Beyond Success

David Tian
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Beyond Success

Are you a high achiever who’s worked hard, found success, but still feels like something’s missing? Do you wonder what the point of it all is, and long for deeper meaning or love in your life? Welcome to “Beyond Success,” the podcast for high achievers seeking fulfillment, happiness, and true purpose. I’m David Tian, Ph.D., Leadership Coach, Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner (Level 3), and a former university professor. I’m also a proud father and husband. I bring two decades of experience, expertise, and a passion for helping others to each episode, delivering transformational insights and breakthroughs. Join us each week for deep explorations that will challenge your perspective, inspire personal growth, and guide you toward a more fulfilling life. Whether you’re striving for personal or professional excellence, “Beyond Success” offers the tools, methods, and strategies to help you find your way. Tune in every week for practical wisdom that can lead to real change. If you’re ready to move beyond mere success and discover what truly makes life worth living, this podcast is for you. If you enjoy the podcast, would you consider leaving a short review on Apple iTunes Podcasts? I really appreciate your feedback and love reading the reviews! For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

  1. Is The "Upper Limit Problem" An Invisible Force Secretly Controlling Your Life?

    3 DAYS AGO

    Is The "Upper Limit Problem" An Invisible Force Secretly Controlling Your Life?

    Question:  Have you ever reached a high point in life (a major win, a big breakthrough, or a massive milestone)... only to feel like the rug’s been pulled from underneath you?  Well, I have good news and bad news: If you find yourself second guessing yourself, procrastinating, picking fights with loved ones, or just a sinking, uneasy feeling that shows up whenever an opportunity knocks on your door, you might be going through the “Upper Limit Problem.”  The “Upper Limit Problem” happens when emotional energies from your childhood (and sometimes, from your parents’, grandparents’, and even ancestors’ childhoods) creates a heavy cloud over your emotional mind. It's vague, yet oppressive. And it can sabotage relationships, suffocate success, and stifle fulfillment and freedom.  But here’s the good news:  You don’t have to carry these burdens—whether they stem from your own experience or from generational fear and beliefs. And I show you exactly how to start this process of unburdening yourself in this episode.  Ready to remove these invisible limits, open up more opportunities, and unlock a deeper, more lasting sense of joy, love and fulfillment? Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: The insidious, invisible force that pulls the rug from under you every time you achieve a new milestone (and how to break free from its wrath) (0:44)  How "unattached burdens” from your parents’ childhoods can sabotage your relationships, limit your career opportunities, and keep you stuck in a loop of frustration (3:03)  The historical reason behind why Asian parents have a tendency to downplay their children’s success (4:31)  Do you ever feel a weird heaviness overtake you whenever you get close to a big opportunity? Here’s why this happens and how to prevent it (5:35)  5 examples of how the “Upper Limit Problem” manifests in your adult life (if you notice yourself doing any of these, here’s what to do…) (7:53)  How to release the unattached burdens your subconscious picked up from generational fears or beliefs that prevent you from living a truly fulfilling life (16:32)  Why well-meaning, but misguided messages from childhood can cripple and hinder your success today (20:51)  Is your business stuck in a cycle of withering instead of growing? Here’s one unusual way to grow your business by 50% (24:09)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    26 min
  2. How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty

