Life’s 2nd Act: A journey into finding direction and purpose

Simon Burgess
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This podcast delves into the transformative phase later in life, exploring the challenges, new directions and uncertainties that come with it. If you’re navigating the uncertain waters of midlife, have stories to share, or insights to offer, I invite you to join me on this journey. Together, we’ll ride the highs and lows as we navigate the uncharted territories of this stage in life. ​ I hope by sharing stories, exploring dilemmas and seeking solutions together, the podcast will help me and others who join the journey, find that future. Find out more at www.lifes2ndact.com

  1. Midlife Musings: The power of tears... what are they telling us?

    JUL 4

    Midlife Musings: The power of tears... what are they telling us?

    In this episode, I reflect on the emotional impact of a conversation with Michael Fry, who has faced significant challenges in his life.   I explore the themes of vulnerability, resilience and the importance of acknowledging emotions, particularly during midlife.   I discuss how emotional moments can serve as catalysts for self-discovery and personal growth, encouraging us to embrace feelings and seek connection with others.   The episode also highlights Michael's transformative journey from struggle to joy, emphasising the power of choosing a new path in life.   Takeaways Emotions can catch us off guard and linger. Midlife often brings a reevaluation of life and identity. Tears can be a form of release and clarity. Empathy can reveal our own hidden struggles. Vulnerability can foster deeper connections with others. Emotional surges may signal opportunities for growth. It's important to acknowledge and explore our emotions. Talking to someone we trust can help process feelings. Michael's story illustrates resilience and transformation. It's never too late to choose joy and change our lives. Chapters 00:00 - Emotional Awakening: The Power of Tears 05:15 - Reflections on Resilience and Rebuilding 08:19 - Michael's Journey: From Struggle to Transformation

    10 min
  2. Navigating love in midlife: dating apps, being single, loneliness, building confidence

    JUN 20

    Navigating love in midlife: dating apps, being single, loneliness, building confidence

    In this episode of Life’s 2nd Act, I speak with Lindsey Conen-Smith, a dating and relationship coach, about the complexities of dating in midlife. We discuss the challenges posed by dating apps, the importance of confidence, and the differences in how men and women approach dating.   Lindsey shares insights on the role of therapy, the evolution of online dating and the significance of understanding personal values and patterns in relationships.    The conversation emphasises the need for proactivity in seeking love and the potential for personal growth during this transformative phase of life.   Takeaways There's an abundance of choice and that's the problem. Confidence can be knocked down after a long-term relationship. Women take their time before re-entering the dating world. Dating apps can be helpful, but overwhelming. Loneliness after a relationship is real. Be proactive. Love won't come knocking on your door. You can still meet people organically. It's about partnership and companionship. Understanding personal values is crucial for dating. Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 02:46 - Understanding Relationship Coaching 04:14 - What Makes a Fulfilling Relationship in Midlife? 05:53 - The Role of Confidence in Dating 06:33 - Differences in Male and Female Dating Approaches 08:41 - The Impact of Therapy on Dating Readiness 09:42 - The Evolution of Online Dating 12:38 - The Problem with Dating App Filters 15:35 - Navigating Online Dating: Do's and Don'ts 19:37 - Coaching for Clarity and Confidence 22:42 - Identifying Patterns in Relationships 23:50 - The Loneliness of Being Single in Midlife 28:27 - Opportunities and Challenges of Being Single 30:06 - Proactivity in Finding Love   Learn more about Lindsey: https://theautumncoach.co.uk/

    33 min
  3. Michael’s journey: from loosing his way & breaking point at 55, to finding joy and his 'why'

    JUN 6

    Michael’s journey: from loosing his way & breaking point at 55, to finding joy and his 'why'

    In this episode, I speak to Michael Fry.   He shares his deeply moving journey of resilience and recovery from addiction, mental health struggles and personal loss. He reflects on his childhood, the impact of his brother's death, the challenges of marriage and fatherhood and ultimately a breaking point at 55.   His life then changed, with the help of Stonepillow he found his path to recovery and finding joy in life again.    Michael emphasises the importance of community, compassion and self-forgiveness in his transformative journey.   Takeaways Michael reached a breaking point at 55, feeling hopeless. His childhood was marked by early addiction and a love for performance. Addiction escalated in his teenage years, affecting relationships. The loss of his brother had a profound impact on his life choices. He struggled with intimacy and relationships throughout adulthood. Misdiagnosed mental health issues contributed to his struggles. Michael's marriage faced challenges due to his addiction. Compassion from his ex-wife played a crucial role in his recovery. Hitting rock bottom led to a turning point in his life. Michael now finds daily joy and purpose in his work and community.     Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 02:04 - The Breaking Point: A Dark Moment 05:50 - Childhood and Early Influences 10:08 - The Struggles of Addiction 14:11 - Loss and Its Impact 17:53 - Marriage and Fatherhood Challenges 22:00 - The Role of Compassion in Recovery 26:01 - Hitting Rock Bottom 30:06 - The Path to Recovery 33:49 - Finding Joy and Purpose 38:11 - Reflections on Midlife and Growth   To learn about the support from Stonepillow: https://stonepillow.org.uk/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifes2ndact Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556551936745

    44 min
  4. Homelessness: the real midlife crisis, it can happen to anyone!

