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Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.

On Attachment Stephanie Rigg

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Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.

    "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?"

    "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?"

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on the listener question of "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?" Wanting to change a partner is something most of us will relate to in one form or another, but it's essential that we understand where this urge is coming from and what it's trying to tell us about ourselves, our partner, and the relationship. Some of the things we cover:wanting to change little things vs big thingshow anxious and avoidant attached people differ in want...

    • 21 min
    How to Not Lose Yourself in a New Relationship

    How to Not Lose Yourself in a New Relationship

    Are you someone who tends to go from 0 to 100 at the start of a new relationship? In today's episode, we're exploring how to not lose yourself when you start dating someone new (although the advice also applies to people already in an established relationship who feel they've lost touch with themselves). This dynamic is particularly common among those with an anxious attachment style, who tend to become overly fixated on a connection at the expense of other areas of life.Tune in for tips on h...

    • 15 min
    Reflections on Self-Trust, Control & Surrender

    Reflections on Self-Trust, Control & Surrender

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some reflections from my recent experience of pregnancy and birth on self-trust, control and surrender. These are themes that most folks with insecure attachment patterns struggle with, and learning to trust in your capacity to navigate life's ups and downs with confidence and agency is a huge step on the path to building secure attachment. For more episodes on building trust, check out:Ep 130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self Ep 124: O...

    • 20 min
    What to Do When a Partner Pulls Away

    What to Do When a Partner Pulls Away

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to navigate a partner pulling away. If you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, a partner's withdrawal or disengagement can feel extremely distressing - and yet, many of our go-to strategies for managing that distress can ironically have the effect of pushing someone further away. We'll cover:what to do when someone pulls away in an early dating contextwhy we feel drawn to pursuing connections with people who are inconsistent&n...

    • 24 min
    Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment

    Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment

    In today's episode, we're talking all about self-soothing and anxious attachment. For most anxiously attached folks, self-soothing and self-regulation can be a real struggle. This typically shows up as an over-reliance on others (often a partner) to be our sole source of safety and reassurance when we experience emotional distress, and an accompanying sense of helplessness and panic if and when they are not available to perform that role. We'll cover:why anxiously attached people struggl...

    • 21 min
    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 2)

    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 2)

    This episode is part two of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.⭐️ JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ⭐️💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following: Building Trust Masterclass How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass Better Boundaries Masterclass ...

    • 23 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
749 Ratings

749 Ratings

Teachable Tim ,

This show is a MUST LISTEN!

Stephanie, you are doing such important work! As you know, and as you’ve said, the Anxious/Avoidant relationship is fairly common. I listen to this show for hope and encouragement. The shows are nice and short for commutes, and full of helpful information. Life changing. Can’t thank you enough.

DeeZee! ,

Steph is someone who understands/gets it!!

Can I leave a 10 star rating!?

It is so refreshing to find someone who specifically addresses my concerns and doesn’t talk about a wide range of attachments.
With my ADHD I get confused with trying to figure out how to pick out the nuggets in a podcast that I can apply to my life. With Steph’s podcasts I can use every nugget to help me through my journey.
Not only does she get it, she’s been through it and she shines a light on those secret unconscious behaviors that we do that seemed so innocent until it is brought to light. I’ve been exposed!!
I love how she reminds us to be gentle with ourselves and be kind to ourselves. She even explained how sometimes those quotes of “self-love” may not be as helpful when trying to learn how to self love, that writing quotes with lipstick on the mirror might not bring the results that are needed. Yep! To try using the term self-worth might be more effective to some. Yep! And there’s more.

Take notes my friend while listening to her podcast and allow time to study them and work on them.

Mrs. Hernandez2011 ,

Thank you!

First off I wanted to say I found this podcast due to me searching up trust and jealousy. It’s something that I personally need to work on in my relationship. I’ve never had anyone word it as perfectly as you have. Thank you for your words of advice. Appreciate you and your podcast . I’m now a subscriber and listen to every new show!

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