    JAN 10

    How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty

    When your team, family, and friends rely on you for everything, and you don’t know how to say no, then you’re on a path of self-destruction.  Why? Because an inability to set boundaries and assert yourself stems from toxic shame you picked up at some point in your life. If you don’t address this toxic shame, burn out, resentment, and self-loathing follow.  That’s the bad news.  The good news? While learning how to assert yourself might not be the easiest thing you do, it’s possible. And today’s episode is your first step towards reversing your toxic shame, figuring out how to set boundaries without feeling guilty, and creating space for tremendous growth.  Tired of feeling exhausted because you’re saying yes to everything? Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: The most single most insidious word that causes good husbands and leaders to snap, burn out, and spiral into resentment and self-loathing (0:55)  How to tell if you have a healthy or toxic form of shame (2:51)  The sneaky way toxic shame sabotages your confidence, assertiveness, and self-respect (5:03)  Try this simple exercise the next time you feel guilty about setting a boundary (6:37)  Why avoiding asserting yourself sends you down a wicked toxic loop of resentment and burn out (and practical ways to better assert yourself) (14:13)  The “broken record” technique for setting boundaries if it usually makes you uncomfortable (16:14)  Ask your inner critic these questions next time you hear it to siphon away its power (19:29)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    28 min
  3. The Gossip Trap: How It Silently Destroys Trust & Connection

    JAN 3

    The Gossip Trap: How It Silently Destroys Trust & Connection

    Most people never stop to question today’s topic. But it silently poisons relationships, teams, and even your own peace of mind.  Worst part? It masquerades as an innocent and harmless way to blow off steam. But it actually erodes trust, creates drama, and keeps pressing problems unresolved.  Of course, we’re talking about gossip today. Not only is it harmful to anyone you gossip to and about, but it’s insidious to you too.  In today’s show, you’ll discover the real cost of gossip, the truth behind why we gossip (and how to fix it), and most importantly, how to break the vicious cycle of gossip and stop it from undermining your relationships, your career, and your life.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: This seemingly harmless habit chips away at your integrity, trust, and conscience (0:50)  Why gossipping is one of the biggest red flags you or a potential partner could have (2:37)  3 hidden reasons for why you gossip—and how to stop before it sabotages your trust and integrity (4:31)  The weird short-term benefits of gossiping and how it causes irreversible long-term damage (6:20)  How gossip dupes you into believing you’re resolving conflict when you’re actually just fanning the flames (9:41)  The obvious, yet difficult alternative to gossip that strengthens relationships instead of tears them apart (12:35)  The “Strike When The Iron’s Cold” secret to making tough conversations easier than gossiping (13:25)  How to cultivate a gossip-free zone in your personal and professional life (17:56)  One question that almost instantly turns complaining into problem-solving and stops you (and others) from gossiping (18:46)   For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    24 min
  4. Time Does Not Heal Emotional Wounds: Do This Instead

    12/27/2024

    Time Does Not Heal Emotional Wounds: Do This Instead

    A messy breakup or divorce can cause devastating trickle down consequences when you don’t learn how to rebuild your trust.  But many people wrongly believe that time can heal all wounds. But this passive approach leads you down a road of fear, resentment, and isolation.  Why?  The truth is that time does not heal emotional wounds. And expecting it to will only trick you into repeating the same patterns that resulted in a messy breakup in the first place.  While this process won’t be easy, it’s possible. And when you follow the 5 steps I lay out in today’s show, then not only create a foundation for a fulfilling relationship, but this growth will ripple into every area of your life.  Ready for the next chapter of your life to be one of purpose, connection and joy?  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: 3 devastating consequences that happen when you fail to rebuild trust after suffering a deep, emotional wound (0:48)  Why relying on time alone to heal yourself is a failed strategy that fills you with misery (and how to actually heal yourself) (1:25)  The “Post-Relationship Analysis” secret for using a breakup to make your next relationship more fulfilling, lasting, and healthier (3:23) Why your intuition crumbles after a difficult breakup—and one simple technique to strengthen your intuitions (6:31)    How holding onto negative emotions like betrayal, humiliation, and bitterness after a breakup silently sabotages your next relationship (13:34)  Why you must forgive people who wronged you if you want to lead a healthy and fulfilling life (15:34)  The counterintuitive reason fully feeling your worst emotions makes them evaporate instead of controlling you (17:43)  How to avoid falling into old patterns that undermined your past relationships (23:08)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    29 min
  5. Why Smart, Successful People Struggle to Make Life's Biggest Decisions