    MAY 23

    Homelessness: the real midlife crisis, it can happen to anyone!

    In this conversation I explore the complex issue of homelessness in midlife with Hilary Bartle, CEO of StonePillow.    Hilary highlights the various causes, societal perceptions and the transformative work being done by Stonepillow. She emphasises that homelessness can affect anyone, regardless of their background and stresses the importance of early intervention and support.    You will gain a deeper understanding of the challenges faced by those experiencing homelessness and the critical role of community support in facilitating recovery and reintegration into society.   Takeaways Homelessness can happen to anyone, regardless of background. Early intervention is crucial to prevent homelessness. Mental health issues often contribute to homelessness. Substance abuse can exacerbate the challenges of homelessness. Societal stigma affects how homeless individuals are perceived. Building trust with clients is essential for effective support. Community support plays a vital role in recovery. Stonepillow focuses on prevention and recovery services. Engagement with local charities can facilitate help. Personal responsibility is key to overcoming homelessness.     Chapters   00:00 - Introduction to Homelessness in Midlife 02:06 - Understanding the Causes of Homelessness 04:58 - The Profile of the Homeless 07:52 - The Impact of Mental Health and Substance Abuse 10:58 - Recognising Warning Signs and Seeking Help 13:57 - The Role of Society and Stigma 16:59 - Stonepillow's Approach to Support 21:09 - Building Trust and Engagement with Clients 24:52 - Transformational Stories of Recovery 29:00 - How to Help Those in Need 31:53 - The Current State of Homelessness 36:01 - Closing Thoughts   Find out more about Stonepillow: https://stonepillow.org.uk/     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifes2ndact Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556551936745

    41 min
  5. Sanjani's journey: acceptance, letting go, stillness, clarity and new beginnings

    MAY 9

    Sanjani's journey: acceptance, letting go, stillness, clarity and new beginnings

    In this conversation, Sanjani Shah shares her journey following an unexpected redundancy from her long-term role at the Body Shop.    What’s followed… ‘It's been the best 12 months of my life’ she says.   Emphasising the importance of choice in response to life's challenges, she discusses how her spiritual practices helped her navigate feelings of fear and uncertainty. Sanjani reflects on the power of vulnerability, the significance of slowing down to gain clarity and the joy of exploring new opportunities.    Ultimately, she highlights the importance of energy and self-belief in manifesting a fulfilling future, especially during midlife transitions.   Takeaways You have the choice to how you respond to anything Acceptance came faster than expected Spiritual practice helped her stay grounded Locking my phone away helped manage external chaos Letting go of expectations was liberating Energy is everything in navigating life Taking time out allowed for self-discovery   Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 01:35 - The Shock of Redundancy 06:23 - Acceptance and Spiritual Practices 10:49 - Finding Stillness and Clarity 12:37 - The Power of Vulnerability 15:35 - Navigating Fear and Self-Doubt 19:03 - Exploring New Opportunities 22:19 - The Journey of Self-Discovery 28:11 - Shifting Perspectives and Energy 32:58 - Manifesting New Beginnings 35:19 - Lessons from Midlife and Beyond     Follow Life's 2nd Act: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifes2ndact Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556551936745

    43 min
  6. Carolyn's journey: navigating loss, discovering resilience, purpose & spirituality, finding purpose & personal growth

    APR 25

    Carolyn's journey: navigating loss, discovering resilience, purpose & spirituality, finding purpose & personal growth

    In this episode, I have the privilege of chatting with Carolyn Mayling, who shares her remarkable journey through midlife.   The conversation begins with Carolyn recounting her heart-wrenching experience of losing her daughter, Rosie, to a sudden illness. During this difficult time, she discovered an incredible strength within herself. She also delves into the profound impact of grief on her family and how it led her to create a charity in Rosie’s honour. This charity provides support and music therapy to children in hospitals.   Throughout the discussion, we explore themes of resilience, the significance of support, and the enduring legacy of love that transcends loss. Carolyn candidly shares her compelling decision to pursue motherhood again later in life. She also discusses the profound impact of losing Rosie on her marriage and the challenges she faced during her battle with cancer. Carolyn emphasises the transformative power of spiritual awakening and the importance of support and community in overcoming adversity.   Carolyn reflects on her newfound strength and her future aspirations. She continues her ongoing charity work and shares her writing endeavours, showcasing her resilience and determination.     Takeaways The journey of grief is deeply personal and unique Finding strength in the face of unimaginable loss is possible Creating a legacy can be a powerful way to honour loved ones Support systems are crucial for bereaved families The importance of open conversations about grief and loss Resilience can emerge from the darkest experiences It's essential to seek help and support during tough times The IVF journey was filled with emotional ups and downs Motherhood at 54 brought new light and purpose to Carolyn's life. Grief can significantly impact relationships, leading to challenges in communication Support from friends and family is crucial during difficult times Spiritual beliefs provided Carolyn with comfort and guidance Finding strength in adversity can lead to personal growth and confidence.   Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 02:58 - Life Before 05:50 - The Onset of Illness: A Mother's Despair 09:01 - The Diagnosis: A Journey Through Uncertainty 12:01 - The Heartbreaking Decision: Letting Go 14:59 - Coping with Loss: A Family's Struggle 18:01 - Creating a Legacy: The Birth of a Charity 21:07 - Support for Families: Building a Community 23:44 - The Journey to IVF: A Compelling Decision 30:03 - Navigating Grief: The Impact of Loss on Relationships 31:17 - Facing Adversity: Cancer and Personal Struggles 36:04 - Spiritual Awakening: Finding Comfort in Beliefs 39:00 - Resilience and Strength: Lessons Learned Through Loss 41:24 - Looking Ahead: Future Aspirations and Charity Work ---  Learn more about Carolyn: www.carolynmayling.com   Roșie's Rainbow Fund: www.rosiesrainbowfund.co.uk   The Future is Rosie: https://amzn.eu/d/9w4tmeU   Follow Life's 2nd Act: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifes2ndact Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556551936745

