.
    8: Abuse of alcohol and drugs.
    9: Tolerate people who hurt us.
    10: Tolerate people who control us.
    11: Tolerate people who reject and demean us.
    12: Tolerate people who humiliate us.
    13: Refuse to stand up for ourselves.
    14: Hold onto painful feelings.
    15: Criticize ourselves incessantly.

    -Definition:
    An emotional sadist, masochist, or sadomasochist that knowingly, intentionally, and nonconsensually inflicts emotional harm to others or creates situations for others to inflict emotional harm to themselves.
    Someone who is pathologically motivated by unresolved tendencies from a problematical childhood or adult trauma and is pathologically insensitive to the feelings of others obsessively seek through unbounded action to achieve a destructive goal with disregard for other people’s wellbeing.

    -Emotional sadomasochism in BDSM/Kink
    It’s consensual!
    More intense types beyond general 101 degradation and humiliation are most commonly referred to as edge play because there can be long term psychological effects.
    Common forms of emotional sadomasochistic play:
    Degradation: make a person feel less about themselves.
    Humiliation: embarrass someone.
    Fear Play: create a situation where someone believes they are at risk for imminent danger. (Primal, blade, consensual non-consent, kidnapping/capture, interrogation, waterboarding, slave sharing/auction, …)

    Total Power Exchange: Giving away all of ones power is in itself an act of emotional masochism.
    Emotional Sobriety (Dr. Tian Dayton, PhD): sheds light on how and why an individual engages in unhealthy coping mechanisms and how to stop them; it is based on research of the physiology of emotions, that is, the mind/body connection (the thinking mind and our limbic system-the part of the brain that processes emotions); studies show that repeated painful experiences or...

    • 1 hr 5 min
    Self Collaring in BDSM-S02E52

    Self Collaring in BDSM-S02E52

    Recorded: 6/28/2020 / Published: //2020
    Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show I use my 25 years of BDSM experience and 20 working in the psychology field to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. On this episode of The Krypt Mayfair85 is joining me to take a dive into BDSM Primal Play and then we’ll be answering your questions live.

    - Rules to Love By
    1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
    2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
    3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

    - Collaring Yourself aka Self Collaring.
    https://sexandsilks.com/2019/03/31/self-collaring/?fbclid=IwAR1RuQ8F-ioF5CY4D91w5zxXtHrOeXu1M6mw8Fk47sUzvP-xXfeHfKnqGTg
    https://www.eternitycollars.com/blog/collaring-yourself?fbclid=IwAR2A7KfnBVWmw3c2VDLo1RiWhO-9ryE5GWj_-QY-6D-FW807wk0BDmRncSY

    - Collars can have a multitude of meanings in a D/s relationship. They can show ownership, devotion, or subservience, and can be as meaningful as a wedding ring. They can be essential for some kinds of BDSM lifestyles, or just add spice to an already fun, kinky session.
    But what about wearing a collar outside of a relationship? Because of these relationship- and partner-status contexts, many people feel discouraged from wearing a collar just for themselves.
    Some in the lifestyle may ask, “What if I don’t have a Master/Mistress right now? Can I still wear a collar?” The answer is that someone who’s rockin’ their singlehood can definitely wear one, though many people are dispirited by the connotations of their relationship status to sport their own. Some potential wearers might feel like it needs to be gifted to them or else it wouldn’t be a “real” collar.
    Here are some reasons why you should stop caring about what a collar is “supposed to” mean and adorn yourself with one of your own if you feel like it:

    - The feeling of being comforted and in control:
    Kate Sloan, bloggess of GirlyJuice, writes for Kinkly: “Even when I’m single, collars bring me comfort. They’re like an encouragement from a hypothetical future partner, or from the bravest part of my inner self.”

    - The symbolism:
    Collars send a message to others about what kind of kink or lifestyle you’re into. Different collars have different meanings to different groups, and can explain better than words what kind of roles or play you’re willing to take part in.
    The glory of feeling edgy and powerful while in a vanilla setting. Wear them with whatever makes you feel sensuous and formidable.
    Match subtle day-wear collars to your outfit so no one but you know what it’s for, like a sexy little secret.
    Or go the opposite direction and draw the gazes or curious vanilla-folk. Wear something loud and terrifying to passerby: maybe a huge spiked leather collar with kitten bells and neon-colored lace, with a tag that says “ME” (as the answer to “who owns you?” of course).

    - Just feeling pretty:
    Maybe that rose gold collar makes your skin tone glow, your freckles shine like stars, and is perfectly on point with the rest of your outfit. Who says that a statement piece has to make a statement? Wear it because you and the collar are cute as heck together.

    - Learning to love yourself first:
    This is important no matter your relationship...

    • 55 min

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