    12/20/2024

    Why Smart, Successful People Struggle to Make Life's Biggest Decisions

    Do you struggle making tough decisions because indecision is easier? While this is something everyone confronts at one point or another, it comes with a steep cost:  While indecision might feel like it provides relief in the short term, it eventually erodes your confidence, your relationships, and your ability to lead. It also creates a ripple effect that extends to every other aspect of your life.  Worst part? Indecision is a slow poison and you might not realize the sabotaging effects it has immediately. In fact, it’s common to only realize its effects until it’s too late: After you’re served divorce papers, get laid off from your job, or realize you hate the life you’ve created for yourself.  But it doesn't have to be this way. There are three key steps to becoming more decisive, so you can avoid the gut-wrenching pain that always comes with indecision.  And by the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to do this.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: This “invisible power” is your most valuable tool for creating the life you want (2:18)  The single biggest mistake you’re making in your relationship that leads to regret, resentment, stagnation, and breaking up (3:13) How imperfect and even downright incorrect decisions are better for your mental health, career, and marriage than avoiding decisions (4:52)   Why “keeping the peace” in your relationship is a surefire way to get handed divorce papers (8:10)  3 ways to hone “Radical Responsibility” that allow you to take full control over your relationships, career, and life (10:31) The insidious "Death Anxiety” trap many people fall into that slowly poisons their fulfillment of life (and how to overcome this psychological fear) (14:15)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    23 min
  6. How to Recover from a Break Up or Divorce

    12/13/2024

    How to Recover from a Break Up or Divorce

    Going through a breakup or recovering from a divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences you'll ever face.  It’s always messy and layered. And if you don’t approach it with the right mindset, you’ll fall back into the old patterns and habits that destroyed your previous relationships.  That’s the bad news.  The good news?  Not only are emotions temporary and fleeting, including the entire grieving process, but it’s possible to rebuild your life and relationships in a way that ensures long-term success in your next relationship.  It won’t be easy. I know this from my own divorce. But it’s possible.  And you know what?  By the end of this episode, you'll understand exactly what it takes to turn the pain of your breakup into fuel for your personal growth. You'll be equipped to rebuild yourself from the ground up, not just so you can get over it, but so that you can step into your next chapter of your life with confidence, clarity and freedom. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why rushing into your next relationship after a divorce or break up is a recipe for a similar outcome (and what to do instead to fully heal yourself first) (1:20)  How relying on time alone to heal deep emotional wounds sabotages your ability to connect with others (1:50)   The 5 stages of a relationship—and how to master each separate stage (4:48)  Why feeling like your relationship is doomed to failure is an important step that can actually deepen your connection (6:22)   The “mirrors” secret to relationships that can either unlock significant personal growth or cause unbridled resentment for your partner (10:08)  Why a relationship built on passion is destined to crumble into shambles (and what to build your relationship on instead to sustain it for the rest of your life) (10:52)  How taking responsibility for your ex messing up allows you to use your heartbreak to become stronger and more resilient for your next relationship (12:54)  3 safe ways to express your anger so it doesn’t fester under the surface and cause more serious outbursts (20:19)  The weird way your furniture, music playlists, and old habits from your last relationship can undermine your next relationship (23:16)  The “self-surgery” mindset shift that will help you emotionally recover from a divorce or break up faster and with fewer obstacles (29:36)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    40 min
  7. Dating After Divorce or a Break Up: 3 Steps to Re-enter the Dating World