    44 min
  7. Jonathan's journey: Beating imposter syndrome / Reframing self-doubt / Importance of support

    APR 12

    Jonathan's journey: Beating imposter syndrome / Reframing self-doubt / Importance of support

    In this episode, I chat to Jonathan Besser.   He shares his transformative journey through midlife, discussing the unexpected challenges he faced after a career shift at 40, including imposter syndrome and the importance of support networks.   He emphasises the value of lifelong learning, self-discovery and embracing change as essential components of personal growth. Jonathan's insights highlight the significance of stepping out of one's comfort zone and the power of reflection in overcoming self-doubt.   He also discusses his upcoming book, which encapsulates ideas that have changed the world of work, and his passion for helping others navigate their own journeys.    Takeaways Recognising and addressing imposter syndrome is crucial for personal growth. Support networks play a vital role in navigating life's challenges. Embracing change can lead to unexpected opportunities. Lifelong learning is essential for personal and professional development. Self-reflection helps in understanding one's motivations and goals. Stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to significant growth. It's important to be kind to yourself during difficult times. Collaboration enhances learning and development. Writing can be a powerful tool for self-discovery. Finding purpose in midlife can lead to a fulfilling life. Chapters   00:00 - Introduction 03:07 - The Impact of Imposter Syndrome 05:50 - The Role of Support Networks 09:05 - Embracing Change and Growth 11:59 - The Journey of Self-Discovery 14:47 - The Importance of Lifelong Learning 18:12 - Finding Purpose in Midlife 20:54 - Overcoming Self-Doubt 24:04 - The Power of Reflection 26:58 - Writing as a Tool for Growth 30:03 - Looking Ahead: Future Aspirations   Learn more about Jonathan: Intrepid-leadership.co.uk   Learn more about the book: www.50ideas.world   ---   Follow Life's 2nd Act: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifes2ndactFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556551936745

    37 min
  8. Lost your Midlife Mojo? Reclaim it, there's magic on the other side!

    MAR 28

    Lost your Midlife Mojo? Reclaim it, there's magic on the other side!

    In this episode of Life's 2nd Act, I speak with Ali Spooner, the 'Midlife Mojo Coach', about the challenges and transformations that come with midlife. We discuss the feeling of losing one's mojo, the importance of self-awareness, and the role of confidence in navigating this phase of life. Ali shares insights on how to identify the signs of losing mojo, the impact of change and loss, and the differences in how men and women cope with these transitions.    The conversation emphasises the importance of communication, rediscovering purpose, and the coaching process to help individuals move through their midlife challenges and find fulfillment.   Takeaways Losing your mojo can feel uncomfortable and disorienting Taking action is crucial to moving through midlife challenges Self-awareness is the first step to change Midlife transitions can be as significant as moving into adulthood Gender differences influence how individuals cope with midlife changes Rediscovering personal values is essential for fulfillment The coaching process helps individuals identify their strengths and passions Surrounding yourself with supportive people can aid in recovery Embracing change and curiosity can lead to personal growth   Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 03:08 - Understanding Mojo and Its Loss 05:57 - The Impact of Change and Loss 09:09 - Gender Differences in Coping 11:54 - Identifying Temporary vs. Permanent Loss 15:05 - The Role of Confidence in Midlife 17:59 - The Importance of Communication 20:55 - Rediscovering Purpose and Values 23:58 - The Coaching Process Explained 27:04 - Embracing Change and Taking Action 29:55 - Finding Joy and Fulfillment in Midlife   Learn more about Ali: https://spoonfulinsight.co.uk/ -- Follow Life's 2nd Act: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifes2ndact Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556551936745

    36 min
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This podcast delves into the transformative phase later in life, exploring the challenges, new directions and uncertainties that come with it. If you’re navigating the uncertain waters of midlife, have stories to share, or insights to offer, I invite you to join me on this journey. Together, we’ll ride the highs and lows as we navigate the uncharted territories of this stage in life. ​ I hope by sharing stories, exploring dilemmas and seeking solutions together, the podcast will help me and others who join the journey, find that future. Find out more at www.lifes2ndact.com

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