    12/06/2024

    Dating After Divorce or a Break Up: 3 Steps to Re-enter the Dating World

    There is nothing more gut-wrenching than a divorce or the end of a long-term relationship. It makes you question everything. And nobody gives you a manual for how to rebuild your personal life after a messy breakup.  The modern dating landscape makes this even more difficult. Dating apps can feel like a second job that doesn’t pay or even lead to dates. And the professional skills you’ve developed to become a high achiever don’t work for building relationships.  And if you clicked on the title of this episode, there’s a good chance you’re feeling a deep sense of frustration, uncertainty, and fear.  But here’s the good news:  Not only is it possible to bounce back after a rough breakup, but it gives you an opportunity to build a deeper, more authentic connection that fulfills you in ways that weren’t possible in your last relationship. I’m living proof: Today I have a loving family (even after my first divorce about 20 years ago).   And that’s what I reveal in today’s episode. You’ll discover how to rebuild your identity, how to make the modern dating landscape work for you, and how to develop emotional intelligence so you’re prepared for your next relationship.  By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear road map to confidently re-enter the dating world, not with uncertainty or awkwardness, but with a sense of clarity, purpose and ease that matches the confidence you've built in your professional life. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How the wrong romantic partner bleeds into your work, your health, and your overall fulfillment in life (1:00)  Where to start after a crushing divorce or end to a long-term relationship to rebuild your personal life in a way where this doesn’t happen again (5:22)  The weird way your forgotten hobbies help you overcome the heartbreak of divorce (6:10)  Why unaddressed breakup wounds will sabotage your next relationship (and the “scars and all” mindset shift to heal from these wounds as soon as possible) (7:27)  How high achievers can attract worthy partners in the modern dating landscape (even if if your last serious relationship started before dating apps) (9:42)  The #1 most underrated (and most effective) way to meet potential partners who already share your values (11:51)  How the qualities that make you successful at work repel your dream partner in intimate relationships (16:40)  How to answer the question about past relationships on a date in a way that builds connection instead of protecting your ego (20:02)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    28 min
  8. Break Free from Burnout: Mastering Self-Awareness, Anti-Fragility, & Purpose

    11/29/2024

    Break Free from Burnout: Mastering Self-Awareness, Anti-Fragility, & Purpose

    Does success feel hollow? Or worse, like a weight around your neck?  This is a common feeling for high achievers who were led to believe that success brings fulfillment. When you realize this isn’t true, burnout, a lack of connection, and deep sense of dissatisfaction can rear their ugly heads.  But what if you could transform your life from the inside out?  That’s exactly what I show you how to do in today’s show. I share tools and insights that will not only help you break free from burnout and dissatisfaction, but also reinvent yourself to enjoy a life filled with clarity, connection, and genuine fulfillment.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: The “Self-Leadership” secret that saves you from burnout, prevents you from sabotaging relationships, and frees you from unconscious patterns (4:23)  This two-minute therapeutic exercise uncovers the hidden dynamics that drive your thoughts, feelings, and actions (6:15)  How to use “DBT” therapy to master your inner world of emotions (even if you don’t have extreme emotions) (10:10)  Why the “5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique” can stop a heated argument with your partner before it erupts into regret (10:49)  How beating yourself up emotionally prolongs and even prevents the healing process (13:26)  The “3 things” trick for transforming chaos and obstacles into opportunity by rewiring your brain (15:18)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

    29 min
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Are you a high achiever who’s worked hard, found success, but still feels like something’s missing? Do you wonder what the point of it all is, and long for deeper meaning or love in your life? Welcome to “Beyond Success,” the podcast for high achievers seeking fulfillment, happiness, and true purpose. I’m David Tian, Ph.D., Leadership Coach, Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner (Level 3), and a former university professor. I’m also a proud father and husband. I bring two decades of experience, expertise, and a passion for helping others to each episode, delivering transformational insights and breakthroughs. Join us each week for deep explorations that will challenge your perspective, inspire personal growth, and guide you toward a more fulfilling life. Whether you’re striving for personal or professional excellence, “Beyond Success” offers the tools, methods, and strategies to help you find your way. Tune in every week for practical wisdom that can lead to real change. If you’re ready to move beyond mere success and discover what truly makes life worth living, this podcast is for you. If you enjoy the podcast, would you consider leaving a short review on Apple iTunes Podcasts? I really appreciate your feedback and love reading the reviews! For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

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  • Creator
    David Tian
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    100
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    © Copyright 2021-2025
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    Beyond Success

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